being meaner? Options

[LivinInTheShadow...]

my boyfriend says i'm way to nice and let people talk crap about me and i don't do anything. even my friends can take advantage of this. this may souns stupid, but do you have any ways to make me seem more "meaner" and not so much of a push-over?

[cleec]

if someone pisses you off..LET THEM KNOW. Even for stupid stuff, if someone pushes you in the hall push them back. Give people what they deserve. BuTT don't become one of those people that is hated by all, just prove that people cannot walk all over you.

[LivinInTheShadow...]

that's my problem i don't have much courage to just push them back or anything like that. i'll try it though

[_sarcastic_]

it's ok many ppl, think i'm WAY too nice, ppl tend to take advantage of that but try to stand up for yourself, i know it's hard but hey i did it.
when ppl do sth bad to you, tell them off, tell them you don't like it. don't do the bad stuff back to them its not right, treat them the way you want to be treated.

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yay! hundredth post whooo

[LivinInTheShadow...]

i'm going to try that. i hope i have enough courage to do it though.

[aznhunnie6o1]

well try to like.. show that you dont like getting stepped on by.. saying.. stuff like "no" or.. something.. iono.. being mean is one of my expertises but im still a good friend and stuff.. i just dont let people take advantage of me.

[whywasisostupid]

my ex said i was mean and rough if i reallly wanted to get pissed off at the person.
this girl said sumthin about me, i went up to her, confronted her, and if she was nice about it. id let it slid.
but if she was lik 'ya i said that. what are you gona do about it' or whatever
she is dead

[mouse_3k]

pssh just go up on them and be like *u talkin shiz bout me? why dont u say it to my face then behind my back u *****" or somethin..not that hard. Do it on ur period, it will really give u the steam.

Everyone started not talkin smack bout me *or so i think..* ever since i starts to back up what I say. If I say im going to go up to a girl and tell her to shut the **** up bout me, ill do it.

[xj_liana_tx]

i think I am too nice.. sometimes its something for ppl to dig about.. i dont like it. but i can be a bitch too.. so.. i dono, its weird

[jecissa]

it is WAY GOOD to be nice!! God wants us to be servants!
However, don't get taken advantage of! Remember: "Just say no!"

[xheavenzcentzx]

hehe I'm like that too

Now I do the opposite of what i Normally say.

It works sometimes.. until people start to catch on.. then you need to find something else...

[kellyannie]

i'm also too nice sometimes .. but thats just to their face wen i get home im all pissed lol.. i just keep it bottled in

[ghjgfkgfk]

if someone pisses you off..LET THEM KNOW. Even for stupid stuff, if someone pushes you in the hall push them back. Give people what they deserve. BuTT don't become one of those people that is hated by all, just prove that people cannot walk all over you.

aweful advice. pushing someone back is going to me her seem like a stuck-up psming bitch.

[shortiiex]

i am like that too...but in my mind....they are

[lyin_in_wait]

choose your battles, if you feel pushed under stand your ground! but dont do it in a cocky way cuz then youll be known as a (censored) so yea know when to speak up but also know how to do it in a...not mean way

[iheartsimba]

if you suddenly start being "mean" i doubt they'll really want to be your friend anymore. if you know your friends are talking about you, confront them. tell the off. you can still be your nice self, jsut dont let them walk all over you.

[HelloSunshine]

i'm also too nice sometimes .. but thats just to their face  wen i get home im all pissed lol.. i just keep it bottled in 

ah! i'm like you ^ it's not good to keep feelings bottled up so what I do is write letters about how i feel, and put it in an envelope, then, the next time i want to vent, i open the envelope, and put the next letter in....yeah

well...I, too am taken advantage of...i can be mean SOMETIMES most of the time i just shrug it off.....but if I get really p/o..I'll look them straight in the eye with a serious face [= good luck

[mirage]

stand up for yourself or people will walk all over you. take a stand and argue with them. Don't let them take advantage of you, show them who you could be and balance yourself, don't be too nice.

[angeloncloud9]

Don't change for anybody! Just be urself. Being mean obviously isn't you, and you're not gonna be fooling anybody.

[you suck]

the main thing is CONFIDENCE!!! if u look like a pushover, chances are people will treat u that way.

[teeners4]

wow your totally opposite of me.

my problem lately is spazzing at people . i always use the wrong tone of voice without meaning to . and i say things before i think. and i refuse to say sorry no matter what .

but im working on it! i think im just stressed out

[Looow]

im nice but i can be mean..

[lilJdawg]

i'm nice but i can be mean. well, let people know that you aren't one of those girls that like to be stepped on. say like no & stuff & like if they are talking about say like. are you talking about me? & yeahs.

[my world]

my boyfriend says i'm way to nice and let people talk crap about me and i don't do anything.
well my mom always said you have to be a b**** in this world to survive. so yea you really need to be sort of mean. i mean you can be nice but not like so nice that you lend out money. thats where you draw the line.

even my friends can take advantage of this.
thats b.s. if they were your friends they wouldnt take advantage of you. i mean come on! be serious.

this may souns stupid, but do you have any ways to make me seem more "meaner" and not so much of a push-over?
let them know whose boss. dont be like all that because then they will hate you. be like ok no.. im not shining your shoes. thats b.s. thats where i draw the line!

[maia_dc]

Yea, I used to have that problem when I was younger...

Actually, it's fine to be nice as long as you don't let people walk over you. The first step is just to learn how to say "no" when you mean it. If they're really your friends, they should learn to respect you, but you should also respect for yourself. Don't worry about what other people want sometimes, worry about what YOU want and YOUR rights. If you don't want people to walk over you, you need to let them know that it pisses you off. If someone says crap about you- just go straight to their face and be like, "why would you say that. etc etc."

Geez... that sounded kinda like a pep talk. -_-

[_confuzed_]

if you're upset that people are saying stuff about you, then you should let them know. don't just stand there and let them throw insults at you, you've gotta fight back. or just give them the evil eye and the silent treatment, that works. if you're worried that you're going to be classified as a mean person after that, then just stop hanging out with those people all together until they get the friggin picture. me, i wouldn't let ANYBODY dis me. screw them.

[misoshiru]

i think i'm too nice. i appear mean, but all my friends know that i'm just a big softie.

[HikaruTakekawa]

act yourself, and if someone gets on your nerves or makes you angry let them know, being too nice isnt always a bad thing, neither is being a little mean, just dont over do it. good luck with everything.