sex, i need advice badly Options

[theoneandonly_SC]

Well my bf and I are planning on doing it but he is freaking out because of protection and shit like that.

Whats the best type of protection to use?
and also...What is some good advice on this subject?

[yummy_delight]

go on the pill. and get him some condoms. =]

[ryfitaDF]

the best protection is abstinance.

my best advice is don't do it.

[*wind&fire*]

spermicide

[sexxc_babyy]

If your not willing to face the consequences then your not ready to do it. You have to be willing to take the risk. A condom would be fine, follow the instructions but there still is a chance you can get the "bad shit". If your boyfriend is really freaking out then you shouldnt go and have sex to be safe. Even though you may use a pill or a condom there still maybe a chance something will go wrong. Dont do it if your not willing to make the sacrifice.

[br0ken smile]

condoms. be safe and follow your heart. don't do anything you'll regret

[_sarcastic_]

i say, dont do it if your not ready to

[iheartsimba]

only do it if your ready..but i don't think protection really falls into the "shit like that" catagory. because getting pregnant is pretty easy..i guess the pill. but not everything is 100% positive....

[xsilent_kidx]

ok first,if you feel his body tighten up like instalny have him pull out or if you here him make a noise and he didnt make on thoruhgt the whole peroid and use a condum(recomned sharred plesure)

[lovescream]

^ if condoms have small holes, and you checked it, seemingly there are no holes but there ARE un-viewable holes then there is trouble there...
dont do it.
i got raped... and.. O_O and it was bad i wasn't ready.

[xsilent_kidx]

therre are no holes its juust the differance in the texture of the condom making it look clear.

[teeners4]

TROJAN!!!! =P

[*krnxswat*]

Use a balloon.

[alone in the wor...]

A-B-S-T-I-N-E-N-C-E



















but i heard latex is the safest

[*AngelicEyz00*]

use a condom with spermicide... those trojan ones... and tell him to pull out before he ejaculates... that should do the trick

[rockmyx]

my best advice is don't do it.

right dont do it don't rush wait for the right time when you will give that gift to the one who deserve you. If his love is true, then he have to wait for the right time when your both commited to each other.

dont make a mistake's that you will regret, like falling to a creap who will only bring you tears and heartache to your life. pray that it wont happen to you.

don't rush . Your too young to do these thing. Open your heart to the road to true love and please do control your emotions.

If the guy force you to do it, it will only prove that he do not respect you as his girlfriend and a woman.

Please think of it and don't do it

[christiee_nax]

its her own descision if she wants to do it or not.

[xj_liana_tx]

condoms don't protect against the 10000 kinds of std though..

[xheavenzcentzx]

wait...how OLD are you??

[jennyjenny]

Go on the pill,
get some trojan man condoms
Make sure you're ready
And if you are, when he's about to cum, tell him to pull out before he does

[sunissed14127]

^exactly what i was about 2 say lol

[DrEaMgUy2K1]

use a condom with spermicide . It kills the sperm. And the condom can prevent STD's

Birth control pills work 99% of the time but have no protection at all from stds and infections
.

Trojan is a good brand of condoms. i use the lubricated ones >< :D!

But if ur bf is freaking out about how or what protection hes gonna use and such i dont know if he , or both of u are ready for sex.

[azn_r4pf4n]

wait...how OLD are you??

something i wanna kno 2.

honestly, you shouldn't do it if your bf aint rdy.

[ComradeRed]

Well my bf and I are planning on doing it but he is freaking out because of protection and shit like that.

Whats the best type of protection to use?
and also...What is some good advice on this subject?

The best protection is abortion. I'm sure there's plenty in California.

[mouse_3k]

Well my bf and I are planning on doing it but he is freaking out because of protection and shit like that.

Whats the best type of protection to use?
and also...What is some good advice on this subject?

just dont have sex. simple as that. but if u are that freaky, let him do u in the booty hahahahha with NE kind of condom cause u cant get preggy from the booty but just use to condom for it so it wont get messy

[whywasisostupid]

whoa how old are you.

get the pills, the condoms, (make sure there arent no holes) and thats it.

[DaTru KataLYST]

if he's questioning it, then you guysshouldn't take the risk of ruining your lives.

