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 Jan 24 2005, 09:42 PM
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okay so me and boyfriend, we can't really work things out. like the relationship seems unbalance. and we're not treating each other so great. so he wants to take a break. we still like each other but we're just gonna separate for a period of time. but do you think that's a good idea? will it change our relationship in the future? if we don't do that, do you guys have any other suggestions? thanks.
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Jan 24 2005, 09:45 PM
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 Blasian, Asian, INVASION! Group: Official Member Posts: 4,288 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,769 |
this is what my ex told me when we went on our break..(then eventually he broke up wit me for good..i dont think tellin you this will help) well NE way my ex told me that if we were able to get through a break, we can get through anything so think of this as just another obsticle and that if you two pass it, you guys will be some couple that will stay w/ each other for a long time
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Jan 24 2005, 09:49 PM
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 whaaaaaaat? Group: Member Posts: 2,293 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,660 |
problems lead to fights. fights lead to breaks. breaks lead to misconceptions. misconceptions lead to breakups. and then u'll burst out into tears and then there's gonna be that period of time where ur all mopey and sad. so....yeah.
no breaks. work it out..ur a couple, thats what ur supposed to do.. wish i could say more. ur not really stating the problem with ur relationship. if u were a little more specific about the problems, i could help a lot more. hope things get better for u and ur boyfriend. |
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Jan 24 2005, 09:51 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 6,953 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 52,702 |
didn't you watch "FRIENDS"? ....when ross and rachel took a "break"
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Jan 24 2005, 09:57 PM
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 Yea Yea. Group: Member Posts: 837 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 79,366 |
most breaks lead to breaking up completely or even more distorted relationships. but thats jus from what i've seen.
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Jan 24 2005, 11:00 PM
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 This is all my luck, it's all I got. Group: Member Posts: 1,373 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 76,532 |
If he wants a break that ussually means that his gonna break up with you later on but sometimes its just because he really dose wants a break im not sure though
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Jan 24 2005, 11:45 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,220 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 81,808 |
u dint think thats all good cause when theres a time when you want to get bac with him, theres a chance of him not wanting you, so that just loosing your relationship with him, but if there isnt any connection, like you arenttreating each toehr , then i guess you should break up and meet new people...
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Jan 25 2005, 12:23 AM
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do something what he wants and later he will start realizing that you done soo much for him .. eventually he will do something for you .
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Jan 25 2005, 12:25 AM
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it may help to ease the strain on your current relationship however it may cause a bigger rift to grow between you too. if you guys really need a break then you guys should take it. if you guys are meant to be, then after the break, you guys should be together again.
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Jan 25 2005, 03:46 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
breaks are ok, but it'll eventually lead to breakups. so the best thing to do is to talk it out with each other i mean like the above said, that's what couples do. so talk to him about it work it out
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Jan 25 2005, 04:23 PM
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 highfive. Group: Member Posts: 1,301 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 32,951 |
breaks are dumb. Don't listen to him. Talk out your probelms with him and if he's still like "ehh", then break up with him before he breaks your heart.
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Jan 26 2005, 12:51 AM
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 i'm a d0rk =) Group: Member Posts: 209 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 88,870 |
well sometimes breaks can be good. cause if your both feeling strain from finals or whatnot. its good to just be away from each other for a bit to ease the added stress it might be putting on. me and my bf are on a break now and really its just about the trust. w/o trust there is no relationship. i trust him and i know we'll be back together. =)
if you guys really are going on a break you can like set a date so it wont be hard to ask.. so ...are we done our break now? cause then you might even tually get to the point where you've drifted soo much that you dont even talk to each other anymore. so its best to say.. ohh how bout break for a month or whatnot. |
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Jan 26 2005, 04:07 AM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
QUOTE(aznxboredxperson @ Jan 25 2005, 1:23 PM) do something what he wants and later he will start realizing that you done soo much for him .. eventually he will do something for you .  thats true..but i think it applies only if you do go on a break. |
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Jan 26 2005, 05:24 AM
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how are things not working out..?
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Jan 26 2005, 03:43 PM
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Is it sort of like a "you hurt me, I hurt you back" kind of thing right now? If so, I know what you're talking about. Same dilemma at the moment...I think a break would help. It gives you both time to sort out what you're thinking. If it does eventually lead to a break-up, it'll be easier to take (not that breaking up's ever easy to take). What I'm doing is I'm meeting up w/2 of my closest gal pals this weekend...no boy drama! You should try it!
Best wishes 
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Jan 26 2005, 05:03 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
You can't take breaks in life becuz it's just delaying the inevitable reality of a breakup if you decide to take a break..just work the problem out...if you give it your best effort...there is almost...no problem you can't solve.
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Jan 26 2005, 09:57 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,564 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,336 |
that's a big No No. breaks lead to break ups. Work things out with your boyfriend. that happened to me, my ex boyfriend said that he wanted to go on break & he never spoken since & he's going out with one of my friends. it's cool with me because i went out with somebody & yeah. i've moved on.
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Jan 27 2005, 12:12 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 104 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 2,040 |
not all "breaks" leads to break up, because i am on one right now, and imma get back with her soon, in the future, because we dont want the stupid complications to get in the way of things, yea, its true that in life, their is no breaks but you just cant help it sometimes.. if you can wait its great, remember love is patience =] best of luck for you..
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