her parents dont approve .. Options

[jnukes]

i recently gott into a relationship -- 6/4/05 -- and like -- yeah .. her friend told me that her parents dont approve of having a boyfriend .. and i'm pretty close w/ that friend, so i know she couldn't be lying to me ..

what should i do ? .. should i tell my parents that i have a girlfriend ? -- but then my parents and her parents might meet and start talking about how me and her are together ..

i would like to tell my parents .. i'm cool w/ it in them knowing [[ and they let me have a gf ]], but i'm just afraid that they'd talk about it w/ my gf's parents ..


so i'm basically asking -- do you think it's worth it to tell my parents ?? .. is there anything i could do ?? .. it's only thing that 's bothering me about our relationship ..

[SimplicityGirl]

Well...I think it's best if you stay honest with your parents. I mean, you said that they're fine with you dating and having a gf and starting relationships. Don't hide these things from your parents; I did that with my last bf, and it wasn't very pretty in the end. Stay honest with your parents; it shows that you're taking responsibility for your own actions.

As for your gf...well, even if you don't tell your parents, they will find out sooner or later anyway. My Mom found out from my brother...and that wasn't very pretty. Personally, I wouldn't date behind my parents' back after what happened the last time I tried. If her parents doesn't allow her to date, and you two really want this to work out between the two of you, I suggest you go to her house and just maybe ask her parents how they feel about you IF you were dating their daughter...and since you're a close friend with her, her parents SHOULD know a bit about you already...

So yes I would tell your parents if I were you. Good luck!

[Skyline Drive]

I actually think it would be better if both your parents were to talk.. then her parents could see that you are a good kid and you have good intentions with their daughter.
Maybe after meeting your parents her parents will change their mind about it.

[beautifuls0ul_x3]

i think you should tell your parents about it if they are fine with u having a gf. i know i would for sure. and maybe u can explain to them the situation about ur gf's parents and they just might understand and not say anything to her parents about you two yet.

[[x]Mari[x]]

Keeping secrets from her parents won't make a very good first impression. >_<

I suggest you talk to your girlfriend about it before doing anything, but don't keep it a secret to anyone either, because that'll make the truth harder to tell.

[jnukes]

and since you're a close friend with her, her parents SHOULD know a bit about you already...

i meant close friend w/ HER best friend ..


and i think i've made a decision --

-talk to my gf
- see what she says
- see if she can convince her parents
- i'll tell my parents
- maybe her and my parents can meet ? ..

i really hope things would work out -- btw, i have no clue in what order i'm gonna do w/ that dashed list .. so yeah .. wish me lucky everyone on whatever that happens

This post has been edited by jnukes: Jun 5 2005, 10:50 PM

[Shattered_Hope]

If your parents approve...then go for it....tell them about her and her parents and maybe your parents could discuss it to her parents about you and how responsible you are....but talk to your girlfriend first.

[xldubaliciousx]

You can just tell your parents and explain the situation so they won't talk about it with her parents.

[beautifuls0ul_x3]

good luck. i hope it works out for u and ur gf.

[*not_your_average*]

I agree with everyone else. Try getting your girlfriend to let you meet her parents and yours as well. It can be a family dinner and hopefully it won't be Columbine. (high school.) Eh, bad joke.

Anyhoo, I think it's all about communication with her parents and being honest and open.

[__xxfrappachino...]

wow, you're lucky ur parents approve of you having a gf. i know a lot of guys who's parents don't approve....i think you should take advantage of that and tell them