Gah! Perverts!!, i need help. =[ Options

[iheartjohn]

Okay, I'm sure most of you know that I have a four year old daughter, Geena.

Well, she has a best friend named Lindsay, and I don't mind her, but it's Lindsay's parents. Every time I set up a playdate for my daughter and Lindsay, I have to see her dad (Lindsay's mom works most of the day).

He's okay sometimes, but lately he's gotten really perverted and I feel REALLY uncomfortable around him. He makes uncomfortable remarks about my body, tries to touch me, etc.

One time I bent down to get Geena's toy and he tugged at my underwear and complimented me on it!

I've tried to talk to him many times about it, but he just ignores me. And I don't want to tell Lindsay's mom because she already dislikes me. (I overheard her call me a 'skank' because I had Geena at such a young age.)

But I don't want to make Geena stop hanging out with Lindsay, since she has such a great time with her, just because of me.

I'm not really sure what to do.

[xxtaintedlips]

wow thats a tuff one...
well let your daughter hang out with her friend and tell the man to stop doing those things to u and that u are not a skank!
If he does not stop then press charges

[Ington]

But you have to think, if you don't do anything, sure, your daughter will have fun, but it might cause problems when she's growing up with that family. He's perverted enough to degrade you like that, who knows what he would do later on? Think about it.

Good luck too. You're not a skank, just really pretty.

[Nerve_Agents!]

Thats terible! You should realy try talking 2 the kids dad again. And her mum sounds a right bitch too!
Could the dad just be joking?
which ever it is tht is unacseptable! and you MUST SPELL IT OUT 2 HIM

[Nicolatofu]

Wow, that's a tough situation. I can't believe he'd have the nerve to try such things! It might be a good idea to tell Lindsay's mother so she's aware of her husband, but I caould understand why you wouldn't want to. I would try talking to him and telling him straight-foward that you don't appreciate that and if it continues, you will tell his wife. Maybe that'll get him to back off.

[xxtaintedlips]

oh also...umm..u might not want your girl to go there...he could be sexualy abusive...im not trying to scare you but i just thought of it....

[xMayleex]

That man should know better as he is a married or a man in a relationship with kids and its totally wrong as he is harrassing you. Just talk to him and explain that your not interested. If you dont trust him around you, you cant trust him around your daughter.

I used to know a perverty man, he was my dad's "friend" and he used to come to our house like at 11pm to chat with my dad but i was always downstairs i dont go to bed till around 2am. I used to wear my pjs when he came to see us and he used to touch me and tickle me, he wasnt touching me like in my private areas or anything but he was like a totally freak. My dad hit him lol

[i_am_a_chameleon]

oh gosh. i really wish i could help but i've never been in a sitch like that. hope it works out for you tho!!

[iheartjohn]

Could the dad just be joking?
which ever it is tht is unacseptable! and you MUST SPELL IT OUT 2 HIM

I don't think he is.

I remember one time the mom was on a business trip (I think she's a sales rep or something) and he asked me to stay the night.

And believe me, I make it clear that I am uncomfortable and I don't like it.

[HongKongDong]

All I can say is be on the look out, try not to be there while his wife isn't there. Bring some self defense, have a friend pretend to be your BF or something so that he can backoff, jk but if that works then go for that. If things get too intense try spillin it out to the mom... eh she doesn't like you because of such a reason, =/ I don't like people like that but try telling her anyway. If you can, try knocking some sense into that guy. But really, all I can say is be on the look out and watch yourself, call the cops or something if things go too far.

[demolished]

1. be very nice and kind to her mom.
2. change her thoughts about you
3. if she start trusting you, tell her that her husband is doing something wrong ( a form of cheating )
4. she will no longer be his husband
5. your daughter will still contact her daughter
6. the end ! you just got rid of the little girl's daddy =]

OR

BRING A PEPPER SPRAY W/ YOU AND A HANDFUL OF KEYS TO SMACK HIM.

[HongKongDong]

1. be very nice and kind to her mom.
2. change her thoughts about you
3. if she start trusting you, tell her that her husband is doing something wrong ( a form of cheating )
4. she will no longer be his husband
5. your daughter will still contact her daughter
6. the end ! you just got rid of the little girl's daddy =]

Yeah... only if things still worked that way

[xXMomoBubbleTeaX...]

