i need advice help! Options

[fuzz4]

I like this guy (lets call him Bob) but Bob likes this other girl (lets call her Jill). Even though Bob says he doesnt like Jill I know he does. Jill doesnt like him, plus she only flirts with Bob because shes bored. Anyway theres also another thing, alot of ppl dont like Bob. So i cant tell my friends, at least half of them, that I like him cause they'll be all like "why? Bobs a jerk" but they dont understand where he's coming from and it pisses me off. I've only told one of my friends because she understands where Bob's coming from. Also Bob's younger than me and even though to me age doesnt matter i've heard that alot of guys dont like dating girls older than them because it makes them feel like outta power. Tonight we were at this pool party and Bob was kinda just lying around, didnt swim at all. Jill was about to be thrown into the pool by another guy and Bob tried to stop him. But Jill was all "get away from me" Bob stormed out. I followed him out to his car and he was crying cause he was sick and tired of all the shit people were giving him. I helped him get through it but afterwards he just went up and talked to Jill. grrrrr

So ya basically the guy I like, whom everybody hates and is younger than me, likes another girl. What should I do?

[topsyturvy]

First of all, this has nothing to do with your friends. You like Bob. That's it. Keep them out of this.

So what you can do is make friends with him first. I'm assuming you've already done that when you were "helping him get through it". Next step, flirt a lot. That's basically all you can do.

[yukichan]

if you like bob, tell him...idk..and i dont think friends r a matter in this..if ur friends cant accept u for liking someone thats they dont like i dont think they r really being friends...

[_sarcastic_]

it doesn't matter what your friends think it's how you feel for him.
he likes another girl, don't think you can change that unless you flirt with him all the time
tell him how you feel

[pingpang_0811]

Jill flirt with him, you can flirt with him too. but i wanna know what does Bob like Jill? in the case, "But Jill was all "get away from me" Bob stormed out. I followed him out to his car and he was crying cause he was sick and tired of all the shit people were giving him. " Bob should know Jill not really like him. if u love someone, u won't 'get away from me' to him.

also, u don't need to care what ur fd think. if they isolate u because u love the guy they dun like. that fds not worth of u. and u said that have one of ur fd know the truth, when u feel upset, u can share with the fd.

age doesn't mean a lot. i have a fd who r dating with the boy younger than her 3yrs. and another fd dated with a girl elder than him 4 yrs. so age is not a problem. not all boys dun love girl older than him.
in addition, i love a guy younger than me too and i'm get well with him ^^

i think u should fd with him first, let him know u care abt him and support him all the time.

[yeseulx3]

show him that you're always there for him...
be affectionate; respect his feelings.
make good friends with Bob first, and then i suggest you tell him how you really feel.
i don't understand why he would like a girl who's ignorant to him.

[sweetdreamsx3]

Start flirting. :]

[XaZnX07]

hmm you really just have to help him be his friend for now and be a very good friend because being a good friend always helps build a relationship so just help him through this and as time goes he will seee ( at least i hope so ) haha jk jkj he will see
.:Tony:.

[Shattered_Hope]

There's nothing you can do...
you flirt...are there for him when he needs you to be..
but he ends up going to her afterwards..even though she's part of why he's upset..
This means that he sees you as a friend....I doubt he ever saw it as anything more..
Move on...because there are some people that never change....and besides..it seems like he's really interested in this girl...and you have little or no chance to change this...I guess you could settle for friendship now...and think more later...
You can't force a guy to stop liking someone...and like you..

[Nicolatofu]

show him that you're always there for him...
be affectionate; respect his feelings.
make good friends with Bob first, and then i suggest you tell him how you really feel.
i don't understand why he would like a girl who's ignorant to him.

I agree.

If he likes another girl that isn't right for him, that's his mistake and he'll learn from it. You can't help who he likes, but just be a good friend as you are right now and maybe he'll realize that you're the type of person he wants to be with.

[fuzz4]

thanks for all the advice guys! I guess I'll become better friends with him and see where it takes me. If he doesnt go for me I'll try and find somebody else. THANKS AGAIN!!!!!!!

[Ington]

I guess this should be closed now?

[kryzcoak47luv666]

if you like bob, tell him...idk..and i dont think friends r a matter in this..if ur friends cant accept u for liking someone thats they dont like i dont think they r really being friends...

Yeah I agree, when you see the perfect oppurtunity to tell him, pounce, and forget what your friends are gonna think, its your life, they should be happy for you that your happy......

damn topic's gonna close? oh well I said basically what a lot of people said, goodbye

[icy_angelx]

YOu should try to be good friends then after he starts knowing you better then you can make your move....Or .....YOu can try to make him dislike her(Jill)