Summer 2004, Was it a huge mistake? Options

[ChEeR A HOliC Xo]

This past summer camp was pretty boring. That was untill my sister introduced to one of the guy`s she met. He was 14 at the time, i was 13. We spent time together and grew closer. We dated for a couple of month`s but we got caught making out, but my mother claim`s he was on top of me doing more. Whatever that`s not what happened anyways, my sister made a rude comment to him about him trying to rape me he got really pissed off and bodyslammed her. Of course it was on the sand, but it still hurt her. She hate`s him and my mom does also. He broke up with me afterward`s because he claimed i deserved more. But today March 27 2005 We still have feelings for eachother. We talk online and everything i love talking to him. He was my first true love. And you know what they say your first love never dies. I spend day`s crying myself to sleep over this. He just kinda left, and now this summer he is returning.. he hasent moved on. But should i still see him. Whenever i bring this up my mom always bitches at me. She said we are not alowed to be more then friends. Which sucks cause i want more then anything to be in his arm`s again. I know he would never hurt me. But is it worth getting my heart broken and perhaps ruining mine and my mothers relationship again. My situation is simular to the movie "The Notebook" Parents made us break it off...but we still love eachother more then anything.

[lolthissiteisfun...]

Aww I'm sorry I think I'd just ask your mom flat out when she says you can't be more than friends. If she brings up what she thought you did, just tell her that it isn't true, and have a little guilt trip " I thought you would expect more of me crap and if she still won't give it a chance, you can either go behind her back, or respect your mom's opinion.

The bodyslam thing is a little harsh tho

[UrF4vL!pGl0Z...]

Aww I'm sorry    I think I'd just ask your mom flat out when she says you can't be more than friends. If she brings up what she thought you did, just tell her that it isn't true, and have a little guilt trip " I thought you would expect more of me crap   and if she still won't give it a chance, you can either go behind her back, or respect your mom's opinion.

The bodyslam thing is a little harsh tho

I agree completely.

[yellowgurl]

Aww I'm sorry    I think I'd just ask your mom flat out when she says you can't be more than friends. If she brings up what she thought you did, just tell her that it isn't true, and have a little guilt trip " I thought you would expect more of me crap   and if she still won't give it a chance, you can either go behind her back, or respect your mom's opinion.

The bodyslam thing is a little harsh tho

yup..
true love never dies.

[ChEeR A HOliC Xo]

It just hurt`s...she wont give in..she say`s if we become more then friend`s she`s selling the camper. which makes me upset cause i love it there. But i loved him i still do. And another thing she figure`s if he can do that to my sister he can do that to me. I disagree...i know he wouldent hurt me. Not if he loved me as much as he says.

[Chii]

this is just so wrong...he bodyslammed your sister, she's your family, it doesn't matter if he was pissed or she set him off, that's not how you handle something

my dear, as much as most of us would not like to admit, mothers know best, she's been through these types of things and knows more than she'll let you know, she's just trying to look out for you. from what i read, he seems to be very violent, is this what you want to marry?

the point of dating is to find your husband

[lolthissiteisfun...]

It just hurt`s...she wont give in..she say`s if we become more then friend`s she`s selling the camper.    which makes me upset cause i love it there. But i loved him i still do. And another thing she figure`s if he can do that to my sister he can do that to me. I disagree...i know he wouldent hurt me. Not if he loved me as much as he says.

this is just so wrong...he bodyslammed your sister, she's your family, it doesn't matter if he was pissed or she set him off, that's not how you handle something

my dear, as much as most of us would not like to admit, mothers know best, she's been through these types of things and knows more than she'll let you know, she's just trying to look out for you. from what i read, he seems to be very violent, is this what you want to marry?

the point of dating is to find your husband

^^ i think she's right really. the bodyslammed thing is just really harsh. and he says he loves you, but if he really loved you, would he hurt your family, and try to get u in trouble with your mom? I gotta kinda side w/ ur mom on this one but that's just my opinion

[ChEeR A HOliC Xo]

Thank`s you guy`s... it help`s alot...and im trying so hard to get over him. He knows he hurt my family, hes trying to change...he says hes not the same. I dont know what to believe cause i havent seen him yet...but should i still be friends with him..or just let my first love be there at the same time and just ignore him? He knows what he did was wrong...thats why he left so early to get away, not to mention he cryed for hours...he knows he has issues.. hes trying hard to correct himself. any more oppions?

