Ways to get his attention Options

[*chaneun*]

So, I realized that many girls are making topics of how to get guys, so I made a short detailed list of some ideas.

BEFORE GOING ON, MAKE SURE HE DOESN'T HAVE A GIRLFRIEND


Some no-no's:

Do not wear slutty/whorish clothes-If you want his attention, he could look down on you and think you're a low-life
Don't over-flatter him-Sure, it may please him after a while, but it gets annoying. What if a guy came up to you and kept repeating "YOU'RE HOT YOU'RE HOT!"
Don't sexually harass him-Don't say stuff like "Hey hot-buns! Call me!" What if a guy called you his bitch, then said "Call me"
Don't flirt with him if he has a girlfriend-Catfight.
Don't be rude to him or his friends-Sure, be like Helga in "Hey Arnold" Then bully him a lot to show your feelings for him. Great.
Don't become friends with his ex-Girls are violent too
Don't go out with his ex-They may say they're over him, but it starts drama. (from b0st0ngrl) -grabs popcorn-

Good ways to get his attention:

Talking to him:
-Look into his eyes when you talk.
-To be more flirty, look into his eyes deeply, then look away, then look again.
-Talk about interesting stuff, see if he likes video games, reading, yadda yadda yadda.
-Catch him in the hallway (if he goes to your school) just to have a friendly conversation.
-BE YOURSELF! But don't be obnoxious.

You're too shy to let out your feelings for this guy:
-Look through Myspace to see if he has one, then if you don't have a Myspace, make one. Add him to friends, wait until he accepts, then comment him about stuff he'd enjoy, then ask for his screen name, then start hanging out in school. You're now friends
-When you go out with your friends, invite him along, if you're going to the movies, purposely sit next to him
-Get to know him better, however you do, but don't be rude or obnoxious.
-Ask him out, if he hasn't asked you out already.

Q&A:

Q: The guy I like is such a jerk to my friends, and he's a jerk to other people too.
A: Pfft, he's not good enough for you. Duh?

Q: I had a reallly embarassing (sp?) moment in front of him! What do I do?
A: Just laugh it off, it'll show him that you're not over-emotional.

Q: I like my ex again!
A: Talk to him, or you could leave him. You'll get over him, unless you're like that girl in The Notebook

Q: I like my ex again! But he has a new girlfriend.
A: You could fight for him , or when he breaks up with her, ask him out again, unless they get married later on in life and never break up.

Q:"He likes me but, he doesnt want a girlfriend!"
A: give him a little time, but really just move on because most likely he doesnt like you like that and is just trying to be nice.

Q:"I think he likes me! How do I know for sure?"
A: Well, a lot of guys act differently and vary in ways to show their affection. Some may include:

--> He pays extra attention to you. <--
--> He seems to enjoy bugging you <--
--> He grabs your attention in any way possible (negative and positive) <--
--> He tries to get close to you and converse whenever possible <--
--> He does a lot of things he doesn't really like just for you <--
--> You catch him looking at you, then he looks away <--
--> He gets extra shy around you <--
--> He tries to show off around you <--


More to come..
Hopefully, this was helpful to you, and will make the clutter of topics in the Girls locker less crowded.
Oh, and if you want to know, I've never had a boyfriend

NOTE THAT ALL GUYS ARE DIFFERENT

[b0st0ngrl]

Sounds like something I'd read in a magazine :D

Oh and you might want to add to not go out with your best friends ex. It starts major fights even if your best friend says they're over him...

[iheartsimba]

That's pretty useful, esp. with all the topic about that.
Pinned!

If anyone has anything to add to this, post it here and the first post can be edited

Guy's should post here also, for their opinions.

[*chaneun*]

Wow, pinned

[*mzkandi*]

This thread is so needed because those "how do i get a guy to notice me" appear every day

[i can break]

Thanks...That was very helpful. Not that I like anybody...

[lilphoenix]

you should write a book [like many others] and actually get paid.

or become a dating counselor.

