Do your parents approve? Options

[*Azarel*]

So, how many of your parents actually know about the relationships that you have? Do they approve of your significant other? How did you break it to them?

Me, my parents didn't know about any of my relationships. I really want my mom to meet and approve of Justin, though; in fact, I've been wanting to tell her for some time now. I just don't know how to bring it up. Any advice?

[xlaydee_v]

lols.. when i have a boyfriend, i dont tell my mom or my dad.. cause its kinda akward. but they do eventually find out so w/e lols but i don't like it when they bug me about it but they don't mind. even though i am only 12. lols

anyways.. i dont know what to do in that situation. lols. sry

[Nicolatofu]

mmm.. well if she's really judgemental on your relationships.. it may be better that you casually bring up a friend coming into town (He's visiting you soon, right?) and that you'd like her to meet him. Then, after she gets a good vibe from him, you could say that you've liked each other and that you're thinking of starting a relationship. That way once she sees that he's more than a friend, she will already know him and she won't freak or anything.

My mom has only met one of my boyfriends. And I couldn't help that.. he was a son of my brother's coworker.

[_sarcastic_]

my parents doesn't really know either, i wanna break it to them too and don't know how

[inthemudhole]

I don't tell my parents about much of anything like that anymore, so yeah... I just keep it to myself and if they find out, then they find out.

Advice..
Hm.. Just tell her everything good and how extremely happy you are about how everything is going with him. Keep it light and friendly, but then slowly... add hints that it's a more than a friend situation. Or you could just tell her straight-forwardly instead of hints.

Bah. I suck at advice.

Good luck.

[vampireduster]

dad will meet him this saturday. he freaked about the age thing.
mom said that i would have to meet him first before he takes you anywhere

[ItzOnlySydney]

casually tell my mom my dad doesn't HAVE to know and my mom just usually doesn't say anything when i tell her lol.

[sweetest-emotion]

yea both my parents know about my bf. i just kinda said, "mom, dad, me and santino are a couple" and they were like "oook..." but they're really kool about it, and it helps that he's such a sweetie and a gentleman, that for our first date, he came to my door, and shook my dad's hand and said where we're goin and all that. i'd say just as long as the guy's polite and shows care and respect for you and your family, then no worries, just say hey mom dad, i've been meaning to tell ya that me and (name) are going out now, and i want you to meet him and see how great of a guy he is. its no biggie, and ur rents will appreciate it so much.

[sammi rules you]

i would advise on not telling her right off the bat that you met him on an online forum......i tried asking my mom to meet one of my online friends, and it did noooot turn out well..

my mom approves of my current boyfriend. she's a little disturbed by the fact that he wears women's (and a couple of my) pants and shirts, but...she's gotten used to it.

[aera]

ive never told them because of their reaction. but maybe just sit her down and tell her everything and ask her to not get mad and to approve of him.

[CrazayChristian]

Ha...If my parents hadn't blown thier chance with my first girl...

See, I think I told my mom, who thought it would be funny to tease me a little. I was not in the mood or age to be teased this way. And then my dad has to come in and ask me stuff. So, now I can't tell them cuz they just talk too much about it. I don't like talking much about my like social life and what not ya know?

You could tell her, or you could tell some friend that might tell your mom.

All depends on how you go about it.

[silver-rain]

Well, I don't tell my parents about my relationships, they just find out. With my first boyfriend, I just kept on talking about him and my parents didn't seem to mind since it didn't seem to be affecting my school work. But with my current boyfriend, my parents saw us out on a date (...) and they don't not approve, but they don't approve either. They're ambivalent I guess.

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

Well I did tell my grandmother once (she's like my mom, since my mom doesn't live with me) she didn't believe me niether did my dad all they said was "riiiiiiiight"

[ANG33ZY]

Of course they don't know.

But I never been into a relationship. lol

[*Azarel*]

mmm.. well if she's really judgemental on your relationships.. it may be better that you casually bring up a friend coming into town (He's visiting you soon, right?) and that you'd like her to meet him. Then, after she gets a good vibe from him, you could say that you've liked each other and that you're thinking of starting a relationship. That way once she sees that he's more than a friend, she will already know him and she won't freak or anything.

