16 and no boyfriend ever, is this normal? Options

[nightshadefire]

Hey girls. Well my problem is that I'm 16 and I've never had a boyfriend.
Yeah, it's not a big deal, but I really want one and I want to experience what everyone in the world except for me has gone through. No, I don't wanna lose my virginity or anything, and I'm for sure not gay or a lesbian, but I'm really picky. I'm asian (filipina, chinese) but I don't like asian guys. I basically just like white guys, to put it bluntly.

I'm pretty decent looking, 4'10" (short), 105 lbs. I'm smart, and funny.

But I'm alone.

Any advice?

[MusicalAngel]

I didn't get my first boyfriend and first kiss til two weeks ago and i'm 19. Lol And... i'm not into Asians either (i'm chinese american). I'm dating an italian... There's nothing wrong with you. Just be patient and enjoy life.

[jambaJUICE]

Don't fret.
The longer you don't have a boyfriend, the better.
Because when the time comes, you`ll know, and you wont regret anything :).
And high five, i`m short too !

[inthemudhole]

You're fine.
Don't rush.

[BoyCrazyGal]

haha...dont worry!! i'm 15...n' i haven't had a bf yet either!! no first kiss...no nothing yet!! but hey...like somebody else said..."when that time comes...u kno it'll b special" hehe!!

dont worry ur not alone! i bet there's a ton of other girls out there that have gone through this too!! =]

[*stephinika*]

don't worry about it. some of my friends are 16 too and haven't had a boyfriend. there's no rush so relax.

[kellyannie]

yeah theres nothing wrong with that there is no rush

[misoshiru]

it doesnt matter. what's your rush anyways? i'm 15, almost 16 and i've never had a bf either. living the single life is fun.

[lilxroxy]

Yeah, it's not a big deal

don`t worry. yur guy will come soon (:

don`t throw yurself at some random guy. jst wait (:

[angel-roh]

just dont go for abusive boyfriends, cause it can ruin your life for eternity unless you want to get yourself hurt... -_-;;

[thebandchick05]

don't even worry! your normal!!! (who's "normal" these days anyway??) Boys are a hassle anyway.

[xolilsmileeox]

nothing is normal. normal is how u assess urself. just bc other ppl do those things early doesnt mean theyre "normal"

[teenprincess]

Your normal. I haven't had a bf, but of course I'm only 14... and I don't really expect a boyfriend anytime soon.

[mouse_3k]

its fine, just be patient. yah having a bf feels good and stuff *im 15 in a half and only had 2 bfs*. Just dont go to NE guy and be like *dude..I want you* and that stuff...some guys are just..ugh. I think you should rather wait for a good bf then for a quick bf that ur gunna have for like a week.

[jecissa]

you still have your whole life ahead of you. boyfriends are hard work sometimes. they are also wonderful. your time will come; just be patient.

good luck!! :)

[ApunBindaas]

You are normal. School is more important now. You will meet great guys later so don't worry about it

[shortiiex]

it take patience and time.......but what do i know i'm only 13

[mirage]

education is first, after you get enough of that, i guess dating wouldn't ruin your grades. and yeah, i am sure you are perfectly normal =)

[br0ken smile]

i didn't have my first boyfriend until i was 16

[dani41790]

awww no worries. i know peoples who didnt start dating till their 20's O_o

[cutiegrlchic]

trust me ur not the onlii one, dont feel left out, nd once ur dating, u cant flirt!

[simplyannoy]

awwwwwwww don't worry! I don't have a bf yet and never had 1st kiss and I'm 16 but hey, look on the bright side! You get to flirt! make fun of your friends' bf (jokingly) and they can't mock you back since you have no bf! LOL! Being single is great! Once you're tied down... all those other wonderful fishies will be caught by someone else...

[nightshadefire]

That helped, especially knowing other girls 16 and up haven't gone out with anyone before. I just want my first guy to count, and I guess I have more incentive to endure waiting.

THANKS EVERYONE!!