[Nicolatofu]

this will [hopefully] eliminate all of those girls needing for attention from boys topics.
And another:
"I think he likes me! How do I know for sure?"
Well, a lot of guys act differently and vary in ways to show their affection. Some may include:

--> He pays extra attention to you. <--
--> He seems to enjoy bugging you <--
--> He grabs your attention in any way possible (negative and positive) <--
--> He tries to get close to you and converse whenever possible <--
--> He does a lot of things he doesn't really like just for you <--
--> You catch him looking at you, then he looks away <--
--> He gets extra shy around you <--
--> He tries to show off around you <--

More to come... this was all I could think of at the moment. I think this was posted in another pinned topic somewhere, but this topic recently seems to be on the rise of multiplying.

[*chaneun*]

you should write a book [like many others] and actually get paid.
or become a dating counselor

I'm that good?? wow.

[yukichan]

wow..
this is good!
thanks for making it!!

[MrElsewhere]

very good. =]

but this is just a generalization. remember there are exceptions, but most boys aren't that complex. That's pretty much how i act when i like a girl. NOOOO..now they will KNOW. *gasp*

[kill me please]

oo this is awesome
another, Q:he likes me but, he doesnt want a g/f
A: give him a little time, but really just move on because most likely he doesnt like you like that and is just trying to be nice.

[tmauze]

thanks. hopefully there won't be as many useless topics in the girls locker now

[gOODpIRATE]

wow. that was very usefull (no lie). i will actually try to remember those things...because i have this whole "shy girl, can't look at you in the eye" thing going on...haha

[Skyline Drive]

How helpful. I'll try some of this out soon

[IamRad]

THANK U. im sick of seeing topics about that kind of stuff.. if a guy doesnt like u he doesnt liek u! get over it.

[x LUV x ALWAYS x]

seems extremely helpful.

hmm, maybe you could figure out some answer to this, i was asked this awhile ago by one of my friends and wasn't too sure how to respond

what would you do if you like a guy and want to ask him out, but you are not sure if he likes you or not because sometimes he acts like it and other times he doesn't, but most people who know him think that he likes you? and what if you think that he likes another girl, and you ask him if he likes her, and he says sort of but he doesn't want to go out with her, does that eliminate the possibility of him liking you?

once again great job

[apple.]

Just stare at him, like this little emotion - >

[..:loveee.NuTTii]

Finally....no more 'how do I get his attention' threads

[azn cutey chique]

hahaha guys guys guys... i don't think we need this kind of stuff,

but it's helps anywy.. ;-)

[AngelTears]

This is helpful..

Yes you should write a book! ^^

I wonder why no one thought of this sooner!

Oh well its here now! YESSS!

[pingpang_0811]

i find it's so helpful...
and i read the ways to know he likes me or not...
i found there are some exactly about him ^^

[Looow]

Would be useful to many many many newbies

[Annie5332]

You should add like making the first move or something or how to get him to kiss you? Dunno if you'd wanna do that but just a thought

[xenosaga]

that's a good topic! i always see topics based on "how to get a guy" READ THE DARN POST PEOPLE!

[kimmie2204]

my bf that i have right now........i pretty much made all the first moves......he loves it.....i kissed him first......i told him i loved him first.........but i dont know.........i guess i can't really say how to get a guy cuz well......i didn't really have to try hard for that one........he was just really into me!

[BrokenDream]

Thanks. I had some issues with this guy. Hehe.

[Koodles]

I love this article! I'm definitely keeping it! :)

[Litt0_TeeZy]

Sounds like something I'd read in a magazine :D

Oh and you might want to add to not go out with your best friends ex. It starts major fights even if your best friend says they're over him...

yeah.....it does....i went out with my friend's ex.......she didn't talk to me the whole time....but what pissed me off....is she told me all this crap about him...then when we break up....she turns around and goes out with him again.......*grr.

[applewater]

does it reli work???but if u reli like dat guy.....u'll feel nervous wen talking 2 him

[alice1017]

heee...the situations are really close to real..and many of them did happen to me
i would follow the suggestions!

[yellowgurl]

something to add :

* If you like him, don't be annoying and constantly ask him who he likes. it doesn't work. Waste of time.. and will end up not liking you at all

^^

[xldubaliciousx]

Nice tips.. But I wonder what guys think half the time. I mean do they get nervous around the girl they like too? Are they as psyched as girls when they find out she likes them? I wonder..

[someflipguy]

Great Job, Alot of young ladies need advice and this is a good FAQ section.