I really don't know how she'd respond since I've never told her that I've been in a relationship before.. She chastises and lectures me all the time about the type of guy I should go out with and marry - and Justin fits everything she's ever told me. But there's one thing I'm afraid of - she won't approve of him because he's white. My mum's never been racist or anything from what I can recall, but this almost exact situation happened with one of my friends..

Advice..
Hm.. Just tell her everything good and how extremely happy you are about how everything is going with him. Keep it light and friendly, but then slowly... add hints that it's a more than a friend situation. Or you could just tell her straight-forwardly instead of hints.
Bah. I suck at advice.
Good luck.

I kind of want to straight-up tell her right off the bat (well, not really I guess) but I have no idea how to go about doing it. Thanks for the luck though, I'll need it.

i would advise on not telling her right off the bat that you met him on an online forum......i tried asking my mom to meet one of my online friends, and it did noooot turn out well..

Well, duh. Haha - we already figured we were probably just going to tell my mum that we met through mutual friends.. I really don't tell mother dear about the people I meet online; they go ape shit crazy. But I've met up with quite a few people irl from online.

[_sarcastic_]

i kinda know how you feel, i've been meaning to tell my mom about my bf but can't bring myself to. i was suppose to tell her yesterday but i chickened out.

just break it to your mom slowly, drop hints, she'll get it soon

[topsyturvy]

^ Agree.

1) smile all the time - they're bound to notice
2) hum happy songs and skip around the house
3) stare into space with a dreamy smile during mealtimes / family gatherings
4) constantly check your cellphone like you're expecting SMS from someone

haha.. all these worked for me.

[xFaith]

IF i have a bf, and i say IF :P, ill not tell her.. and she doesnt aprove, i decide who i want, and not she :P

[nhj_2006]

i introduce him to them as a friend and we just keep hanging out everyday and i guess they just have to assume that we are going out...

[gothicdork]

My boyfriend I met through X-box live on halo 2. Yeah I'm a game freak but you know its nice to meet someone who shares a common bond. the first time I met him he was in a bad mood and we we're playing a game of hide and seek juggarnaut. I he was and I wanted to know how he got into the spot that he did...so he was kind enough to show me.

And needless to say the person (juggernaut) found us while he was trying to teach me how to get up there killed us both and I apologized alot. He was liek eh dun worry about it. After that I just starting playing some custom games with him and other people from our clan. We have this whole inside joke about the spring, summer, winter, and fall line of thongs (long story...dun ask).

And after a while of talking to him...we were liek hey lets go out.Then we did and when he came back home he came to visit me that Friday......and since then my parents knew that we were going out. they were abit uneasy about it first but they eventually came to like him.

So I would have to say.....just let your mom find out adn even though she may be uneasy about it at first, She'll have to trust you with doign the right thing by choosing the right guy thats right for you not her.

Ok enough said sorry I got a bit long winded there but had share mine I suppose. I wish you the best of luck with however you decide to break it to your mom.

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[Ballpointpencil]

Well, my parents didn't know about my first boyfriend, which doesn't really matter because I broke up with him after a week. :/ My second boyfriend... it was a very childlike relationship. The only time I saw him was between classes, he wouldn't even eat lunch with me. My parents knew about him, but we didn't even go on dates, so I don't think they really cared.

But, Kevin, on the other hand, they definitely know about. He's been my friend for years, so they knew him, they just didn't pay a lot of attention to him until we started dating. I think they like him, actually, especially Mom. She even offered to be a work reference for him when he was applying for a job at a book store, because he helped us paint the house. ^_^

[heyyfrankie]

i don't tell my parents about any of my relationships. whether it be like a relationship or just my friends because they always have something bad to say about everyone. v__v;

[dani41790]

Well my mom knows of some of the boyfriends i've had. She's only approved of the one I have now though. For telling her, I just said "mom i'm going out with Aaron now."

Um maybe you can just ask to speak with your mom privately and start a conversation about you having a boyfriend and then casually bring up that you have a boyfriend already. Maybe you can wait till later to tell her that you met him online.

[*mzkandi*]

As long as he takes care of me and spoils me rotten, yes they approve.

[MetalChick77]

I don't tell them...because i bet they wouldn't approve, no, i know they wouldnt.

