more feelings..., tired of bringing them up |
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 May 28 2005, 12:59 AM
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well i just recently, about 10 minutes ago found something out that is changing my thinking yet again... let me explain:
i was bored on just looking for things to do. i for no real reason went onto my gf's email account.. there i found out two things. one is that she received an email love greeting(this kind) from her ex, who she broke up with about 4-5 months ago or so.. i have had these weird feelings that she still has feelings for him and all that... thats not really anything...but then i stumbled upon the password she uses for aim and crap (the one she woundlt let me know) it was a combination on her first name, and his last name.. and its a pretty recent/new password (if its fair to say something like that).. i dont know if i should make anything of this or what... i wanna talk to her about it..but im tired of bringing up the subject of her and him... we just almost broke up (for an entirely different reason) and i dont want to take the chance of loosing her again..but this is something that i dont think can totally be ignored.. what do you all think? |
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May 28 2005, 01:35 AM
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 You can't keep running from what you're trying to find. Group: Official Member Posts: 5,030 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,096 |
the password thing is sort of a giveaway
 and if/when you tell her, she's going to get mad because you found out something that was supposed to be private (even though it was by accident). do you know how she reacted to the 'love greeting'? you might want to take a break and see if she still truly has feelings for him or not  good luck
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May 28 2005, 02:05 AM
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 TOISU!! Group: Member Posts: 1,996 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 92,516 |
Well. Does it make you feel bad?
If it's bugging you that much, you either talk to her about it. Or you just end the relationship. If it bugged you that much though, you would talk to her. And if you like her a lot, then that's the best way to go. So good luck. |
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May 28 2005, 02:20 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 221 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 136,655 |
i agree password gives it away
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May 28 2005, 02:23 AM
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hmm you invaded her privacy? nnnnniiiiiiiiiiiiiiiicccccceeee. great going. just be cautious.thats all you can do.
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May 28 2005, 08:09 AM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
the password thing is pretty obvious that she still has feelings for him. just dump her, and if she asks why then tell her everything.
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May 28 2005, 08:25 AM
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You need to talk to her. I hate to say it but the password thing pretty much gives it all away. You may be afraid to to tell because it may cause you two to break up but I think you need to find out and if she involved with ex then you need to let her go. Simple as that.
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May 28 2005, 09:40 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 52 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 133,454 |
you maybe shouldn't have been in her email in the first place....
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May 28 2005, 09:56 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 258 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,101 |
i know i shouldnt have been in her email.. and i know i shouldnt have gone thgough it in the first place.. i wasnt looking for her password at all untill i found the greeting...which is about 4 days old, but she still hasnt said anything about it...in fact it was sent on the same day we kind of broke the realtionship off for a day... i know that either way i will be in trouble because of going into her email and looking through it for her password...(only after i found the greeting)
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May 28 2005, 10:16 AM
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 whaaaaaaat? Group: Member Posts: 2,293 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,660 |
that password is creepy and suspicious. u should talk to her about it before assuming anything tho.
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May 28 2005, 10:43 AM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
Well....you invaded her privacy...and if she found out....there might be another fight and this time it might ruin your relationship....so I suggest if you can handle it, keep it low for now....but if it's really bothering you about it, bring it up and see how she reacts to it....and if by her reaction you can tell how she feels about her EX....then I think you should do the right thing and end it.....and move on.
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May 28 2005, 01:08 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 200 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 24,199 |
umm u goin into her email and go to aim to find out more just means that u dont trust her anymore..
if theres no trust, no pt in the relationship.
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May 28 2005, 01:26 PM
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Senior Member Group: Validating Posts: 60 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 134,567 |
yes, if you can't trust her then the relationship is spoiled. when you confront her she'll get mad and then it'll probably be over...
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May 28 2005, 01:29 PM
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WHY THE f**k DID YOU INVADE HER PRIVACY???? THAT SPOILS EVERYTHING. You are stupid! god! WHAT THE f**k IS WRONG WITH YOU?? I'm sure if she found out that u checked her mail AND found her password, she'll break up with you. You just sent her into the boy's arms! Exactly what you deserved.
I can't give you any advice. Just want to let you know that you should NEVER do that again. EVER! |
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May 28 2005, 06:48 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 258 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,101 |
but u see.. it wasnt that i didnt trust her that i went in there.. i was jsut bored. i have no real reason for why i went in there..
when i tell her how do i make it so it doesnt look like i was really looking up on her, because i wasnt.. i know either way she will be mad, but i dont want her to totally not be able to trust me.. |
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May 28 2005, 08:01 PM
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 Being happy...is all that matters Group: Member Posts: 765 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,284 |
the way I see it, you need to have a chat with her over this.
It was wrong of you to invade her privacy, but on her part, it is wrong of her to be receiving these greetings from her ex. The password thing gives it away; she still has feelings for him. Just have a private, serious talk with her and see if you can't work something out. |
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May 28 2005, 08:04 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 258 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,101 |
well i had a talk with her about it just a few minutes ago and this is what she said about the pass..
her: i never changed it her: so wat? her: jeez ill change it if u want her: i just never bothered cuz i have enuff 2 remember and my fingers are used to typing it |
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May 29 2005, 10:26 PM
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Newbie Group: Member Posts: 8 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 145,231 |
maybe she still like him, she say that she will changed her password because you mention it. What if you never mention it? Would she still have changed her password?
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May 29 2005, 10:35 PM
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bebeexbroken Group: Member Posts: 12 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 45,383 |
i agree with the password. but try not to push the issue as much. just gradually lay it down on her. like maybe make up a what if situation or i know someone thats having a problem. You're her friend and you want to show her your support but then again you want to be a good friend and show concern. you need to find a balance and then approach.
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May 29 2005, 11:21 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 212 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 59,075 |
yeah. everybody said it.. but i want to say something.. if only emotions and love are so easily to deal with..
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May 29 2005, 11:40 PM
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 *scribble scribble* Group: Member Posts: 1,314 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 119,610 |
tell her in person. dont mention the card because that means that you invaded her privacy. if she denies it, then tell her about her password.
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May 30 2005, 05:15 PM
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 jiyOunnn~ Group: Member Posts: 692 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 109,706 |
.. o wow you got some trust issues :T if you bring this up again; she'll get even more pissed at you because you invaded her privacy because you were bored.. never do that..chances are she probably forgot about him.. and if she has feelings for him.. idk. just dont say anything NOW if you really wanna be with her
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May 30 2005, 05:20 PM
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 This bitch better work! Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 13,681 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 28,095 |
just because she got an love email from her ex doesn't mean that she stills has feelings for him. he probably just wants to get back with her.
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May 30 2005, 05:53 PM
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 Unlock the Darkness Group: Member Posts: 305 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 17,967 |
You should definitely talk to her. The consequences may not come out the way you'd like, but it will get everything out in the air. Besides, if the two of you get in an argument, and you throw this in her face, things could only get worse.
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