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She likes me, but religion is conflicting with us
rememberme
post Apr 18 2005, 10:48 AM
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This guy like me alot.

I'm not religious at all and currently have no religion at all. We been together for some time now, but lately, my b/f have been feelings guilt or feels as though she is dis-obeying/de-fying (sp) her god. (Christianity) (I'm currently in no religion)

What should i do?
 
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post Apr 18 2005, 10:59 AM
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hey
just be a christian!
then your bf would be delighted!
 
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post Apr 18 2005, 11:08 AM
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First of all, you topic title is wierd. "SHE likes me, but religion..." your post "This guy like me alot." and "my b/f have been feelings guilt or feels as though she is dis-obeying/de-fying (sp) her god."

Are you a boy or a girl?...anyways, you don't have to be a christian just to please your bf/gf...if he is feeling guilty then...too bad...tell him/her that religion doesn't matter in a relationship.
 
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post Apr 18 2005, 12:01 PM
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just be a christian!
then your bf would be delighted!


shh.

christians dont HAVE to date other christians. however, if it is becoming a major issue, you need to seriously evaluate how mush you like the guy, and whether or not its worth continuing the relationship, even though he may be having doubts. if you really like him, you two need to sit down and talk it out

try and step back and take an objective look at the size of the problem before you make any decisions
 
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post Apr 18 2005, 01:18 PM
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If you like him enough, perhaps open your heart and mind and give it a try, I guess. go to church with him or something, and he'll probably feel less guilty just for that. Since you don't currently have a religion it's not like you would be betraying your own beliefs or anything (unless you have something against Christianity)
 
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post Apr 18 2005, 01:19 PM
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well i dont think u have to be a christian in order to date them. im christian n im dating someone who doesnt really believe in the bible but he believes in God...hard to explain. but n e way i've been with him for over three years n can imagine myself marrying him. but im hoping that sometime in our lives he'll come to know Christ. i cant force him to be believe. maybe he cant show u wat a genuine Christian is really all about.
 
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post Apr 18 2005, 02:35 PM
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Just talk to him/her. Ask him/her about the way his/her religion is. If push comes to shove and things dont work out......dont wory about it
 
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post Apr 18 2005, 04:09 PM
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Some times when people dont share the same religion it can make it hard for the realationship to work but dont give up on it. You really need to talk. I dont whether your a guy or a girl since you didnt say but you need to talk to him/her and get their perspective on their religion and see where he/she is coming from. Once you understand this then you two can discuss what you both want out the relationship and if the person your dating religion comes in the way of that.
 
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post Apr 18 2005, 05:00 PM
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You like someone because of who they are....not what their religion is....explain that concept to your boyfriend. Stand up to your belief that you follow no religion. If he knows what's good for him...he'll respect your opinion. And let the subject go.... happy.gif
 
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post Apr 18 2005, 05:02 PM
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i dont noe???
 
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post Apr 18 2005, 05:09 PM
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Oh, please. Been there, dated that. Only I'm Catholic. cool.gif My mother despised every single person I dated if they were not Christian, and I basically told her to get over it. She has no control in the situation. And I have dated several Atheists, but they never gave me any trouble about it, and I never gave them any trouble about them being Atheist.
Now, for the partner wanting you to become Christian...tell them exactly how you feel. You should NOT have to change just for them. And if they pressure you even more...forget about it. They are not worth it if they pressure you into ANYTHING.
I found that out the hard way. cry.gif
 
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post Apr 18 2005, 05:33 PM
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wow this sounds familiar. mellow.gif toooooo familiar..

anywho. my bf's ex was christian too, and dumped him cause he wasn't. he didn't think it was very cool, but - if it didn't happen, i wouldn't be where i am now so rolleyes.gif
 
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post Apr 18 2005, 05:40 PM
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Heh Yeah. I was dumped because I wasn't a Christian.

Sucked. It took awhile to get over. If she really wanted me to be one of them, is shutting me down the best strategy to get me on God's team? (Her parents forced her to do it, to an extent. They didn't hold a gun to her head, but they made her life hard to live as I was a part of it.)

Ignorance.
 
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post Apr 18 2005, 06:57 PM
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you should like talk it over with him like yea.....if he really feels that guilty then you should become the same religion....if ya really like him that much
 
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post Apr 18 2005, 08:38 PM
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you're post is confusing. are you a male or female?

i dont think religion should be a big deal.
 
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post Apr 18 2005, 08:43 PM
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QUOTE(wincyyellow @ Apr 18 2005, 11:59 AM)
hey
just be a christian!
then your bf would be delighted!
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^ Wow, you're mad stupid. Nobody should have to change their religion just to satisfy their bf/gf.


Anyways, you should try talking to your bf. Tell him that it's okay, and if he still doesn't listen or whatever, you should dump him. Anyone that makes you feel uncomfortable isn't worth your time.
 
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post Apr 18 2005, 08:48 PM
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a lot of Christians dont beleive in dating non cristians, but I think thats just as dumb as people not dating people who arent their race. I say if its a problem for them, then theres really nothing you can do. You should never convert to a religion just because you liked someone. I can understand if you grow to belvie in the religion or whatever, but just to be with someone, thats stupid. This person may also be telling you this, because a lot of Christians like to save other peoples souls...or at least try. So maybe they (i dont know if its a guy or girl..title confused me) are trying to open your eyes. Whatever the reason, don't do anything you don't want to do. Because you will end up in this church, then break up with the person, and you may have done it for nothing. Or, since you have no religion, tell her/him you will be open minded about it. Maybe attned church with them a couple times, just to show you are suuportive. bUt don't just convert to make them happy. That will just make you unhappy.
 
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post Apr 19 2005, 12:08 PM
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i'm sorry every one.

yes. I'm a female. and yes, my b/f is a guy. Lol

I was nervous cause he was around at the time that I typed this.

we talked and stuff, and I told him that I'm still open to new ideas.

He & I ARE planning on taking this relationship seriously and to the next step.. (marriage?) so thats why he's skeptical and feels wierd dis-obeying "his god"

can't christians date non Christians??? Does it say u can't in the BIBLE???
 
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post Apr 20 2005, 11:59 AM
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can't christians date non Christians??? Does it say u can't in the BIBLE???
 
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post Apr 27 2005, 03:18 PM
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I am christian and yes we can date non-christians. I think he doesn't feel guilty, maybe he's afraid. Not to mention, If he's this strong in his beliefs, he will want his children to have some religion too.
 

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