WHOA!!!...I can't belive he does that...well first of all I would be like yur bein disrespectful to me and your wife and I don't appreciate that..or go like *smack*...touch me more time see what happens...lols...Lindsay deserves to play w/ Geena and I kno yu don't want to take their fun away juss be assertive but don't make the situation a big deal in front of your daughter...and find Geena some other friends to hang out e/ too...

[iheartjohn]

2. change her thoughts about you

If only I could do that...

[ChEeR A HOliC Xo]

Your daughter`s only 4 year`s old. If he keep`s doing that, then dont let her hang out with Lindsey. Do other thing`s with her yourself, not that the warm weather is comming around take her to the beach, build sandcastles with her, take her to Mcdonald`s playplace. You would be better off, with just her then having to talk to Lindseys dad cause what he did is just wrong. And dont tell lindseys mom, he might try to blame it on you and say you wanted him to seeing she dosent allready aprove of you. Good luck with this. But personality i would only let her hangout once in a while.

[wounded]

seriously, I don't know much. But what I know is this: This is definatly sexual harrassment and you need to report it to the girl's mother. If it comes to it, don't let your daughter see Lindsay. Keep yourself safe first, don't let them hang out. Who knows what he could do to her.

[IamRad]

gosh.. that sucks

if i was in ur position i dont know what i would do

i dont kno if ur daughter will understand u . but just sit her down and say that ur not comfortable goin over that house... idk

[..:loveee.NuTTii]

Option #1:Isn't that sexual harrasment? Doesn't that need to be reported to someone o.0 I really think you should tell the mother, despite what she thinks of you. Besides, he might try to do something/say something to Gina that is inappropriate.

Option #2:There's always pepper spray....

[cocoalightning27]

Get the two little girls to retaliate....or you could just catch him on camera and call the cops.....But it'd be funny if you had your daughter and her friend to go up to him and be like, "you bad man!"

[O x LiseE x O]

Well, who cares what she thinks, tell the wife. I think she deserves to know that her husband is flirting on other ladies. And for the safety at your child, have the play dates at your place, and just let the kid in then shut the door in his face 'nicely'..

[angelrevelation]

hmm... maybe you could talk to the girl's mom. she'll get jealous, and make him stop! hehe it might work... . and maybe you should have lindsay come play with geena instead, at least more often.

[lilphoenix]

are you willing to afford what impact this might have on your daughter?

if you don't do anything about this, she will think it's right, or have an idea like it.


You need to tell this situation, especially to the wife/mother. Even though she might/will not like it, you do need to tell.

[yeseulx3]

learn karate...

[xBEBE]

Do you have their playdates at their house? Because if so, you could rearrange the playdates at your house instead and have like a boy friend over or something. and if he touches you, smack him?

[aznxdreamer]

kill him. i mean..did i just let that slip??

call the police. its sexual harrasment. he could go to jail for that. so poo on him. BAHAHAH. stupid pervs.

[ficklenesswhatev...]

Sue for sexual harassment, tell him no when he's doing it. Embaress him in front of his daughter, make him think your ugly, etc.

Just make him think of you as unattractive and glamourize his wife in casual conversation. Make him feel guilty for not loving her more?

[demolished]

If only I could do that...

of course you can do that. If there is a will, there is a way.

[--x who0ps]

.. im not sure what to say. i wish i could help >T

1. be very nice and kind to her mom.
2. change her thoughts about you
3. if she start trusting you, tell her that her husband is doing something wrong ( a form of cheating )
4. she will no longer be his husband
5. your daughter will still contact her daughter
6. the end ! you just got rid of the little girl's daddy =]

^ that could be great advice except if i were you, i wouldnt try to make the wife & husband to divorce. think of the impact on Lindsay? ive seen too many children with family problems [divorces, parent died, etc] & when they grew up [like in fourth grade] they start stealing things from other kids, not doing their homework, bad temper, attitude problems, etc. all sorts of things. its kinda scary. So if i were you, i wouldnt try to make them divorce cause the outcome for Lindsay wouldn`t be too great >T

good luck !

