Dating, What age is appropriate? Options

[youdrivinmegrape...]

What age do you guys think people should start dating?

I've seen so many youg kids like 5th and 6th grade having a lot of boyfriends and becoming obsessed with boys and all that. I was talking to this one girl online, because she wanted me to make her an icon for AIM and it had to do with a boy and over the couse of about 4 days I've done one for 3 different boys and she's 12 years old, so I guess 6th or 7th grade? She tells me all of them. She says something like we broke up. I sad aww I'm sorry or something and she's like oh but it's ok I got another one. So it's like you don't actually love the person or really care, so why do it. I think kids should start like serious dating in high school. The youngest I think kids should date is maybe 8th grade depending on how mature you are...whats your opinion?

If ther's already a topic on it sorry.

[OriskybusinessO]

I love your Dom signature!

I tottaly agree! Sometimes i think your parents are right. Because if your only 'going out' with someone because hes popular or just because he asked you, i think its stupid. I put going out in quotes because I dont really think anyone really goes out (im in 8th grade by the way), a few more serious couples do, but most people i just dont get why they are going out with anyone.

[youdrivinmegrape...]

yeah I agree..thank you lol

[Nicolatofu]

I can't stop the age that people start dating, but mostly I don't think people start having really serious realtionships until maybe 8th grade....However it's good for you to date before that even if it's not serious so you know people you enjoy being with, and people that you would like to be in a commited relationship with!

[OriskybusinessO]

Thats true, but i dont think many middle schoolers are thinking about committed relationships...

[youdrivinmegrape...]

yeah that is the one plus to it...we were talking about that last year in school, but like when kids act all "Omg I love him" and then they break up and have another boy the next day. That's pointless I think.

[ChellyDasWassup]

well u said serious n da girl u conversate w/ is just messing around having fun n breaking hearts lol...nothing to be taken seriously she is too young to fall in love...but u cant fight love...but neway 6th graders shouldn't take dating seriously...but by da time u in h.s u should be more mature about it...just my opinion

[OriskybusinessO]

Yea, I mean people are always talking about how 'ooh we've been going out for 2 weeks i think its pretty serious' yea right!

[youdrivinmegrape...]

^^haha yeah I know...kids at that age don't know true love, well some might, but it's rare. They should still be having fun being a kid, not worrying about oh he loves me we're serious and all that

[longLOST_102]

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i think ppl should start dating when u think u really really~ LOVE someone, like u can't leave that person, and like if that person dies then u want to die also.

that should be at least 8th grade.

i want a boyfriend too~ i mean someone really really cares about me and really really love me. all the guys i like are nice to me, but i don't think they LOVE me. im still looking for a true love~~~

[OriskybusinessO]

Such as Lloyd Dobler? Me too...

[youdrivinmegrape...]

...yeah me 2

i think ppl should start dating when u think u really really~ LOVE someone, like u can't leave that person, and like if that person dies then u want to die also.

exactly right

[xj_liana_tx]

everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but i think it's appropriate whenever a person has matured or knows enough about responsibility to do so.

[_sarcastic_]

well i guess some ppl just wants a bf, for the sake of having one

[youdrivinmegrape...]

well i guess some ppl just wants a bf, for the sake of having one

that's what it seems like they do...and yeah when they do reach that maturity level it's fine, like I said sometimes young kids do realize true love, but not many. They're too immature and don't understand.

[*stephinika*]

everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but i think it's appropriate whenever a person has matured or knows enough about responsibility to do so.

agreed. but yeah...at least i think in the teenage years...preteen seems a bit...young.

[xsweetxcandyx]

they just want to hook up so they can say.. "o yea, I dated him back in 7th grade" when they're like in high school. PLus to them dating is the best way to earn "popularity points"

[Heewee]

Honestly, I don't think that we're capable of having a meaningful relationship until the later part of high school or even after that. However, there are exceptions because people mature at different rates. If you have a boyfriend or girlfriend in middle school or below, then most likely, it's just to have one or because they're the crush of the week...not because you see a future with them.

[tresa1992]

Yeah, I agree with you.

I regret dating the two guys I dated in 6th grade, I'm in 7th now.

I realized that when I dated them, it wasn't a serious sort of thing.

