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[demolished]

Is it okay if a child get to have his/her own room without sharing with another sibling?

my thoughts .....

POSiTiVE
yes - more privacy, child's feel safer, and comfortable w/out sharing.
no - more secure w/ another person, limited spaces and developed a child's level of respect other privacy.

NEGATiVE
yes -increase risk of danger hidden items, increase sexual items such as porn magazine, and dangerous diet magazine.
no - uncomfortable things that sibling does to you, sibling abuse you, sibling treat you like slaves, and etc ..


Share some of your thoughts.


edit.
child age is from 12-16

[aera]

sometimes im happy i dont share my room... but on some nights, i wish i did... or at least with my friends, because i dont trust my siblings at all.

[topsyturvy]

Hmm.. i guess it depends on the kid(s) you're talking about. Every child is different.

[*mipadi*]

I hate sharing living spaces with people.

[*xcaitlinx*]

every person is entitled to their own personal space/privacy. if a kid hides porn or shit like that in their room and their parents suspect it, then the parents should search their room while they're at school, a friend's house, etc. someone sharing a room with their sibling has the same likelyhood to hide things like that than someone that has their own room.

[fameONE]

every person is entitled to their own personal space/privacy. if a kid hides porn or shit like that in their room and their parents suspect it, then the parents should search their room while they're at school, a friend's house, etc. someone sharing a room with their sibling has the same likelyhood to hide things like that than someone that has their own room.

Then, that's not privacy.

A 12 year old should not have a sayso in what they can or can't have.
1) They don't work, therefore they cannot pay bills
2) At 12 years old, you are still a child and a child doesn't have a right to tell their parents what to do
3) What are you really hiding at 12?

[XoJennaoX]

Is it okay if a child get to have his/her own room without sharing with another sibling?

Usually when siblings share rooms it is because of a space issue. If there are enough rooms in the house i don't see why a child should not have his or her own space. If you have a huge family then i can see why is neceassary for siblings to share rooms. I don't think either situation has a major advantage or disadvantage.

[Paradox of Life]

Hmm.. i guess it depends on the kid(s) you're talking about. Every child is different.

^ That's true. I share a room with my brother because he's afraid of the dark (has some kind of sleeping disorder) and I don't mind. There's 2 other rooms in the house where I could say was my own room, but I don't because I spend most of the time in my brother's anyway.
How could a child get porn magazines? You have to subscribe for them and be 18 or older to subscribe for them. Maybe he could get it from a friend, but parents will find out sooner or later without having to come into their room. If it's an issue that concerns the law, you have a right to invade their privacy. If they were hiding guns in their closet and were about to go out and kill everybody in their school, you have a right to confiscate those things before anyone gets hurt.

[demolished]

^ That's true. I share a room with my brother because he's afraid of the dark (has some kind of sleeping disorder) and I don't mind. There's 2 other rooms in the house where I could say was my own room, but I don't because I spend most of the time in my brother's anyway.
How could a child get porn magazines? You have to subscribe for them and be 18 or older to subscribe for them. Maybe he could get it from a friend, but parents will find out sooner or later without having to come into their room. If it's an issue that concerns the law, you have a right to invade their privacy. If they were hiding guns in their closet and were about to go out and kill everybody in their school, you have a right to confiscate those things before anyone gets hurt.

um, a child can get money from parents w/out being asked,child asked money from kids to buy food when it's not true, get free magazines from internet(censorship), or you can get it from friends. they are many possibilities.

[sammi rules you]

what if you're an only child? you have no choice..

sharing rooms is because of space or something most of the time. usually if the house has room, the kids get their own rooms..

and if i shared a room and i REALLY wanted some porn mags, i'd just hide them under my matress and look while my sister wasn't in the room.

[Paradox of Life]

um, a child can get money from parents w/out being asked,child asked money from kids to buy food when it's not true, get free magazines from internet(censorship), or you can get it from friends. they are many possibilities.

Um, you pay for online porn magazines via Paypal or some other form of online payment. It's usually not something you mail in. And even if it is, they'll make you fill out forms that have information that only someone 18 or older would know. There are many possibilities, which is why I said that it is possible for them to get their hands on porn. And if they did, their parents would most likely find out without having to go into their room (siblings, confession, find it lying around in the open).

[crayonzUpMyNose]

i love having my own room. its nice having your own peresonal space to escape to.

[demolished]

Um, you pay for online porn magazines via Paypal or some other form of online payment. It's usually not something you mail in. And even if it is, they'll make you fill out forms that have information that only someone 18 or older would know. There are many possibilities, which is why I said that it is possible for them to get their hands on porn. And if they did, their parents would most likely find out without having to go into their room (siblings, confession, find it lying around in the open).

Yes, thats the main point. Those kids's mind are still into porn thats why should parents determine whether their child should have its own bedroom.

[youdrivinmegrape...]

I'm split. I think it's good for small children to share a room because it helps them learn to share and other values such as respect. It will also make them feel safe at night knowing they have someone by their side. But I think older kids should have their own room because they have grown up and need their privacy. They need a space to call their own and a place to go to just get away from everything and to be away from younger or even older siblings.