[yellowgurl]

maybe you should get all the needed numbers to press charges and then the next time he does it.. i guess you probably need evidence so .. gather evidence press charges put him in jail. but then again.. maybe his wife might hate you for it.. so maybe you should talk to his wife. maybe things would go better?

[xXgWenZilLaXx]

rape : Abusive or improper treatment

lets jump him

[_sarcastic_]

talk to him about it, be firm. if he still ignores you then slap him and make him listen

[lovescream]

Sue for sexual harassment, tell him no when he's doing it. Embaress him in front of his daughter, make him think your ugly, etc.

Just make him think of you as unattractive and glamourize his wife in casual conversation. Make him feel guilty for not loving her more?

Oh, that's a great idea. Yeha, it's sorta sexual harassment.
yeah.. that happened to me. my crush made himself look reaaally idiotic and bad so i dislike him now.
So.. just probably make your hair messed up and look like crap one day.. ignore what the wife thinks about you at all times.. and just concentrate on making yourself look like an idiot, but not a mental one.
hope it works out. WHAT A BAD DADDY.

[Shattered_Hope]

Tell him you'll press charges if he keeps it up...
tell him you aren't interested and that you don't care what he thinks about your body..
or....just deck him or slap him....maybe that'll stop him from ignoring you....when you say something he doesn't want to hear...

[*wind&fire*]

1. be very nice and kind to her mom.
2. change her thoughts about you
3. if she start trusting you, tell her that her husband is doing something wrong ( a form of cheating )
4. she will no longer be his husband
5. your daughter will still contact her daughter
6. the end ! you just got rid of the little girl's daddy =]

OR

BRING A PEPPER SPRAY W/ YOU AND A HANDFUL OF KEYS TO SMACK HIM.

ddaaaannnnggg you take my advice...

but you can be nice to her... if some one is continualy nice to you you begin to like them...

[layDeeW]

hmm...well reporting him would end yur daughter nd his daughters friendship...but if yu dont something bad might happen...mayb yu should get a friend thats free that day to come over too? i dont know this is the best i could come up with

[dani41790]

well i guess for now, u just gotta try to ignore it. if it goes too far then i think u should tell the mom

[angelshortipnai]

if u REALLY don't wanna talk to his wife, call the cops. that's prolly the best thing to do

[*salcha*]

^ too drastic. i mean really, what would the police do? -.-

i say to tell your husband, maybe he can go with you next time, or he can go himself.

[minus_perfection]

just dont stand really close to him or something,or just ignore him.if that doesnt work then find your daughter another friend,i mean shes only 4.she'll get over it.thats just my advice.

[KELLYYY]

Wear a thong and bend over the next time you see him, lets see what he says this time.

[sweetxsimplicity]

Even though Lindsay's mom may hate you, I think you should still talk to her about it, it is her husband..

[FoOd]

kill him. i mean..did i just let that slip??

call the police. its sexual harrasment. he could go to jail for that. so poo on him. BAHAHAH. stupid pervs.

I say kill him with the underwear he tugged on! Use it to wring his neck!!

Just kick him in the balls. Hard...REALLY HARD. He'll get the message after he wakes up in the hospital after he finds that he was castrated.

[gossipgirl]

o....he's so terrible

[iheartjohn]

Wear a thong and bend over the next time you see him, lets see what he says this time.

Haha that's what I was wearing.

[*jooleeah*]

Tell the guy that if he harasses you again, you'll tell his wife. And if the wife doesn't believe you, then just press charges.

[bravodancer04]

Oooh..that really is a bad situation..IDK I might tell the wife, but maybe I wouldn`t..idk..im sorry

[liloandstitchx3]

i was was thinking like bring a guy with you next time but i mean, you can't always bring a guy with you. i also thought about a hidden camera but those things may cost alot.
speak up to him. and yell; embarasse him in public. well, unless your daughter is with you.. which most of the time she is ..

i'm sorry; i'm not much help.

i will edit later.

[xlaydee_v]

you should tell the guy to back off. seriously.. i mean it's so wrong.. and for lindsay's mom you should talk to her because she's jsut assuming things about you.

