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 Feb 16 2005, 03:40 PM
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how to get this girl to stop smokin cause she depressed
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Feb 16 2005, 03:44 PM
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 insanitys contagious. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,210 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 99,707 |
tell her to stop.
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Feb 16 2005, 03:48 PM
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 Im as fake as a widow's smile ;) Group: Member Posts: 1,045 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 97,851 |
Tell her that you'll never talk to her again if she doesn't stop smoking
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Feb 16 2005, 04:03 PM
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POWAPOSTA Group: Member Posts: 3,169 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,725 |
^wtf?
(no, this isn't spam b/c that post was complete bullshut) |
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Feb 16 2005, 04:10 PM
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 ¢¾ Wanting it. ¢¾ Group: Member Posts: 2,060 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 39,234 |
tell her how much you care and how much you love her.. if you do ;[ why is this in the girls locker? thats okay not quite sure where it should be nvm. =D good luck
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Feb 16 2005, 04:36 PM
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 bad apple Group: Member Posts: 168 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 100,009 |
you can tell someone to stop, but it is up to them to quit. and telling them you aren't going to be their friends is sort of superficial, at least i think so. make a compromise, have her not smoke around you, and seeing you said she is depressed and you are her friend (im assuming here) do things with her that will make her happy. go to the park, make your own play/musical, make soap together. be there for her!
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Feb 16 2005, 04:45 PM
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 define our lives for us. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 11,656 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 43,293 |
IF YOU SMOKE, YOU'RE GOING TO GET CANCER AND DIE AND YOU WONT BE ABLE TO SMOKE EVER AGAIN!
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Feb 16 2005, 04:48 PM
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 Blasian, Asian, INVASION! Group: Official Member Posts: 4,288 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,769 |
Oh well, her lungs she screwing up so let her learn her lesson in about a couple of years.
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Feb 16 2005, 05:04 PM
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bad apple Group: Member Posts: 168 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 100,009 |
QUOTE(Spiritedfreak @ Feb 16 2005, 4:45 PM) IF YOU SMOKE, YOU'RE GOING TO GET CANCER AND DIE AND YOU WONT BE ABLE TO SMOKE EVER AGAIN!  ive know people whove smoked their entire lives, NEVER getting cancer and died from natural causes .. so yea. correlation doesn't necesrrily mean causation. meaning, because the amount of people havign cancer and who are smokers doesn't mean that it is the actual smoking that caused the cancer. there could be other variables that affected or influenced the cancer cells other than just tobacco. |
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Feb 16 2005, 05:05 PM
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 ;) Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 9,573 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 99,124 |
You've got to let them do what they think is best for them.
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Feb 16 2005, 05:13 PM
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define our lives for us. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 11,656 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 43,293 |
QUOTE(urbanychic @ Feb 16 2005, 5:04 PM) ive know people whove smoked their entire lives, NEVER getting cancer and died from natural causes .. so yea. correlation doesn't necesrrily mean causation. meaning, because the amount of people havign cancer and who are smokers doesn't mean that it is the actual smoking that caused the cancer. there could be other variables that affected or influenced the cancer cells other than just tobacco. That is true. But just say that to ermm. kinda scare herrr.. my mommy smokes. a lot. and for a long time. She hasn't had cancer yet or any sign. But cancer will damage your lungs. it'll be harder to breathe and cause your whole body to probably go wrong. when one thing is wrong, the whole ermm system isn't working correctly, but still is working. ... ^ Confusing. 
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Feb 16 2005, 06:15 PM
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POWAPOSTA Group: Member Posts: 3,169 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,725 |
QUOTE(Spiritedfreak @ Feb 16 2005, 4:45 PM) IF YOU SMOKE, YOU'RE GOING TO GET CANCER AND DIE AND YOU WONT BE ABLE TO SMOKE EVER AGAIN! uh. do you honestly think she doesn't know that? pretty much everyone is at risk for cancer. and everyone is going to die. |
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Feb 16 2005, 07:39 PM
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questions make me blue. Group: Member Posts: 2,608 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,796 |
it`s very kind of you to care about her well-being. promise her something so that she`ll stop smoking in exchange.
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Feb 16 2005, 07:50 PM
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 I'm with Stupid. Group: Member Posts: 410 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 4,973 |
Just throw all her cigarettes away. lol ..
