anybody, feel/felt this way? Options

[x shootingstar x]

your bf
you knoe he likes hot girls (and yes every guy is shallow) and all that before he liked you. the reason he liked you was becaues you are the only one who can really talk to him and stuff. yall have things in common. after yall go out.. you really love him. Yet, you feel that you're not the type he wants.. and yall talk about this. You told him how you felt.. and he said that he loves you because of who you are.

This is the problem.. these days.. i feel that i'm too ugly for him.. and all those things.. i feel that i'm not good enough for him or anything. sigh*

plz tell me what to do..

[inthemudhole]

Well.
I guess it's just a case of low self-esteem.
Does he think you're too ugly for him?
If he does, get rid of that bastard.

[toodlepops.]

learn to trust. but if says that u are ugly, dump him

[x shootingstar x]

yeh it's low self-esteem based on the way i feel about my looks. he doesn't think i'm ugly. and he told me that.. and i knoe what you would say to me.. you would say "well then don't care.. it just matters if he thinks u'r ugly for him" BUT it's me.. i dun feel happy about it.. i just feel that i'm too ugly for him and that i'm not hot like the others that he likeD.

[Shattered_Hope]

everyone goes through that phase..but one day..maybe in the near future you'll change your views...why don't you take a little break...and like spend more time with your friends.. and see what they say?

[x shootingstar x]

learn to trust. but if says that u are ugly, dump him

it's not that i dun trust him.. i knoe that he loves me like he said.. but again... it's the way i feel about it. Before he liked me, he liked hot girls.. and all that.. you knoe what i mean.. like all guys do. I just feel that i'm that i'm too ugly for him and not that type that he really wants. It still bothers me when he says some actress is hot. Everytime he says that.. i feel really low.

everyone goes through that phase..but one day..maybe in the near future you'll change your views...why don't you take a little break...and like spend more time with your friends.. and see what they say?

maybe that'll help.. thanks!

[_sarcastic_]

just think of it this way, he already tells you he loves you for the way you are not the way you look. and that's why you guys got together anyways.

[lyin_in_wait]

well if he says he loves you then believe him....you cant do much more than convince yourself that hes happy...if all else fails...TALK TO HIM i mean hes the only one who knows how he feels...i mean he must have been attracted to your looks in the first place...

[Skyline Drive]

Don't let your self esteem drop because of that.
If his with you it's because he wants to be.
If he said anything to make you feel ugly or feel bad
then I say drop him cause you don't deserve that.

Otayyy ? Don't feel bad dear , be happy with who you are.

[x shootingstar x]

i do believe him.. but once again.. i feel that i'm not up to his standards.

yeah i knoe what yall are thinking.. if he said he loves me, then i should believe that and i do.

I don't know.. i'm confused.

I know i'm ugly, but i also know that it's because of my personality that made him liked me. So, i'm not perfect for him, right? If he liked those other girls before.. because of their looks.. and i don't have that.. then i'm not the perfect one for him.. right? I don't know.. why am i changing topics? no no no... i have low self-esteem and that's what's... omg.. i don't know..

i just don't feel that i'm good enough for him no matter how much he denies it.

thanks everyone for the advices.. i really appreciate it.

i don't know.. i just can't think.. sigh*

[h0y_Kalbo]

its not always about the looks, its about whats inside or your personality, plus when i had a gf now shes my ex her friends ask if this tall dude was cute and she said yes, but it was alright, cuz i know that she loves me more but . my gosh, girls juss seriously think negative a lot, think positive look in the bright side or something haha

[charanjust4yu]

i guess this is a case of low self esteem...but if you are normallly confident in yourself then this is sending you a signal.....you arent comfortable around him

[perfectxflaw23]

I definately don't think that every guy is shallow. But yes, I have felt too ugly/fat for my boyfriend before. But once we talked about it, I mean really talked (crying, you know the drill) I felt amazing.

[Trolling]

I liked this girl... and told her how I felt about her and she didn't like me cause she said I was too scrawny -.-... Oh well... You live and learn I guess...