[_confuzed_]

of course =] just because you haven't had a boyfriend before and you don't have one now doesn't mean that you won't have one later. just show some signs if you're really desperate ;]

[sammi rules you]

..=X i can't say anything about my experiences..(i'm 14 and have had 3) but it's fine if you haven't. it's actually much less of a hassle and gives you a lot less stress. besides, you can flirt with whoever you want and no one can say anything =P

[waccoon]

..=X i can't say anything about my experiences..(i'm 14 and have had 3) but it's fine if you haven't. it's actually much less of a hassle and gives you a lot less stress. besides, you can flirt with whoever you want and no one can say anything =P

[jesssicakung]

i can see where youre coming from but i say.. you dont have to worry.. anyway having a boyfriend shouldnt be your priorety.. there are so much more other things out there that you can enjoy.. nevertheless, you WILL get a boyfriend.. just wait for the right time or the right person

[apple.]

well im ugli n 13 n iwill nevr have a bf till i get plastic surgery.

[babyxyelloe]

first, nobody neeeds a boyfriend, but just to let you know my sister is 17 [almost 18] and she's with her first boyfriend now so i dont think its that abnormal, and you might not want to rush things so fast, you should get a boytoy/boyfriend when you know that you're really ready

[*Weird addiction*]

no its not wierd...ull get one soon..dont worry ur pretty head

[sunissed14127]

you dont have to freak...its normal. take your time to find someone good, and that you like.

[breakingawa0101]

Wait for the perfect moment...and time don't worry you'd find someone

[murderwaltz]

Don't worry, you'll get someone soon. Just be patient. I mean, I'm 15 and only had three boyfriends. PLUS, I haven't kissed anyone yet. Yes, outta my three boyfriends I never kissed them. They really didn't last long either.. except for my first but I hardly saw him. It was weird. But still, don't worry. Enjoy life and you'll see that you'll get someone.

[Spirited Away]

Teenage girls being sad about not having a boyfriend frustrate me.

You will go one with your life, boyfriend or no boyfriend. Most likely, the boy you're going to date is not going to be your husband, so why fret about it?

If guys are not dating you because you're "ugly" then be successful and they'll marry you for your money.

[iheartsimba]

aww don't worry about it. i understand pickyness...i don't care about the race, but i look to deep into their personality and all.

first, get to know guys, and let them see how great your personality is.
someday you'll find mr.right

[gothicvengeance]

I'm not an expert on this since I'm only 13, but I think you should wait for the right person to come along. Many people who are in college have never had bfs or gfs before. Having a bf that you're dating just because there's nobody else better isn't as good as dating a bf that you waited for and actually love. Blehh. That's my advice

[DorkFahSho]

there are no asian guys at my school...well only for this one guy..everyone picks on us just because we're asian..i would like to date a guy with a different race. i tell my friends that i would never date anyone vietnamese (MY RACE). they ask me why..well its my decision so i get to decide!
oh yeah...wait for him he'll come to you

[imadorkabledxd]

nothing wrong with it. i'm picky too =( haha society keeps telling us we should have a bf by now, but you know what, don't rush it. because there's no point in just settling for anything. i mean, when my friends kept telling me to get a bf, i tried to get with whatever guy that was half decent...but i always stopped myself midway b/c i realized i'm just not into them anad i just want them for the sake of having a boyfriend. it's dumb, so yea..don't worry about it =) i know people who are 20 and still don't have a bf =)

[jennyjenny]

My brother is currently 16. He went out with this girl when he was 15 but it only lasted for a week or so. That was it.

I think you should just wait until you find someone perfect

[laur3nw]

Haha. It's ok! Don't worry about it....I have friends that I think are pretty, and they haven't had a boyfriend yet.

[feejayjay]

I'm in the same boat. My 16th birthday is in two months and I 've never had a boyfriend. Most of my friends have never had boyfriends. I'm getting knida anxious, too, but I figure I've got better things to worry about in life now. Like getting through school with decent grades.

