desperate to visit my friends & boyfriend, but i NEED my dad to let me =( help.. Options

[cewinee]

ok i didnt know where to put this topic under :(

anyway.. here's the deal..
my boyfriend was gona come here in april to visit me again (we're in a long distant relationship - 2years). we visit each other every 2-3months..
i live in Jordan (Middle East) and he lives in the Philippines (my Home Country).
I have no school from March 25th til the month of June which is when my exams are.

In the Philippines in April:
+My boyfriend is graduating
+My boyfriend has a tournament going on in April that i wanna be there for to support
+My friends are graduating and leaving for college abroad so it may be the last time i ever see them after a really long time
+They're all planning to go to Boracay (Beautiful beach in Philippines) for a graduating celebration, last time to see each other and all

So yeah ALOT is going on in April and i dont wanna miss out on alot of those things =( and i want my boyfriend to stay in Philippines to be able to spend quality time with his friends instead of coming here.
Also i miss my friends so much, and i need a break to get out of Jordan cuz i really hate it here and i barely go out..

Thing is.. i need my Dad's permission and i need him to pay for most of my ticket.. i'm willing to have him use my allowance, i don't care as long as i can go in april im so desperate =( I don't have a very close relationship with my dad and i barely ask him for anything, we never really talk, i dont know him really =/ Ticket should cost around $500-800.. I've been getting really good grades and its a MAJOR improvement from how i've been doing last year so maybe i could use that somehow? How should i start the conversation and end up asking him this permission? any other suggestions on what i can say to really convince him to let me go? what would u do if u were in the same situation? have any of you actually been through somethin like this n got ur parent to let you? anything! i'm so desperate to go please help =(


ps. (check below for replies by me to see updates!)

[aznhunnie6o1]

hmm start off the convo with something like "Dad... I haven't been asking for much from you, and Ive gotten really good grades and everything... so can you help pay for a ticket for me to go to the Philippines, you can take the money from my allowance" ect ect.

[Shattered_Hope]

Tell your dad the situation and work out a compromise.

[*mishyerr*]

^ I like that idea. ^^

[*Programmer*]

just ask your dad..if he'll let you go. that your willing to throw your money into the ticket. if nessasary. to meet the ticket price half way at least...but yeah..tell him you miss your friends and your bf.... and you really wanna go see how they're doing...(this only works for girls your so lucky)..but yeah good luck..dad's are suckers....cause they think their little girl is the bestest thing in the world..etc....

[cewinee]

hmm start off the convo with something like "Dad... I haven't been asking for much from you, and Ive gotten really good grades and everything... so can you help pay for a ticket for me to go to the Philippines, you can take the money from my allowance" ect ect.

yeah i like that =) thanks thanks.
any other way?

[cewinee]

just ask your dad..if he'll let you go. that your willing to throw your money into the ticket. if nessasary. to meet the ticket price half way at least...but yeah..tell him you miss your friends and your bf.... and you really wanna go see how they're doing...(this only works for girls your so lucky)..but yeah good luck..dad's are suckers....cause they think their little girl is the bestest thing in the world..etc....

really?? yeah thats believable actually hehe thanks alot!! =) that gets my confidence up! my dad and i never get along n never talk n all but i can tell that he really loves me alot.. he's not someone who hates me, i realized that only recently. so yeah thanks again for the confidence boost haha =))

[topsyturvy]

^ Yes, it's hard to realize that he loves you, it's just that he can't seem to strike up a normal conversation with you.

If I were you, I'd start off with "Hey Dad, I've been getting real good grades lately, and I don't usually ask much from you. You know how important friends and your love life are, right? (and possibly give an example from his life) Well, I can't seem to settle in here, and I really miss everyone back in the Phillipines.."

Then, if he says no, then tell him you'll use your own allowance money for the ticket. Just in case he agrees to pay for you. You want to save as much money as you can

Try to start out acting like you know he'll let you. Then increase the level of desperate-ness. In the end it's bound to work.

hehe

[cewinee]

^ Yes, it's hard to realize that he loves you, it's just that he can't seem to strike up a normal conversation with you.

If I were you, I'd start off with "Hey Dad, I've been getting real good grades lately, and I don't usually ask much from you.  You know how important friends and your love life are, right?  (and possibly give an example from his life)  Well, I can't seem to settle in here, and I really miss everyone back in the Phillipines.."

Then, if he says no, then tell him you'll use your own allowance money for the ticket.  Just in case he agrees to pay for you.  You want to save as much money as you can

Try to start out acting like you know he'll let you.  Then increase the level of desperate-ness.  In the end it's bound to work.

hehe

hey nice thats smart haha thanks alot thank thanks!! man u guys are helpful XD thank uuu!!

GUESS WAT tho!! i called the airlines!! and it turns out that its only $445 round trip!! not 800 or more!! it was only 800 last time cuz of the xmas season hahah IM SO F<3CKING HAPPY.. but yeah still gotta ask my dad! need to find a perfect time to ask now.. wahhh.. wish me luck!! throw me back anymore suggestions ok!! =) thanks SO much for ur help guys! ur awesome XD

[*stephinika*]

^^
aw thats so good to hear! i had a friend who had a long distance relationship before (vancouver, bc, canada to new jersey, usa) and it was so difficult so i'm glad to hear things are getting better for you. just find the perfect time and you'll have that money for your trip soon enough.

[cewinee]

^^
aw thats so good to hear! i had a friend who had a long distance relationship before (vancouver, bc, canada to new jersey, usa) and it was so difficult so i'm glad to hear things are getting better for you. just find the perfect time and you'll have that money for your trip soon enough.

thanks!!!! =) =) =)
im sooo nervous!! theres not really much to worry about, its jus i feel bad for asking for ME to take a break when he's been reeeally down lately cuz he really hates living here n wants to get out of here u know? =(
but eh, if my bf was gonna come here in the first place (n he knew that) then why not switch it to jus me going there..
i feel bad still =( but i realy wanna gooo..

thanks again for you help guys, U RULE! XD

[topsyturvy]

^ Hehe yays for you!! Hope the conversation with your dad goes well.

[misoshiru]

and add in how much you miss your friends and the philipines and sappy stuff like that. kiss up to him..hahah

[cewinee]

heyy umm a friend of mine suggested writing it all in a serious letter.. he says when someone sees it done professionally, they take it seriously. should i write it in a letter or ask verbally? wahhh