i dunno wat to tell her, >: ( |
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 Feb 21 2005, 04:48 PM
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 *.'.'._gillie_.'.'.*  Group: Member Posts: 563 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 101,217  |
ok i have this friend..same one i told u guys bout be4..well he b/f is 21 and shes 16 and he already has a child.. and well he cheated on her again with his babys momma and got her pregnant so my friend jus found out last night and i told her she can do better and she needs to break up with him but then i saw in her xanga that she dusnt wanna hear that and she wants different advice..what else is there to tell her..i mean he first cheated on his babys momma with her and then they finally broke up so him and my friend could go out like a real couple and then he pulls this shit..hes been puttin her through stuff like this since she was 14 and i dunno wat to tell her.. do any of u kno what she should do?
her xanga ^^u can read wat she wrote |
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Feb 21 2005, 04:50 PM
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 I have no life Group: Member Posts: 1,119 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 66,675 |
You could tell her what you wrote and then something like "you deserve better" or something...I dunno..She HAS to break up with him, if she doesn't do it now her life will go downhill...:(
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Feb 21 2005, 04:52 PM
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*.'.'._gillie_.'.'.* Group: Member Posts: 563 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 101,217 |
i kno! thats what i was tellin her but she refuses to listen.. ugh it gets so frustrating cuz i wanna help her..i really do but god..its jus..grrr
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Feb 21 2005, 04:53 PM
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tell her you really care about her and don't want to see her get hurt like that
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Feb 21 2005, 04:57 PM
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*.'.'._gillie_.'.'.* Group: Member Posts: 563 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 101,217 |
QUOTE(_sarcastic_ @ Feb 21 2005, 5:53 PM) tell her you really care about her and don't want to see her get hurt like that  i told her that too and she still said she dusnt wanna break up with him.. 
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Feb 21 2005, 05:47 PM
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 Another ditch in the road... you keep moving Group: Member Posts: 6,281 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,152 |
dont give her the advice she wants. give her the advice she needs. which is, get out. this relationship is mssed up
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Feb 21 2005, 06:22 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
tell her the truth: Your relationship is going nowhere and then go on to stress that she deserves better....
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Feb 21 2005, 07:56 PM
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^^
exactly. tell her it could end up seriously hurting her in the future if she stays in such a relationship. |
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Feb 23 2005, 03:06 AM
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 i <3 giraffes & hamsters Group: Member Posts: 69 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 104,830 |
well, to be honest with you, i`m kinda stumped
i think you`ve tried everything you can do. i mean, the only thing you can do is give her the right advice. but, it`s her choice to take the advice or not. so, really, if anything happens to her, it`s not your fault .. i`m not encouraging you to leave her! just, that, if she thinks that she`s practically in love with this guy, she`s doomed 0_o |
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Feb 23 2005, 03:55 AM
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tell her she deserves better than that...and u dont want her life to go downhill...
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Feb 23 2005, 06:05 AM
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 I will rise up Group: Member Posts: 112 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,037 |
if she doesn't wanna hear your advice... don't give it... you can't make her decisions for her... let her mess up on her own, i guess
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Feb 23 2005, 06:10 AM
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 please love me when im gone Group: Member Posts: 55 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 104,374 |
tell her the truth...the truth always hurts...but in the end...u noe u did the right thing
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Feb 23 2005, 07:34 AM
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sorry to say this.....but be harsh....it's probabaly the only way she's gonna be able to digest it..cause it sounds like she doesn't wanna listen to reason...something along the lines of "fine f*ck your life up...i want nothing to do with it" or "if you want a three way relationship for the rest of your life go on and do it you dumb b*tch"...or something....If your freind still doesn't wanna listen... just break up the freindship because you don't wanna be hearing her sob stories all the time...."cause it was her choice"...
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Feb 23 2005, 02:16 PM
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tell her she's young and she has her whole life for love and ish. besides, that's like.. a seven year old dating an infant, right? >.<
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Feb 23 2005, 04:00 PM
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*.'.'._gillie_.'.'.* Group: Member Posts: 563 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 101,217 |
QUOTE(Ba11erZ4lyfe @ Feb 23 2005, 8:34 AM) sorry to say this.....but be harsh....it's probabaly the only way she's gonna be able to digest it..cause it sounds like she doesn't wanna listen to reason...something along the lines of "fine f*ck your life up...i want nothing to do with it" or "if you want a three way relationship for the rest of your life go on and do it you dumb b*tch"...or something....If your freind still doesn't wanna listen... just break up the freindship because you don't wanna be hearing her sob stories all the time...."cause it was her choice"...i kno...i cant be blunt with her cuz she'll get mad with me like she has be4..my friend tried to be thou..and guess what ppl..shes still with him... and i doubt that will ever change so i have jus given up on her  ....
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Feb 23 2005, 04:15 PM
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I would tell her the same thing you did..
but sometimes I guess you just need to experience things on your own. If she keeps getting hurt like that I think she'll get it. |
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Feb 23 2005, 04:55 PM
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 *lurks around* Group: Member Posts: 624 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 15,932 |
^I agree.
'Cause you see..there's only so much you can say..and there is only so much you can do...before you realize that what you're saying will have no effect on them whatsoever.. She has to learn on her own. The hard way. =/. |
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Feb 23 2005, 05:00 PM
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 Vyna Group: Member Posts: 139 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,332 |
Ask her what she sees in him...If she only list the positives then press all the negatives characteristics of the guy into her head, just so she'd see what she is dealing with and that she deserve much more.
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Feb 23 2005, 05:32 PM
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*.'.'._gillie_.'.'.* Group: Member Posts: 563 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 101,217 |
QUOTE(VGyrl88 @ Feb 23 2005, 6:00 PM) Ask her what she sees in him...If she only list the positives then press all the negatives characteristics of the guy into her head, just so she'd see what she is dealing with and that she deserve much more. hmm very interesting.. i just might do that..and if she refuses to listen..then f**k it... i give up |
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