[redpeony]

just cause theyre all doin it doesnt mean you have to
no pressure

[teeners4]

well im ugli n 13 n iwill nevr have a bf till i get plastic surgery.

lol i went to your xanga...and i live in vancouver too! well near it anyways lol~

but anywho! it's okay im 15 and yet to have a boyfriend. and im fine with it. i dont have time for a boyfriend either. if i had one i wouldnt have time. plus it's another load of stress and pressure.

but for the people with boyfriends. that's good too! as long as you can manage friends,family,school work + boyfriend

lol me + my friends are planning not to date till after high school when we are matured and moved away fom our parents

plus being single means you can flirt a WHOLE LOT MORE

[fran_chin]

im 14..i've had my first kiss when i was 10..but it was nothing because it was truth or dare..lol..but i havnt had a bf yet..there was this one guy that liked me and i liked him too..and i wanted him to ask me out..but he didnt..maybe because he thinks im playing hard to get..lol..but im really not

[angelrevelation]

well i'm 13 and i havent had one yet... no guy has even said he likes me! to my face anyway... and the guys that (i think) like me i never like at all, so yea... i think it's pretty normal. i know lots of girls who only start dating till they're in like college, so yea, you're normal

[HikaruTakekawa]

your sixteen your still young and so even if you havent had a boyfriend yet its normal, cuz eventually you'll experience all the things other people are experiencing.

[177emories]

of course thats normal... its okay some guy will fly a long.. i'm sure there are guys who are probably 18 and still haven't had a gf :s i dunno...

[jr0h]

don't be so desperate for it. its actually really good that you still dont have a boyfriend and you're 16. its usually the average age at dating but dont keep on expecting it. wait for it to happen unexpectedly. at least thats just my opinion..

[irock89]

i haven't experienced the bofriend/having a relationship thing.. but my friend who's going to be 18 next year hasn't too.. she wants one and is picky too.. she prefers Movie Stars a lot though and couldn't seem to find one like Jude Law, Piersol, and Andy Roddick.. but i really think it's normal..

[domsweetie]

Patience is the key. And, it's normal. I haven't got one too. Haha, but i'm 14.The right guy will come.

[tallaznkate]

i HAVENT HAD ONE EiTHER N i`M 16. MAYBE i`M BEiN` TOO PiCKY... =/

[Too Asian To DIE]

i dun have one yet... and i dun care if i have one or not... even though im just 13.... sum of the really popular aka slutty people prolly go through 10 bf's or gf's every year.... but im pretty sure that there arent any slutty people here

[lyin_in_wait]

no your normal, boyfriends are over rated anyway....*hpfmt* (as us single people say )

[xx angelbabu xx]

hey, join the club! lol

[Simsima]

I know ppl who didnt start dating until they where like 21 and got married. Its fun being single, you can flirt with other guys when you want, where-ever you want

[Skyline Drive]

same here. you're not alone ;]

no rush , either.

[*Kathleen*]

Of course it's not normal, you freak of nature. Advice? Yeah - shoot yourself.

[lisaaaaaaa]

it's ok if u never had a bf. if u really want one, stop waiting and go ask one out.

[swe3ttemptasian]

don't worry.. he's going to be on his way.. you're not the only one so don't worry.. I mean I may already have one, but at least you don't want to have to regret anything or anyone..

[*AngelicEyz00*]

Of course it's not normal, you freak of nature. Advice? Yeah - shoot yourself.

ROFL... you beat me to it

[Shattered_Hope]

meh, I think you're fine. Sides, when you do have a boyfriend you can't flirt or talk to guys that you don't know well or are considered your friends. It would be fun to have a boyfriend but you don't need one to have fun. Enjoy your single life while you still have it.

[silver-rain]

don't worry, that's normal. i got my first boyfriend when i was 16. and yeah, i know what you're talking about, i'm chinese-american and i don't really like asin guys. but don't worry, enjoy the single life.

[ANG33ZY]

Your time will come. Don't worry about it ..

[xTINAA]

don`t worry about it. sooner or later you will get a boyfriend. my friend is the same way. 16, never had a boyfriend or any experiences. but it will come soon. so just be patient. i got my 1st bf when i was 16 so no worries

[aznxdreamer]

meh..thats normal. i mean, if people can start dating when their 9, they can start dating when their 20.

[RandomHero]

haha...dont worry!! i'm 15...n' i haven't had a bf yet either!! no first kiss...no nothing yet!! but hey...like somebody else said..."when that time comes...u kno it'll b special" hehe!!

dont worry ur not alone! i bet there's a ton of other girls out there that have gone through this too!! =]

Hey! Me too

[kat29]

Fine
don't worry.

[flyonthewall4590]

don't even worry about it, a lot of girls don't get boyfriends when they're young, but it's all ok, guys are more amture when they're older anyhow...