[ghjgfkgfk]

use a condom with spermicide . It kills the sperm. And the condom can prevent STD's

i actually heard that you shouldn't use spermicide because it can irritate the area which can make it easier to get an std. and because it has some of the same indgredents as soap. so i wouldn't use it at all.

i wouldn't recommend trogan because some people said they break easily. you should use lifestyles or durex.

try reading this article http://www.scarleteen.com/sexuality/readiness.html

[DrEaMgUy2K1]

i actually heard that you shouldn't use spermicide because it can irritate the area which can make it easier to get an std. and because it has some of the same indgredents as soap. so i wouldn't use it at all.

it does irritate , burns too!! , thats why i dont use it lol.

[audory]

are you in middle school?!
first of all, be sure you're ready and your bf is ready too.
remember, this could possibly change your life.

that's step one ^^^

step two.
condoms, pills, all that shite.

before you do any of this... be ABSOLUTELY POSITIVE about it...
think of the consequences: STD's// pregnancys (or both)= parents knowing about it.

good luck.

[azn_r4pf4n]

try reading this article http://www.scarleteen.com/sexuality/readiness.html

that article says a lot. sex is pointless.

[misoka]

right dont do it don't rush wait for the right time when you will give that gift to the one who deserve you. If his love is true, then he have to wait for the right time when your both commited to each other.

dont make a mistake's that you will regret, like falling to a creap who will only bring you tears and heartache to your life. pray that it wont happen to you.

don't rush . Your too young to do these thing. Open your heart to the road to true love and please do control your emotions.

If the guy force you to do it, it will only prove that he do not respect you as his girlfriend and a woman.

Please think of it and don't do it

I agree completely~ It's best not to...There are a lot of consequences...

My friend's boyfriend cheated on her and got this freshman girl pregnant...that's some scary stuff.

[misoshiru]

condoms, the pill, spermicide. yeah..but if you or your bf's questioning about it, are you sure you're ready?

[xtrashx]

use a condom with spermicide... those trojan ones... and tell him to pull out before he ejaculates... that should do the trick

DONT USE TROJANS!!!!.... trojans do break easily, and they have the highest leakrate..... just get really drunk so that way if there is any accidents their gone the next morning... if you drink enough you wont remember it anyway... and if you cant handle that then you shouldnt be....

doing it

...

[to-devastate]

condoms? lol. don't do it if you're not ready. sex is a thing that you both are commited to and there's no confusion. if you have even one little bit of confusion, best way is to not do it.

[simplyannoy]

It sounds to me that your boyfriend is not ready. He wants to do it but is scared of the consequences so what's the best davice I can give you? DON'T DO IT! Don't do it because you might regret it and if you think you can't handle the responsbilities then you shouldn't do it, it will cause harm to you and him and perhaps another life.

[ApocalypseAelis]

If you're unsure about sex, you're not ready for it yet.

Also, about your bf pulling out before he cums, that might not work because he might not have enough self control...I'm not saying he's weak or anything but it's risky.

The best protection is abstinence.

[leogirl73089]

Don't do it!!! u can get std! and how do u no that condoms are really going to work?! have u guys been tested? and u shouldn't do it! just wait and be patenced. it's natural 4 ur bf to freak out. wat happens if u get get a baby?! sure u can get an abotation but that cost a lot of money! u have ur whole life ahead of u! u could regret it! DON"T DO IT!!!
well i shope this helps....

[TrueLoveWaits]

one lil thing. if's he's freaking out, its saying to me he isnt ready. but i kno youre gonna do it so. heres my advice. if you want 100% protection go with abstinence, but the second source is a latex condom. afterwards, i recommend u go to a free clinic, get checked and ask them to perscribe u birthcontrol. birthcontrol pills and the condom is like full proof. they wont tell your parents or anything so youre ok. be safe. and i hope everything goes well. REMEMBER: CONDOM AT ALL TIMES!! AND MAKE SURE HE DIDNT KEEP IT IN HIS WALLET ITS TOTALLY BAD FOR IT! AND NEVER SKIP A DAY OF HAVING YOUR PILL. if u cant handle that kind of responsibility of getting yoruself checked and the commitment to taking your pill reconsider your decision.

[emmalie]

use a condom with spermicide... those trojan ones... and tell him to pull out before he ejaculates... that should do the trick

i agree

[alone in the wor...]

i heard & learned that latex condoms are good? but im not sure i've never done it ..

[my world]

omg DO NOT DO IT.. i know people have dif opinions.. but if your ready to do it.. then get married like right now! then do it..

[rockmyx]

I agree completely~ It's best not to...There are a lot of consequences...