[AngelTears]

This is completly wrong what Im about to say but I have to say it anyways..

Dont tell your mom that your together.. *shrug* I mean.. if she has such a problem with it what she doesnt know wont hurt her.

Now that I got that out of my system Ill give you good advice..

If you guys REALLY love eachother.. then you'll find some way to get back together.. like in The Notebook which I havnt seen but Its one of those movies where I can take a shot in the dark and say that I hit it on the nose or close enough to it.

But.. talking to your mom about it could help.. maybe at least understand WHY she doesnt like him.

[Nicolatofu]

godd... this is so weird.. I just finished watching the Notebook not even 2 minutes ago. But your family can't stop how you feel for someone. The thing is, nothing will happen (most likely) since he lives far away, I'm guessing because you say that you two talk to e/o online(?) But why not see him? If you get to spend time alone with him, it's not like anyone will know what you're doing. However, returning to the summer love thing and then watching him go away again will only make it harder to get over him, so if you're trying now, all that will be gone and you'll be back at square 1 if he leaves again.

[_sarcastic_]

seriously, i think your mom is just watching out for you, she doesn't want you to get her. i mean she's right, if he can bodyslam your sister, why can't he do it to you? i agree with chii do you really want this kind of guy to be your future husband?

[ChEeR A HOliC Xo]

Yeah.But he comes like 6 times a summer, and we do talk online like almost everyday. (that was when we were dating) Now its like whenever he feels like getting on which isnt so often He lives bout 3 hrs away from me..maybe 2 so hopefully when he turns 16 this year he will come to camp more offten. And when he comes up he stays weeks at a time. But yea..i figure she will have to learn to accept it and once i turn 18 she cant do anything about it..i know it sounds mean but he really understands me..more then she does. And when im with him..everything seems worth it.

[shanny]

i know a year seems like a long time...but you should stay friends and really really get to know him better. if he hurt you're sister over a rude comment he has the potential to be a harmful person to you too. just be careful, your mom and sister could see more than you do...love is blinding.

[yukichan]

this is just so wrong...he bodyslammed your sister, she's your family, it doesn't matter if he was pissed or she set him off, that's not how you handle something

my dear, as much as most of us would not like to admit, mothers know best, she's been through these types of things and knows more than she'll let you know, she's just trying to look out for you.  from what i read, he seems to be very violent, is this what you want to marry? 

the point of dating is to find your husband

i agree..
what if in the future u guys were togethor and he does the same thing he did to ur sister to u?it wouldnt be good thing..and it definately wasnt a way to take out his anger..i know its hard, but u should let go..

[_sarcastic_]

how would you know your mom doesn't understand you as much, she understands you more than anyone does actually, well maybe not your social life but other stuff.

well if you really want him back then go for it

[Rachel]

you're what, 14? how the hell do you know what love is?

[*salcha*]

this is just so wrong...he bodyslammed your sister, she's your family, it doesn't matter if he was pissed or she set him off, that's not how you handle something

my dear, as much as most of us would not like to admit, mothers know best, she's been through these types of things and knows more than she'll let you know, she's just trying to look out for you.  from what i read, he seems to be very violent, is this what you want to marry? 

the point of dating is to find your husband

that's right.
it may seem like a good idea at that time, but your parents have been through the whole ordeal. plus, it's always family before boyfriends or girlfriends. always.

[angel-roh]

How do you know if you love him and how do you know if he loves you?











Anyways... that's wrong of him to bodyslam your sister. he's probably a f*cked up dumbass......... sorry but if he did that to my sister and it hurt her... i wont even be with him. if he didnt forgive and still talk trash about ur family. do you wana live with him? his attitude!!! is freaking bad.