I now realize that I don't want to date just because I can.

[shortiiex]

any age...but i think High school is when you are a little more serious

[lovescream]

Well, it's their choice. In 4th grade here, people statred dating.
My first bf was at the age of 11. 6th grade. We broke up a while back.. but yeah, aren't like all girls, no matter what age, obsessed with guys? I mean.. when hormones start kicking in.. guys are hot.

I'm obsessed with my crush.

[megan_x3]

HmMmM.. im in 6... i know dat sum guys does like me. but i dun like dem becuz dey're not kute . but uh.. mah sis n mah other frds , dey espically say dat i look older for my age. =D really older. which i am really proud of, dat means im growin up fast. ( i already got my pd =) so... but i think it really depends if ur mature enough to be wit someone u like. n lil kid thinks dey're so popular just becuz dey got a bf, or gf. dey're so retarded when dey think it like dat. u dun make urself popular when someone likes u. u only feel happy for urself becuz u got ppl attracted to u. =D dats a good ding !!! bbbut !! ppl i mean ppl really start to get "obsessed" wit gurls/guys when u start developing..

[Looow]

Honestly, I don't think that we're capable of having a meaningful relationship until the later part of high school or even after that. However, there are exceptions because people mature at different rates. If you have a boyfriend or girlfriend in middle school or below, then most likely, it's just to have one or because they're the crush of the week...not because you see a future with them.

agreed

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HmMmM.. im in 6...  i know dat sum guys does like me. but i dun like dem becuz dey're not kute .  but uh.. mah sis n mah other frds , dey espically say dat i look older for my age. =D really older.  which i am really proud of, dat means im growin up fast. ( i already got my pd =) so... but i think it really depends if ur mature enough to be wit someone u like. n lil kid thinks dey're so popular just becuz dey got a bf, or gf. dey're so retarded when dey think it like dat. u dun make urself popular when someone likes u. u only feel happy for urself becuz u got ppl attracted to u. =D dats a good ding !!!  bbbut !! ppl i mean ppl really start to get "obsessed" wit gurls/guys when u start developing.. 

WHAT did you say..? gosh.. i didn't understand a word you said.. =//

[ThePrincessofTKD]

i think it depends on level of maturity & common sense.

[dani41790]

i kinda get annoyed when kids that age like start having bfs or gfs and act like its serious or something. i think 8th grade is good or atleast 13.

[FLIPxADDICTION]

yeah 13, seems mature enough. i remember kids having boyfriends/girlfriends at age 9-10 i mean can you even go on dates or anything?

[Wishful_Dream]

ughh i'm in eight grade.. i noticed that most of the couples they talk about the future like, "we're going to get married.. our pre-promise ring.." and junk.. it really scares me...

[chongmaggie007]

Well ~ People start dating in such a young age is quite a tragedy ( to me ) ~ I don't know... I mean they will not take it seriously, and do not really understand the true meaning of dating...
To me, I think people should start dating only when they are 16...
Maybe it is a a-bit-too-old thought... But that's how I feel

[youdrivinmegrape...]

Well, it's their choice. In 4th grade here, people statred dating.
My first bf was at the age of 11. 6th grade. We broke up a while back.. but yeah, aren't like all girls, no matter what age, obsessed with guys? I mean.. when hormones start kicking in.. guys are hot.

yes..I knew a fourth grade boy who dated this girl in 6th grade, I was in her class too so yeah 6th grade. I think that was weird and too young...of course girls are obsessed with guys, but that doesn't mean that we have to go out with all of them when we're like 10 years old.

ughh i'm in eight grade.. i noticed that most of the couples they talk about the future like, "we're going to get married.. our pre-promise ring.." and junk.. it really scares me...

When we were in 8th grade my this one kid went out with my friend and he started getting like that with her. Weird...She broke up with him because she wanted to just be a kid and have fun, not being serious with that kind of stuff...she did the right thing

[177emories]

when you get into high school.

[*mishyerr*]

13 for silly, school-based relationships

when you get your driver's liscense age + for serious, love, romantic relationships

[ladymahogany87]

13 for silly, school-based relationships

when you get your driver's liscense age + for serious, love, romantic relationships

I agree with this, but I don't think you should really put a specific age on it because some girls mature faster than others. In other words, for not so serious relationships, when the girl acts like she's thirteen she is ready and when she acts like she is 16 she is ready for a more serious relationship.