My friend's boyfriend cheated on her and got this freshman girl pregnant...that's some scary stuff.

My friend's boyfriend cheated on her too. He run away after he got my friend pregnant. Yeah, she always say that she's scared of the things that might happes coz she is not ready yet.

[R|_|f|_|5]

Well lets see ;D condom pill and fire it up baby!
wtf is it with getting married? Being married at an age under 30 is being scarred for life...

[jesska17]

hm, i say abstinence ..there are tons of stds that condoms dont prevent, like hpv.. so ya.. thats my help. sorry, if you really wanna then use the pill and a condom.. hm ya idk what else you can do

the best way to have safe sex is to have no sex at all!

[aznxdreamer]

dont think your ready to have sex if you dont even know what kinda protection to use

[mouse_3k]

sex is pointless.

no it isnt..without it, we wouldnt have...well...us

it is useful but only to make kids so unless u want kids, dont do it

[KRicoBoriqua]

doesnt sound like your ready if hes scared and you dont kno what kind of protection to use...how old are you?

[AsianUniQ]

I think she's got all the advice she needs about what to use and what to do and what not. And yet we've over looked a more concerned question, "should I do it?"

It seems as if the term "love" and "sex" have something in relativity here. It works together for assurance. So if you are in doubt, the answer is an immediate NO. I've heard of couples having bad sex the first time, and some have good sex. This is due to lack of emotions, or lack of knowledge for this matter. Your bf had a good conscious, he's got a right mind. what he can do is seek for more information, do a research if you have to. Until he's to the point of certainty. Usually its forbidden for you to go thru it at this age, but its your life. So ONLY go for it when you're both are ready. And by the apparent doubt, its telling me that you should wait.

Trust me, wait til the time is right. Its worth the experience later on.

[KELLYYY]

^ if condoms have small holes, and you checked it, seemingly there are no holes but there ARE un-viewable holes then there is trouble there...
dont do it.
i got raped... and.. O_O and it was bad i wasn't ready.

Omg Toby. -.-

Anywho, I suppose..condoms? The safest way is to not do it. =]

[giggl3s]

the best protection is abstinance.

my best advice is don't do it.

right on

[waccoon]

Advice?
Don't do it. He'll probably end up dumping you for that skanky chick anyways .

[rockmyx]

Advice?
Don't do it. He'll probably end up dumping you for that skanky chick anyways .

yeah!!!

[JoeLII]

you say BOTH of you are planning on doing it...so, do it...

it's nice to hear that your boyfriend want to plan it with you instead of.........XD gd guys, huh

[Spirited Away]

sex is pointless. 

no it isnt..without it, we wouldnt have...well...us

it is useful but only to make kids so unless u want kids, dont do it

I would like to add on to what that person was saying... Sex IS pointless for kids. Why would kids want to have kids?

[177emories]

use comdoms. if ur worried don't do it.

[heyyfrankie]

the best kind of pretection is to not have sex at all. and if he is so worried, don't do it.

[Chii]

wait...how OLD are you??

why does it matter how old she is? sure you all say that age doesn't matter when you date, so why does it matter now??

DONT USE TROJANS!!!!.... trojans do break easily, and they have the highest leakrate..... just get really drunk so that way if there is any accidents their gone the next morning... if you drink enough you wont remember it anyway... and if you cant handle that then you shouldnt be.... ... 

i've had sex 10+ times with my boyfriend, those trojans never tore, if they did then why is it considered america's number one condom or whatever?

omg DO NOT DO IT.. i know people have dif opinions.. but if your ready to do it.. then get married like right now!  then do it..

so you think that whenever people want to have sex they should get a las vegas wedding first?

Advice?
Don't do it. He'll probably end up dumping you for that skanky chick anyways .

if that was true then why is he the one who's scared?



go have sex if you want to, don't let these people sway you decision (unless you yourself change your mind), buy some condoms (3 condom packages are 5 bucks at most, i believe) get lubrication (a water based one) too...and believe me...it will hurt like hell the first few times