[*lolita kitty*]

awwww thats sad!

_i would tell your boyfriend you still love him too. unless he already knows?
_then tell your mom he really wasnt doing anything to you, and you should know because you were there and she should trust you because your daughter.
_then apoligize to your sister for what he did.
_then tell him to control his anger and to promise not to hurt your family again.
_then slowly, build a relationship back up with everyone. sweetie, trust is a hard thing to gain once you've lost it, but im sure it'll work out!

[bravodancer04]

Aww I'm sorry    I think I'd just ask your mom flat out when she says you can't be more than friends. If she brings up what she thought you did, just tell her that it isn't true, and have a little guilt trip " I thought you would expect more of me crap   and if she still won't give it a chance, you can either go behind her back, or respect your mom's opinion.

The bodyslam thing is a little harsh tho

yea..and she can`t tell you who you can/can`t see...well i guess she can, but still thats a little weird.

[ChEeR A HOliC Xo]

So most of you are saying when this summer comes and i see him again just to be friend`s. Even though he changed, and has been so hard on himself. I know he changed and my sister knows what she said was wrong. I think the whole reason my mom freaked out was because of the "boy`s arnt suspto hit girls rule" so yea. But im trying to be just friends...but friends dont look at eachother the way me and him do.

[nicky04033]

urrrgh i feel sorry....
perhaps u can date him secretly without letting ur mum know?? i'm not sure if this is a good idea........ but i would do this if i were u
it's so hard missing a guy...

[swe3ttemptasian]

your parents shouldn't be in your way of love.

[IamRad]

you're what, 14? how the hell do you know what love is?

you said it


respect ur moms opinion shes older and wiser

get over it

[ChEeR A HOliC Xo]

I had a talk with her last night, just because i been thinking about everything u guy`s been saying. And i decided when this summer roll`s by were just going to be friends. NOTHING more, cause he has issues and he can do that to me he is bipolar, one min hes fine then the next hes all depressed, but when hes with me he is fine. I dont know.. u guys made me think and im to young to fall in love with a guy with this many problems. I am not the kind of person to let go that easy, i still like him, but its what i need to do, i dont want to go through all that fighting with my mom again.

[HoodieObsessed]

awww, I jsut saw the note book mega tearjerker..anyways that's not the point, bassically all the advice I have for you is ...errr...hmmmm, I really don't know...I dont' have any advice for you...this is kidna a tough situation...

maybe you should still see him but dont' tell yer parents, if you guys decide to be just freinds than tha'ts great, everyone's happy, but if you guys really love eachother and your feeligns are mutual than I don't think you should split up just cause of your mom and dad...that's not right maybe you should take some advice form the notebook and think for yourself...like what do you want? lol, haha, th'ats probably pretty stupid but hey, someitmes you need to forget your parents and your sisters and everyone else and jsut decide what you want, at least then you ahve a more clear idea of what you want to happen

sorry I wasn't of more help, I've never been in lvoe so far...

this is just so wrong...he bodyslammed your sister, she's your family, it doesn't matter if he was pissed or she set him off, that's not how you handle something

my dear, as much as most of us would not like to admit, mothers know best, she's been through these types of things and knows more than she'll let you know, she's just trying to look out for you.  from what i read, he seems to be very violent, is this what you want to marry? 

the point of dating is to find your husband

hmm, I kidna agree with that too actually, bodyslamming your sister was a bit mean...and if he did that once he could do it again, I donno...I guess you'll have to decide I can't really help you

I had a talk with her last night, just because i been thinking about everything u guy`s been saying. And i decided when this summer roll`s by were just going to be friends. NOTHING more, cause he has issues and he can do that to me he is bipolar, one min hes fine then the next hes all depressed, but when hes with me he is fine. I dont know.. u guys made me think and im to young to fall in love with a guy with this many problems. I am not the kind of person to let go that easy, i still like him, but its what i need to do, i dont want to go through all that fighting with my mom again. 

well, that osunds like a pretty good plan..I think