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SpedMonkee
post Apr 24 2005, 09:01 AM
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is it right to go behind a gf/bf's back to find out the truth about something? i know that it is always best to ask, but what if they dont tell u the truth? do you think its a bit wrong to be sneaky and go behind their back to find something out?
 
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post Apr 24 2005, 09:37 AM
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I would do it , but watch out if they find out.
 
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post Apr 24 2005, 11:17 AM
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It's always better to confront the situation.....because if they do find out....it doesn't normally end well.... mellow.gif
 
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post Apr 24 2005, 11:39 AM
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If they are obviously lying I would try to find out the truth.
 
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post Apr 24 2005, 11:45 AM
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Yah, u just wanna find the truth and if they dont tell u, then u have tht right
 
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post Apr 24 2005, 12:14 PM
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The truth has a way of coming out, but i will say i have done some investigating at times to find out the real truth of what my friends were hiding. and after i find out we talk about and bond
 
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post Apr 24 2005, 12:20 PM
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No, it's not wrong. If you really need to find out an answer and want to make sure it's right..I think it's ok. But you should comfront them before anything.
 
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post Apr 24 2005, 12:29 PM
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Well, if confronting them about it doesn't work, then I would do that. I've done it before...
 
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post Apr 24 2005, 12:35 PM
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well wouldn't they tell you the truth if you asked them? if you`re in a relationship with someone then you must trust that person and believe that they`ll tell you the truth. just ask before you do anything coz going behind their backs is like you dont believe em`, & you dont trust them, both important in the relationship and it wont end well either
 
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post Apr 24 2005, 01:57 PM
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lols. sometimes it's okay.. but don't let them find out cause they'll probably get mad cause they expect trust from you.. depends how much you really want to find out i guess.
 
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post Apr 24 2005, 04:54 PM
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well.. i guess it would be bad.
but then it really depends on what you find out ><
but if you're asking this because your gf and that piano stuff with her ex..
then i would figure not to do it, cause relationships are based on trust.
and besides, if she find out, you`re in deep doodoo mellow.gif
 
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post Apr 24 2005, 06:53 PM
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well its becoming more than just going to his house for piano...she visits him at work all the time and talks on the phone wiht him and aim alot too...
 
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post Apr 24 2005, 10:03 PM
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if they are lying, try to find out. if it seems bad, then confront them.

but if you think shes cheating on you when shes really throwing you a suprise party or something, you shouldnt confront her. i think that was a little off topic...
 
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post Apr 24 2005, 10:10 PM
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it really depends...like if it's a present and you want to know what to get them, or some of their favorite foods, and other stuff like that then it's okay

if it's something deeper like cheating then that's just wrong...it's like is this what you're always going to do? ask other people what's going on with the person you're supposed to know best? are you just going to go by the word of mouth everytime?

you need to trust your girlfriend/boyfriend, he/she's innocent until proven guilty
 
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post Apr 25 2005, 04:47 AM
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and thats the thing, i do trust her, which is why ive asked her and totally taken her word for it. maybe its just a bit of jealousy on my part..
 
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post Apr 25 2005, 05:18 PM
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its not good to go behind their back. i believe that even if they're lying to u then u should still trust them if u really love them. i mean talking to someone isnt going behind their back but just dont go through their stuff n shit like that u know?
 
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post Apr 25 2005, 05:24 PM
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I do it for fun. I call her a whore in front of my friends and she called me a toe sucker LOL.
 
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post Apr 25 2005, 06:16 PM
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If you really love someone, you should trust and believe them. If they really love you, they wouldn't lie or be dishonest.
 
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post Apr 25 2005, 06:24 PM
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NO BUT THEN AGAIN, WHAT IS THE POINT OF HAVING A RELATIONSHIP IF YOU DONT TRUST YOUR GUY/GIRL --- IN A RELATIONSHIP, YOU'RE COMMITTED MEANING YOU HAVE TO TRUST THE OTHER PERSON...
 
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post Apr 25 2005, 06:43 PM
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they'll feel bad that you didnt trust them. you could say "if you dont tell me the truth, im gonna go behind your back and find out"...but not so bluntly....at least you'll have given them a heads up and they cant be angry about it when you do.
 
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post Apr 25 2005, 08:29 PM
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it's wrong ot have no trust....but you have find that trust first
 
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post Apr 26 2005, 12:39 PM
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well.. its up to u.. i mean.. go behind her / his back.. to find out, its either disappointing u or adding trust on him / her. at least u will find out something ya?
 
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post Apr 26 2005, 01:04 PM
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i dont think its wrong. you have to find out the truth right? even if you gonna have to break sum barriers
 
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post Apr 29 2005, 11:08 AM
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it`s better to ask them, and if they lie i say get the news from a friend or so >=)
 

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