2000th Post

[*chaneun*]

^Congradulations :]

[Chyn020]

wow thanx!
i should show the no-nos to my buddy maritza!! that ought to get thru to her if i dont! lmao

[br0kenINSIDE_91]

I'm gonna try this....It's really helpful.

[RHyse]

Very good tips..

[jerseygal34]

omg this is soo helpful.. just have a question..well i like this guy and i've liked him for a while but him and i are good friends...so like 5 monnths or something he found out i liked him and so he askd me out..but he only did it because he felt bad for me and so then the next day he got me alone and we worked it out and everthing...but i told him that i was over him..but i still do lke him...but im not sure he likes me or not but hes been acting sorta different..should i go for it and ask him out...flirt a little first...or should i not do ne thing cause it could ruin our relationshp as friends?

[wFh1o5AHaiA3]

haha.. thats some really good tips!

i mean.. how exactly do you know you "like" someone...
i dont know how to say this.. x.x

[parallel]

Who cares if the guy has a gf. I just go for it. [=

[ichigofan]

finally.. I needed that advice THANKS

[khmerxlove]

awesome topic ^___^ i know some girls who really need to read this....

sluts are definitely no fun, and if the guy only likes girls who look like hookers, then you're probably not worth it.

[khmerxlove]

does it reli work???but if u reli like dat guy.....u'll feel nervous wen talking 2 him

remember... CONFIDENCE!!! just not obnoxious.... aim is a good way to confess you like him.... but break ups online are cheezy.

[xbeaux]

hehehe thanks for the advice! i'll def use that next time.

[thatoneasiangirl...]

Thanks, that's helpful ^-^

[blah1234567]

nooiiiiccce

[xMiZziexKiMx]

hah thanks a lot for that!! its really awesome!! =]

[lghtrfld64]

wow i already knew most of that, but it really speaks to you when it's actually written down! thanks!

[Horib]

thanks this helped me alot :D

[LOVE machine x]

ok umm.. coming from a guy.. its not that hard to get our attention. seriously, i could sum this whole list up in this sentance:

be yourself and dont try too hard.

simple ne ?

it also depends on the guy.

[xMiZziexKiMx]

wow thatz awesome!! it wrks! ^^

[Bobblehead425]

cool. i'll keep this in mind...

[castawayfromhere...]

JUST BE URSELF AND IF HE RELIZES YOU GOOD AND IF NOT MOVE ON TO SOME OTHER GUY WHO CARES ABOUT YOU.. chances are hes already your closes guy friend..

[CrazayChristian]

Guys Point of view:

One thing I like is being flattered SPARCLY and not obviously. I mean it's good but when someone is like "ZOMG YOUR SO GOOOD!!!!!111!!"That's when it gets to a turn off so yes not mucho ego.

Out going ROCKS. I don't know any guy who says "I like shy girls". Being out going is the way to get a guy to notice you, being shy is a 1.532351614% chance that he'll notice you and it will more than likely will just be once while your standing alone.

Being energetic worked with being outgoing is a good combo. This would basically mean be yourself and act confortable around him. Don't be shy, I personally don't like to try hard to make conversation with someone because they just say " o..ok." or "That's cool". That might even give us the idea that your bored around us.

Eye contact-must

In short:

Stand out, if your outgoing and stick out (in a good way) from the crowd then you have a better chance.

[crayonzUpMyNose]

ooooo! i know a good one.

tell him you had a dream about him. a guy did that to me before and its so flattering. try to make it so it doesnt sound like a line.

[lickthepavement]

yea ive done that dream thing before. it works really good

[missknowitall141...]

thats super cool. thanks for posting

[crashingg]

good advice ;)

[Mith]

Definate nono is going through important parts of your relationship online... breaking up, asking out, moving to next steps or whatever. You need to do that face to face - you have so much more understanding of what the other person is thinking, it's important. Sure, ask them if they want to go to a movie online, but if you ask them to be your boyfriend, do it IRL. And who really wants to remember asking someone to be with them by typing to them?

[xlauren73x]

another thing for the 'how do i know if he likes me' i noticed w/ my ex bf before we actually went out he was flirty w/ me in ways that like he'd tickle me or poke me in the ribs.. little things like that. esp when we were in my friends pool he'd grab me a lot and tickle me.. so idk maybe guys do that to get closer to a girl.