[angelshortipnai]

if he thinks you're ugly, woah, u better dump him and get over him

[pink_tootsie]

many girls these days feel this way including myself but i try not to think of the negativities in the relationship and keep my head up, most girls feel this type of emotion but how do you know how HE feels about you? maybe your just making stuff up, and thinking way too much...relax

[DanielleMaria05]

I'm sure your not ugly, and you have to talk to him. If he says ur ugly, totally dumb him. You can be the ugliest person, and your b/f should tell you that your beautiful!

[sleepieeeXOXange...]

ask him if he thinks you're ugly...if he just says 'no', then you're too good for him..if he says you're beautiful and he really means it, he's a keeper =)

[*salcha*]

well he DID choose you out of 10000000000 girls to be your gf

[kayiiem]

well he DID choose you out of 10000000000 girls to be your gf

very true. he had a reason to choose u

[sammehmyst]

well, maybe he changed his definition of love.

[rOckThISshYt]

I haven't ever felt that way... but here's the thing........

Like you said, all guys are shallow. If he was thinking that you aren't hott enough for him, he would dump you. Obviously, he thinks you're hott enough. Maybe he only thinks you're that hott because he's gotten to know you so well that even if you weren't hott to him at first, he just sees you that way now. But either way, he likes/loves you enough to be with you now.

[xBEBE]

looks don't really matter. it's whats inside that counts and i'm pretty sure you're not ugly. everyone is beautiful in their own ways. there must be a reason why he likes you.

[ilauqh]

it's what he thinks, if he loves you & thinks your pretty... don't worry. wit my ex-bf i didnt understand why he liked me at sometimes bc i thought there were so many better people... but what you have to do is talk to him & really listen what he has to say bout you.

[c0oki3_m0n$tah]

well...i would be happy if someone like that chose me. if he usually goes out with different, or "HOTTER" girls, and chose u, maybe he's maturing..lol...but if he thinks that ur ugly, kick his ass! and then break up.

[*Programmer*]

that typing of thinking will kill your relationship..because it gets annoying to the guy after while...we hate it when you girls put yourselfs down espcially if your our girl.....

just try and be yourself and try and be comfortable around your boyfriend...you don't have to impress him everyday you see him lol...it's not a test....

[x shootingstar x]

hahahha "impress him every day you see him" hahahah

i guess i should feel better.. and i do.. thanks everybody!

[EmmalieV]

Ive never felt that way but if he says he loves you , then dont push him away.

[blah1234567]

yeah what someone said on a page back or so, its the inside what counts ^_^

[AngelTears]

Well.
I guess it's just a case of low self-esteem.
Does he think you're too ugly for him?
If he does, get rid of that bastard.

LOL, ha, I found that funny. Sorry this is seriouse *puts on seriouse face*

[xXirockhardXx]

your bf
you knoe he likes hot girls (and yes every guy is shallow) and all that before he liked you. the reason he liked you was becaues you are the only one who can really talk to him and stuff. yall have things in common.  after yall go out.. you really love him. Yet, you feel that you're not the type he wants.. and yall talk about this. You told him how you felt.. and he said that he loves you because of who you are.

This is the problem.. these days.. i feel that i'm too ugly for him.. and all those things.. i feel that i'm not good enough for him or anything. sigh*

plz tell me what to do..

Nobody's ever not good enough for someone.

But the point is that if he dosent love you because of you then dump his ass. And if you keep feeling like that just try to talk to him about it.

[krnfriscoballer]

not the same problem for me mai bf loves me for everything i am mai looks mai way mai attitude he doesnt care...he can talk to me about stuff and he can also relate things ..... he just doesnt care if i have a bad hairday ....therez always sumthin good inside of a grl...he always says...he loves me for who he is and i love him for who he is...i just have to deal with it...

[purestkiss101]

If he says he loves you for you..Then accept that>>your apperance and personality makes you yu<<

[Yrpsyuna]

erg! well..i can sorta relate. I told my guy that I was gunna get braces soon and I asked him if he would still like me, and he said "We'll see." i got sooo pissed, now I'm beginning to think he doesn't like me for me, just cuzza my loox

[TYPiKALFEMME]

i hate guys like that!

