Do you compete?, when your crush starts liking someone |
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 Mar 9 2005, 03:45 PM
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 <3  Group: Member Posts: 831 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 74,326  |
When your crush starts liking someone else other then you what do you do? do you compete with that other person?Or do you just let the other person win right away? Please tell me what you think you would do or what you do because...err...im kinda in a situation exactly like this...
 i bet you guys didnt understand a word i just said...and oh yeah. sorry my post is so long  here is my story that might help you answer this question: this guy who iv been crushing on for a while liked me also for a while. but then there was this new girl that came and he started liking her other then me. i knew this because he was flirting with her and he was also spening alot of time with her. after he got to know her more it seemed as if he did not like me as much as he used to at first...do you think he still likes me? do you think i should stop liking him? do you think that i should compete with the other girl so that the guy will like me more? sorry for asking so many questions...im just really confused right now  [EDIT] i forgot to say that when i was around/near him he was kinda nervous. i dont think he was nervous of me that he had a crush on me or he was nevous about that other girl that he liked. i think it was because he was nevous that he knew that i was starting to know that he liked the other girl instead of me. he also knew that i had a crush on him.... |
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Mar 9 2005, 04:14 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
sometimes i do. once i let my bestfriend win cause well everyone in school knows that she liked him and i just kept quiet about it. but after they broke up i found out that he acutally liked me
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Mar 9 2005, 04:48 PM
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 Fearless? Group: Member Posts: 215 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 100,183 |
well kind of i just hang around her and ask her if she wants to do stuff thats about it.
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Mar 9 2005, 05:03 PM
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 to be loved by someone you love is.. everything Group: Member Posts: 1,207 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,205 |
you gotta do what you gotta do
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Mar 9 2005, 05:05 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 4,882 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 47,064 |
well, sometimes, if I think I have a chance with him. But if not, then I don't compete with the girl.
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Mar 9 2005, 05:18 PM
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 Pimp Status Group: Member Posts: 640 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,200 |
Oh man i compete... Pain is love right, and so sometimes a mans gotta go through the dirty to get the girl he wants. Alot of the times when i find a girl, and i find out she likes someone else, i feel as though i have to be better at everything... *sigh*
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Mar 9 2005, 06:34 PM
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<3 Group: Member Posts: 831 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 74,326 |
QUOTE(_sarcastic_ @ Mar 9 2005, 4:14 PM) sometimes i do. once i let my bestfriend win cause well everyone in school knows that she liked him and i just kept quiet about it. but after they broke up i found out that he acutally liked me  i hope in the and that will happen to me... kinda like your story mabye it will turn out that he actually liked me and he was only trying to become friends with the girl but then it just went further then what he planned... |
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Mar 9 2005, 06:35 PM
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 HAAAAAAAA. Group: Member Posts: 4,472 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,068 |
hell yeah i would. nobody gonna take my hubby.
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Mar 9 2005, 06:56 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 90 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 110,867 |
Probably...
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Mar 9 2005, 10:51 PM
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 rwar (; Group: Member Posts: 590 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,308 |
nopes (:
if he likes someone eles, then i jst back off. i mean, not like i had a chance anyway (; |
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Mar 9 2005, 11:24 PM
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if he like some one else i give up.. if he doesnt like me now then hell never like me...and him liking someone else just confirms that he isnt interested
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Mar 9 2005, 11:27 PM
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 highfive. Group: Member Posts: 1,301 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 32,951 |
hm. if my crush liked someone else.. i guess i would make her life miserable and start hating on her. LOL.
Well. I think you should just get closer to him. I'm a competitive person so I would try to know him better than her.. so he likes me more xP. But that's just me. Do what your heart tells you to. |
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Mar 10 2005, 07:14 AM
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 whaaaaaaat? Group: Member Posts: 2,293 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,660 |
all's fair in love and war.
remember. ur fighting a war here. whoop some ass and get what u want.  teehee.
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Mar 10 2005, 07:51 AM
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<3 Group: Member Posts: 831 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 74,326 |
QUOTE(xd0rkette @ Mar 9 2005, 11:27 PM) hm. if my crush liked someone else.. i guess i would make her life miserable and start hating on her. LOL. Well. I think you should just get closer to him. I'm a competitive person so I would try to know him better than her.. so he likes me more xP. But that's just me. Do what your heart tells you to. really? i would just hate the guy...coz i know he liked me back coz he was staring at me all the time and stuff...and trying to get to know me. till the new girl came i think i will try to get to know him better but its gonna be hard coz i dont see him to often and i need to make the time the best of it when i do see him.i dont know how ofter he sees the girls tho... QUOTE all's fair in love and war. remember. ur fighting a war here. whoop some ass and get what u want. teehee. ha ha lol...i need to remeber that one  the next time i am seeing the guy
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Mar 10 2005, 09:09 AM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
no i dont because i believe in the whole "oh if he's happy then i should be happy for him" sappy stuff.