[Paradox of Life]

Yes, thats the main point.  Those kids's mind are still into porn thats why should parents determine whether their child should have its own bedroom.

Sorry I actually don't know what having porn has anything to do with a bedroom, but I already said that it's pretty much impossible for a kid to order them himself. You don't have to own porn to know it's out there (and know what's in it), I mean you can go online and look at it without subscribing into anything, but that has nothing to do with this topic.

[demolished]

Sorry  I actually don't know what having porn has anything to do with a bedroom, but I already said that it's pretty much impossible for a kid to order them himself. You don't have to own porn to know it's out there (and know what's in it), I mean you can go online and look at it without subscribing into anything, but that has nothing to do with this topic. 

yeah.. should a child has their own room ? if you share roon w/ a siblings, if they caught you watching porn on the internet, they'll tell mommy and daddy on you.

OR

if a parent open your dooor and saw you watching it on the internet before you can exit.

[*not_your_average*]

I have my own room. I don't look at porn.

[jue]

well for the ages of 12-16 the kids will probably be growing up and wanting mor privacy in there life. Depends on who they share the room with i guess and what type of kid you are.

[Paradox of Life]

yeah.. should a child has their own room ? if you share roon w/ a siblings, if they caught you watching porn on the internet, they'll tell mommy and daddy on you.

OR

if a parent open your dooor and saw you watching it on the internet before you can exit.

He's looking at porn. Big effing deal. He's going to at one point in his life. It's effing baby-making! Gawd, people make such a big deal about looking at porn. How is looking at porn going to affect anything in your LIFE? They'll find out sooner or later, I'll tell you that. Whether you're sharing a room or not. Sharing a room is an invasion of privacy and sometimes you just want to be alone and do what you want to do without the consent of your roomate.

[fameONE]

Porn is ridiculously easy to access.

Scenario:
An 11 year old kid is doing homework in the family room of his house. He needs to do research on panama so he goes to google images and types in 'Panama.' (Give it a try, folks [with moderate filtering, even])

He's awestruck, "Ooh, a naked lady. Where does the link lead to?" And before you know it, he's sidetracked from his report and surfing a webpage dedicated to Girls Gone Wild's episode is Panama City, Florida. After a while, he becomes aware of his surroundings and can exit out of the window if his parents happen to walk by.

Did I mention that he wasn't even in his room?

[xsweetxcandyx]

i've never shared a room
but i like my privacy
i would be pretty b*tchy if i did have to share a room

[demolished]

He's looking at porn. Big effing deal. He's going to at one point in his life. It's effing baby-making! Gawd, people make such a big deal about looking at porn. How is looking at porn going to affect anything in your LIFE? They'll find out sooner or later, I'll tell you that. Whether you're sharing a room or not. Sharing a room is an invasion of privacy and sometimes you just want to be alone and do what you want to do without the consent of your roomate.

So, its okay for a child to keep on staring it front of the screen ? he is going to be waaaaaaaayy to horney .. maybe a stronger sick minded .. or .. obession ..

this thread isnt just about porn, its also about violents such as guns.

[Paradox of Life]

So, its okay for a child to keep on staring it front of the screen ? he is going to be waaaaaaaayy to horney .. maybe a stronger sick minded .. or .. obession ..

this thread isnt just about porn, its also about violents such as guns.

How can a kid get his hands on a gun? Especially without his parents noticing at all regardless of where it's hidden.

[demolished]

How can a kid get his hands on a gun? Especially without his parents noticing at all regardless of where it's hidden.

Parents hide guns in obvious place that kids can get their hands on.

[sammi rules you]

what if you're an only child? you have no choice..

again.

[lAzN YiN YanGl]

yes -increase risk of danger hidden items, increase sexual items such as porn magazine, and dangerous diet magazine.

Bah, since when is porn negative...

[CrazayChristian]

I'm more of a not sharing person.

I've experianced both, and if I shared a room with my brother I'd freakin flip out.

Being alone means some peacful alone time/ attending to business easier. It all depends on the kid, one kid will take advantage with pron/ drugs, there is always a chance. But it doesn't mean that it would entirely stop them, it's like Sammi said:

If I REALLY wanted some porn, I would just hide it under my matress until my sister left.

And who hides things in places parents would look anyway? Kids are smarter than they look (/act) there is always a way and a risk.

[technicolour]

Ok I have 2 brothers and since me being the daughter, i automatically got my own room. I've shared hotel rooms before though, and it's just kinda weird. I would NOT want to share a room. I like my privacy. I'm not a very open person anyway.

[demolished]

again.

Read the first thread again.

[Paradox of Life]

Parents hide guns in obvious place that kids can get their hands on. 

Well, what difference would it make if he had his hands on a gun and was sharing a room with someone else? Who said they were going to tattle? Bedroom privacy is something that's really needed; especially for teens.

[demolished]

HEY !

anyways ....

If a child is so pissed off because his classmate doesnt share the class's blocks. Of course, the child might bring a gun and shot him.

The more people know, the more oporturnity.
i know teens need privacy but .. not all of them do or deserve it.

