I just dont see him as the boyfriend type, Question Gals |
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 May 11 2005, 12:55 AM
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 L!ckitySplit  Group: Member Posts: 4,325 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 129,329  |
my friend Zach in one of my classes likes my other friend Ashley. Zachs was cool with her and all, gets to know her, they become friends and even start flirting.(at least i thought so) later in the year Zach finally gets the strength up to ask her out. But when he asks her out, she rejects him! she gave the lets be just friends thing. so they're still just friends now. I asked Ash' why'd she rejected him. She's all like "I cant really see him as the Boyfriend type ya know? i can only see him as a friend, and thats about as far as its gonna go."
So i just said "oh, i get what you mean" i kinda do, but a few questions. The questions are what did the person do wrong that he would be only considered as a friend? What is the difference between the guy that would be the Bf and the bff, that the Bf would get the girl over the person who knows her better, and they have a better time with ?(lol did that make sense?) those were Zachs' questions heres my question If i were to meet a girl right now for the first time and i started liking her, what would be the things i would do that would lead me down the path of "lets just be friends" oppossed to the boyfriend path. and what would be the the things i would do to get to the path of Boyfriend opossed to just friend. because if it were me id want the best of both worlds a Gf and a bff. Oh god im done i hope that made sense, cuz my damn fingers hurt now. i would type more but i wouldnt do that to ya. 
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May 11 2005, 01:58 AM
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 ^-^ Group: Member Posts: 1,676 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 107,668 |
I donno.
I think he jsut wans't for her. I don't think he did anything wrong... 
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May 11 2005, 06:32 AM
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 //* imamix Group: Member Posts: 97 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 126,148 |
there's no reason why he would be only considered as a friend
but not a boyfriend. `cause the girl, i mean ashley, dont have that kind of feel. |
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May 11 2005, 03:56 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
QUOTE what did the person do wrong that he would be only considered as a friend? the person didn't do anything wrong, the girl just doesn't like him that way QUOTE What is the difference between the guy that would be the Bf and the bff, that the Bf would get the girl over the person who knows her better, and they have a better time with ? good question QUOTE If i were to meet a girl right now for the first time and i started liking her, what would be the things i would do that would lead me down the path of "lets just be friends" oppossed to the boyfriend path. only if she doesn't have feelings for you or she isn't ready for a relationship QUOTE what would be the the things i would do to get to the path of Boyfriend opossed to just friend. basically ask her out and tell her how you feel about her. |
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May 11 2005, 04:31 PM
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 theres no i in slut...but there is a u Group: Member Posts: 208 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 86,257 |
Ive done that before...its because either he just isnt her type of guy...or maybe she has her eye on another guy...it could be a number of reasons
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May 11 2005, 05:54 PM
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L!ckitySplit Group: Member Posts: 4,325 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 129,329 |
QUOTE(_sarcastic_ @ May 11 2005, 4:56 PM) the person didn't do anything wrong, the girl just doesn't like him that way  Its just that guys think they did something wrong or could've done more when they hear this. |
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May 11 2005, 06:35 PM
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 rwar (; Group: Member Posts: 590 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,308 |
i dont think your friend did anything wrong.
well, the reason she rejected him is cause "she jst doesnt see him that way" andd since you dont understand.. that .. thingy.. i think.. then ill explain. she see's him like a bigger brother to her. and since she see's him that way, she wouldnt go out with him. .. like would you go out with your sister? do you catch my drift? 
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May 11 2005, 06:51 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 213 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 115,730 |
Maybe she's got her eye on someone else, or maybe she just sees him as friend? Many possibilities.