[toodlepops.]

yea..i sumtyms feel like this too. but i dont really want to rush it.

[tears_of_blood]

Hey girls. Well my problem is that I'm 16 and I've never had a boyfriend.
Yeah, it's not a big deal, but I really want one and I want to experience what everyone in the world except for me has gone through. No, I don't wanna lose my virginity or anything, and I'm for sure not gay or a lesbian, but I'm really picky. I'm asian (filipina, chinese) but I don't like asian guys. I basically just like white guys, to put it bluntly.

I'm pretty decent looking, 4'10" (short), 105 lbs. I'm smart, and funny.

But I'm alone.

Any advice?

omg...i envy you sooo bad...i wish i never started dating...my first serious one was when i was 13...[well, im 14 now]...believe me, going through loads and loads of relationships that will often make you cry and worry is a living hell, if i were as lucky as you, i would really rather only have to date once and marry that one perfect guy....=] trust me

[angel-roh]

you know it's good that you didnt get any...cause then your husband will be proud??? that's what i heard >.<;;

[*instantmusic*]

its pefectly normal.

a lot of guys are timid to approach a girl when shes always with her friends...
are you always like in the center of your friends walking around and stuff?

most times thats what it is... (i would know )

[chaoticchrissy]

dunt worry, my best friend has dah same problem, but its all good she waited and she got her first boyfriend when she was 16 too...so dont fret about it...when the time is right.

[goodeddie]

you dont need one if you didnt find one...what? T_T

[*not_your_average*]

Well, I'm 12, never had a bf. Only, half the girls at my school DO have bfs, and it's very annoying!!

[lilJdawg]

you're fine. love takes time. you don't really need to have a boyfriend do you? you can experience all the stuff the girls are going through later on in life.

[blah1234567]

...your fine...i think. im 12 and i dont have a boyfriend..but that does not matter coz im younger.

[MheiChan]

of course it's normal. i, for one, doesn't have a boyfriend yet.. ever.. and i'm happy about it..

it's nice to be single... you don't have to always worry about things concerning him and your relationship..

[*mzkandi*]

its normal girl so dont worry. i didnt have any boyfriends ever when i was 16 and that was becuz the boys where i was from were so annoying and stupid.....i really started dating when i was 17 and i am 20 now and i am still having a problem with stupid men.....i mean lil boys

[tears_of_blood]

Hey girls.  Well my problem is that I'm 16 and I've never had a boyfriend.
Yeah, it's not a big deal, but I really want one and I want to experience what everyone in the world except for me has gone through.  No, I don't wanna lose my virginity or anything, and I'm for sure not gay or a lesbian, but I'm really picky.  I'm asian (filipina, chinese) but I don't like asian guys.  I basically just like white guys, to put it bluntly.

I'm pretty decent looking, 4'10" (short), 105 lbs. I'm smart, and funny.

But I'm alone.

Any advice?

lol if u want my opinion- i wish i never started dating. from my experience alot of it is just heat-of-the-moment, it made me paranoid about what i wore, what i said and just..paranoid and i couldnt be my own boss. and sometimes relationships can end real nasty..tears...fights..from my previous relationship- i cant believe i believed everything we had would last..it ended cus of selfishness..sometimes i wish i could just date once and marry that guy. love is patient, true love waits. the time will come =]

[sweetdreamsx3]

Just wait. I didn't have a bf until I was 15 and ew.

[Hiiatus]

that;s normal BUT if you're 25 and still don't have a bf then you'll have to start thinking about it...

[kimbutt]

don't rush into anything, it's okay if you haven't had a boyfriend yet =) don't be desperate and go after a guy you don't like it's better to wait anyway... i should have waited ..

[royalfreshness]

OMG I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU'RE GOING THROUGH! I'm 16 and I haven't had a BF ever and all my friends have these relationships and EXes and stuff and I'm like "Er, I liked this guy heh...em.."
I want to experience what my friends experience but I don't want to end up like some of them.. like my one friend is attached to her 1st (and only) bf and even when they break up she insisted on getting back together with them.

I'm picky too. I'm sick of the same ghetto black boys, i want a a light skin boy. Heh... that sounds funny but yea.