A girl who is annoying but not on purpose, I h8 her but I feel bad pushing her away Options

[HoodieObsessed]

I've got a "friend" and she's not exactly annoying on purpose…but we just don’t' get along very well. we don't go to the same school or anything cause I home school but she seems to really really like me for some reason. she home schools too see so she has all day off...and every couple days she's like "hey, can you cocem over today?" "wanna go see a movie?" "I'm babysitting a friends house, wanna come over?" "I'm thinking of going into dance, what's the name of hte place you take your lessons? what class are you in?!?" she tags around EVERYWHERE and I really dont' like her...it' snot that she's rude, it’s kinda the opposite, whenever she sais something it's always so boring, like "I'm getting a job at wendy's and on my first shift I clean the counters and then I blah blah blah and blah blah blah ..etc" it's soooooo boring, and all her topics are like that…and when we are in a group with some friends I actually ENJOY talking to she never joins in on that conversation and always sits behind me doing NOTHING which makes me feel bad and then once in a while she'll strike up a random extremely boring topic with me while the other group is hooting with laughter one of these days I should just tell her I don’t' like her but it’s not that simple...because she loves me SOOOOO much she joined my dance class so I see her every week and she SUCKS at dancing, and now that she's there everyone associates me with her and it seems like they don't like me as much cause I'm always with her.

I don't want to sound mean but no one likes her and I don't see why she HAS to hang around me?!?!?! PLUS to make it ten times worse, she's planning to go to the same school as me next year...oh GREAT! so now I desperately want to change schools I go to and not tell her but I wanted to go to that school so bad, and that’s where my brother is going and everything. it’s not that she’s a bad person but somehow she always ends up ruining everything

What do you think I should do? Maybe I'm jsut overreacting...I mean I can put up with her right now but I'm worried that when I go back to school she'll be all clingy and I won't be able to get rid of her I really really dont' want to hurt her feelings cause she's a really delicate person and she doen's thave many freinds (for obvius reasons) but I dont' see how I can tell her I don't want her hanging out with me anymore and NOT hurt her feelings have any of you had simular experiences?

[Nicolatofu]

Gah, if I didn't know any better, I'd say you found the girl I used to have this same situation with...
To be truthful, I never really ended the friendship or talked to her about it like I should've. Although this girl might have delicate feelings, it's better to talk to her and maybe mention that you two can be separated and have different friends, than to totally blow hjer off or lead her on.
Just say that you want to be able to hang out with your other friends and spend time alone with them like how you spend time alone with her. It will make her feel like you aren't totally breaking off the friendship, you just want to keep your other friendships healthy as wel... or hopefully.

[HoodieObsessed]

that's a really good idea, maybe I'll be brave enough to tell her that next time she gets on my nerves...but ti's so hard to tell someone that...because everytime I imaging myself telling her like "you're a good person but I don't tihnk we get along very well, maybe you should try making other freinds and I'll still enjoying seeing you once in a while it's jsut I need some tiem with my other freinds too" it always freaks me out at the last moment and I decide not to plus if I said that I'd have ot live with the knowledge I said that to her everytime we meet...like once I tattle tailed on my freind and she forgave me but everytiem I look at her I reemmber I was bad and made her really mad and it jsut doesn't feel the same anymore, gosh I donno...I guess I'll probably jsut see how she is at school and then maybe I'll make up my mind to do something about it...it's jsut I find it so hard letting someone down even if it's for the best in teh end

[Nicolatofu]

I felt the same way, don't worry. It's hard letting someone down like that, I mean, if one of my good friends said she didn't want to hang out with me, I'd be sad, too. But I'd be glad that she said something rather than make me look foolish by pretanding to like me. When I told the girl that I was in the same situation as you with, she actually cried right there. I felt bad, but after that, we still talked and she made a lot more friends that were more than willing to spend numerous amounts of time with her.

[*mzkandi*]

I think you should tell her how you feel. Dont go up to her and be like "I dont like you, leave me alone" but say that you would like your time apart from her. To be honest she sounds like a really nice girl, annoying maybe, but nice. So i dont think it would be fair for you to hurt her feelings. Question, does she have any other friends? If she doesnt then that may be the reason she clings to you

[HoodieObsessed]

she doesn't have very many freinds, infact I beleive I'm one of two freinds she has so it would probably crash her down if I said I didn't want to spend as much time with her. I'll probably just continue on the way I am and visit her every once in a while, maybe I'll grow to like her...maybe . Or maybe when she goes back to school she'll make more freinds, or maybe she wont' even end up going to the school I am, or maybe I'll end up goign to a different school, I jsut don't know what'll happen and I think I'd rather put up with her than let her down by telling her I dont' want to spend as much time with her

[*mzkandi*]

I think I'd rather put up with her than let her down by telling her I dont' want to spend as much time with her 

Yeah dont hurt her feelings. But at the same time it doesnt do her any good if you secretly wish she were somewhere else. i would say distance yourself slowly from her, but not in an obivous way. if she asked if want to go somewhere dont be afraid to tell her no. also hint to her topics you like to talk about so she will know whether or not the topics she talks about are boring.

[yukichan]

tell her nicely..or when u cant take it anymore u will just explode..

[HoodieObsessed]

Distancing myself is a good idea..and I kidna did that...I didn't visit her once throughtout spring break and everytime she suggested something I didn't really want to go to (alsmot everything) I nicely said no..but it didn't fool her, she phoned me and asked me right out wethe rI was her freind still or not and I said yes...what was I soppsoed to do, say no?! I wouldn't do that...I guess I should have said that I lieked her but I didn't tihnk we got along very well and maybe she should try finding more freinds but...I didn't I'm afraid I'm not very good at fast thinking so now she still thinks I'm her freind, I mean I AM, but I jsut don't like goign over ot her house everyday and she tags around me sooo much, *sigh*, if I get another chance like that I'll try to speak up, i'ts just so hard