[HoodieObsessed]

your bf
you knoe he likes hot girls (and yes every guy is shallow) and all that before he liked you. the reason he liked you was becaues you are the only one who can really talk to him and stuff. yall have things in common.  after yall go out.. you really love him. Yet, you feel that you're not the type he wants.. and yall talk about this. You told him how you felt.. and he said that he loves you because of who you are.

This is the problem.. these days.. i feel that i'm too ugly for him.. and all those things.. i feel that i'm not good enough for him or anything. sigh*

plz tell me what to do..

you know what, sometiems I feel exactly the same way, except the difference is I don't have a boyfreind, but tha'ts beside teh point.

Somtimes I really feel like I'm the ugliest person in the world, and I sjtu can't stand looking at myself and I go into deep depression fro a day etc.
lol, I'm pathetic.

anyways, it's all low selfesteem, even the ugliest person can think they are pretty, or at least like themselves for who tehy are, and know what's inside counts most. WhatI finds cures my depressions is dressign ymself up in my best outfit, straightening my hair, putting on a bit of makeup, and shaving my legs. not joking. I dont' usually shave my legs so it jsut makes me FEEL pretty.

jsut looking at myself after that I realize I am pretty, even if my face is too wide, my eyes are too close together (everyone denies that except me, lol, I'm vain) and my nose is jsut a tiny bit too big. suddenely I see pats all that, and all I'm seeing is the good stuff on my face. like my smooth skin, my beautiful fair complexsion, and the nice shape of my face when I tilt it to the side.

another great cure is...SMASH ALL THE MIRRORS IN YOUR HOUSE

lol, that was myt freinds suggestion...havn't tried that one yet

[xXMomoBubbleTeaX...]

yea guys are goin to be like that...but not to be shallow or nething...I'm hot myself soOo I wouldn't kno...I'm prolly the guy in this situation...

[iheartsimba]

^ stuckup?..


anyway, aww don't worry about it, because i think thats great that he loves you for your personality. and if he cares so much about looks and you are supposidly to "ugly" for him, why would he be going out with you! he has to think you are pretty cute =] when people look in the mirror, they see their imperfections way before their perfections

[*suddenly she*]

this other guy and i.. we were never "official." we never really wanted to because we're in different grades and all. he doesn't have same ethnicity. i never really cared, but my parents did. we knew that in the future we'd almost never see each other.. and i just didn't want to hold him back from people he'd find later and maybe like more.

to many girls, including me, he passed with flying colors in the beauty meter and i. didn't. so i guess i could relate to you, in terms of self esteem and such, maybe? we were "unofficially" an "item" for almost a year. we hadn't seen each other for ages and he found another girl. who dumped him after a month.

fun memories, eh?

i don't know, we're still really close friends who can talk about almost anything, because we've got all these things in common. i just don't want to keep him caged.

enough of me.. if he says he loves you, then believe him. don't repeatedly ask, because it'll get annoying. it's a trust thing.

[KawaiiChibiGirl]

If he really, truly loved you, he wouldn't compare you with others. He'll love you for who you are in the inside. Not on the outside. (not saying that you're ugly.) But guys like that are hard to find.

[shmoomoose939]

i was looking on my friends xanga and this is what i found:

The Perfect Guy~

He wants to hold you instead of make out with you

He calls you beautiful instead of hot

He leaves you notes in your books telling you how much he loves you

As soon as he leaves, he calls you and tells you that he already misses you

He takes less time in the mirror than you

He thinks you are just as beautiful even when youre at your worst or without makeup on

He always opens the door for you

He would do anything in the world just to make you smile

He always shows you off to his friends

He doesnt try to buy your heart

He shows up with flowers on a random day. You asks why. He says just cuz.

For valentines day, instead of spoiling you he dedicates a song to you on the radio(although a flower or teddy bear would be nice)

He admires you when you prove him wrong

He stays up with you until 3 in the morning on the phone when youre crying

Why can't all guys be like this?

so so true