[skateforfree]

i let my parents find out on there own

[EmmalieV]

Well , tell her that theres this guy you like and hat you started dating.


Im the same my mom doesnt know about anyy of my ex bf´s but she suspects of course.

[timeflies51]

Well, I've never had a boyfriend, but my parents think it's stupid to date at such a young age. (Hey, my dad didn't go on a date until he was in 12th grade!) But as for approving who I like, whenever my mom has found out I don't think she has ever disapproved the guy. Not like it would really matter to me anyways...

[shewasradiant]

introduce him as just a friend. have him over a couple of times at the house to hang out with you and your parents (or at least with you with your parents in the house) and when you think they like him, tell them.

[curiousperson]

i don't do anything dangerous or do any mean stuff to people
i just sit & watch T.V. all day long
my mom has no rules because she knows that i am too lazy to get off my sorry but & brake them

[literemix24]

Introduce him as a friend first, and explain later. =]

[dreamerOi]

haha well my stepdads never known but my mom has. shes just indifferent about it. haha i think i tell her but i never introduce them cause im scared of herrrr

[WhiteLotus*]

My mom and father just both found out about my boyfriend of eight months. I feel somewhat accomplsished.

But you can casually ask her when she had her first boyfriend or something like that. And then just randomly say that you're with someone.

[mouse_3k]

Well first they have to find out about mine. The once they do, I guess they tend to accept them as long as they dont drink and smoke and all tht other crap. Its all good though. I will date whoever I want if they like it or not.

[Winter]

Eventhough my mom is Asian, she is surprisingly open when it comes to relationships. My dad doesn't bother me much.

I usually tell my mom when the relationship seems stable. She loves all my exs to death. When I broke up with my boyfriend (who I am with again) she was almost as upset as I was!

I think maybe you can try talking about him more in front of your mom. Get her to warm up to the idea of him yanno?

[iixSOOJINx]

if i did, my parents wouldnt mind.
they WOULD say, oh my gosh, such a young chlid getting a boyfriend, but otherwise that, they wouldnt be able to do anything so they'll just leave me alone.

[Just_Dream]

Pssh Anna, if I had advice about this, don't you think I would've told you? I think your parents would be more accepting of it than mines. At least boys are allowed over at your house, unlike mines. Tony came twice though haha--only to fix the computer. It was funny because even though my mom thinks Tony's just a friend of mines, she was trying to steal him away from me. Hahahhahahaha it was funny.

I've NEVER told my mom about my boyfriends. She has inklings, but I try to hide it the best I can. Sometimes I think she knows, other times she seems so oblivious to it. I'm glad for that because I know she would never let me out of the house again or trust me for anything if she ever found out that TONY was my boyfriend.

BTW, I really do hope that your parents accept Justin. :]

Anna I missed you!

[dahding]

i tell my parents. and they accept my gf. my mom is sooo sweet to them. <3 her for that. and my dad's like, "damn right, u better have a gf." so...no problem there. hah.

[soulless727]

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[enyceXaddiction]

if my parents find out i even have a boy as a FRIEND they would literally KILL me. so i dont dare tell them anything

[SSJ Kenshin]

My mom ADORES my girlfriend, but her parents don't favor me very much...

[SimplicityGirl]

It's funny. My Mom half approves half doesn't. Like, I'm allowed to go out with guys as friends...but anything over that, it kinda crosses the line. And for my last ex, I never told her about it. I think she knew, but she never said anything about it until my bro spilled it out AFTER we broke up.

Just introduce him as a friend and invite him over more often. She'll get the idea sooner or later.

[jue]

just bring up the subject on guys and such. And if she says your too young and stuff; say that you think you've matured and you're ready. If she says anything about choosing hte wrong guy and that, just say to her that how would she know if justin is not the right guy when she never met him. and then start introducing each other.

[*Azarel*]

just bring up the subject on guys and such. And if she says your too young and stuff; say that you think you've matured and you're ready. If she says anything about choosing hte wrong guy and that, just say to her that how would she know if justin is not the right guy when she never met him. and then start introducing each other.

It's not that my mother ever tells me that I'm too young to date, etc., it's just that I've never introduced any of my (ex)boyfriends to her before, I don't know how to bring it up, I don't know how to react, I don't know how she'll react.