[ichigofan]

woah thats dispicable i hate people like that, well try having sleepovers at your house once a week so you wont have to deal with her father and his bitchy wife, and try avoiding talking to lindsays parents other than about your kids... If it was me I wouldnt want my daughter around that guy i dont know perverted dads give me the creeps....Good Luck

[[x]Mari[x]]

Next time, bring a guy friend with you. And never go over alone, either, always bring someone so that he won't harass you. And if he still does, you can press charges with a witness.

[thatoneasiangirl...]

Let your daughter still play with Lindsay. Don't let Lindsay father's actions stop her from playing with Geena. But try to talk to Lindsay's mom about the situation or otherwise, just don't let that nasty man into your house.

[literemix24]

..I think you should talk about it to Lindsay's mother. And besides, you KNOW you're not a skank, I bet shes just jealous. Lol If he doesn't stop, contact the authorities. Even though your daughter might lose a friend, think about what might happen later on, to your daughter and/or you.

[dragyn]

Wow. That is incredibly inconvenient.

Originally I was going to suggest inviting your daughter's friend over to your house, but then I realized that you would either have to pick her up, or have her dropped off, which still puts you near this guy.

However, you can file sexual harassment, and you can make sure that he knows you will if he continues. If you do decide to file sexual harassement, eventually, it might be a good idea to tell his wife first, because it would seem completely out of the blue, if you just out and filed sexual harassement w/o any warning. She might be even more inclined to think you made it up than she already is. If he continues this for too long, you should tell her whether she believes you or not.

I suppose, just try your hardest to minimize your "parent-talk time" between pick-ups and drop-offs, though I'm not sure you should leave your daughter with a man like that (though I'm not assuming that you do, I'm simply pointing out it might not be a good idea).

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Edit:

If his wife is resistant to what you have to say, tell her you're willing to try and prove it to her. One way or another, some form of proof may be useful, whether you're trying to convince her, or the authorities.

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

Oh I think you should tell Lindsay's mother, you should let her know what's happening. But I think you should continue letting your daughter play with Lindsay, and perhaps try slapping the husband the next time he does that, tell him to stop it and that its not right.

[BrokenDream]

That man should know better as he is a married or a man in a relationship with kids and its totally wrong as he is harrassing you. Just talk to him and explain that your not interested. If you dont trust him around you, you cant trust him around your daughter.

I used to know a perverty man, he was my dad's "friend" and he used to come to our house like at 11pm to chat with my dad but i was always downstairs i dont go to bed till around 2am. I used to wear my pjs when he came to see us and he used to touch me and tickle me, he wasnt touching me like in my private areas or anything but he was like a totally freak. My dad hit him lol

Wow, that's exactly what I was going to say.

Sorry about what happened to.

[hott_n_luvin_it]

you aren't any of those things unless YOU truly believe that. you need to talk to him. or better yet call the police! report sexial abuse, do anything you can to keep him off of you!

[BrokenDream]

I'd say, if he doesn't stop, call the police for help. This guy has issues with you.

0_0

[yycleo]

Since the mother doesnt like u at the 1st place.
the results of telling her about it is
(1) she dislike u more, thinking u are lying
(2) she trust u and will divorce
(3) she doesnt trust u fully, thinking u r lying, but will also keep an eye on the father

the chance of 2) i think is very small
so i think there's no way u can get rid of the dad

so try speaking 2 her dad 1st and tell him wt u'll do if he continues
never be alone with him
try 2 be nice with her mom and tell her about it when u think (3) is more likely 2 happen then (1)
or try 2 make a hint or talk about it as if its just a joke in front of everyone
that way, her dad will notice ur gonna do something if he continues while her mom will just think ur joking

sorry 4 my bad english
really hope this will help

[Mileep]

I think that man is a pervert. He got balls you know. You don't know how people are these day!..

[megan_x3]

Hmm.. i think you should really talk to Lindsay's mom about it even though she has bad thoughts about you. It doesn't really matter, i mean i know how you feel. Your thinking about your daughter but you also dont want your daughter to not have a friend to play with. Maybe try to keep Lindsay's dad away from you and Geena and bring your daughter and Lindsay out to somewhere safe where Lindsay's dad won't be there. Be safe ! and don't let that perverted gay guy follow you and harass you in any way. Warn him...and if he makes any move .. CALL THE COPS ! AND MAKE CHARGES AGAINST HIM !