[*mishyerr*]

I meant 13 as a generalization.. like that age where your hormones are all freakin out on you and you just wanna LOOVEEEE someone. ;D

And drivers liscense age because it's so hard to date when you can NOT drive.. I mean, who's gonna take you out? Your parents?

[inlonelinessidie]

when you get into high school.

Finally a comment I agree with. When you're in high school I think you are of age to start dating. Middle School/Junior High and Grade school are WAY too young in my opinion. Kids get carried away with it, and believe that they are old enough to do anything. They take the relationship too seriously and believe that this boy/girl friend will be with them forever, and do things that they will regret later on in life.

At least when you are in high school, most people have their head on straighter than when you were 11. Plus if you happen to have sex, you won't be too young compared to getting pregnant when you're 11. It's just common sense. Kids are growing up too fast these days in my opinion, and I think it's such a shame. Enjoy your childhood, you only get one. Don't grow up too fast because there will be nothing to look forward to when you are older.

[iheartsimba]

I don't think age really maters, more maturity level

[lilJdawg]

Hm. same. i had my first boyfriend in the 7th grade but yeah. i guess your right.

[lady_karamelle]

u know, when I was in elementary school, we all had boyfriends, but like, we never even kissed them. it was basically I like you you like me yay we're together. we never "went out" or actually dated or anything. the most we did was b-day parties. so I mean, thats the age for girls to realise boys dont have cooties. and its also a confidence boost. a girl who has a boy who likes her, feels accepted. easy as that...

[Just_Dream]

I didn't start officially dating until I was in 8th grade. I was 13 at the time when I had my first official boyfriend lol.

I can't really say what age someone should have a boyfriend but I would say 13... but that's just my preference.

[*Weird addiction*]

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[captured_serenit...]

i think dating is apporiate for ages 16 and up, because that's when you start to realize how mature your getting and the guys aren't. =) heehee...

[blurredvision]

i dont believe in a serious relationship before highschool.....come on, those kids still play yugio in 8th grade!

[youdrivinmegrape...]

i dont believe in a serious relationship before highschool.....come on, those kids still play yugio in 8th grade!

OMG I KNEW THIS KID LIKE THAT!! He's in 8th grade now, really long story, but he still plays with yugioh and digimon and he seriously believes that one day when his mother was cooking eggs in a frying pan, he was cracked out of one of those eggs, seriously no lie this kids crazy. His friends like that too but not as bad as him...Yeah I don't think kids should date until they're in high school either. Like you ppl saud, they don't actually go out anywhere they just use the term "going out" its kinda stupid I think

[angelrevelation]

yea its so annoying how kids as young as like 10 start getting obsessed with the opposite sex (usually seems to be girls but...)

i think an appropriate age is about 9th or 10th grade, because you're just so much more mature (usually) and are more... yourself. you know what and (hopefully) are comfortable with what your beliefs, self image, and just who you are. this makes people see each other for who thy really are, and then can have easier and better relationships and understandings.

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[sandy_lumpy_shor...]

whenever they feel mature enof to date

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whenever they feel mature enof to date

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whenever they feel mature enof to date

[sandy_lumpy_shor...]

whenever they feel mature enof to date

[sandy_lumpy_shor...]

whenever they feel mature enof to date

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whenever they feel mature enof to date

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whenever they feel mature enof to date

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whenever they feel mature enof to date

[sandy_lumpy_shor...]

whenever they feel mature enof to date

[youdrivinmegrape...]

yea its so annoying how kids as young as like 10 start getting obsessed with the opposite sex (usually seems to be girls but...)

i think an appropriate age is about 9th or 10th grade, because you're just so much more mature (usually) and are more... yourself. you know what and (hopefully) are comfortable with what your beliefs, self image, and just who you are. this makes people see each other for who thy really are, and then can have easier and better relationships and understandings.