[Super_Shaggy]

I know im in teh wrong locker i was spying lol j/k but the whole thing is actually kinda right but the sexual thing saying like hi ther hot buns or what ever you said actually makes us think that your more in to and the clothes thing in my case it really doesnt matter what you wear what matters is your personality..........wel back to reading more of your forums lol

[xsweetxcandyx]

oh and if you ask him a date.... make it something fun he would enjoy that would always show who you are, also.

don't be all horny on him and try to make out with him every second you get. like if you really want to kiss him, find a perfect time and place, lean over and give him a peck on the cheek//lips. then look at him and smile. Then he may kiss you back. [its how i got one fo my bfs]

[Spikey]

damn> you're like Martha Stewart...uh, except for relationships, of course...let's just hope you don't rat out like the Valentine's candy companies or something like she did the stock market and wind up behind bars! lol

[Spikey]

damn> you're like Martha Stewart...uh, except for relationships, of course...let's just hope you don't rat out like the Valentine's candy companies or something like she did the stock market and wind up behind bars! lol

[Spikey]

why in the Hell did i put that twice?!

[eyeyeyo]

thnx for this thread i'll keep it in mind ^_^

[Angelic Muse]

Awesome advice. Also, I read somewhere that you're not suppose to throw yourself at him. It'll make you look desperate. You're actually suppose to sorta play hard to get. I guess it keeps the guy guessing.

[AngryBaby]

^ ya but dont play to hard, guys give up easily

[cookieskater2]

yah, we do...

[CrazayChristian]

^ Hey...

Not all of us do ^_^

(There I go being an exception again..)

[cookieskater2]

I'm sorry. Your the minority.

Hehe, jk

It's better when you do play hard to get though, but like they said, not too hard. lawl.

[Dudefreak92]

Q:"I think he likes me! How do I know for sure?"
A: Well, a lot of guys act differently and vary in ways to show their affection. Some may include:

--> He pays extra attention to you. <--
--> He seems to enjoy bugging you <--
--> He grabs your attention in any way possible (negative and positive) <--
--> He tries to get close to you and converse whenever possible <--
--> He does a lot of things he doesn't really like just for you <--
--> You catch him looking at you, then he looks away <--
--> He gets extra shy around you <--
--> He tries to show off around you <--

I hear this alot, its like the girls veiw of things, some of it is true but,

My perspective:

im more of a shy guy and i would only do 2 or 3 of those.

I would stare at the girl
most of the time i dont look away. ( for some reason... haha dunno the other person ussally looks away first and its easyier 4 u.
i do get shy, or nerveus i should say
i do really anything for my girlfriend even if i hate it with all my gut.
I never grab the attention negativly, some times positivly but not direct.



if their was a girl to impress me, i would look for,

dont look sluttish or something like that randomly out of the blue, maybe after she sometimes what i do is tell her bestfriend to ask her if she likes me or that i like her and then if she tries to impress me, then i know shes willin to go out... ext. and then you can change ur dresses so he knoes ur doin it for him not randomly.

dont be desperate. (we watch for people too desparte for us, its annoying we like the hard to get job, also i look if like the girl has like gone out with everyguy for like 2 days then im like wtf bc shes just more desperate for a bf or something.

Always try to hangout with the guy... guys like hangin out

Always try to be nice, dont be brattish and hard to get and shit just be nice and converse and shit i hate brats.

always talk alot, sometimes i dont know what to say but jennifer, my girlfriend talks alot and i love that bc i dont really have to say anything when i dont want to.

bring up stuff that the guy did like a band or competition, sports, ext.

dont change what topics you like to impress us. If ur like hell yeah i love ballfoot uhhhuuhh itss coolll.. bc we can tell, i really dont like football..

when you need relationship help, dont go to random people. just follow ur heart...


allright il stop, if u need me IM me kjm520
il admit most of this is from experience.

[*x____duckii*]

Q: I like my ex again! But he has a new girlfriend. 
A: You could fight for him , or when he breaks up with her, ask him out again, unless they get married later on in life and never break up.

Not a good idea.

