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saying "i love you", how early is to early?
RavedandConfused
post Jan 3 2005, 02:33 PM
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ok so one of the girls i've been dating has told me she loves me after only 3 weeks......is this to early? what are your experiences?
 
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post Jan 3 2005, 03:21 PM
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its early if you they just say it to say it but dont mean it.
 
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post Jan 3 2005, 05:37 PM
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i think thats kina early...but then again if she really does mean it, its the right time!
 
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post Jan 3 2005, 05:41 PM
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Personally, I think it's a bit early.. but I don't know.
 
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post Jan 3 2005, 05:43 PM
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too early i'd say. how old are you guys?
 
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post Jan 3 2005, 05:44 PM
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too early i'd say. how old are you guys?
 
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post Jan 3 2005, 05:51 PM
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eh, i guess it is a bit early, unless she really means it.
 
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post Jan 3 2005, 06:17 PM
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i'm 23. and like i said we've only been dating for about 6 weeks and 3 weeks ago she told me "i love you." When we first started dating it kinda started like "friends with benefits" to be honest. I know i like her but I haven't even committed, let alone goten to the point where i can say "i love you" to her. Those 3 words are pretty important to me and I don't just throw them around
 
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post Jan 3 2005, 06:34 PM
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it's too early... because your... 23
 
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post Jan 3 2005, 06:38 PM
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Umm.. Yeah. It might be. Plus you might be sending her the signs that you feel the same way, you might want to change that.
 
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post Jan 3 2005, 06:43 PM
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3 weeks and already saying i love you. damn thats heckkkaaa earlly. sometimes peopel just say those words, cuz they cant find another word to use. curious. what is a word for more than like but less than love. =\
 
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post Jan 3 2005, 06:50 PM
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by the way: she's 22 if you were wondering
 
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post Jan 3 2005, 06:57 PM
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i personally think it's way too soon. Then again that's just me .. ermm.gif
 
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post Jan 3 2005, 07:11 PM
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the question is.. do you think its too soon?
 
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post Jan 3 2005, 08:31 PM
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It might be too early, but if she really means it then don't think so
 
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post Jan 3 2005, 08:33 PM
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the thing is i really do think she loves me......she's amazing but like i said i haven't even decided if i want anything more than dating yet.....

the practical part of me says she rushed into saying it

but another part of me is amazed she can open up her heart to me

either way i'm a little scared and excited at the same time at the way things are going
 
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post Jan 3 2005, 09:10 PM
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i'd wait another month or two
 
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post Jan 3 2005, 09:15 PM
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Saying I love you

Is not the words I want to hear from you

It's not that I want you

Not to say, but if you only knew

How easy it would be to show me how you feel

More than words is all you have to do to make it real

Then you wouldn't have to say that you love me

Cos I'd already know


mmmmm I like that song.

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post Jan 3 2005, 09:33 PM
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well...
i guess loving someone doesn't base on time...
but 3 weeks is pretty quick...
good luck.
 
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post Jan 3 2005, 09:35 PM
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QUOTE(Solipsist @ Jan 3 2005, 9:15 PM)
Saying I love you

Is not the words I want to hear from you

It's not that I want you

Not to say, but if you only knew

How easy it would be to show me how you feel

More than words is all you have to do to make it real

Then you wouldn't have to say that you love me

Cos I'd already know


mmmmm I like that song.

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What song is that?

anyways, like what mireh said, you should wait a couple more months
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post Jan 3 2005, 09:44 PM
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Well.. It depends on the people.. But if she really does love you then its never too early. Though.. some people just overuse the phrase. Or think they're in love but aren't...

If you really think she loves you, then she probably does. All you have to do is decide wether or not you love her too.
 
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post Jan 3 2005, 09:48 PM
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post Jan 3 2005, 10:34 PM
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QUOTE(pikimoo @ Jan 4 2005, 10:44 AM)
Well.. It depends on the people.. But if she really does love you then its never too early. Though.. some people just overuse the phrase. Or think they're in love but aren't...

If you really think she loves you, then she probably does. All you have to do is decide wether or not you love her too.
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agree with you. If u love her too, this is ur chance.
 
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post Jan 3 2005, 10:39 PM
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QUOTE(_sarcastic_ @ Jan 3 2005, 7:35 PM)
What song is that?

anyways, like what mireh said, you should wait a couple more months
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its called 'more than words'. nice song.
 
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yeah it seems kinda early and with that kinda situation...but yeah i agree with you. i'd wait to say it until i really, really meant it.
 