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Mar 10 2005, 12:30 PM
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 insanitys contagious. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,210 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 99,707 |
Of course , i compete ...a girls nature.
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Mar 10 2005, 03:01 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 6,953 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 52,702 |
i never compete...it probably was never meant to be anyway
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Mar 10 2005, 03:07 PM
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<3 Group: Member Posts: 831 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 74,326 |
QUOTE(Shortiiex @ Mar 10 2005, 3:01 PM) i never compete...it probably was never meant to be anyway that what i was thinking of it as at first...i was thinking that things happen for a reason and obviously me and him were not ment to be...but then one part of me keept saying for me to compete and then the other said just let the other girl win... and they are both even and im confused 
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Mar 10 2005, 06:28 PM
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 you kissed my bliss away Group: Member Posts: 37 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 106,695 |
hell yea compete..if you cant get what you want at the time~fight for it
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Mar 11 2005, 03:04 AM
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 Hi! I'm Dani :) Group: Member Posts: 5,637 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,369 |
nah i dont compete. if i had a crush who liked another girl then too bad for me, guess i just gotta get over him.
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Mar 11 2005, 03:35 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 107 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 87,774 |
I'm kinda in the same situation as you are, and there's this girl who's always flirting with him. I'd advice you to fight for him though 'cause if he once liked you then it means he probably still likes you. Who cares about the girl, you can always steal him back. Just hang in there and see if he shows interest. Never give up unless you are sure he has lost interest, cause you'll regret it if you lost him without a fight.
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Mar 11 2005, 04:39 AM
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 .:gossipgirl:. Group: Member Posts: 156 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 111,300 |
erm...
i probably will fight for the boy i like love ya*muah |
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Mar 11 2005, 11:59 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 45 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,598 |
well..think about the other person's happiness...they could like you as a friend..but think about it...what would you rather want....the person to be happy or you to be happy and be selfish...
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Mar 11 2005, 02:47 PM
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it's all about what's better for that person in the end.
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Mar 11 2005, 06:47 PM
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<3 Group: Member Posts: 831 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 74,326 |
QUOTE(mistaken_identity @ Mar 11 2005, 3:35 AM) I'm kinda in the same situation as you are, and there's this girl who's always flirting with him. I'd advice you to fight for him though 'cause if he once liked you then it means he probably still likes you. Who cares about the girl, you can always steal him back. Just hang in there and see if he shows interest. Never give up unless you are sure he has lost interest, cause you'll regret it if you lost him without a fight. omg...you really convinced me...but i still have to see what others have to say ^_^ |
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Mar 11 2005, 09:44 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,531 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 18,624 |
No, I let them like whoever they want. I won't stop them. If he likes me, then cool. But if he likes the other girl, I'll be bummed, but I get over it.
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Mar 12 2005, 01:02 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,831 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,324 |
nope. i have never competed, but if the guy's really worth it, sure.
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Mar 12 2005, 10:54 AM
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<3 Group: Member Posts: 831 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 74,326 |
QUOTE(laur3nw @ Mar 11 2005, 9:44 PM) No, I let them like whoever they want. I won't stop them. If he likes me, then cool. But if he likes the other girl, I'll be bummed, but I get over it. thats what i was doing at first but then i was thinking of competeing so then i asked you guys on your opinion ^_^ |
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Mar 12 2005, 02:03 PM
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gRaCiE Group: Member Posts: 350 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 96,997 |
i do..only it was my boyfriend not...some crush.
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Mar 12 2005, 09:34 PM
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 your sweetest sin. Group: Member Posts: 416 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 18,960 |
yeah. if this girl likes the guy i like [as long as she's not like a good friend..] then IT'S ON BISNITCH! ;] you know how it goes.
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Mar 12 2005, 10:11 PM
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of course
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Mar 12 2005, 11:30 PM
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 F**k me Beautiful Group: Member Posts: 3,126 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,124 |
Sure. Challenges gives me more motivation. But if its a lost cause, i wont waste my time
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Mar 13 2005, 12:15 AM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
Sometimes...depends on the person I'm supposedly competing for.
