would you tell that person, you like them? Options

[TYPiKALFEMME]

okay i have this problem where i like someone so much that im so scared to tell him and that he'll tell his friends and say why is she asking me that? im just afraid of rejection {YES i know its part of life} but what would you do?

[dahding]

rejection is a part of life, as u said. ur going to have to get used to rejection sooner or later. might as well make it sooner. and also, if ur afraid that he's going to be an ass about it, he's not the right guy then. that's just mean.

[*stephinika*]

^^
exactly. well said dustin. but yeah...its up to you. go for it...who knows what could happen. good luck!

[FireArrow]

You can always drop little hints instead of asking directly

[--x who0ps]

iono i jst keep my thoughts to myself ;]
im not the type to tell ppl if i like them.

[yintung]

i wouldn't tell that person either. i would wait for him to tell me.

[misoshiru]

rejection is a part of life, as u said. ur going to have to get used to rejection sooner or later. might as well make it sooner. and also, if ur afraid that he's going to be an ass about it, he's not the right guy then. that's just mean.

well said, i agree. but it's still hard, but some time in our lives, we just have to take risks. haha.

[bad_girl]

go with the flow.. what goes around comes around. do what ur heart says. if they reject u.. it's thier loss.

[InvisiblePopcorn]

I would tell him, because I always tell guys I like that I like them. Don't be afraid; just think of what you could be missing out on if you don't tell him! Good luck!

[someflipguy]

Learn from each rejection!

But, I would tell a person straight up if I liked them!

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

yeahh tell them. i kno its difficult or easy for differnet girls, like for me its really easy. but i used to be afraid to tell to, but yu just have to tell. if they dont like yu, heyy yu tried and yu wont go on wondering if there was a chance. if they dont` move on. it mayy be hard to move on but trust me , you will.

[angelrevelation]

AAAHH NOOOOO i would NOT!! 0_0 maybe later on in life i'll build up the courage, but definitely NOT now....!!

but if you're up for it, you should (hehe dont mind me) good luck

[yukichan]

iono i jst keep my thoughts to myself ;]
im not the type to tell ppl if i like them.

ya me too..

[*suddenly she*]

1st time, i told over aim haha. that was weird. 2nd time.. well. we just knew already. 3rd, i wrote a note.

stupid hormones. i don't really care right now.

[blah1234567]

get one of his friends to tell him taht you like him. thats what i did and now the guy who i like likes me back...

[imm]

i'd ask, and get rejected, and keep trying till it does happen, cuz i've done that b4.  its harder now cuz im older, and girls are getting more smarter.  i need a new "go at it" plan.

That's just plain annoying.

Anyway, don't try any stupid tricks through friends or anything, it'll only get your relationship messed up. Just go up to that person and ask away, don't beat around the bush or anything, cause that's just stupid.

[EmmalieV]

Well , what i do is tell my friends to tell him , rejection that way hurts less =D

[Litt0_TeeZy]

i've learned in the past that you just have to go for it. life's too short to wait...there was this one guy that i was in love with...he seemed perfect to me in every way...too bad i didn't tell him. he had the SAME feelings for me...we discussed it a few years later...and we were like DANG IT DANG IT DANG IT! lol. so right now...i wait and make sure i actually like them..then i tell them. or i'll start flirting A LOT to where they get the hint...but my friends say i flirt with everyone o_O haha. o welps ;D

edit//// oh yeah...don't do the whole getting your friends to ask him...guys find that really annoying...i know girls do...so guys would feel the same about it...

[*salcha*]

well, you'll never know until you ask right?

[aznbabiicutie]

edits// well. i told him that i liked him and i gave him a 2 day limit to response. if he doesnt response or says no. i'll just move on. and now i'm hoping ^_^

[unfortunatekiwi]

wow. so many people have this problem. honestly though, you have nothing to lose. like you said, rejection is a part of life. so what if he says no? just move on. it's not that hard.

[wincyyellow]

i am facing the same problem too...but...if you are not hopeless,you can try to tell him...

[doglover_76]

i think you show ask and if he says that he doesnt like you then just get over it but if you never ask you'll never know

[No1_2_NoBody13]

OK me personaly...i wouldnt just come right out and say that you like him...i would flirt with him a little...and then you no just write him a lil note saying that you like him....i mean the worst he can do is reject you right??? well if he likes you...he'll start to show it a little more and then when you to no each other reallly well ask him out or he'll ask you out...thats what happend to me...but i mean its not like you two have to stop talking if he dont likes you....

[LittleLulu]

HAH i already told the guy i like that i like him........
but u see.........y do u like this guy>??? cuz...if its cuz of his personality.. that means u KNOW he's nice n wont be all mean when u tell him u like him...

since ur soo scared... does it mean u like him for his looks??...i liked alot of guys for their looks before...more or less... i have to admit it....but this guy...righ now...that i like.....he;s smart n funny n tall n reli reli nice...n he aint no hottie but i didn't care... i like him alot...n i told him....................n BAM! <3

im soo happy =)

[gossipgirl]

i think i'll
just simply go to them
and say:
" hey u kno wht?
i've a huge crush on u"
...lolz
Love ya*muah

[Shattered_Hope]

rejection..like you said..is a part of life. Get Over It. If you think he's gonna tell his friends when you tell him how you feel and laugh about it..then why even bother thinking about it? He's obviously not right for you....But just talk to him....or write him a note if it makes it any easier for you..

[angel-roh]

i tell them anyways... they will feel special then hahaha. i tell them that i like them, but i dont say "wana go out with me?" i wait for them to say that.