I get the impression that most of you think he lives nearby - he doesn't. It's a long distance thing, but he's going to visit soon.

[*autumn.*]

Well I'm not in the same situation as you but here's my story:

I started going out with my boyfriend April of freshman year (currently junior.) He was my first boyfriend ever and I was terrified that my parents would find out. I knew that they wouldn't approve. But Homecoming of sophomore year came and I told my parents that somebody had asked me, and they approved of that. And then time passed and .. it was just kind of obvious that we were going out. I never had to bring it up--my mother just asked straight out one day, "Is David your boyfriend?" so I told her the truth and said yes.

She doesn't really approve right now, but she doesn't disapprove. Both my parents think David is a nice kid so it works out so far.

[laydee hottness]

if my parents find out i even have a boy as a FRIEND they would literally KILL me. so i dont dare tell them anything

OMG! My parents are <b>exactly</b> the same. I've been dating my current boyfriend for 7 months (next wednesday). My mom constantly suspects me of dating someone before I even started dating my boyfriend, so I just shake it off and make her seem like a retard once again.

[Amaranthus]

my mom gets on my f**kin nerves about everything, randomly asing whether I'm interested in a girl or guy, and asking me to invite my friends over because she thinks I like them.
I don't start relationships very often, but I never tell her anyways.

[LoveToMySilas]

They think every guy friend I have is my boyfriend. They're okay with it, I guess. They don't really say anything...directly, anyway.

[MissHygienic]

My parents don't care if I'm dating or not. When you're young, boyfriends come and go. When it comes to serious relationships? Uh, they still don't care, which is fine by me. I don't really do the whole, "do you approve of my boyfriend?" thing with my parents. They're not the ones who are having sex and spending time with him.

[fadingcolorsx]

Me, I don't tell my mom. Although, the only way she found out about my last boyfriend is because she called his cell phone. But, my dad usually finds out when he brings me to his house, or I'll tell him.

My mom still has no idea of my current boyfriend, and I've actually no intention on telling her.

[Becks539]

My parents usually find out from one of my 3 siblings. Usually my sister. My mom didnt really approve of my ex boyfriend but at the time she tried to accept him because she knew I liked him.

My current boyfriend she lovesss. It's almost 11 months between me and him and she's known since the day after we began dating. My dad even likes him. he came over christmas day and my parents got him a Wii. They always talk about how they wanna give me up and adopt him haha.

I've never had a age restriction on dating. I'm a sophomore in high school now and I've been dating since middle school.

[lalalalalallaaa]

I always tell my mom and dad when I'm starting to get involved with a boy. It just makes it easier to go out without them being worried about who I'm with or what I'm doing. I'm dating someone 2 1/2 years older than I am and instead of pretending I'm not and hiding it, it was one of the first things I told my mom. Plus, when you're honest about silly things like when you have a boyfriend or not - it much easier for them to believe little white lies about where you're really going...or who you're really with!

[AngelinaTaylor]

Yeah, my parents know. I just remember calling my mom after work and said I'm gonna be home late that day because I was meeting a guy, and she was fine with it (after asking a LOT of questions). Then the next day she was all like, "How's the boyfriend?"

Don't be afraid of your parents.. I'm sure they expect you to date people. It's a lot worse when your mom finds out you're having sex.

[Smilessss]

with my first boyfriend in 8th grade lol its really easy to tell, cuz my parents actually dont mind me dating at all, as long my grades are still up then yeah surei could date *n.n*, just when its a good time for you to tell and if they're really in a good mood then yeah try it out alittle *n.n* wouldnt hurt a bit i guess? or whenever you're ready to, then go ahead just dont catch them at the wrong time and the wrong mood though, that would be bad ><

[kawaiiPANDA]

Well. I've been with other guys in the past but my mum never found out.
Until 5 months into my current relationship,
(that was like almost 10 months ago) she saw a picture of me and him kissing on my computer.
She didn't get angry or anything, just.. I don't know how to explain it.
She tried to make me dump him for 2 months, then she gave up.
Now, she doesn't like him to the full extent, but me, her, him and my sister go out sometimes =)

Always had a restriction. My mums always been like, you're too young to date.
I'm asian, with an asian mum who is divorced. She is extra protective.
But she trusts my boyfriend now. Well at least a little.