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lol nice speach I agree. I know when I was younger I wasn't much like I am now like with what you said about being yourself and all. Being in the middle of 9th grade, I know more about beliefs and who I am and what not haha yeah

and above me...you only have to click the add reply button once, not 25 times

[eli5e]

i remember when i was in 5th grade.... there's was a couple in my class T_T ...that is TOOOOO young

[youdrivinmegrape...]

^^ yeah 5th grade is exteemely young...when I was in 5th grade, well mostly 4th grade we still ran away from boys in the school yard, nowadays the girls are dating em

[priyas]

hey...i think 13ish is the appropriate age...my mom thinks 17...but wtvr

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[*salcha*]

i agree.
i think waiting until high school when you're actually committed/mature would result in a better relationship

[youdrivinmegrape...]

pryiyas...you mom's probably right there haha...and for ur attatchment, are you trying to make a signature?

[OriskybusinessO]

yea... i used to think like that priyas. But now i realized that my perents were probably close, they say 16, which think is ok, even thought i'll be a junior...

[Shattered_Hope]

I think that nowadays, many couples that are in their teenage years and younger are together becuz they dont want to be alone. When you see a couple...they're making out, holding hands, etc. it ends later in the month maybe, and the cycle plays itself again..I doubt many people are serious nowadays...but there are some that do take it seriously...so I think it depends on the person to begin with...

[melomelo]

o... well im nearly 13 and ive been going out for 3 months ... people say im really mature...not cuz im dating , but because apparently i am... im one of the first ppl dating in my year...but i can tell he really loves me...do u think i should be going out?

[-SuN-KiSSeD-]

Yeah, it's really hard to judge what's the appropriate age...but I guess somewhere between 8th grade to highschool should be the starting point. It's hard to judge whether people are in a relationship just for kicks, or if they really wanna have something special with the person...
Although, my sister's friend just got married and they've been going outsince the 7th grade!! that's insane but so sweet lol

[lilsweetdevil08]

I think 15 is the right age...Maybe 16. I think that is the right age.

[OriskybusinessO]

o... well im nearly 13 and ive been going out for 3 months ... people say im really mature...not cuz im dating , but because apparently i am... im one of the first ppl dating in my year...but i can tell he really loves me...do u think i should be going out?

If you are mature enoguh, and it doesnt seem like on of thoese '2-weekers' yea.

[D1SMANTLED]

To date just for fun, i guess 13.

To date seriously (for marriage).. after high-school.

[xourzest]

i dunno im 10 but like 2 guys asked me out i said no..lol.but not jarrett...

[apple.]

yeah, i think people should start dating at least in grade 8.no before

[DixieDaCutie]

to date for fun, 12-13...it really depends on the ppl.... as long as they dont take it too seriously then any age is fine_!

[Spunknicity]

i sorta agree. i think that middle shcool is about right, because people like me at that age can have perfectly fine relationships and not just like, "oops, there goes another boifriend, oh well, too late, got another, oh whoops that one's gone too.."

[hpsm2]

i guess in eight grade is appropriate? My brother's new school, almost all the students there are desperate to have a bf/gf.

[hpsm2]

oh ya and my brother is only in elementary. All the people there are desperate. No offense though but it's gross cause this one girl urged my brother to be her's.

[youdrivinmegrape...]

^^ That's screwed up...no offense to nay of you but girls between grapes 5-7, usually the younger one's can get very desperate. I know this one girl and she's 11 she has "I WANT A BF!!!!" witten all over her profile and all that crap. It's kinda weird, and very desperate =l

[*mzkandi*]

i think it depends on level of maturity & common sense.

i totally agree. its always funny to hear 12 years saying that they are in love....i think to myself girl you dont know what love is. i didnt start dating til i was 17 becuz by then i was getting ready to go to college and leave all the immature boys from my hometown behind

[tabbyradburn]

I know this one girl who dated my best friend (best guy friend) and it lasted only 3 days, and the next day she was basically all over another guy. Jeez...she's had like...30 boyfriends since 5th grade, and we're only in the middle of 7th grade. (My friend counted. 0_0) I felt sorry for my bgf. ='(

[xLil SweetnezZx]

I H A T E it when my friends get on like that >.< They've all had boyfriends and girlfriends in the third grade and they think of it seriously.....I think they need help. =D

[teeners4]

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