[musicfreak9]

i would cause then at least they will kno if u do or not... i told sum1 i like them and they liked me bak! so its always good to tell the truth

[PinkTrash]

i guess; telling them faster is better. you'd be even more hurt if you found out later that hes not intrested, and you find you;ve wasted a lot of time.

[shortiiex]

my friend did that.......at first she was freaked out...but then she said she glad she did it...she feels more comfortable

[vampireduster]

maybe. i was sooo scared to ask my crush. i didnt though and im glad because now i got a great boyfriend

[iintoxicated]

hehe,this reminds me of a story.one time i had a huge crush on this guy,so i had his little sister ask him 4 me,and it didnt turn out too well.just go for it,eventually you'll find someone better.

[BrokenDream]

I only tell if I think I am ready. I almost tried to tell this guy I liked him. But all this stress and pressure stepped in. I say, wait intill you think you are ready.

[kimmie2204]

i would try to get to one of his friends and ask them if he likes you......if so then go for it........also try to flirt with the guy a little....let him know u are interested without actually saying it........also sometimes a guy really likes it if u are direct and just tell them.......there are tons of options........hope everything goes good for you!

[osidepinay33]

I would..
Breath...
Stretch
Shake
then let it go!
LOL

I knoe it's nerve wraking.. but i'm going throguh the same thing.. Just follow those steps!! Lol

[Koodles]

I liked this guy I went to college with for 2 years. The minute I saw him I liked him but I never had the guts to actually say anything. He just graduated last week and I never got to tell him how I feel. I would say GO FOR IT! You've got nothing to lose.

[dani41790]

I think you tell him. If he rejects you, then don't worry. There's other guys out there who'd be good for you.

[..:loveee.NuTTii]

I wouldn't tell, but I'm chicken so don't do that. I say go for it. Just joke around about it. "Hey-you'll never guess what I have to say to you" or something. Come prepared with a joke incase of rejection. (Yes..I believe jokes will cure the world one day.)

[..:loveee.NuTTii]

-double post

[iheartsimba]

Well. I haven't told someone that to there face...in a long...long..time.

But back in the day, I was really good friends with him. We talked on the phone everynight. Everynihgt eitehr I asked him or he asked me "who do you like" Then we'd be like "no one.." then one day we were guessing...and we kept naming names. Then it came to eachother and the answer was "maybeeee"

Yeah so I didn't use...the exact words. It wasn't a "hey whatsup i like you btw"...It was gradual.

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

lols i was gonna tell the guy i like that i like him in person but i found it so much easier if a friend told him instead, if you get rejected hey at least you did what you had to do.

[azndreamer]

erm.. Ask him when hes alone. Buh if u think hes gonna make fun of u is he worth it?
The worst he can do is say no rite?
Ask a friend to see what he thinks of u if you're nervous.

[aznhunnie6o1]

Ok... Its not like your asking him out or anything... Just like.. write him a note telling him you like him... It's not that hard.. If he doesnt like you, then you can just get over him.

I got my recentest boyfriend by telling him I liked him in a note.

[mypaperheart__x3]

i would tell his fren and just maybe his friend would help...

[timeflies51]

I ended up telling them because it kept bugging me.

"It's better to regret something you have done than something you haven't done."

He might just like you back. (But never get your hopes up real high - that will just bring you down more if he doesn't.) It will just keep bugging you and bugging you and bugging you if you put it off.

But it's completely up to you, really.

[Hohohehe]

i told this guy i like him and tell him not to tell anyone, but then i think (pretty sure he did) he did and he said he didnt
even though some ppl already know

[xangelxx]

probably not... cuz i'd be 2 scared 2 -.-

[ThePrincessofTKD]

i`d give him a hint, and if he can`t take a hint, i`d tell him.

[niko]

i liked som1 and never told him b4 and ended up not liking him anymore... lol...

[br0kenINSIDE_91]

Tell him, but INDIRECTLY. Flirt with him and stuff to pass the message.

[hiromi]

My friend told him o_o; but he had a hunch that I liked him, so yeah.

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

Sure why not, c'mon what's there to lose, i mean who knows the guy might like yu back and feel the same way. Life is about taking chances is it not?

[lAdDLuVeR1]

If I were you, I wouldnt ask him cuz I've done it b4 and it wasnt pretty. It spread all over the school. But if you knew me and him, youd know why. But I guess you can give him some hints and maybe see who he hangs out wit and see if you have connections.

[love-issosweet]

You can always drop little hints instead of asking directly

but if you drop hints, he could get the wrong idea you're trying say so tell him. that's what i did. you shouldn't keep it inside of you, let it out. you never know if he likes you back

[ktsou11]

thats the worst. its like you WANNA do it but you`re afraid that the results aren't gonna be what you expect them to be. i think the best thing to do is to try. your chances of dating him increase when you start talking to him right?

[gOODpIRATE]

you never know what could happen. i would go for it...

[dreamerOi]

id just tell him. cause then id wonder what it would have been like if i didnt tell him. plus you dont like him so hell like you back right? you like him cause you just do. thats why im not really scared of rejection. if i do then thats that cause i never intended for him to like me. @_@ but thats just me haha.

[xlaydee_v]

i would tell him. i would definitely tell him. i told the guy i liked him, although i thought he would never like me and guess what.. he did

[xxphschicca08xx]

i really liked this guy and i did ask him out.. but got rejected.. he said that he like me also but he wanted to get to know me more cause it would be kind of wierd going out with me and not knowing that much about me... so i said yeah thats true and was a little sad but then again i was kind of happy.. cause i asked him.. and i told him how i felt.. if you get rejected then dont take it hard.. life does go on and there are other chances! just dont regret not asking or telling someone you like them

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[lickthepavement]

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