[missknowitall141...]

i agree with what nicole said. she is right. and i know this is more then a little off topic...but i love your xanga...vin diesel is so hawt .

[__xxfrappachino...]

wow..ur problems make mine seem like nothing in comparison..
what i would do is probably have geena stop going over to lindsay's house because if he's the kind of person that can do such things to you, who knows what will happen if geena goes over there in a few years from now? that way they're still friends and you won't have to see lindsay's dad anymore =] problem solved (i hope)

[toodlepops.]

Charge him with sexual assault. If that's possible.

[takeapolaroid__x]

omg i have practically the same problem but hes not touched me. but its with my uncle and dad

maybe he thinks that since you had the kid at such a young age, he thinks that your like a slut or something (IM NOT SAYING YOU ARE THOUGH!!!) so he takes advantage of that.

shoot him in the head and dump him in a river for me

[Joss-eh-lime]

kill him. i mean..did i just let that slip??

call the police. its sexual harrasment. he could go to jail for that. so poo on him. BAHAHAH. stupid pervs.

lmao!! kill him.

tell him im not going to let my daughter come over here unless you treat me with respect and stop behaving like a teenager.

then GRAB you daughter and storm out. haha for dramatic effect.

then like invite lindsey to be at your house or go to the park. dont be over there. .

[shortiiex]

who cares if she doesn't like you...get them both in a room and just say what you need to say...but does she know that you know that she doesn't liek you?

[3ssx]

well. continue to let your daughter play with lindsay.
just try to stay away from Lindsay's dad, and trying to talk to Lindsay's mom might not be a bad idea. Perhaps she can talked to Lindsay's dad.

[tommyhilfiger_gu...]

first, try to resolve your communication w/ her mom (tell her you aren't a skank), then you can find out why her husband's so nasty

then, tell the husband to stop and if he doesn't call the police, and press charges

AND make sure you don't ever let that man come closer than 3-5 feet, i mean, pulling your UNDERWEAR? ewwwwwwwwww

[starlette]

you are not a skank, and make you fiancee stay with you so the dude will back off. I say you should go to the police though. Or have her come to your home. Or maybe let them play on a different day, or at a different time of day so the mothe ris around. And I repeat, you are not a skank. you are very strong and I deeply respect you.

[Paradox of Life]

^ I agree.

Try not to be around him that often because then he'll have more oppritunities to "make remarks" and "touch you". Wear less revealing clothing if you know you're going to be around him and his wife. Just stay away from him and he'll become less attached, if he is at all. He's probably just teasing you and playing around with you, but I seriously find that disgusting and I would just steer clear away from him. He's a pervert, plain and simple and there's nothing you can do about it.

And his antics are not his wife's responsibility so don't even try talking to her about it. It'll only get things more stirred up.

[technicolour]

Harassment. Sue him. Take some type of legal action.

[islandkiss]

I don't know what to say. I completely loathe people who tend to act like that. I think that you should tell Lindsay's mother about what has been going on. Or treaten Lindsay's father that you will inform his wife if he doesn't stop.

[mouse_3k]

Punch him in the face. Kick his little perverted booty.

[*reflection*]

you are not a skank, and make you fiancee stay with you so the dude will back off. I say you should go to the police though. Or have her come to your home. Or maybe let them play on a different day, or at a different time of day so the mothe ris around. And I repeat, you are not a skank. you are very strong and I deeply respect you.

i agree. you must be very strong to raise a kid at a young age. call the police or take legal action. tell the mom about it cuz even though she's a bitch i think she should know

[Xprezsion]

Wow that must be very uncomfortable. Maybe try to set up playdates over the phone and for Lindsay and Geena to play at your house if possible. Otherwise let them hang out at the park, anywhere else besides Lindsay's house. Goodluck!

[Fallen Fairy]

Say NO!

And arrange the play dates by phone, then when dropping off your daughter go with a friend or relative.

fallen fairy

[enyceXaddiction]

just tell lindseys mom. make her jealous shes such a bitch for calling you a skank. ugh she should just mind her own buisness. just tell her, she has the right to know.

[sheddingtears]

hmm maybe always bring like a buff guy friend or something when hes around... and when he gets really personal, you should really press charges.