I think a better answer for that would be, "Wait until he breaks up with her, but don't ask him out immediatly. He could still like her, so it's best to wait a few months before doing so."

[*disco infiltrator*]

I'm unpinning this cause it's linked in the resource topic.

[lilJdawg]

Thanks for the advice. It's really great of you to pull together to all of this 'bcuhs it gets kinda' annoying after while when all the people asks the same question.

[Xprezsion]

These are some good tips, I'm gonna use them

[nosuntoday]

So, I realized that many girls are making topics of how to get guys, so I made a short detailed list of some ideas.

BEFORE GOING ON, MAKE SURE HE DOESN'T HAVE A GIRLFRIEND
             
       
Some no-no's:

Do not wear slutty/whorish clothes-If you want his attention, he could look down on you and think you're a low-life
Don't over-flatter him-Sure, it may please him after a while, but it gets annoying. What if a guy came up to you and kept repeating "YOU'RE HOT YOU'RE HOT!"
Don't sexually harass him-Don't say stuff like "Hey hot-buns! Call me!" What if a guy called you his bitch, then said "Call me"
Don't flirt with him if he has a girlfriend-Catfight.
Don't be rude to him or his friends-Sure, be like Helga in "Hey Arnold" Then bully him a lot to show your feelings for him. Great.
Don't become friends with his ex-Girls are violent too 
Don't go out with his ex-They may say they're over him, but it starts drama. (from b0st0ngrl) -grabs popcorn-

Good ways to get his attention:

Talking to him:
-Look into his eyes when you talk.
-To be more flirty, look into his eyes deeply, then look away, then look again.
-Talk about interesting stuff, see if he likes video games, reading, yadda yadda yadda.
-Catch him in the hallway (if he goes to your school) just to have a friendly conversation.
-BE YOURSELF! But don't be obnoxious.

You're too shy to let out your feelings for this guy:
-Look through Myspace to see if he has one, then if you don't have a Myspace, make one.  Add him to friends, wait until he accepts, then comment him about stuff he'd enjoy, then ask for his screen name, then start hanging out in school. You're now friends 
-When you go out with your friends, invite him along, if you're going to the movies, purposely sit next to him 
-Get to know him better, however you do, but don't be rude or obnoxious.
-Ask him out, if he hasn't asked you out already.

Q&A:

Q: The guy I like is such a jerk to my friends, and he's a jerk to other people too.
A: Pfft, he's not good enough for you. Duh?

Q: I had a reallly embarassing (sp?) moment in front of him! What do I do?
A: Just laugh it off, it'll show him that you're not over-emotional.

Q: I like my ex again!
A: Talk to him, or you could leave him. You'll get over him, unless you're like that girl in The Notebook

Q: I like my ex again! But he has a new girlfriend. 
A: You could fight for him  , or when he breaks up with her, ask him out again, unless they get married later on in life and never break up.

Q:"He likes me but, he doesnt want a girlfriend!"
A: give him a little time, but really just move on because most likely he doesnt like you like that and is just trying to be nice.

Q:"I think he likes me! How do I know for sure?"
A: Well, a lot of guys act differently and vary in ways to show their affection. Some may include:

--> He pays extra attention to you. <--
--> He seems to enjoy bugging you <--
--> He grabs your attention in any way possible (negative and positive) <--
--> He tries to get close to you and converse whenever possible <--
--> He does a lot of things he doesn't really like just for you <--
--> You catch him looking at you, then he looks away <--
--> He gets extra shy around you <--
--> He tries to show off around you <--
More to come..
Hopefully, this was helpful to you, and will make the clutter of topics in the Girls locker less crowded.
Oh, and if you want to know, I've never had a boyfriend 

NOTE THAT ALL GUYS ARE DIFFERENT

helpful and makes sense

[*chaneun*]

yay. it's finally unpinned. :D

[sheddingtears]

wow that's awesome.


NOTE THAT ALL GUYS ARE DIFFERENT

haha. good job.

[elaboratedream]

this is really good advice. I'll try it... lol

[xmkaex]

wow..this is really helpful
thank you

[*swtcherriipie*]

not bad. =)

[xheartbroken_chi...]

I say just be yourself.