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May 11 2005, 07:07 PM
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 *scribble scribble* Group: Member Posts: 1,314 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 119,610 |
QUOTE what did the person do wrong that he would be only considered as a friend? What is the difference between the guy that would be the Bf and the bff, that the Bf would get the girl over the person who knows her better, and they have a better time with ?(lol did that make sense?) sometimes girls cant see someone as their boyfriend. they just cant see themselves hugging, holding hands, and all that other stuff. thats what they mean. and the person didnt do anyrhing wrong, its just that she couldnt see themselves together. |
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May 11 2005, 07:34 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
QUOTE(L!ckitySplit @ May 11 2005, 1:55 AM) The questions are 1.) what did the person do wrong that he would be only considered as a friend? 2.) What is the difference between the guy that would be the Bf and the bff, that the Bf would get the girl over the person who knows her better, and they have a better time with ?(lol did that make sense?) those were Zachs' questions heres my question 3.) If i were to meet a girl right now for the first time and i started liking her, what would be the things i would do that would lead me down the path of "lets just be friends" oppossed to the boyfriend path. and what would be the the things i would do to get to the path of Boyfriend opossed to just friend. because if it were me id want the best of both worlds a Gf and a bff. 1.) he didn't do anything wrong, being yourself is never the wrong thing. different girls have different preferences of what they want their boyfriend to be like. maybe she liked a lot of his traits but he's missing something or there's something she doesn't like. or maybe she's just not attracted to him. or maybe, since they're so close, she doesn't want to mess that up...when you find a really good friend, you don't want to take a risk and mess up everything. 2.) the difference is that you're attracted to your boyfriend and you're not attracted to your guy friend...i don't really understand the second part... i personally believe that that's the only difference. 3.) there are so many things that would make you a friend if you two just met. like if you go to the movies or walk around wherever, if you don't try to touch her or hold her hand or hug her, then you're most likely a friend. plus, if you don't compliment her and compliment other girls and check them out instead. |
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May 11 2005, 07:38 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 6,953 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 52,702 |
liek since they are always hanging around...of course friends flirt...you have to play hard to get...once you become friends...you don't want to ruin the relationship that you have now..so you leave it as that
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May 11 2005, 07:41 PM
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 Hi! I'm Dani :) Group: Member Posts: 5,637 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,369 |
Just because she sees him as a friend doesn't mean he did something wrong. But yeah i'm just guessing she didn't have any feelings for him. But yeah I guess he's just not her type too.
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May 12 2005, 12:45 AM
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 You can't keep running from what you're trying to find. Group: Official Member Posts: 5,030 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,096 |
sometimes there just isnt this certain... spark
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May 12 2005, 01:58 AM
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^-^ Group: Member Posts: 1,676 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 107,668 |
I jsut realized that this question remidns me alot of ann of green galbes (my faovrite show, don't ask me why, I jsut like the charactors an stuff)
Gilbert proposed to Anne but she didn't want to marry, not because she didn't like him, bu tbecause she thouhgt of him as only a freind. sounds familiar huh? Anne decided to marry gilbert aobut two years later when she got her head back on and realized she was head over heels in love. maybe Ashlee'll harm up to the guy, you never know, give it time. 
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May 12 2005, 11:03 AM
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 kristin Group: Member Posts: 5,705 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,985 |
what did the person do wrong that he would be only considered as a friend?
Well this guy at my school likes me..and he's a really nice guy. Funny, nice to talk to and all. He's the star of the fricking football team! And I wouldn't go out with him. Because I just can't imagine romance. We are friends, and sometimes you just can't see anything beyond that with certain people. What is the difference between the guy that would be the Bf and the bff, that the Bf would get the girl over the person who knows her better, and they have a better time with ?(lol did that make sense?) haha, I tried to imterpret that right. But like I said before, maybe you do have a better time with your bff. But..maybe you're not attracted to him...like just because you have a good time together does not mean you would make the perfect couple. =/ If i were to meet a girl right now for the first time and i started liking her, what would be the things i would do that would lead me down the path of "lets just be friends" oppossed to the boyfriend path. and what would be the the things i would do to get to the path of Boyfriend opossed to just friend. because if it were me id want the best of both worlds a Gf and a bff. And you are right there..sometimes the best relationship is one when you were formally bff's. Then it's built on a special bond. I guess what would lead you to boyfriend is flirting, and sweet remarks. I mean..if she gets the idea that you might possibly like her, and she's "flirting" back..then it would lead to boyfriend. But if you talk to her just like any of her other girl friends...thats bff material. I am not entirley sure I made since 
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May 12 2005, 12:35 PM
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 -Officially Insane- Group: Member Posts: 870 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 117,293 |
what did the person do wrong that he would be only considered as a friend?
The person didn't do anything wrong..she just doesn't like him romantically. It's like, well..you have guy bffs, right? You wouldn't be attracted to them just because they're your bffs. Why should it be any different with the opposite sex? |
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May 12 2005, 01:40 PM
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L!ckitySplit Group: Member Posts: 4,325 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 129,329 |
^ good point, i should tell him that
thanx
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May 12 2005, 02:36 PM
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 Rock out X3 Group: Member Posts: 319 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 69,317 |
probably just not for her
that can happen even with people you Do like in that way. You like them a lot but going out with them just doesn't work, happened to me |
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May 12 2005, 03:04 PM
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 sweet but sour Group: Member Posts: 170 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 35,953 |
heh i've been in that situation. the guy hasnt dont anything wrong. there is simply no feelings involved to the point where its bf/gf type deal. she only see's him as a friend and most likely there is another guy she has her eyes out for.
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May 12 2005, 03:23 PM
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Your mom goes to college.. Group: Member Posts: 62 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 107,541 |
Same thing with me, One of my best friends asked me out and I rejected him. Were still like best friends but I can't see him a a Boyfriend. He's just to much like my brother.
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