Keep her busy ! Go ice-skating , draw a picture, anything that will keep her mind out of the nasty sticks. |
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Feb 16 2005, 08:13 PM
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tell her you care for her and that it is her best interest that she stop smoking but in the end it will be her decison
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Feb 16 2005, 08:16 PM
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QUOTE(Spiritedfreak @ Feb 16 2005, 2:45 PM) IF YOU SMOKE, YOU'RE GOING TO GET CANCER AND DIE AND YOU WONT BE ABLE TO SMOKE EVER AGAIN! Just what you wanna tell a depressed person, pft. You cannot get anyone to stop doing something they don't want to stop. You can tell them, but they'll take it or leave it. Can't change a person. |
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Feb 16 2005, 08:16 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 416 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 43,342 |
I think u should tell an adult about it 'cause that's really the best way to stop her/him
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Feb 16 2005, 09:07 PM
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 unify and defeat... divide and crumble Group: Member Posts: 2,759 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,379 |
just tell her straight up that you don't want to see her ruin her life like this. The most influential pressure comes from peer pressure, use it to your advantage
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Feb 16 2005, 11:00 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 734 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,507 |
Tell her, "If you really love me, you would stop."
My friend always uses that on his girlfriend. Uhh, also tell her how it could kill her and all that jazz. Go with the truth. |
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Feb 16 2005, 11:08 PM
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 I'll never be who I was again.. Group: Member Posts: 2,886 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 77,981 |
tell her u care about her and u dont want to see her like that...tell her the facts about smoking and how it affects her body...
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Feb 16 2005, 11:08 PM
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well saying "stop smoking right now!" won't rly get you anywhere unless they're brain is made of mush
lol. but i know it took about 6 months for me to stop smokign and it took family members, friends, and realizes what i was doing to my skin to stop. these things take time no one person can stop it instantly you just gotta be there for her and maybe try to refocus her energty n somethign else but most of all its going to take HER WANTING TO QUIT. becuz you can say "stop smoking right now!" until you are blue in the face but it won't do you much good until SHE wants to quit. remember that =).
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Feb 16 2005, 11:25 PM
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 Live Your Own Party Group: Member Posts: 1,261 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 7,489 |
i've been in this situation before with my friend jill. she used to be a smoker. i guess one of the reasons was depression.
but my two friends and i helped her quit. i guess we all came at it from different angles, though. my tactic was to be there to support her. i don't ever think you should stop being someone's friend because of something like that. i made it clear to her that i thought what she was doing is wrong and it's not only hurting her, but people around her and that she's too good for that sh!t and the only reason our friends are pressuring her is because we care. but i also made it clear that it was up to her. i told her that she was free to do whatever she wanted and no one could force her to stop but it wasn't right. so i left it up to her and gave her as much emotional and mental support as i could. sam and becky had different ideas, though. they threatened not to be her friend anymore and i understood that. i think they would have made up eventually no matter what, and i think their tactic definatly helped her stop smoking, but i didn't think it was right. i understood their position, but i also wanted to be there for jill to help her through the fights she had with sam and becky as well as the quiting. jill doesn't smoke anymore. i'd recomend trying the same with your friend. |
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Feb 17 2005, 12:04 AM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
tell her the health issues, and tell her how it makes you feel when she does smoke around you....you can help guide her but the decision to quit is AND WILL ALWAYS BE HERS.
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Feb 17 2005, 12:08 AM
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 Be mine ~* Group: Member Posts: 44 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 83,169 |
Tell her that...
Smoking doesn't help much when feeling depressed, it will just create more trouble ! Do something more positive, such as doing some exercise, chatting with friends... That's help a lot ! |
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Feb 17 2005, 12:09 AM
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tell her it'll just make things worse.
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Feb 17 2005, 12:27 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 55 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 98,738 |
... Tell her to stop and try to get her to get interested in something. Like a sport or a hobby... It'll take time... So if she's busy with something she enjoys, then she's
1 not depressed 2 too busy to smoke Sorry if that doesn't help :( |
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Feb 17 2005, 03:58 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
slap her in the face and ask her to stop.
jk jk tell her to stop, tell her that she can do sth else other than smoke |
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Feb 17 2005, 08:48 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,564 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,336 |
Blackmail her.
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