if you made this mistake.. what would you do ?, broken hearted |
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 Mar 1 2005, 06:27 PM
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okay. i was going out with this guy named jaron. we were in love and everything. but i had a best friend named kevin. he HATED him and wanted him dead. after bout 2 months into the relationship things were shaking up and stuff. but i really really was in love with him. and he liked me like a lot. but; kevin convinced me to break up with him. he was always saying just break up with him and saying he was gonna fight him. i didnt want anything to happen to jaron. but i didnt break up with him. kevin screamed it to him when i asked him not to. but when he did. jaron just looked at me then started to hurt himself. he called me that night crying for me back. but i felt so bad i couldnt say yes. after all kevin did it. i got in depression.. but that wore off about a month later.. then the day after that; kevin was like umm ur going out iwth brandon. and i liked him; but i loved jaron. i went out with this guy for about a month and a half. then i broke up with him; well actually kevin did. then me and kevin somehow hooked up. it lasted 3 days. heh. after all that was through. i started talking jaron. kevin was grounded. when he got off; i asked him if he woukld mind if i went out with him. he said, " you can either have me as a best friend and hate jaron. or you can go out with jaron and me hate you ".. weLL i never decided. but jaron wore off ; he stopped liking me. that was last year. i refuse to go out with anyone ever since. me and jaron ont relaly talk anymore. but i love him so much. i carved his name on my waist. crazy. im like obsessed. but like , i dont know. me and kevin arent best friends anymore. we are jsut close. i have a new best friend now. i feel reallly bad now. last thursday would of been me and jarons one year if i didnt break up with him. does anyone know what i should do?
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Mar 1 2005, 06:38 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
it's kinda your fault for letting your best friend decide on who you date....but umm if he's stopped liking you...err....the only thing you can do for now is become friends with each other, talk to each other and be there for him...and not think about dating...and maybe with time..he'll come to like you again...
 
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Mar 1 2005, 06:40 PM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 13 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 107,611 |
thanks
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Mar 1 2005, 06:44 PM
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 Nymphetamine Girl Group: Member Posts: 206 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 8,433 |
Babe.
How old are you? Anyway, your guy friend should ahve stayed out of your relationships, but you should have held your grounded and defenced yourself and this Jaron boy. Also, love is hard to come by. Teenagers or girls especially think they are in love, but most of the time babe, it is a false feelings. You may love him but your not in love. Being in love is a technical feelings that you are qutie unaware of until you reach a certain age. I may be destroying dreams as I type this but yeah. It's true. I guess all you can do is just, be friends with everyone. And stop carving boy's name into your waist. People in the future will wonder..and ask. Explaining is hard. |
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Mar 1 2005, 07:28 PM
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Gosh, Kevin sounds really mean. I mean, if Jaron didn't do anything to harm you, why would he suspect that? It really sounds like Kevin is a jerk
 I mean, what right does he have to ruin a relationship like that? Anyway, I wouldn't have broken up, unless my boyfriend harmed me. 
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Mar 1 2005, 07:42 PM
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MCMXC a. D. Group: Member Posts: 106 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 69,715 |
Don't let friends push you around like that.
If they don't respect the way you feel about someone, they don't deserve to be your friend at all. Kevin should have nothing to do with you. He might seem like your best friend, but he is too controlling, and that is never good, in any kind of relationship. Kevin may be just jealous, or he has no intention of really being your friend. If that is how he truely acts, he shouldn't even live, by my standards. |
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Mar 1 2005, 07:55 PM
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QUOTE(BrokenHeartsKILLME @ Mar 1 2005, 6:27 PM) he said, " you can either have me as a best friend and hate jaron. or you can go out with jaron and me hate you "  he must not be that great of a friend if he's putting you through this much pressure about someone that you like. if he was really your best friend, i don't think he should be giving you such hard choices. it seems like he's the one making all of your decisions. |
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Mar 1 2005, 08:02 PM
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Kevin doesn't sound like a very good friend. I say ditch him since he's the one that got you into breaking up with the one that you "loved". Realize that it's kind of your fault for breaking up with him in the first place. You should've said no to kevin when he asked you to break up with him. Best friends shouldn't make you choose your decisions. You need to make decisions for yourself. Since Jaron doesn't like you anymore, I guess...just be friends with him. It's hard to, but you've got no other choice. And....don't carve any more names into your waist....it's bad for your skin =[ hope your situation gets better.
