boyfriend's cousin, in love with me :-/ |
  |
 Mar 14 2005, 02:42 PM
Post
#1
|
|
 <3 Deanna Leigh Irene <3  Group: Member Posts: 136 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 111,326  |
I think my boyfriend's cousin is in love with me :-/ and I really don't know what to do because I don't want to hurt his feelings, but there is NO way I could be with him or flirt with him. If you've seen me post before, or seen my introduction, you know that...I don't want to sound mean and tell him flat out that I don't love him back, but I can't tell Josh either, because I don't want to cause problems. I just don't know what to do because I enjoy his friendship and he's part of Josh's family :-/. It's really confusing. Any advice?
-Deanna- |
|
|
|
|
Mar 14 2005, 02:46 PM
Post
#2
|
|
 whaaaaaaat? Group: Member Posts: 2,293 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,660 |
first off, find out for a fact if or if not he likes u a lot. highly doubt he loves u. second, if he does, tell him to back off and that u don't like him that way. if he's being an ass, tell ur bf.
|
|
|
|
|
Mar 14 2005, 03:27 PM
Post
#3
|
|
 uoyevoli Group: Member Posts: 177 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 81,430 |
ummm avoid him??
|
|
|
|
|
Mar 14 2005, 03:32 PM
Post
#4
|
|
 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 6,953 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 52,702 |
are you sure he loves you?
just never bring up teh subject...if he does just do what you have to do....say no |
|
|
|
|
Mar 14 2005, 03:37 PM
Post
#5
|
|
|
<3 Deanna Leigh Irene <3 Group: Member Posts: 136 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 111,326 |
QUOTE(Shortiiex @ Mar 14 2005, 4:32 PM) are you sure he loves you? just never bring up teh subject...if he does just do what you have to do....say no  He's told me he loves me :-/ he'll come right out and say it. It's weird. |
|
|
|
|
Mar 14 2005, 05:01 PM
Post
#6
|
|
 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
you don't have to tell him flat out that you don't love him that way. just break it to him slowly, give him hints or something along those lines. sooner or later he should get it
|
|
|
|
|
Mar 14 2005, 08:47 PM
Post
#7
|
|
 rwar (; Group: Member Posts: 590 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,308 |
i doubt he loves you.
most likely, its jst a crush. he`ll get over it. meanwhile, avoid him as much as possible. (; |
|
|
|
| *stephinika* |
Mar 14 2005, 08:53 PM
Post
#8
|
|
Guest |
^^
agreed. he's probably just rather...infatuated at the moment. |
|
|
|
|
Mar 14 2005, 09:14 PM
Post
#9
|
|
 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 33 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 99,898 |
you should knoe for sure if that guy really likes you or not... and then tell him that you dont like him and your going out with his cousin...
hope that helped... |
|
|
|
|
Mar 14 2005, 09:25 PM
Post
#10
|
|
 highfive. Group: Member Posts: 1,301 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 32,951 |
I agree with the above.
It could be just a crush.. just ignore and avoid him. he'll eventually get over it. |
|
|
|
|
Mar 14 2005, 09:30 PM
Post
#11
|
|
 i'm a d0rk =) Group: Member Posts: 209 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 88,870 |
do you always see him? or is it once in a while?
|
|
|
|
|
Mar 14 2005, 09:34 PM
Post
#12
|
|
|
<3 Deanna Leigh Irene <3 Group: Member Posts: 136 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 111,326 |
QUOTE(d0rkbaby @ Mar 14 2005, 10:30 PM) do you always see him? or is it once in a while? I see him normally whenever I go over to Josh's because their always together. I don't really know about avoiding him...I don't know if it would work. :-/ it sucks... |
|
|
|
|
Mar 14 2005, 09:36 PM
Post
#13
|
|
|
i'm a d0rk =) Group: Member Posts: 209 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 88,870 |
umm then i guess you could just suggest to your bf that you want some alone time ? or, just ignore it. cause if you do say something i'm like 95% sure there is going to be an argument of some kind.
