Dating Troubles, I really need to know if this is okay Options

[xsweet_as_candii...]

Alright well this is what im having trouble with.
Well I have this friend {{mandy}} who just got together with {{matt}} and she really really likes him. Well, a little while after they got together i started to like him to, it was hard for me because, she asked me to go with her on dates and stuff, and i just had to sit there acting happy for her, i just tried to hide the fact that i like him though because i knew i could never do anything about it, because i would never ever hurt my best friend like that. Well it turns out they broke up a couple of days ago, because they got in a fight so they are no longer together. Me and mandy are no longer friends {{it was a dumb reason she just got mad}} and dont think we will be for a while at least. So i was wondering do you think it would be okay for me to go out with matt? Because I still like him and i think he likes me to. Please help me i have absolutely no idea of what to do~

[*Weird addiction*]

hmm...i dont think u should date matt, i think u should move on, cuz friendship remains for ever, boys, they r everywhere. Just give her time, she'll come around

[xsweet_as_candii...]

thanks for your opinion, thats prolly wat i will end up doing.
p.s i love ur marige thing, and let me love you is my favorite song :)

[xsweet_as_candii...]

i wud also like some other opinions though, because this is very very hard for me, the deciding whether to ask him out, or say yes if he asks me, and the fact that mandy is mad at me

[xsweet_as_candii...]

okay me and mandy just became friends again, now do you think its okay or not okay?

[dahding]

1. NEVER EVER TRIPLE POST IN CB.

*ahem*

2. don't go out with him so soon. u'll probably turn into the rebound girl. and also, it'd be way too awkward for ur friend. besides, there are always more guys.

[xsweet_as_candii...]

sry i triple posted, i just really need help in this situation, and i didnt know what else to do. Yea, i was thinking of waiting like two weeks or something like that, but what if he got a new girlfriend by then? Gosh i have no idea what to do thanks for the advice though guys!

[*Programmer*]

meh go for it...
i know that's what you wanna hear
if she's your friend she won't let a guy come between you two

[xsweet_as_candii...]

ugh this is so confusing, i dont know wat i want to hear lol...ya i dont think she wud let it come between us...but i dont want to hurt her, if she still like him u kno...

[*Programmer*]

OK.
GO FOR IT
G-O-F-O-R-I-T!

[xsweet_as_candii...]

lol, okay then

[shortiiex]

Go for it....be happy...do something for yourself.....you don't need permission from you friends about your love life...

[xsweet_as_candii...]

thanks shortiie that really helped, your right i should do something for myself and not worry about my friend, but i really dont want a boy to come between me and her, because we've been best friends
go for it-2
back off-2
ugh

[_sarcastic_]

i think you should back off for now, i mean like you said she's your best friend, i don't think you want to ruin that because of a guy right? just wait for awhile until things are back on track and you're sure that she's pretty much over him, then maybe thing about going for it.

[*Programmer*]

hmm if she's her best friend. a guy shouldn't affect there friendship sarcastic.

[xsweet_as_candii...]

sarcastic, thanks ur prolly rite thats wat i was thinking of doing anyway, i mean i was gonna go and ask him out but then she got mad at me for something else, so i figured it prolly wudnt be a good time so ill prolly wait, u have agood point to tho, it shudnt matter if she broke up with him

[Shattered_Hope]

I think that you should go for it. Who knows? He might be the one for you.

[xsweet_as_candii...]

thanxx thats reasuring, im just wondering wud u think the same way if u were mandy? im just trying to see wats best.
go for it-3
bak off-3
ugh still confusing

[sweetdreamsx3]

Part of me says go for it. The other says back off.

Go for it
She's mad at you for a stupid reason like you said. If that's how it's going to be and she's not talking to you or something, then let it be.

Back off
She's your friend and "chicks before dicks". Your girls would always be there for you no matter what. Even if it's a little argument, you'll talk to each other sooner...

[BenignEnigma]

dont go out with him.

[xsweet_as_candii...]

sweetdreams, hm when u put it that way, im thinking more of the back off thing i really liked how u put it-chicks before dicks- thats really cute, anyways thanks for you help i really appriciate it. I love having a website like this where i can tell my problems, and no-one will judge me on it, and that i know ppl actually care and are trying to help me.

[to-devastate]

i think that you shouldn't date matt. i know its hard; but then your friends should come first. Boys come and go but friends will be there forever. Try to like another guy; but if the feeling doesn't go away after a long while, maybe you could ask him out. :]

[*Azarel*]

Mind elaborating on why she got mad at you?

[xsweet_as_candii...]

thanks dorkette {love the sn btw its cute} thats a good idea.
As for elaboarting surely.
She says that this year i am copying how ppl dress and the way they talk, which is not true at all, and i think it mean for her to say that because i am acting the same way i always have, so we're just a little mad at eachother rite now but i think she'll get over it soon.

[sweetdreamsx3]

^ Lmao. That is stupid.

[xsweet_as_candii...]

sweetdreams, i kno im a little mad at her too, because it seeems like shes always getting mad at me for the dumbest reasons, but oh well, i cud never give her up.

[_sarcastic_]

hmm if she's her best friend. a guy shouldn't affect there friendship sarcastic.

well it might, i mean her friend gets mad at little things

[xsweet_as_candii...]

yes sarcastic thats true i mean my other friends prolly wudnt get mad because i think mandy is over her, but i think the thought of me getting her ex, even if she duznt like him anymore would make her mad, god life was easier when boys had cooties lol

[_sarcastic_]

yes sarcastic thats true i mean my other friends prolly wudnt get mad because i think mandy is over her, but i think the thought of me getting her ex, even if she duznt like him anymore would make her mad, god life was easier when boys had cooties lol

^ lol i know what you mean.
hang in there girl, well getting mad when your best friend is with your ex is pretty normal i think. >_< i suggest you wait like one more week or sth till she's like fully over him but i seruosly think that she should be happy for the both of you

[CUTEBUNNY160]

if u still want to be mandy's friend i say wait a while before making a move...but if u REALY like this guy i say make a move.if he likes u and u like him go out. if mandy where a true friend she would at least ACT happy for u and matt like u did when they were going out. i wish the best of luck to u.

[LittleLulu]

mmmiieehhh... i dont think its a good idea. for you to go out with him.. n heres WHY

my EX>>. who now likes my BFF!!!...is being a total jerk to me...n all oggly over my BFF... she is my BFF n i love her to death ( in a non lezbo way)..but i am jus hell jelous of her...n hell pissed of at HIM... i HATE HIM... we ended rough... so i dont want my BFF dating him, but then i have no right to say no.. so i started liking this other guy to get my mind off of him..........it just sucks having the person i hate the most at school, always beside the person i love the most at school