[giggl3s]

why does it matter how old she is? sure you all say that age doesn't matter when you date, so why does it matter now??
i've had sex 10+ times with my boyfriend, those trojans never tore, if they did then why is it considered america's number one condom or whatever?
so you think that whenever people want to have sex they should get a las vegas wedding first?
if that was true then why is he the one who's scared?
go have sex if you want to, don't let these people sway you decision (unless you yourself change your mind), buy some condoms (3 condom packages are 5 bucks at most, i believe) get lubrication (a water based one) too...and believe me...it will hurt like hell the first few times

good lord girl, must you snap at everyone? anyway, I don't think we needed to know the 10+ times.... why are you even voicing your opinion about trojan condoms anyway? if it happened to that girl than it happened why are you saying it like she's wrong or lying, no need to bash her for her statement

[blah1234567]

well how old are you? if he is not ready then dont do it because how would you feel if you were in his position? well im not sure which condom to use coz im only 12.... well anyways is always to be safe then sorry.. if you DO have it be ready to face the consiquinces

[expoised]

make sure he doesn't have AIDS or any other virus.

condoms prevent STD's and such and birth pills may prevent pregnancy... but they both don't prevent you from getting viruses.

[pikimoo]

good lord girl, must you snap at everyone?  anyway, I don't think we needed to know the 10+ times.... why are you even voicing your opinion about trojan condoms anyway?  if it happened to that girl than it happened why are you saying it like she's wrong or lying, no need to bash her for her statement 

I don't believe she was bashing. And the person you say she was bashing on said "Don't use Trojans."

Trojans are very reliable condoms and are America's #1. What if say, someone took that advice not to use a Trojan and used a condom that DID break? Not exactly good advice there.

Not bashing. Pointing out my opinion.

[Rachel]

~condoms-trojan are the best
~birth control-really is just a preferance...if you don't want to have your period every month, then get seasonale only 4 times a year! <3

if your parents/mom wont let you go on the pill, definently use condoms EVERY time...i dont care how horny you are CONDOMS ARE YOUR BEST FRIEND! they come in many colours, flavours, and now shapes!


ohh also, get tested...if its both your first time, then probably b4 and after...if its only one of your first time, before...neither of your first times DEFINENTLY before and after.

[WhiteLotus*]

ABSTINENCE.

If you don't listen to that, I suggest you buy condoms with spermicide and be on the pill at the same time. You can NEVER be too careful.

Also, ask your b/f if he has been tested for any HIVE/AIDS or any other STDS. You should go be tested as well.

[giggl3s]

I don't believe she was bashing. And the person you say she was bashing on said "Don't use Trojans."

Trojans are very reliable condoms and are America's #1. What if say, someone took that advice not to use a Trojan and used a condom that DID break? Not exactly good advice there.

I'm sorry, I'm confused, I know she said don't use trojans cause they broke on her, and you're saying to use a condom that doesn't break and recommended trojans... so what's your point again?

[*AngelicEyz00*]

The point is that she said trojans weren't reliable and all this other crap. Yes, crap. She obviously doesn't know what she's talking about. If trojans sucked so much, they wouldn't be so popular and reliable. And from experience, they ARE reliable.

And the whole comment of kids wanting to have kids... lmao. Just because someone's having sex, doesn't mean they want to have kids, nor does it mean that it will lead to that. It may, but most likely won't. And why is it pointless? Really. Elaborate on that for me.

[*islandgirl4eva*]

Use a balloon.

OMG...bad visual...what if air got in it...*shivers*

But as a lot of others have already said...if you're not ready to do it, then don't...

[burnoveride]

my vote is dont do it.. if he loves you enough and u love him enough then you will wait. because what if you have a baby can u afford the baby and you? please do both of you 2 a favor and don't do it :)

[xsweetxcandyx]

well if you really want to do it... pill and condoms... but i say don't do it

[im2tall]

sex is over-rated...

[NgocQuyen]

the best protection is abstinance.

my best advice is don't do it.

woohoo! xD dere you goes

[Rachel]

sex does NOT equal kids if you use protection correctly people.

just because someone has sex, it doesn't mean they are going to get pregnant and have kids. if they f**k up and don't use condoms and be safe about it then yes, kids might happen...

[MeanBastard]

condoms don't protect against the 10000 kinds of std though..

.HAHAHAHAH

ANyways, I also have to say that she wants to do sex. She wants advice on protection. Not advice on whether she should have sex or not. So stop saying Abstinence or however you spell it.

[jaeman]

Trojan Man.
I don't know, it's just a suggestion.

[mz anita xP]

condoms and well to prevent from getting pregant, he should remove his penis before ejaculation.

[rockmyx]

you guys know alot!!!!

[shortiiex]

ususally girls freak out....use pills and condoms

[Brina]

#1 protection againts babies, STD and HIV/AIDS?







































Abstinince.