but i think his cousin might eventually stop liking you since.. i mean comeon. its clear that you like Josh. |
|
|
|
|
Mar 14 2005, 09:55 PM
Post
#14
|
|
 Yea Yea. Group: Member Posts: 837 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 79,366 |
QUOTE ummm avoid him?? ^I agree. And if avoiding doesn't work... talk to him and try to tell him in the nicest way possible that you do not love him back & can't because you are going out with his cousin. Try to be really nice & make sure he understands. |
|
|
|
|
Mar 14 2005, 10:02 PM
Post
#15
|
|
 I'll never be who I was again.. Group: Member Posts: 2,886 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 77,981 |
QUOTE(Shortiiex @ Mar 14 2005, 10:32 AM) are you sure he loves you? just never bring up teh subject...if he does just do what you have to do....say no i agree..avoiding him wont work...just tell him straight out...even though it hurts him, its the best thing to do... |
|
|
|
|
Mar 14 2005, 10:38 PM
Post
#16
|
|
 boo Group: Member Posts: 5,512 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 71,765 |
Tell him straight up that he's annoying you.
|
|
|
|
|
Mar 15 2005, 04:50 AM
Post
#17
|
|
 naïvety Group: Human Posts: 1,303 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 488 |
QUOTE(stephinika @ Mar 15 2005, 9:53 AM) he's probably just rather...infatuated at the moment. I agree. There is a 0.01% chance that he "loves" you. It's infatuation. He's obsessed with you. The only person that should love you right now is your boyfriend. Wait a minute.. if you go over to your bf's a lot and see him with your bf, shouldn't he know that you have a bf? If he knows you have a bf, shouldn't he know that your bf is his cousin? If he knows that, why is he still taking a chance?? Tell your boy to beat him up. 
|
|
|
|
|
Mar 15 2005, 11:48 AM
Post
#18
|
|
|
<3 Deanna Leigh Irene <3 Group: Member Posts: 136 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 111,326 |
QUOTE(K!$$ @ Mar 15 2005, 5:50 AM) Wait a minute.. if you go over to your bf's a lot and see him with your bf, shouldn't he know that you have a bf? If he knows you have a bf, shouldn't he know that your bf is his cousin? If he knows that, why is he still taking a chance?? Tell your boy to beat him up. He definatly knows. My boyfriend and I have a kid together :-/ He's laying off a bit, but not much. |
|
|
|
|
Mar 15 2005, 02:37 PM
Post
#19
|
|
 insanitys contagious. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,210 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 99,707 |
make it clear how much you love your boyfriend to the cousin so he would notice and back off for example talking about your boyfriend in front of him 24/7 stuff like dat,
|
|
|
|
|
Mar 15 2005, 06:57 PM
Post
#20
|
|
 when we speak, we breathe Group: Member Posts: 1,635 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 91,760 |
Your best bet is just to try to act is if though he has no feelings towards you. I'm sure he's grown fond of you, because he might hear about you all the time from your boyfriend. That's happened between my friend and I. She used to tell me about her boyfriend all the time, and I had ended up developing this sort of crush, but then after awhile, I got over it.
If anything, sit down with him, and talk to him about the situation, tell him it's awkward, and that nothing is ever going to come out of you two except a friendship. Just tell it like it is. |
|
|
|
|
Mar 15 2005, 07:02 PM
Post
#21
|
|
 Seien Sie bitte mein Geliebter! Group: Member Posts: 660 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 43,436 |
Ignore it. Pretend like he doesn't like you and keep your distance. Make it clear you aren't interested. Remind him that you're with his cousin.
|
|
|
|
|
Mar 16 2005, 03:11 PM
Post
#22
|
|
|
gRaCiE Group: Member Posts: 350 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 96,997 |
avoiding him is not a good idea...give him hints n stuff to let him know ur not interested. he may b just playing around with u but that's most likely not it. just break it to him slowly. but for me i would just get it over with n tell him to stop treating me like he likes me n tell him to get over me cuz he isnt getting n e thing from me. tell him he's just wasting ur time and his.
|
|
|
|
|
Mar 16 2005, 03:14 PM
Post
#23
|
|
 lalala.. Group: Member Posts: 669 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 86,094 |
you THINK he likes you but is it TRUE that he likes you? how can u tell that a person likes you? umm.. maybe ask him about that or something.
|
|
|
|
|
1 User(s) are reading this topic (1 Guests and 0 Anonymous Users)
0 Members: