bf .. and my friend dilemma, i dun wana choose >< Options

[m&m]

well.. i dint really want a bf. it always seemed 2 me that only the pretty looking gurls get bf. all i cood do was dream. but now.. the guy i liked, likes me. i wasnt planning 2 haf a bf till ages. we talked a lot. now we hang around a lot. everyones been pressuring us, teasing us.. 2 go out. so now here we r.
today i was walking 2 the station wif him. most of my friends jus tease me and smile and give me the wink look. one friend was walking behind me at the time, i turned around and sed hi. wat was i spose 2 do? i duno. i kept on walking wif him.
then when we were alone, she sed i was ignoring her. on my xanga, i wrote that i wasnt trying to ingore her. she commented saying "congratulations. u suceeded". so nows she's obviously pissed at me.
well wat was i spose 2 do? stop talking 2 him and talk 2 her? .. now i haf 2 choose do i -_- now my other friend is making me feel guilty. that i was choosing my bf over a friend. what did i do rong? dus having a bf mean i haf 2 choose?

[topsyturvy]

Your friend isn't being fair. Although you need to ask yourself: does she ignore you when she's around someone she likes? Nobody likes to feel neglected when her bff spots their crush and ditches her.

If she treats you well, you need to start including her.

[Nicolatofu]

I agree with K!$$. If she ignores you in the same situation, then how can she blame you? Try talking to both of them next time instead of just blowing her off. But let her know you'd like to have time alone with just you and your boyfriend, too.

[lilxroxy]

she`s the person being unfair. i agree with them^

your friend shudn`t call that ignoring. besides. if she`s one of the ppl who wanted you guys to go out. why is she objecting now?!

[EmmalieV]

You obviously dont seem mature enoguh to have a boyfriend yet and none of your friends seem mature either so their you told her you didnt mean to ignore it leave it at that you dont have to dump your bf just because of that.

[KissMe2408]

Having a boyfriend doesn't mean that you have to choose between him and your best friend. It sounds to me like your best friend is jealous and feels kinda lonely that you have a boyfriend now, and your attention is focused primarily on him. But i mean i think she is being unfair about what she said, just tell her straight up what you're feeling. She needs to respect your feelings and decisions if she is indeed your best friend. But seriously, talk to both of them straight up and tell them your feelings, the worst thing to do is hold all this inside, i wish you the best :)

[whatiismae]

allright, first, never put an apology on xanga. say it in person because its more private and when you put it up on xanga it sometimes looks like youre doing it for attention. so, talk to her. and second, she is being really unfair. and i think shes just jealous, but ask your other friends in case they agree with her. if not, forget her, but if they do, maybe you should rethink how you act with your boo.

[*salcha*]

sit you and your friend down to some cookies and talk.
it sounds like you two arent spending enough quality time together.

[CreateBlob]

Wonders79 has a point.

If you have a boyfriend, you still really need to hang out and actually maintain a big relationship with all your close friends. It's unhealthy to "isolate" yourself with someone you're in love with / infatuated with.

[xXirockhardXx]

Having a bf dosent mean choosing between him and your friends. She probably felt like you blew her off because you didnt go with her when she was all alone behind you and your bf. [if that even made sence] So next time when your walking with your bf and your friend is alone call her over and just walk with both of them i dont think your bf would mind. Oh yeah she was being unfair of saying you ignored her. She need to get over it since you apoligized. (sp?)

[someflipguy]

Forget the friend and go get you some loving!

[Shattered_Hope]

it doesn't mean you have to choose...always anyway...i mean...you like this guy...if she was your friend..she would respect that..but she probably thinks that she's losing you and umm..she feels left out..she might be someone who thinks that her life revolves around you...and just set the record straight. Tell her that she could've joined in the conversation if she had wanted. And if she doesn't get it...then..tell her off and find a new friend.