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Mar 30 2005, 09:50 PM
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Kevin sounds like a jerk. If he doesnt let you go out with the guys that you are like in love with then that is realllly selfish of him! If he was truly your friend he would just care what made you happy. You should have just kept going out with that Jaron guy, and if Kevin hated you then thats his loss. Thats just soo Selfish of Kevin.
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Mar 30 2005, 10:40 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
i kind of understood what you said but at the same time i kind of didn't...
 1.) why did you let kevin control your life? 2.) is that how you believe a best friend acts? 3.) -__- carving a boy's name in you waist...why? face it, you're not going to be with him, and if you do get back together i doubt you'll be together forever and have a happily ever after 4.) i'd just get over it, take a good look at yourself...you're letting men control your life...is that what you really want? to be so obsessed with a man that you carve his name on you, that's like you're letting him brand you, letting him make you into his object... and you're letting this kevin guy make decisions for you, be independent. the worst thing of all is that you're all upset over men, my dear you're probably 15 tops, there are bigger things to worry about than men advice give up men...at least for now until you sort out your life and priorities...learn to be independent and accept that there are plenty of fish in the sea, you'll find someone who'll love you back and won't try to conrol you and whatnot |
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Mar 31 2005, 07:24 AM
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 naïvety Group: Human Posts: 1,303 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 488 |
QUOTE(chii @ Mar 31 2005, 11:40 AM) advice give up men...at least for now until you sort out your life and priorities...learn to be independent and accept that there are plenty of fish in the sea, you'll find someone who'll love you back and won't try to conrol you and whatnot I agree completely. I didn't even finish reading that first blog. I can't believe you let Kevin control your relationship with Jaron. Because if you did, you don't really love him. True love cannot be destroyed so easily by another control freak. |
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Apr 1 2005, 12:35 AM
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 You can't keep running from what you're trying to find. Group: Official Member Posts: 5,030 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,096 |
wow kevin is a REAL control freak.... and not to mention a jerk. no offense, but he truly is. if he really cared about you, he'd let you make your own decisions, because it's how YOU feel...
i guess all you can do it try to move on. or you can try talking to jaron again
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Apr 1 2005, 01:55 AM
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 I'll never be who I was again.. Group: Member Posts: 2,886 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 77,981 |
QUOTE(Shattered_Hope @ Mar 1 2005, 1:38 PM) it's kinda your fault for letting your best friend decide on who you date....but umm if he's stopped liking you...err....the only thing you can do for now is become friends with each other, talk to each other and be there for him...and not think about dating...and maybe with time..he'll come to like you again... i agree.. u shouldnt have let ur friend decide what to do..u should have been the one to decide.. |
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Apr 1 2005, 02:15 AM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
QUOTE(chii @ Mar 31 2005, 11:40 AM) i kind of understood what you said but at the same time i kind of didn't... 1.) why did you let kevin control your life? 2.) is that how you believe a best friend acts? 3.) -__- carving a boy's name in you waist...why? face it, you're not going to be with him, and if you do get back together i doubt you'll be together forever and have a happily ever after 4.) i'd just get over it, take a good look at yourself...you're letting men control your life...is that what you really want? to be so obsessed with a man that you carve his name on you, that's like you're letting him brand you, letting him make you into his object... and you're letting this kevin guy make decisions for you, be independent. the worst thing of all is that you're all upset over men, my dear you're probably 15 tops, there are bigger things to worry about than men advice give up men...at least for now until you sort out your life and priorities...learn to be independent and accept that there are plenty of fish in the sea, you'll find someone who'll love you back and won't try to conrol you and whatnot well said. think about it, what kind of friend would do that to you. |
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Apr 1 2005, 03:01 AM
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seems like this kevin guy is quite the a-hole.
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Apr 1 2005, 03:03 AM
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QUOTE(FoOd @ Mar 1 2005, 7:28 PM) Gosh, Kevin sounds really mean. I mean, if Jaron didn't do anything to harm you, why would he suspect that? It really sounds like Kevin is a jerk I mean, what right does he have to ruin a relationship like that? Anyway, I wouldn't have broken up, unless my boyfriend harmed me. agreed. |
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