[o0olaalaa]

i think i read something like that in a few magazines. but i think its awesome that you put it up

[fisher0fman]

b0st0ngrl..you are SOO right..my (only) boyfr--well, not really boyfriend..more of a fling.."dumped" me for my best friend and she went out with him. *tear*..now I like him again..but, I'm helping him get together with a girl HE'S in love with..how ridiculous am I? Needless to say, I need help in the boy department.

[x3Death.By.Knife...]

--> You catch him looking at you, then he looks away <--
--> He gets extra shy around you <--


I'm really glad you mentioned this.. you see, this guy that I like.. well, we only have lunch together. Sometimes I look down the table to see what hes doing, and i see him looking my way.. and then he turns away. I guess he's looking at me, I just kind of hope hes not looking at something past me. >.>

And he is really shy around me.. we may say Hi or something short like that. But if we are reallying talking, it's on AIM or something... he is a shy guy

[saintruthanne]

hey that was pretty good advice! i would just add one more...if you keep flirting with him and paying extra attention to him, and he does nothing or seems to ignore you even more, HE DOESN'T LIKE YOU. and he's probly talking to his friends about "this annoying chick that always stares at me and talks to me."

[s_parker_luver]

u did a awesome job!!! this is really great!
i'm gonna try some of them laterr! :)

[lilxroxy]

Q:"I think he likes me! How do I know for sure?"
A: Well, a lot of guys act differently and vary in ways to show their affection. Some may include:

--> He pays extra attention to you. <--
--> He seems to enjoy bugging you <--
--> He grabs your attention in any way possible (negative and positive) <--
--> He tries to get close to you and converse whenever possible <--
--> He does a lot of things he doesn't really like just for you <--
--> You catch him looking at you, then he looks away <--
--> He gets extra shy around you <--
--> He tries to show off around you <--

[/quote]

uhh..thats what he does. like every single one of the thingy listed. but he denies every one of it.

[omgRAWRR]

gah you have no idea how much that helps.
whoever wrote this is a freakin geniusss :]
thankss<3.

[flc]

Shouldn't this be in Relationships?

Anyway. I guess this could be helpful for younger girls who haven't really had a chance to have a relationship yet. But for me, it's like, duh, common sense.

[*My Cinderella.*]

Why hasn't this been pinned yet?

Great job. This should lessen the number of "how do I get him to notice me" topics.

[jue]

niceee (;
thats a pretty cool guide to follow along to. props to you for creating it. (;

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

Oh yeah I know I'm late but add this:

Many girls pretend to like videogames, cars, or/and sports just to get his attention. It'll work for awhile but after that they'll start thinking of her as a guy friend.

[ReggieM]

From my perspective if a guy likes you and he doesnt really talk to you much at school but likeon myspace or aim alot he definatley likes you 75% positve or at least thinks youre attractive which is kinda different... it means like he wants you to talk to him at school but he obviously cant cuz hes shy or sumthing....

[GREASEbaby]

This topic should be pinned, it's awesome. Good job Christine!!

[Paradox of Life]

^ It's linked in the resource center, so it doesn't need to be pinned anymore.

Don't become friends with his ex-Girls are violent too

I don't think this is a good piece of advice. I think it's good to be friends with his ex because they'll be violent if you're not friends or even enemies. I am very close friends with my boyfriend's ex-girlfriend, and everything's just fine. The only problem is, they dish up all the bad things about them, but I guess you just have to get over it.

[neemmo]

haahhaha
very helpful i guess?
:DD

[teeners4]

Q:"I think he likes me! How do I know for sure?"
A: Well, a lot of guys act differently and vary in ways to show their affection. Some may include:

--> He pays extra attention to you. <--
--> He seems to enjoy bugging you <--
--> He grabs your attention in any way possible (negative and positive) <--
--> He tries to get close to you and converse whenever possible <--
--> He does a lot of things he doesn't really like just for you <--
--> You catch him looking at you, then he looks away <--
--> He gets extra shy around you <--
--> He tries to show off around you <--

gosh that didn't work for me TWICE! haha. well the first time the guy did like me but he wasn't sure if he was ready to go out and to be sure neither was i.... the next time which was like a couple of weeks ago, he liked another girl! and he just enjoyed my company... alot

but the girl rejected him and recently he's been into me again. haha but i don't want to be the "rebound girl" sigh