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Mar 13 2005, 12:50 AM
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t-t-t-toyaaa Group: Official Member Posts: 19,821 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,270 |
sometimes but yea it really depends on teh person because sometimes there not really worth it
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Mar 13 2005, 09:57 AM
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<3 Group: Member Posts: 831 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 74,326 |
hmmmmm.....*thinks to self* is my guy really worth it? yesssss!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Mar 13 2005, 02:16 PM
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 who ma bitch? you ma bitch, bitch. Group: Member Posts: 1,920 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 55,278 |
sometimes...i start to hang out with him more
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Mar 15 2005, 09:49 PM
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<3 Group: Member Posts: 831 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 74,326 |
omg!!!for some reason he doesnt like that girl anymore...yay!!! well i guess you guys dont have to help me out anymore ;)
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Mar 16 2005, 01:47 AM
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 Syaoran...kawaii... Group: Member Posts: 19 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 113,627 |
I'm the kind who would just back off and then brood continuously over it...until i forget or until it becomes a fading memory...that's what i would do...but everyone is different...if you feel that you really can't cope with it, then talk it out with him...you don't want this period of awkwardness to drag out...if he says really likes the other girl then wish him all the best and start thinking of him as a friend...if he says he likes you then just kiss him...hehe
But whatever you do, just make sure that you will have no regrets, because 'What ifs' can sting you worse than a box jellyfish can...just think about it carefully...follow your heart (I know it's cliche...but cliches are appropriate too you know!) All the best! |
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Mar 16 2005, 11:06 PM
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 Chrissy:)***** Group: Member Posts: 28 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 98,274 |
if he didnt like me i wouldnt try to change or anything
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Mar 17 2005, 12:04 AM
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ask him yourself if he lykes the new girl or if he still lykes you. if he lykes the new girl. try to move on but still keep your heart open to him. if he lykes you tell him how you feel so that its not too late.
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Mar 17 2005, 12:07 AM
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 crushed. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 9,432 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,026 |
QUOTE(DrEaMgUy2K1 @ Mar 12 2005, 11:30 PM) Sure. Challenges gives me more motivation. But if its a lost cause, i wont waste my time yeah, same here. I love a challenge
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Mar 17 2005, 12:54 AM
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 hello : ) Group: Official Member Posts: 4,227 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,139 |
Yes I do. Because I like the person and I become selfish and want to be with that person and also because it's out of jealousy or just because I don't realize that I'm doing it. But yeah, like others said, I like a challenge. It makes things more interesting. And I think you said he liked you before or something so if that's true then usually when people have liked someone a part of the feeling (whether big or small) is still there. So stick it out and COMPETE! haha
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Mar 17 2005, 10:50 PM
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 THE EVERGLOW Group: Member Posts: 95 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 114,409 |
DUH you compete!! you dont just give up like that, at least put up a fight. i'm not saying fight nasty, i'm saying fight fair and win him over with your girlish charm.
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Mar 20 2005, 11:27 PM
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 You can't keep running from what you're trying to find. Group: Official Member Posts: 5,030 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,096 |
i dont compete, because it would just make the relationship between me and my crush (this is a hypothetical situation) and he might start hating me for competing against his crush and making her feel uncomfortable or w.e. or he might just think that you're... err... possesive
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Apr 18 2005, 04:35 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 349 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 124,513 |
I just let it go if he likes someone else, but if another girl likes him, and I find her a threat, I let it be known that I want that, and for some reason almost every girl has backed off, they find me intimidating.
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Apr 19 2005, 01:12 PM
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 The windmills of your mind .. Group: Member Posts: 1,317 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 83,699 |
Random people just come up to me trying to start a fight with me because some boy they like said he likes me. I didnt have a clue i was like i have a boyfriend! lol
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Apr 19 2005, 04:06 PM
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 ^-^ Group: Member Posts: 1,676 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 107,668 |
QUOTE(wind&fire @ Mar 9 2005, 8:24 PM) if he like some one else i give up.. if he doesnt like me now then hell never like me...and him liking someone else just confirms that he isnt interested yaya, I agree. but I mean if he still likes you than I would still try to flirt and stuff...like maybe he jsut likes you both, I donno..mayeb he's flirting and not realizing it, maybe he just wants to get to knwo her but he doens't really want a "relationship" with her. I'd give him some space but don't give up all together 
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Apr 19 2005, 04:17 PM
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 RiKACHANtEL Group: Member Posts: 3,876 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,230 |
i dont compete but, i dont like it. he's gonna like who likes
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