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post Jan 4 2005, 08:28 AM
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post Jan 4 2005, 11:45 AM
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QUOTE(xj_liana_tx @ Jan 3 2005, 6:34 PM)
it's too early... because your... 23
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Well, i don't really think that just because he is 23 is a good excuse for it to be "too early". When you are in LOVE, age really doesn't mean anything. Most likely, you love your mom right? Probly since you were born. So who's to say you can't love someone else just as quickly?

... think about it.
 
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post Jan 4 2005, 11:57 AM
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What does it matter? People say "I love you" all the time without meaning it.

Notice what she says and how she acts. As in, she loves you, but does her actions show her love for you?
 
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post Jan 4 2005, 03:00 PM
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i think partly i'm a little scared because she had broken up w/ her ex of 3 years late last summer (about 5 months ago). god, love can be confusing
 
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within a week or two weeks of the relationship
 
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post Jan 5 2005, 03:26 AM
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it's not really too early if she really means it. i mean, cant u be loving someone in 3 weeks? yess, yes u can.
 
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QUOTE(RavedandConfused @ Jan 4 2005, 3:00 PM)
i think partly i'm a little scared because she had broken up w/ her ex of 3 years late last summer (about 5 months ago).  god, love can be confusing
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Like I said, if she wants to tell you that she loves you, that's great and all, but what's more important is how she shows her love. Remember the saying "you talk the talk but you can't walk the walk"?

If she says she loves you and her feelings for you are projected through her actions, then live for the moment. Why take into consideration of all the past when it can hinder your happiness with her? If you doubt her, question her, then it's going to hurt her and she'll break up with you eventually.

It also shows how insecure you are. Though it is okay to be insecure sometimes, don't let it rule your life and destroy this chance of love for you.
 
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post Jan 5 2005, 07:36 PM
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Only if she means it, it's not to early at all.
 
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post Jan 6 2005, 01:49 AM
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f**king this girl met my bf for less then a week and says she loves him! WTF? get a life. Hate it when ppl use the word LOVE freely when they don't know what it means.
 
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post Jan 6 2005, 07:26 PM
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i dunno .. depends i guess
 
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post Jan 6 2005, 07:47 PM
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Highly doubt she meant it. She barley knows you after 3 weeks.. That is way too early.
 
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post Jan 6 2005, 08:15 PM
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I think it's too early but if she says it & means it, then it's okay. I think you should wait 'bout another month or so.
 
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post Jan 7 2005, 02:53 AM
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haha everybody with their early boyfriends and girlfriends usually, say "i love you" and don't really understand the true meaning of the words. Umm. I think your friend is a little too early for saying that. True love is hard to find and it takes a long ass time to find your "soul mate" or "the one" ermm.gif
 
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post Jan 7 2005, 09:47 PM
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well it really depends. how long have you known her b4 you guys went out? and how well do you?
you see my bf; we knew each other for.. a long time. so we like said it like yeah.. :]
do YOU love her?
 
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post Feb 2 2005, 08:16 PM
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does she REALLY mean it? how old are you 2?
 
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post Feb 6 2005, 06:20 PM
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post Feb 6 2005, 11:31 PM
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QUOTE(tungtwista @ Jan 3 2005, 5:43 PM)
3 weeks and already saying i love you. damn thats heckkkaaa earlly. sometimes peopel just say those words, cuz they cant find another word to use. curious. what is a word for more than like but less than love. =\
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the word for that would be "lust". and yea, thats way to friggin early.
 
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Yep that's early. I had my friend's friend come over, and in an hour he just confessed he like me. O___OT
 
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post Feb 18 2005, 11:07 AM
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QUOTE
Definition of Love
(1) : strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties
(2) : attraction based on sexual desire : affection and tenderness felt by lovers
(3) : affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests
(4) : warm attachment, enthusiasm, or devotion <love of the sea>
(5): the object of attachment, devotion, or admiration
(6) : a beloved person : DARLING -- often used as a term of endearment
(7) British -- used as an informal term of address

                                  -taken from Merriam-Webster Online


I think if any of this relates to your situation...its never too early
 
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post Feb 18 2005, 11:29 AM
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i think there is a difference between loving someone and being in love with them. she could possibly love you after only three weeks but i don't really know if she could be IN LOVE with you! i personally think it is too early. mellow.gif
 
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one day is 2 early.
 
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post Feb 18 2005, 12:43 PM
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Asking you out and then saying I love you is WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY too early.
 
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post Feb 18 2005, 01:17 PM
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after a day or two, thats just gonna be scary for me when they say i love you already. most of the time, it's mostly not.
 
