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[bbyxdroar]

hey people, this is my first time. and i hope it would really help since every post, i realize .. gives GREAT advice.

well this is the problem: i have been going out with a senior last year for about 6 months. during that time, he always told me that he loves me and how i changed his life and how i was the best thing that ever happend in his life. i told him that he lies but then he told me that i would never lie

well at the end, i broke the relationship because i was really stressed out. i just failed math, and got dropped out of IB and honors. you know how it is... and i had summer classes and everything, and me and my best friend were fighting, parent's problem. It was just horrible . even thought My ex... comforted me alot, i still felt that i should really focus on my education, because i am a junior , the most important year of all.

Well when we broke up, i really felt MORE stressed than before and sad too. i couldn't take it anymore so i told him that i had still had feelings for him. he admited to me that he still had feelings for me too. SO IT WAS ALL GOOD.
we started to.. re begin our relationship and buildup. and we kissed and hug. But one day someone saw us, and started to start a rumor on me. They said i was a slut. But i was like.. no, i only kiss him, how can i be a slut. Well My best friend started to Back me up. and things started to get worse. Finally i couldn't take it anymore , so i guess we "broke up" again -_-. but then Months later MAN i still have feelings for him. Its indescribable. My friends says that he still has feelings for me. But then later on, since its close to winter formal, HE asked another girl to winter formal (cindy)... and she said yes . But from i heard... my friend told ,me that cindy always thinks that she's just a replacement for me.

i'm afraid to ask him again. because it was ME who screwed up twice.
the problem: i really want to ask him if he likes me still, and maybe just maybe we can be a couple again...
but i'm scared, to break them up. Maybe cindy is just a replacement? i don't know
what should i do? i really like him

sorry if it doesn't make sense, i tried... THANK YOU FOR HELPING

[iheartsimba]

wow...relize...that if you just sit there, he's gonna have to move on. if you do something, then atleast you have a chance to get back together. but how was it your fault? anothe rgirl started a rumor, it was that bitches fault. don't blame yourself. the only thing i think you can do, is tell him you still have feelings for him. if he has moved on, that would suck, but its better then wondering for the rest of your life if you could ever get back together..the only thing you can really do is tell him how you feel about him still.

[shortiiex]

Well, how strong are your feelings for him? Is he more important than your education?
If he is the guy that puts the smile on your face and the guy that you turn to when everything is wrong, you really need to win him back.
Cindy can nver replace you and your ex knows that

[pympgangsta4real]

"Don't leave the one you like for the one you love... because the one you like will leave you for the one they love."

Get back there and talk to that guy! If he loves you, then surely he'll forgive you for mistakes. After all, three times a charm, right? Hah hah, sorry, sad joke, just tryna lighten the mood... but yeah, don't let him go. You obviously care about him... so get out there and talk. It's a dog eat dog world. If you don't get him, she's gonna get him... and if he still has feelings for you, then use them now. I know it's harsh but it's true... It's a cliche problem. Morality/Virtue Vs. Self-Happiness. Do you want to be respectful, or be happy with him? Really it's up to you, but I've made the respectful mistake before... never will I do it again...

[bbyxdroar]

thanks guys. you guys are the best but then i'm afraid that it mite break cindy's heart. because we'll she really liked him for a LONG time.

[pympgangsta4real]

Anytime, don't worry about it. I enjoy doing this. It sucks to go through all these things without any guidance... like I did... it's horrible to be all alone through it... ... and in my opinion, NO ONE, and I mean NO ONE, deserves to go through all that alone... lol I sound like some wannabe superhero hah hah. I understand you're afraid to break her heart... but are you afraid to the point where you'd break your own watching them, just to keep from breaking hers? I know it sounds evil... but isn't it true? You shouldn't have to sacrifice your own heart for someone else's, especially just because you made a few mistakes. Honestly... your situation reminds me of my most recent ex... man I miss her, but either way, she made the mistakes but I always forgave her and kept going... and I hope that she realizes this is another mistake and comes back for forgiveness and to keep going. If that guy loves you, then he'd be like me, and want you to come back for forgiveness again. Just keep that in mind... and you're not alone out there