Love Help, can you forget someone your in love with Options

[AbandonedFayth]

If you can take the time to read this and reply then thank you. This is pretty cheesy... but bear with me here.

About five months ago I met this guy from a new school I started at. I swear it was love at first sight. We exchanged phone numbers after awhile and began hanging out. About 2 days after we started hanging out we found out that we were both really into each other. I was honestly on cloud 9. You know those butterflies you got when you were little when you thought about that cute crush in grade school. Well... i had those...for the first time in 5 years. I'm pretty sure it was love. No guy ever stared at me the way he did. I was pretty sure he felt the same way. Anyways... I slept with him about 2 weeks after we were together. I think i might'ov rushed into it but i really liked him. After that we were pretty shy with each other at school. We didn't really talk much and our phone conversations were getting shorter and we didn't hang out. I called him a few times to hang out but he was always busy. I called him a few times a week and he kept saying "call back tomorrow i gotta work..." or "i'm out with my buddies". Heres the heartbreaker.... when i called one day to ask him to hang out he said "Oh i can't today I gotta go meet my girlfriend's dad"... i knew we weren't actually going out... but ...i thought the feelings were mutual and that broke me in 2. I told him I wasn't gonna call anymore and i'd see him around.

Its been 4 months since we last talked. i haven't seen him or heard from him. But i miss him so much. I didn't know him well but to this day i still have butterflies... and i'm pretty sure its love. I can't forget the way he looked at me and how we connected so amazingly. I know i was probably used for sex.

My question is.... how do you get over someone your in love with?

[*anubis*]

sorry to be critical, but it sounds like you were a booty call for him.

yeah. getting over someone you love/loved is probably one of the hardest things that a person could have to really deal with. other than death of lost ones--but they all involve the same subject--getting over something.

look--the more you think about it, the worse it will hurt you. most people would probably tell you to do something productive to try and forget about it, but, for me, that doesn't work.

no matter what i do, i just can't stop thinking about it if it really really hurt me.

and if that's the case, the only thing you can do is hope that time will change it. i know time sucks--and i hate waiting for things. i once fell in love--and it lasted for 2 years until i decided i couldn't any longer. it took me an addition 3-5 months before i could entirely get over it.

and i tried everything. i traveled. looked for new people. did productive things to keep me busy. but none of it seemed to work.

the only thing that really worked was finding interest in someone else.

i didn't ask for it, and i surely wasn't expecting it, but, during that healing period, i found someone new. someone that treated me better and it definitely helped with the healing period.

i even forgot about it at times. it just completely distracted me and took over until, one day, i realized that everything was okay again. and to top it off, i had someone that treated me so much better than the first.

and that's the only advice i can probably give.

don't shut yourself in a corner and tell yourself about how much you loved him or how much he hurt you.

think about all those other people out there that could have treated you so much better. and before you know it, it'll be easier than you may think.

just don't do anything stupid in frustration. i've done many things and i really do regret it.

eventually, all things will get better after time.

time is sometimes the only rememdy for things.

you're a pretty girl. i know there are definitely other guys out there that are willing to treat you so much better. don't hold on to this one.

if he treated you like this, even if he ever wants to get back with you in the future, you shouldn't even think about it.

[AbandonedFayth]

thanks =) thats probably the best advice i've gotten on that subject. ya ur right... i probably was a booty call for him...

[berry_lickable]

sex can sometimes make or brake relationships.

[topsyturvy]

Wow... so you mean you didn't know he had a gf before sleeping with him?

Sorry to hear this but i'm sure there are loads of other guys out there that deserve you better than he does. Give yourself time to get over him... distract yourself with, say, createblog.

[*Azarel*]

You're not in love; being in love is a reciprocal experience. Don't kid youself, move on, forget he ever existed. Easier said than done. But it's not that much more difficult than a simple rejection, because that's pretty much all it is. Rejection. Stop being naive. Things like this happen. Don't expect a fairytale ending. Those don't exist. All you can do is welcome it when you experience it, and hold onto it as tightly as you can.

[_sarcastic_]

i'm sorry bout what happen. he just used you for sex. i agree with everything anubis said, find a new love interest, it'll help you get over him easier.

[sheepy]

i don't think you could completely forget about someone. so maybe, you could occupy your mind on other things, believe me, it works. drowning yourself in self-pity wont do any good anyways. and what it sounds like, he wasnt worth it. you deserve a lot better than that. love hurts i guess. but no matter how hard we try, there will always be a bit of them in us.

[*anubis*]

Stop being naive. Things like this happen. Don't expect a fairytale ending. Those don't exist. All you can do is welcome it when you experience it, and hold onto it as tightly as you can.

a little harsh, don't you think? she's just asking for a little advice.

not to be chewed up and spit out. jesus christ.

have a little heart.

[technicolour]

The sex was probably the only thing he wanted. I would, well, Find someone else who really cares cause it sounds like he didn't give a rats ass.

Azarel is speaking the truth. Truth hurts. Unfortunately.

[*Azarel*]

a little harsh, don't you think? she's just asking for a little advice.
not to be chewed up and spit out. jesus christ. 
have a little heart.

I'm not being harsh; I'm being realistic.

[LoST SouL]

i don't think you were in love.... you were more or less obbsessed [sp?]. but honestly you were more or less a sex toy to him he used you because he was horny and wanted some... he was an a-hole think about how bad he treated you and you'll get over it...

[enyceXaddiction]

your 15 or 16 right now? im pretty sure its not love. get over it. he used you, and you know it. why would you like him after all he has dont to you. its takes time to get over him since you seem to like him so much. get invloved with someone else. maybe that will get your mind of off him. or hang out with your friends more..anything that will get your mind of off him.

[Xprezsion]

Oh wow that sucks, friends with benefits and stuff like that never works out, someone is always hurt in the end. If you guys were really into each other, why didn't you guys go out? That would have made sure that you guys would stay together. I suggest, you try to find a new crush, or think of how he seemed to have used you for sex, and you should stop liking him soon. Goodluck.

[Mizz Rizza]

i agree with anubis
giving it time is the only solution
and maybe then you'll find someone new
someone who wouldnt think of you
as a booty call