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 Mar 31 2005, 09:47 AM
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 blah  Group: Member Posts: 313 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,360  |
Would you end a relationship if it meant making sure that your boyfriend is going to the right college for his future and career rather than just to be with his girlfriend and take care of her????
My boyfriend may be going to Towson University to be with me. He says they have a good teaching program, but so does West Virginia University. No matter what, I think the decision will be based on what he thinks I want. What should I do??? I want the best for him. It's HIS future afterall.  We had a fight over this last night and I dunno what to do...
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Mar 31 2005, 10:05 AM
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its best to let him decide that for hisself. if you want the best for him then you wont try to hold him back.
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Mar 31 2005, 10:27 AM
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blah Group: Member Posts: 313 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,360 |
QUOTE(mzkandi @ Mar 31 2005, 10:05 AM) its best to let him decide that for hisself. if you want the best for him then you wont try to hold him back.  I don't trust him to make the right choice. His heart is bigger than his brain, so to speak. 
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Mar 31 2005, 10:37 AM
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 WWMD?! - i am from the age of BM 2 Group: Member Posts: 5,308 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 8,848 |
well, if he really wants to stay with you THAT much, then just let him make the decision for himself. you have to remember; just because you think it's best for him, doesn't mean it is.
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Mar 31 2005, 10:43 AM
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 to be loved by someone you love is.. everything Group: Member Posts: 1,207 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,205 |
Tell him that he should make his own choice, for him... not you
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Mar 31 2005, 12:43 PM
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QUOTE(touch my monkey @ Mar 31 2005, 9:37 AM) well, if he really wants to stay with you THAT much, then just let him make the decision for himself. you have to remember; just because you think it's best for him, doesn't mean it is. exactly! let him decide what the best for him is, even though you may not think it is. You should be happy he wants to spend time with you! 
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Mar 31 2005, 02:11 PM
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blah Group: Member Posts: 313 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,360 |
He just made his decision...and it's Towson.
Feeling:  
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Mar 31 2005, 02:36 PM
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 crushed. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 9,432 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,026 |
QUOTE(illuminessence @ Mar 31 2005, 2:11 PM) He just made his decision...and it's Towson. Feeling: aw. you two can still always keep in touch! It'd be quite different and hard, but you guys can do it =] |
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Mar 31 2005, 03:02 PM
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QUOTE(bballbabiegrl @ Mar 31 2005, 12:36 PM) aw. you two can still always keep in touch! It'd be quite different and hard, but you guys can do it =] I think they are going to be keeping in touch because he chose that university in order to be near her, right?? Anyways, well he already decided so I guess this topic and what I say is pointless but maybe you should still talk to him about it and ask him if he for sure thinks this is best for him and he's not just doing it for you solely. |
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Mar 31 2005, 03:03 PM
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yes. becuase sometimes you gotta make sacrafices
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Mar 31 2005, 04:55 PM
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it's a good thing, why feel bad about it. It's not like he's not going to college anymore because of you. We know what we're doing more or less, even though we seem to be out of our sane minds.
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Mar 31 2005, 08:14 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
If you knew he was staying just for you.....then I think you should make a sacrifice. Break up with him so he can go to his dream school....or tell him you want a break...and want him to go to this school..tell him you two could always keep in touch...sometimes you have to make sacrifices for the person you love.
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Mar 31 2005, 09:15 PM
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 dizzy me up. Group: Member Posts: 3,191 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,139 |
let him decide himself. and i really agree with the person above me.
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Mar 31 2005, 10:49 PM
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 Je vous aime Group: Member Posts: 361 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 109,078 |
You said you want the best for him.
He should know whats best for himself. If he thinks staying with you is the best thing for him, then you should respect that desition and let him. Even if his heart is bigger than his brain.. your sapposed to follow your heart, right? ^^ |
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Mar 31 2005, 11:18 PM
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 hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
I'm in that same situation... my boyfriend doesn't look at any letters he gets from other colleges that aren't in the state. He is going to a cuny just to be with me, and I know how you're feeling. But, if he thinks that that's the best choice for him, and since it also has a good teaching program (my boyfriend uses a similar reason), you should let him. I guess you should be happy that he wants to be closer to you...
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Apr 2 2005, 05:15 PM
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 wanderlust personified. Group: Official Designer Posts: 7,515 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 797 |
QUOTE(illuminessence @ Mar 31 2005, 2:11 PM) He just made his decision...and it's Towson. Feeling: NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! i mean yes.  I'd break up with him if I were you to teach him a lesson. 
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Apr 2 2005, 11:13 PM
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 Litt0 Mi55 T@rA! Group: Member Posts: 185 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 111,734 |
er...it's his life..like you said...let him choose if he wants to be with you...let him. they're probably both good schools so it's okay. don't worry so much.
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Apr 2 2005, 11:37 PM
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 Day's Nearly Over Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,553 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 45,183 |
Tell him, you'll be happy if he's happy so he can decide where he wants to go.
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Apr 3 2005, 12:34 AM
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seriously, its not really what you know its who you know... i got some crappy teachers in my school and how did they get the job? they probably knew someone that knew someone...as far as quality of education... you can have the best teachers in the world but if you dont put in the effort it wont mean squat... also the student to teacher ratio may be better at towson...
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Apr 3 2005, 09:13 PM
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blah Group: Member Posts: 313 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,360 |
Thanx a lot everybody. Oh and Roxanne...shut up.
You're just jealous.
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Apr 3 2005, 10:17 PM
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i say, talk to him about this. tell him your feelings. just straight up tell him that you don't want him to come over to ur school just becuz of you. yanno? if he truly cares about you, he'll understand how you feel. tell him that.
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Apr 3 2005, 10:18 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 108 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 36,764 |
i say, talk to him about this. tell him your feelings. just straight up tell him that you don't want him to come over to ur school just becuz of you. yanno? if he truly cares about you, he'll understand how you feel. tell him that.
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Apr 4 2005, 10:53 AM
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 I can't believe its not "Ryan" Group: Member Posts: 1,981 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,368 |
Yes I would so end a relationship if it was to better my significant others life, if we were meant to be we will be together in the future.
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