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post Feb 18 2005, 01:39 PM
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i guess its too early to say it before ou feel it.

after you have falen in love, why not let it out.

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post Feb 18 2005, 01:42 PM
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Its hard to say... I am having a difficult time deciding also... When its alright to do it... Ive been in love before but, love just came naturally so maybe thats what you have to do... Just wait till you feel it...
 
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Hmm. Me and my ex didn't really say that til about one month, I didn't mean it til about 2 months, and I wasn't really "in love" til about 8 months.
 
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meh...iunno...love is a strong word...takes time.....besides that....probabaly trust..
 
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post Feb 18 2005, 02:35 PM
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Me and my boyfriend said it in a month... and we mean it from the bottom of our hearts. But we were also best friends for a year and a half before we started going out.... so maybe that's why.
 
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NO it's not too early if she meant it.

YES it is too early if she didnt' mean it.

i think she meant it.. how long have yall knew each other before dating? well that doesn't matter much.. maybe a lil.. but still.. she could be in love with you now.
i said it to my bf when i meant it, but it was kind of too early if you dont know about it.. but hey, i did meant it 100 percent, so afterall, it wasn't too early for me to say it.
 
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I think it's okay... It took me about 2-3 weeks of dating my current boyfriend to realize that loved my boyfriend. Maybe it was early for me to say it, but I truly meant it. And to this day, I still mean it, with all my heart.

It's okay to say it.. as long as that person really means it.
 
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post Mar 11 2005, 11:48 PM
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Everyone has there own opinion maybe she feels as if she really loves you No one knows whats going on thru her mind so its not that easy to say whether or not she really does love you ...Only u can help ur self on this one and decided if she really does or not Good luck
 
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i don't think early or age has anything to do with love. if your saying she/he's to young to fall in love that's bullshit. have long have you known each other? chances are if you've been friends for some time she's had feelings for you for a long time as well. you're liking of her may have just started but don't necessarily assume it's the same in her case. if you can accept it that's fine, and if you can't say it that's fine too. but if you guys have been friends for a considerably short time, too soon.
 
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well it kinda depends. if you've known her for a long time then i guess 3 weeks is ok. my bf and i started saying i love you early in our relationship because we were bestfriends for a while and have grown to love eachother before we started dating. maybe similar like that happened to your gf but maybe not for you.
 
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QUOTE(RavedandConfused @ Jan 3 2005, 6:17 PM)
i'm 23. and like i said we've only been dating for about 6 weeks and 3 weeks ago she told me "i love you."  When we first started dating it kinda started like "friends with benefits" to be honest.  I know i like her but I haven't even committed, let alone goten to the point where i can say "i love you" to her.  Those 3 words are pretty important to me and I don't just throw them around
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Girls get attached to guys easier then guys.

Whatever you do, do not say I love you back. It will definitely complicant things further if you lead her on into believing you feel the same way as she does.
 
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its to early.

dont say it back unless you mean it
 
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yes... w/ me nd my guy it took a while lyk a month or two but rite now im not sure if i love him as much as i used to ermm.gif
 
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at least one month...three weeks...maybe not to early...but it might...it kinda depends on how the other person feels...
 
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No.. Nothing is ever too early.. If you have feelings like that, then it's not too early.
 
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ehh. i think its early pinch.gif
 
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post Apr 10 2005, 07:21 PM
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It depends. How long have you known her and how close are you with her? Besides all that, possibly since you seem to be uncomfortable with it.
 
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its never too early if you`re really feeling it.
 
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heh my boyfriend said it last night to me. :P

doesn't matter about the time, just make sure you mean it.
 
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I think its ok when they actually mean it. it doesnt mean like a week or somethin. maybe after a few months IF they wernt ur best friend for a while before going out I guess..
 
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two weeks.

and if after three weeks, you haven't said it, you're an evil person.

/ sarcasm.

BLEH. you say 'i love you ' when you love someone.

if you don't know whether or not, then don't say it.
 
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QUOTE(sadolakced acid @ Apr 10 2005, 6:22 PM)
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you can fall in love in any time period just depend on if it really is love


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i dont know..i've been with my bf..for..1 month...as of today..and we've said "i luv u" or "luv ya" or "love you lots" or "i heart you"...

but not the totaly

I LOVE YOU

like that...so its a bit different...but i actually really want to say it to him i dont know why.

i just..love him =S
 
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wen u feel it u say it. there's no such thing as to early or too late. if u feel it then u can say it. i know someone who said it in less than a month too n they felt the same about each other.
 
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I say I love you when I feel it..
 

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