[*xcaitlinx*]

again.

if you're an only child, then you can't really relate to this. unless you live in a closet or something.

about the whole porno thing, brandon has a point. it's inevitable that porn is all over the internet and tv. you can go on imesh or any other music downloading program and search for porn for free.

[demolished]

if you're an only child, then you can't really relate to this. unless you live in a closet or something.

about the whole porno thing, brandon has a point. it's inevitable that porn is all over the internet and tv. you can go on imesh or any other music downloading program and search for porn for free.

^
then parents can take away their computer.

puahahaha.

[jackizzle]

ive been sharing a room with my sister since i was born and sometimes it can be not fun because she gets annoying and theres no privacy( she 17 and i'm 15) but then when shes not here it gets kind of lonely..

[fameONE]

ive been sharing a room with my sister since i was born and sometimes it can be not fun because she gets annoying and theres no privacy( she 17 and i'm 15) but then when shes not here it gets kind of lonely..

Thats great and all, but if you missed the point of this topic, we're discussing whether or not a kid deserves privacy. KTHX!
</sarcasm>

[Bobblehead425]

well, i would prefer not to share my room. number one reason, your room should be the one place you have control over, and you can be by yourself. and about finding things such as porno, violent weapons, ect..., thats tru also...although people shouldnt have those things anyway, lol

[elaboratedream]

teens deserve their privacy. If they have things like porn or whatever, that's not good, but it's their choice. It may be sorta... sick, but it doesn't hurt anyone. Also, if a kid shares a room with an older sibling and the older kid has something like that the younger sibling could find it and look at it. but this isn't just about porn. It's about privacy. Having shared a room with my little brother for years when I was younger, I know that privacy is important... and you have absolutely none if you share a room.

[mai_z]

Everyone deserves to have privacy in a moral sense, but that doesn't entitle anyone to having their own room. Unless it's a toddler, having your own room is generally not a matter of privacy, but a matter of physical possibility (aka, there's four kids and 3 rooms in the house, SOMEONE's gotta share). Sharing a room with someone doesn't mean you have no privacy, as long as both of you can learn to respect each other, each person can have their own privacy in a shared room. I've done it, it's not that hard.

[xchrystizzle]

if theres room for each to have their own rooms, then go ahead. its easier, and it'll save the parents from lotsa complaints

[*mipadi*]

Everyone deserves to have privacy in a moral sense, but that doesn't entitle anyone to having their own room. Unless it's a toddler, having your own room is generally not a matter of privacy, but a matter of physical possibility (aka, there's four kids and 3 rooms in the house, SOMEONE's gotta share). Sharing a room with someone doesn't mean you have no privacy, as long as both of you can learn to respect each other, each person can have their own privacy in a shared room. I've done it, it's not that hard.

An excellent point. I'm not against each kid having their own room, but the party does end somewhere. When you go to college, you literally live in the same bedroom as someone else, day in and day out (unless you happen to have a single). You learn to adapt and work with the other person, and you learn to share space and private time. It's a good skill to have.

[zepfel]

i think that if the child wishes to attain more privacy, they will find a way to do it.
they will adapt to their surroundings.

[Paradox of Life]

^ ... How does adapting to ones' surroundings have to do with attaining privacy? And what does that have to do with the topic?

[yellowgurl]

I dont share a room but sometimes I wish I did because that way you seem to be with someone ALL the time.. so yes more secure.. but then I like having a place that belongs COMPLETELY To me so I guess I like having my room.

[Olive]

Yes mainly because children fart a lot. (averaging 12 times a day or somewhat like that if not more)
And if the room is tightly enclosed, one person dying from their own fart is better than two. There are cases in the US where people have intoxicated and thus suffocated themselves due to multiple farts during their sleep.

(no offence )

[zepfel]

^ ... How does adapting to ones' surroundings have to do with attaining privacy? And what does that have to do with the topic?

a child with their own room may be given privacy, but, by adapting to the situation presented to them, a child that shares a room willl adapt to their surroundings and find privacy themselves. i didnt think i was that confusing.

[CarbiNe]

its good for children to have a privacy and a place to escape. but they may just be hiding bad things so i am impartial.

[Purplefender86]

Um, That's kind of dumb. I'm an only child so there isn't a choice. If you have room and money for their own room let them. If you don't then ya have them share a room!

[candychica]

if the house doesn't support each kid having their own room, i guess they will have to share. but here's my view. each kid is different, right? you probably know people who never want to be alone and have company nearly 24/7. they most likely wouldn't mind sharing a room. but some kids really value their independence and do prefer a considerable amount of 'alone' time. and you don't really get that at school. :P so if i were the parent i would try my best to observe and fit the needs of my child ... try to manage it somehow financially ... because i would want what's best for them. of course i'm not implying that someone who's independent has a RIGHT to their own bedroom or anything. but yeah, that's just how i see it.

[dahalfkoreanstyl]

they should share, im an only child and now im in college, having a roommate is awkward (do i change my clothes in front of him? do i fart? what if we dont sleep at the same time?) im over those questions now, but it was weird at first