[Spirited Away]

And the whole comment of kids wanting to have kids... lmao. Just because someone's having sex, doesn't mean they want to have kids, nor does it mean that it will lead to that. It may, but most likely won't. And why is it pointless? Really. Elaborate on that for me.

Well, if you mean my post, I think you should read again and into context.

The first person said sex is pointless (and I disagree) and the next person says "it is useful but only to make kids so unless you want kids, don't do it".

So if you read it right when I said I wanted to "add on to what that person was saying", that it's pointless for kids because why would kids want to have kids (refering to her comment about having sex to make babies). Meaning it is pointless for kids to have sex for babies. And if you disagree with that... well, that's your own thing.

But yes, I'm fully aware that just because have sex doesn't mean that they want kids. Maybe I wasn't clear.

[MeanBastard]

#1 protection againts babies, STD and HIV/AIDS?







































Cutting off the penis and super gluing the vagina shut.

[iiiiiiiYON]

NO SEX PLS =P AGAiNST THE BiBLE... WAiT TiL U MARRiED, iTLL MAKE JESUS HAPPY

[MeanBastard]

NO SEX PLS =P AGAiNST THE BiBLE... WAiT TiL U MARRiED, iTLL MAKE JESUS HAPPY 

Allah is the way.

[asiu1990]

condoms and well to prevent from getting pregant, he should remove his penis before ejaculation.

it's still possible for some semen to touch the vagina...

[captured_serenit...]

just don't do it. keep it real by not doing it.

[Me= Sex-C Love x...]

i could have sworn I answered a question like this...if you guys aren't sure about doing it...and your freaking out. The best thing to do is NOT to do it. I mean ABSTINENCE is the best protection.

[sexymixelix]

use a condom with spermicide... those trojan ones... and tell him to pull out before he ejaculates... that should do the trick

hmm honestly i don't think spermicides help too much entirely. if anything just wear a condom the whole time just to be sure he doesn't cum inside you, but make sure you two are ready for this and you really want to do it.

oh and just in case, you can always opt to get the "morning after" pill to prevent pregnancy. you have to do that within 48 or 72 hours. i forget, but the doctor would be able to clear that up.

[bad_girl]

*looks at u like u're crazy* protection? condom.. duh. lol.

Use a balloon.

or if u couldn't purchase a condom... use that.

[travnewmatic]

broken_lance.... youre an up tight wench

im not all against sex or anything, but just dont get pregnant. go crazy making out or something. make LOVE dont HUMP. the lovemaking is where its at, and there IS a difference.

why is stimulation of the nerve endings in your genitalia so frowned upon. it feels good. just makeout like heck. thats good clean fun, plus you cant get pregnant. just be safe. dont have a kid. have fun too.

[i3reakah_X3]

1) definitely use a condom

2) dont have sex..

it's really not worth it, cuz when you break up, it's really hard on you.
i had to learn that the hard way

[lidoaznboi89]

if you guys really love each other, then WAIT, but if not want to wait, condom or some sort of protection..

[*Programmer*]

K. most people are avoiding the subject here. If you are sure you want to do it. Then go for it. Im sexually active. Best advice i can give you is use "Magnum's" or "Trojan Ultra Ribbed's" don't go for that pull out Bull$hit trust me niether of you will want to . There's nothing wrong with sex. It's a part of life and if you feel that your ready for it. Knock yourself out. If you go on the pill your gonna have to wait 30 days. Before it starts to kick in. And most likely your parents are going to find out. Are you ready to face them?. If worst comes to worst "morning after" pill to prevent pregnancy. you have to do that within 48 or 72 hours. Well that's all the info i got for you. Your the only one that's knows the awnsers

[shewasradiant]

if you had to get our opinions on what you should do, then youre having second doubts....meaning maybe youre not ready. but condoms if you are. unless you want to pay $40 for a months worth of pills. or $24 for the morning after pill. you should be able to get it from any planned parenthood place....they most likely wont need you to sign papers or need a parent/guardian there with you.

[princess2113]

don't do it...if ur not ready to raise kid(s) then don't have sex

[*mishyerr*]

Pill, condom.

I would say don't do it, unless you REALLY, REALLY want/need to. Sex is something .. sacred? LOL. Gosh sorry I sound like a preacher now. But whatever, just don't get mad at yourself if there are consequences other than pleasure. Don't regrett...