argh...boy troubles., help!? Options

[xoHUGSnKISSESxo]

ok, so there' s this guy that likes me, but i reALLY don't like him. i've told him several times but he still won't stop giving me gifts, money, etc. on aim, just a couple of minutes ago, he said he was going to give me a gift because he had nothing to lose. then in his profile he wrote that everyone pissed him off except me. what do i do?
i told him that he seriously DIDN"T have to give me a present, but he said that he didn't spend any $$ on it...and it wasn't hand made.
> he just won't get over me no matter HOW many times i tell him i either, 1) don't like him, or 2) don't really need that present.

it makes me uncomftorble with him still hanging on to me because i can't stop him from liking me. actually, i tried to get him to hate me by writing a quite mean xanga entry. that didn't work. i just CAN'T get him to stop liking me.

[xoHUGSnKISSESxo]

i need help...!

[lilJdawg]

well, you can't really make a person stop liking you. just go tell him & say. _____ (his name), i know you really like me but like i don't need all these gifts & stuff. i just want to stay friends you know? that will work.

[alli]

wow thats a tuffie..lol umm just speak to him by ur self..just say "listen i dont like u ..and its not rite u wasting ur time on me, it will never work, ur really nice but dont waste ur time on me" something like that? hope that helps

[BabiiTer919]

if you dont mind...just be a total a$$ to him....that might work

[*xcaitlinx*]

just ignore him and never talk to him if hes really bothering u that much.

[xoHUGSnKISSESxo]

well actually i've done that several times....
i sent him emails, talked to him in person, IM'ed him...and he still won't stop. and he assumes a lot of things which is one of the reasons i don't like him, I.E: my friend frankie was talking to r.k. and then r.k. said, " ask (me) if she still likes mee." i said to frankie that i couldn't realy answer that. so frankie said to r.k." she doesn't wanna answer.""

so r.k . assumed that i still liked him

THEN i cleared that part up when i was talking to him and he said he understood. now that we're "friends" he STILL sends me notes saying, " wanna go to winter corral together?" or "do you think we can go to ben and jerry's today? just the two of us?"


first of all , he KNOWS that i'm going to the corral w/ my friends . not him. second, he still won't leave me alone:

bl4zeD bOi 4 U: im gonna get you a christmas present
b4nAnna93: umm...wait, why?
bl4zeD bOi 4 U: frankie told you like last week
b4nAnna93: he did...?
bl4zeD bOi 4 U: something about me not fully getting over you
bl4zeD bOi 4 U: remember
b4nAnna93: oh
bl4zeD bOi 4 U: i guess, its not something that big
b4nAnna93: errr...well i can't get you anything...
bl4zeD bOi 4 U: its ok
bl4zeD bOi 4 U: dont worry
bl4zeD bOi 4 U: dont put that in ur head that you have to give me something, it will be just an extra weight
bl4zeD bOi 4 U: when it doesnt matter to me
b4nAnna93: ok then
b4nAnna93: but still...i donno. you seriously don't have to get me a gift.
bl4zeD bOi 4 U: its ok, i have nothing to lose
bl4zeD bOi 4 U: it didnt cost me any money
bl4zeD bOi 4 U: altho, i didnt make it
b4nAnna93: okee
bl4zeD bOi 4 U: look at my profile, and highlight the whole thing
b4nAnna93: ic......
bl4zeD bOi 4 U is away at 6:28:52 PM.

[xoHUGSnKISSESxo]

i don't think i should block him... that might not be too pleasant. but i am a bit mad at him. and annoyed.

[pympgangsta4real]

If he doesn't stop after you telling him, it's considered harassment, possibly sexual harassment. Try one last time, and if it doesn't stop, hand it over to the higher-ups at your school. They'll get him to stop, maybe help him out and help him move on too. Trust me, this works.

[remini]

seems like you cant stop this guy, even if you be an a$$. What I say is just be his friend. Accept his gifts, and thank him. But don't flirt or anything, (not saying u do), just simply awknowleding him will be enough. And you should still reject him if you still don't like him. You'll gain a new friend, and plus, he'll eventually get over you.

[kaka1204]

ooooo it happened to mee too...

well here'z wut i did(hope it can help u)--

i have this good guy frend ..um lets call him mr.x k? k...mr.x and i pretended that we liked each other especially in front of the guy that likes me( lets call him mr.z)
well mr.z noticed and talked to me and said that he wouldn't bother me anymore and he gave up...but we're still frends

hehe hope that helped ya

[Just_Dream]

ok, so there' s this guy that likes me, but i reALLY don't like him. i've told him several times but he still won't stop giving me gifts, money, etc. on aim, just a couple of minutes ago, he said he was going to give me a gift because he had nothing to lose. then in his profile he wrote that everyone pissed him off except me. what do i do?
i told him that he seriously DIDN"T have to give me a present, but he said that he didn't spend any $$ on it...and it wasn't hand made.
> he just won't get over me no matter HOW many times i tell him i either, 1) don't like him, or 2) don't really need that present.

it makes me uncomftorble with him still hanging on to me because i can't stop him from liking me. actually, i tried to get him to hate me by writing a quite mean xanga entry. that didn't work. i just CAN'T get him to stop liking me.

First of all, DON'T DOUBLE POST.

