Either the best or the worst thing...., that's ever happend to me... |
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 May 20 2005, 06:08 PM
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 The Texan  Group: Member Posts: 430 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 136,431  |
Ok this may take a while but I have to give a little story:
Me and Stephanie(call'er that) Have been friends for about 2 years. I was very shy back then, I had recently been through a delimma with some "friends". (that's another story for another time) Anyway, I "met" her on the internet from a friend. She went to my school that's all I knew about her. But later on I figured "what the heck, I'll just make a new friend. Time passes and eventually we become the best of friends. I helped her with stuff she helped me with stuff you get the Idea. These were happy times  but then (bun bun bun)  I began to like her as more than a friend. Naturally I told her this, and she seemed fine with it  . I was suprised and we almost seemed to get closer  . So I do what I did before and...  I said nothing else. I made no move what so ever and my chance passed me by.I eventually got over it, all I wanted was her friendship anyway.  Next problem: We began to grow apart, and by we I mean she began to grow away from me. Slowly we lost contact, and slowly I began to realize this. I know what your saying "der, just say something" Well...I had no problem with saying something...except she was very sensitive...VERY. She had been hurt alot in the past and she seemed quite happy now. So, being me I decided that's what mattered. (Total nice guy thing) 4-6 MONTHS LATER Not much has changed, She still "ignored" me so to speak but I didn't say anything so she would be ok. YESTERDAY This is where my delimma comes in, I kept a blog with quite a few of these little things and... Yes, she found it, I was suprised when she got my call and when she said "Why didn't you tell me I had changed and ignored you?" My heart nearly sank and leaped out of my throat. She questioned me on why I hadn't said anything and I went through about 30 minute explaination on what has been going on with me (suicidal friend, friend on drugs, ect.) and finally told her that I didn't want to hurt her. She told me there was no way I could hurt her, that I should have told her about this, that I should have known I could tell her anything. She says that what hurts her is knowing I wasn't honest with her. about 40 or so minutes later I had told her basically everything, and she...once again seemed fine with it. But she would tell me about how people made her cry herself to sleep and I didn't want to be that way. This is either the best thing that's happend to me because I finally have it off my chest. Or the worst because I doubt she is just fine with this. My question is, 1. I know I should have said something, but should I have lost hours of sleep and felt nervous all today because of how harsh I was. 2. Even though she says it's ok, does it sound like it would be? edit: Blog |
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May 20 2005, 06:38 PM
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 im addicted to my car<3 Group: Member Posts: 635 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 92,236 |
um shes like a best friend to you right, i think she should be ok with it and you guy should be able to get over this little thing in your friendship. hope all goes well.
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May 20 2005, 07:35 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
you did the right thing of telling her everything and how you felt. she may tell you she's fine, but she may not be. just be there for her
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May 20 2005, 08:25 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
I think it's good for you that you've finally gotten this off your chest...but you're right....she could be OK.....she might not be.....just talk to her some more and just be ready to be there for her when and if she needs you...
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May 20 2005, 10:18 PM
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The Texan Group: Member Posts: 430 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 136,431 |
Thanks guys,
And for a side note, Being there for her has never and will not be a problem. It's her I worry about, She's usually quite honest about things. Might be nothing to worry about but, since I'm being honest, I'll just ask I spose. |
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May 21 2005, 02:06 PM
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 memories live FOREVER<3 Group: Member Posts: 1,150 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 132,793 |
from what i see i think she understands and she really is okay with. if she talks to you more shes fine with it. if she starts completely ignoreing you then yeah shes not fine with it.
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May 21 2005, 07:35 PM
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 Hah! Its funny cause its true... Group: Member Posts: 640 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 89,954 |
Good for you telling her. If you're not sure ask her if she really is fine with it because you don't want her to be hurt or anything like that. Try to become her best friend again while you're at it and be around for her if she needs you.
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May 22 2005, 02:34 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 212 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 59,075 |
hope things will be better for you. nothing else should is needed to say. you got it off your chest. i think she's happy.
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May 22 2005, 05:09 PM
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 rwar (; Group: Member Posts: 590 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,308 |
uhmm well.. i dont see why she shouldn't be okay
but i dont really understand your story. ;[ how were you harsh? but anyways, i dont htink you should have lost hours of sleep&feel nervous&stuff.. im glad you guys talked it over though (: |
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