How long, should I wait before I tell my mom? Options

[EmmalieV]

I have a boyfriend now , How long should I wait before I tell her?

Not right away though I know that just because it doesnt last and I NEVER tell my mom when I have a boyfriend but since he has a car and etc , I guess she will let me go out with him If I tell her we are going out and what not.

[Shattered_Hope]

Tell her when you feel that the relationship is getting serious and you introduce him to the family. I guess then. If not, just tell her when she asks.

[*AngelicEyz00*]

Tell her now. The sooner the better.

[secretXoshadow]

tell her

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[yeseulx3]

tell her now.

[dahding]

ASAP. it shows that ur not afraid, ur willing to show him to her, that ur a grown up, that u have responsibility. if she finds out about him later, she'll get pissed off. if u tell her now, sure, she'll get angry kinda, but at least u didn't wait until she found out on her own. whatever.

[_sarcastic_]

^ agreed.
i'm also having the same problem as you are. i still haven't told my mom bout my bf. but i'm pretty sure she knows

[yukichan]

tell her now...like someone said, the sooner, the better...

[b0st0ngrl]

I would tell her soon because the longer you wait, the harder it might to get it out.. but it's up to you...

[CreateBlob]

Think about if you didn't tell her. Then, when you really do tell her, what will she think? She'll think you were hiding it because it was something negative, which gives her the impression that you're not exactly that faithful to the guy.

[pinayprincess]

i wouldnt tell [period]

[*krnxswat*]

So part of the reason you're going out with him because he has a car?

[EmmalieV]

nope that wasnt my point , my point is that If I do tell them , maybe they would let me go out with him like on dates in his car.

[SimplicityGirl]

Go tell her asap...

I mean...she does allow you to have a bf right? If she doesn't, well, then just sit down with her and tell her that there is something that you think she ought to know, and just spill the beans.

Or...you can ask her how she feels about you having a bf, and go from there. The sooner you tell her, the better. She's bound to find out sooner or later, and if she finds out that you've been hiding this from her, she might not approve of him at all, and that can get in you into trouble with your Mom and your bf.

If you're afraid of telling her face-to-face, you can always tell her via a letter, or maybe you can have your older siblings (if you have them that is) to be there when you tell her. It doesn't have to be a family gathering kind of thing, but you do have to tell her. Remember, she was young once and knows what is like to have a bf.

Good luck!

[bad_girl]

i'd be too embarrassed to tell my mom..

[Levy2k6]

i'd say bring him over and be like.. hey mom, this is blah blah.. and let her ask u about it.

[audory]

tell her as soon as possible. i never tell my mom about my bf's but that's only b/c she's all like "NO BF's until COLLEGE."

[YourSuperior]

Tell her. The sooner you tell her, the better it may be. But if you let her find out for her self, like if he calls you or something. That would be worse...

[mouse_3k]

how about u not tell her? lol I never tell em. they dont deserve to know

[shortiiex]

how about u not tell her? lol I never tell em. they dont deserve to know

ditto...

tehy will be 10x more protective of you

[heyyfrankie]

Tell her now. The sooner the better.

right! ^^

if you wait any longer, she could be even more mad because you have been going out with him for a long time and she would get really upset.

[cocogirl]

in the end, its ALWAYS better to be honest with your parents, they will trust you more in the end.. and when you get older and want to do more stuff and gain more independence, they will trust you make the right decisions because you were always honest with them.
THAT, and your parents can be your biggest support. My mom and i were best friends and i told her everything, she trusted me (maybe not my boyfriends haha) but she was supportive. She died a year ago and i miss her so much and wish i was more open and honest with her.

[blah1234567]

you should just tell her now to get it over and done with..but she might say no..its kinda risky..

[cHuNsAbAbIe012]

yea tell her wen u know that it's serious n u know it will last a long time. if not then dont tell her cuz...u might hear it from her if ur only with him for a lil while. actually it all depends on wat kind of parents u have. my sister didnt tell her parents until like six months later. it kinda bothered my parents but they were cool with them going out. i told my parents right away. so just...do wat u think is best.

[gossipgirl]

tell her as soon as possible.
if not,
she maybe blaming u for not telling her ther truth.

[*mzkandi*]

tell your mom as soon as possible

[xXMomoBubbleTeaX...]

Girly it doesn't matter how long you wait cuz she's gonna figure out neways...Moms juss kno...

[JoeSocks]

tell her. if u dont tell her imediately it wld build up. (past experience)

[tinababy143]

hmm..well my first REAL bf was in 5th grade and i`ve had 1-3 each year since then..my mom thinks my current bf is my first..haha..in reality hes like the..*counts real quick*..18th..soo..it doesnt really matter when you tell her i guess..no big deal..just go behind her back and do stuff..but if you dont want to do that..then tell her asap..but assure her that you guys arent having sex or doing drugs together or anything..you like him, he likes you so you guys made the decision to go out..

[Angel_Cece]

Tell her now. The sooner the better.

i agree

[xSqueekyMexicanx]

tell her rite now ... i told my mom i had a bf n she didnt care

[Rachel]

tell her when you feel ready. try not to make a big deal about it, slip it into normal conversation =)

[l_baybeexgrl_l]

my parents don't allow me to have 'bfs' until im out of school..

but i think u should tell her when you both are ready.

[spacewicket]

don't drag it out where u are lyin too much..give it a little time ...nothing to hide

[aera]

my parents would go crazy. i would never tell them.

[whywasisostupid]

tell her when u feel is right.
but if she's the type of mom that thinks u shuldnt date till ur like 20, then i wuldnt.
ur decision

[illuminessence]

It all depends on how your mom is. Nobody can really know. Only you can decide whether or not she'll care or whether or not she'll be alright with it. I think she may trust you more if you tell her right away.

[IamRad]

just tell her. im sure she will understand

[Dark Saga]

Never hide things from your mom. I was in a relationship with a girl who couldn't have a boyfriend, and it did not end well..