Second of all, I know how you feel. I had a guy who was somewhat obsessed with me throughout middle school... I even made him cry. You know, I feel so bad about it because that guy was pretyt nice and whatnot, but I didn't give him a chance. Maybe you should give THAT guy that lieks you, a chance. Why don't you like him? At least get to know him...

But anyway, tell him politely that you just want to be friends. So what if he still likes you? I told that guy who liked me alot (almost 3 years... It was scary) that I didn't like him back... And you know, he was pretty sad and devastated.. he still even got me a valentine's day gift in 8th grade. He never really asked-asked me out, but even so, he still liked me. I never really knew why he liked me so much, but I couldn't stop him from liking me. And even when I was mean to him, it would hurt him, but it didn't make the situation any better.

Overtime, he'll ahve to accept that he might never have a chance with you. But be careful around him in cause you feel insecure around him. Have a friend with you always. Tell him to find another girl in which to give the gift to, someone that will appreciate it more than you will. If he doesn't listen, MAKE him listen.

[redpeony]

bl4zeD bOi 4 U: im gonna get you a christmas present
b4nAnna93: umm...wait, why?
bl4zeD bOi 4 U: frankie told you like last week
b4nAnna93: he did...?
bl4zeD bOi 4 U: something about me not fully getting over you
bl4zeD bOi 4 U: remember
b4nAnna93: oh
bl4zeD bOi 4 U: i guess, its not something that big
b4nAnna93: errr...well i can't get you anything...
bl4zeD bOi 4 U: its ok
bl4zeD bOi 4 U: dont worry
bl4zeD bOi 4 U: dont put that in ur head that you have to give me something, it will be just an extra weight
bl4zeD bOi 4 U: when it doesnt matter to me
b4nAnna93: ok then
b4nAnna93: but still...i donno. you seriously don't have to get me a gift.
bl4zeD bOi 4 U: its ok, i have nothing to lose
bl4zeD bOi 4 U: it didnt cost me any money
bl4zeD bOi 4 U: altho, i didnt make it
b4nAnna93: okee
bl4zeD bOi 4 U: look at my profile, and highlight the whole thing
b4nAnna93: ic......
bl4zeD bOi 4 U is away at 6:28:52 PM.

um, you're not exactly making it clear that you don't want it. he probably just thinks you feel bad for not getting him anything.

if you want a guy to know something you can't try to hint your way into it.... just flat out say it without any second thoughts.

[AzNpRiDe]

[COLOR=orange]that happened to me once....this is how i solved mine.....*i hope it helps! *


tell him why you dunt like him the way he likes u or y u dunt like give him some example of what he does that u dunt like or......say sumthing like this :

i know that u like me a lot but i dunt feel the same about u....so i think that u should try and get over me, cuz your kinda getting on my nerves..........so plz try and get over me........

dunt tell him that we can still be friends cuz that will hurt him even more.........

p.s.
i think the present he's going to give u is most likely to be a hug or sumthing like that...... good luck!

[MrElsewhere]

Well, don't be a complete a-hole to him. Be polite to him, but don't lead him on. He has to know that you don't like him. Accept his gift. Be flattered that he feels this way towards you. The answer "i don't wanna answer' to his question, is not a good one. You should have said no. "I don't wanna answer" can be interpreted as a Yes, and most times that is the case. So yeah..don't lead him on, and be nice to him, don't break his heart into 4095834607340703408356057 pieces. It scars.

[AsianUniQ]

You'd really should try a psychological approach. Accept his gifts, in fact, next time even suggest what you wanted. Let him do all the nice things for you, even when you asked. Until he's annoyed adn tired of doing things for you. He'll eventually back off. See when sometimes words aren't enough. U'd just have to MAKE him understand, so when he feels lousy and stupid for doing all that for you, he'll understand. And thats when you have a sit next to him and explain it to him. Tell him that you only want to be freinds in the first place. So out of all the things he's given you, tell him that freindship is the only thing you'd want.

[sheddingtears]

wow that's hard. let him down nicely. say that you don't need the gifts he gives you and that you just want to be friends and nothing more.

[shortiiex]

aww..that is sweet of him
you should talk to him face to face like alone, just say what you really feel, when you talk to him try to sound upset and say you really like the gifts but that is not i want....

[WishfullDreamer]

man...that sounds frustrating! tell him how akward he's making you feel and point out that if he really cared for you like he says he does then he shouldnt be putting you in such and uncomfortably situation. It's not fair to you. But it's also not fair if you try to MAKE him not like you, you shouldnt be especially mean to him or stuff like that because he could get really depressed and mebe suicidal(im dramatizing, i know....i'll stop now) but yeah....dont go out of your way to hurt this guys feelings....he cant halp how he feels about you

[Shattered_Hope]

I think this has become an obsession...he might be obsessed with you and I think you shouldn't be too nice anymore...I think you should end this like now....but then again that's just my opinion..get a boyfriend...there probably has to be someone you like and then the other guy should get the message...best of luck!! =)

[Tung]

ahah the guys sounds like a total stalker and obsessor. if u told him many times that u dont like him and such. and he still dont care. best thing to do is to MOVE AWAY. lol.

[tooeffingcrazy]

BRUTAL honesty Tell him to go away straight to his face. It would be mean, but its not like you guys are friends. are you? so stop the nice act.

[blah1234567]

act diffrent around such as mean, ignoring and stuff and he might get the message...well im not sure if youll really want to do that though