Serious crush, am I supposed to take the hint? |
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 Mar 15 2005, 03:19 PM
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Ever since the beginning of our school's second trimester, I've had a serious crush on a Freshman girl in my Concert Choir class. It took me until just a few days ago to finally come out to her with my feelings. Since I don't have much time to talk to her in the day, I gave her a note/letter explaining everything. Choir is the only class we have together and our teacher always keeps us busy in there, so it is REALLY hard to talk to her personally.
Anyway, after giving her the note yesterday, she didn't seem at all weirded out by me or anything, but today she didn't give me a note back or even make an attempt to talk to me, though we did make eye contact quite a few times in Choir. Can anyone tell me what this means? |
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Mar 15 2005, 04:05 PM
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 I have no life Group: Member Posts: 1,119 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 66,675 |
Writing notes shows that you are a chicken/coward......since the only class you guys have together is Choir....take advantage of that and talk to her....I don't caer if your shy...TALK TO HER....the worst that can happen is that she says she doesn't like you....not the end of the world
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Mar 15 2005, 04:06 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
well it could mean that she likes you too or that she just wants to stay as friends
but you seriously should find time a talk to her, maybe before the class start. |
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Mar 15 2005, 04:33 PM
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 highfive. Group: Member Posts: 1,301 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 32,951 |
Take a chance and be the one who talks to her first. Maybe she has an explaination to why she didn't give you back a note?
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Mar 15 2005, 04:38 PM
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 none of it seems real Group: Member Posts: 2,469 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 73,889 |
She probably didn't know what to say or how to reply..
 Give her some time to reply and if she doesn't ask her about it. |
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Mar 15 2005, 04:47 PM
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Thanks. Honestly, I have very little experience with girls......but I'll take the advice that you've given me to heart.
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Mar 15 2005, 04:48 PM
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 Blasian, Asian, INVASION! Group: Official Member Posts: 4,288 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,769 |
Go up to her face to face. dont be a little kid about it. Through a note..wow..Go up face to face and tell her.
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Mar 15 2005, 05:04 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
Go up to her...and just explain in words about the note and just be blunt about it....don't stutter. And even if you did tell her how you feel in the note....tell her again...
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Mar 15 2005, 05:31 PM
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One of the bigger problems in the situation is that Choir also houses around a dozen of her friends and one particular preppy-guy who likes her too although mostly everyone thinks he is a jerk. Even if I make time to talk to her, getting her alone will be even harder. I do, on occassion see her at her locker in the early afterhours of school. She stays for Freshman Leadership, InterACT, Girl's basketball etc.
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Mar 15 2005, 05:53 PM
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<3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
say hi to her whenever you see her in the hallways etc...
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Mar 15 2005, 06:33 PM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 19 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 113,387 |
So do you think I've completely messed up or is this repairable?
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Mar 15 2005, 06:38 PM
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 One Love Group: Member Posts: 313 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 66,958 |
when i read it...i got the feeling that she doesnt like u...but thats just me....
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Mar 15 2005, 07:06 PM
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 Seien Sie bitte mein Geliebter! Group: Member Posts: 660 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 43,436 |
Most likely she's suprised and a little confused. Maybe a little flattered? If you two don't talk much or really know eachother well she may be thrown off. I mean if a guy I didn't really know just came out of nowhere and told me how much he likes me I'd be like, "Whhoah>>>"
I'd say give it a day or two more. If you don't hear anything by then, then it's over. You could also just go to her and ask her if she read it and what she thought, etc. Be straight forward and get an answer. |
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Mar 15 2005, 07:50 PM
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We aren't on best knowing terms, but we talked quite a bit last trimester and spent some time together during Choir events such as concert or the district large group competition. Thanks for the advice....I've had crushes before this, but none of them compare. Most likely it is my first crush that doesn't involve teen horomones >.>
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Mar 16 2005, 03:40 PM
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I asked her to wait after class to talk to me today and she said she would, but after class she disappeared. I'm guessing either she forgot (unlikely) or I'm really supposed to get the hint >.<
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Mar 16 2005, 07:03 PM
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 Syaoran...kawaii... Group: Member Posts: 19 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 113,627 |
I still think you should confront her. Maybe she forgot, or maybe she didn't and was trying to hint to you something, but that's not right. You actually came right out and said that you wanted to meet her, and she should respect that and turn up for the meeting. So, go ahead and ask her out again. Who gives a darn about the hint? Tell her that if she really doesn't want to meet you then it's ok and say that you hope to remain as friends with her. Don't be forceful! She is probably being influenced by her friends or she could be confused over something...so don't add to her headache. Be gentle with her...stay calm and cool(but be serious)...and lastly...all the best! *wink*
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Mar 16 2005, 07:12 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 831 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 74,326 |
how old are you?! she obviously likes you back...
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Mar 16 2005, 08:20 PM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 19 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 113,387 |
I'm sixteen and I hope you're right.
I'll go ahead and be completely honest. She's a girl ranked rather highly in the social ladder. I'm somewhere in the middle, which is where I want to be. If her friends are influencing her....I hope that's not happening, because peer pressure always triumphs or so it seems. I REALLY want to go out with her and I think we're right for eachother. I just hope she looks more into what she feels instead of what her friends do... |
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Mar 17 2005, 05:10 PM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 19 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 113,387 |
Well, I guess one of her friends told one of my friends that I should ask her if she just wants to be friends. I guess that answers my question....
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Mar 17 2005, 05:13 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 6,953 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 52,702 |
please don't double post....and this is what happened to my friend and she was rejected and evryone found out
and i think you should talk to her after school |
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Mar 17 2005, 10:44 PM
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 THE EVERGLOW Group: Member Posts: 95 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 114,409 |
i'm sorry, but i dont think its gonna happen. i mean, she probably thinks of you as just a friend. since you guys barely talk, maybe you should be just friends first before you take it a step further. so TALK TO HER. thats number one in accomplishing anything.
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Mar 17 2005, 11:07 PM
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try talking to her, maybe she didnt read the note yet?
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Mar 17 2005, 11:14 PM
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 insanitys contagious. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,210 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 99,707 |
wow you seem really sweet but yeah if she wasnt weirded out mayb she liked you back?
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Mar 18 2005, 03:05 PM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 19 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 113,387 |
Well, everything has come to a close today. I talked to her myself and her exact words are still in my head.
"I want us to be friends. It's not that I don't like you. You're a cool guy, but I just don't....feel it." Not the end of the world, right? |
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Mar 18 2005, 03:10 PM
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 I can't believe its not "Ryan" Group: Member Posts: 1,981 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,368 |
Nah man, keep that positive attitude and you will go far! There are plenty of girls. Just keep your eye out for the right one and you will find her!
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Mar 18 2005, 06:28 PM
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 crushed. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 9,432 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,026 |
^exactly..she wasn't the right one, but keep your eyes open!
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Apr 17 2005, 05:43 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 69 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 121,896 |
She might now know wat too say....She may think that a certain way might like feel tooo strong but it might feel too weak....maybe she just doesn't feel the same way.....it's possible
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