Middle School Crushes, What to do? |
  |
 Nov 23 2004, 02:41 AM
Post
#1
|
|
|
Senior Member  Group: Member Posts: 31 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,124  |
Hey!
Well there is this new girl in my class. I think I've liked her since the 1st day of school, and just pretty much cleared up my feelings for her now. We became really close friends and we tell each other everything. She was telling me about this guy in her other skool that she liked. They've been seeing each other every 2 weeks by telling their parents that they were gonna do "hw" at the library. Just a few days back, I told her that I liked her and she was all "oh, ok" and she didnt really make a big deal of it, and it didn't really change our relashionship. But now the both of them are bf and gf and I feel really sad. I really like her and I still do. I just can't get her out of my head. Out of all the girls I've liked, I like her the most. What should I do? Her friend told me to wait until they break up, but I want some more opinions. Terrence  (and yes, this is 7th grade...lol) |
|
|
|
|
Nov 23 2004, 03:23 AM
Post
#2
|
|
 :hammer: Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 9,849 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 7,700 |
Wait.. she met her boyfriend online? So they're an online couple?
Well.. if she already knows how you feel.. and she has strong feelings for the guy, you should just let them be.. If it bothers you whenever she talks about him, then just tell her about it. That's why I think it's hard to be best friends with a member of the opposite sex.. one of you will start liking eachother and blahblah all this sadness comes up. |
|
|
|
|
Nov 23 2004, 03:36 AM
Post
#3
|
|
|
Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 31 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,124 |
^ ^ ^
Um...I reworded everything on top |
|
|
|
|
Nov 23 2004, 05:38 PM
Post
#4
|
|
|
Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 31 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,124 |
So does any1 else have an opinion on what to do? You're killing me here...shes online and i dont noe wat do say..
|
|
|
|
|
Nov 23 2004, 05:45 PM
Post
#5
|
|
 whatever d00de Group: Member Posts: 1,349 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 63,060 |
just talk to her about how you feel
|
|
|
|
|
Nov 23 2004, 05:52 PM
Post
#6
|
|
 kristin Group: Member Posts: 5,705 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,985 |
aww, you seem like a sweet kid..=[
just hang in there! theres no miricle, to make her like you, but just be the best friend for her that you can be. eventually, they probably will break up, and when that kid and her are over, maybe she'll notice what a great guy you are. just be as sweet as possible, maybe ask for her screen name? eventually her phone number and talk sometimes? trust me, going out and being from different schools is pretty hard, and i have never seen one last more than a few months. btw- girls <3 flowers. I would fall in love with any guy if they bought me flowers 
|
|
|
|
|
Nov 23 2004, 06:02 PM
Post
#7
|
|
 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 4,882 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 47,064 |
Well you want "other opinions" I don't really know what else to suggest, unless you want someone to tell you to try and break them up. Since she really didn't seem interested when you told her that you liked her, she must really like her BF.....
For now, just be happy for her and support her, and maybe if something goes wrong between her and her BF, then give her time, and she may feel different |
|
|
|
| *krnxswat* |
Nov 23 2004, 06:17 PM
Post
#8
|
|
Guest |
Like they say, "there are plenty of fish in the ocean."
Go look for some other fish. It's just middle school, you should be having fun. |
|
|
|
|
Nov 23 2004, 06:21 PM
Post
#9
|
|
|
Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 31 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,124 |
ok...thnx everybody..I hope I get over it soon
|
|
|
|
|
Nov 23 2004, 06:30 PM
Post
#10
|
|
|
Brie Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 10,172 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,548 |
You'll get over it. (:
I'm not going to be all "blah, it's just middle school" because I'm in 8th grade, and no matter how old you are.. it all hurts. Move on. 
|
|
|
|
|
Nov 23 2004, 06:31 PM
Post
#11
|
|
|
Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 4,882 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 47,064 |
QUOTE(krnxswat @ Nov 23 2004, 6:17 PM) Like they say, "there are plenty of fish in the ocean." Go look for some other fish. It's just middle school, you should be having fun. actually it's sea, but whatever haha dunno just felt like being technical |
|
|
|
| *krnxswat* |
Nov 23 2004, 06:46 PM
Post
#12
|
|
Guest |
QUOTE(XKali_chik_4_lifeX @ Nov 23 2004, 6:31 PM) actually it's sea, but whatever haha dunno just felt like being technical WOW OMG PLEASE FORGIVE ME!!!!! AM I GOING TO DIE!??! BECAUSE I WROTE OCEAN INSTEAD OF SEA!? PLEASE SPARE MY LIFE! I BEG, IMPLORE, ENTREAT YOU! 
|
|
|
|
|
Nov 23 2004, 07:30 PM
Post
#13
|
|
|
Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 31 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,124 |
QUOTE(krnxswat @ Nov 23 2004, 6:46 PM) WOW OMG PLEASE FORGIVE ME!!!!! AM I GOING TO DIE!??! BECAUSE I WROTE OCEAN INSTEAD OF SEA!? PLEASE SPARE MY LIFE! I BEG, IMPLORE, ENTREAT YOU! LOL...u guys crack me up! lol |
|
|
|
|
Nov 23 2004, 07:51 PM
Post
#14
|
|
 ~~Keiyko~~ One & Only~~ Group: Member Posts: 101 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 52,324 |
You should talk to her about it, not just telling her you like her.. tell her all your feelings for her
|
|
|
|
| *Statistik* |
Nov 23 2004, 09:00 PM
Post
#15
|
|
Guest |
Express yourself against her. Show her that she likes you
|
|
|
|
|
Nov 23 2004, 09:38 PM
Post
#16
|
|
 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
maybe try talking to her about it, but i think you should just leave the both of them alone. like what krnxswat said, there are plenty of fish in the sea and you're only in middle school, enjoy it
|
|
|
|
|
Nov 24 2004, 04:45 AM
Post
#17
|
|
 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 77 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 59,957 |
So she lik the guy from her old skoo, but I stillt hink u should wait, I mean they dun even see each other tat often, and at dis age 7th grade? it's not gon last long.
|
|
|
|
|
Nov 24 2004, 07:08 AM
Post
#18
|
|
|
Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 4,882 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 47,064 |
QUOTE(krnxswat @ Nov 23 2004, 6:46 PM) WOW OMG PLEASE FORGIVE ME!!!!! AM I GOING TO DIE!??! BECAUSE I WROTE OCEAN INSTEAD OF SEA!? PLEASE SPARE MY LIFE! I BEG, IMPLORE, ENTREAT YOU! yes, yes you are going to die.  . |
|
|
|
|
Nov 24 2004, 09:50 AM
Post
#19
|
|
|
Member Group: Member Posts: 26 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,446 |
i think you guys should just be friends i have learned the hard way its soo much beta to be friends
|
|
|
|
|
Nov 24 2004, 11:20 AM
Post
#20
|
|
 Physic Group: Member Posts: 117 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,700 |
Took me a wile to get over a guy I liked. Best thing to do is just let them be. Her going out with someone shouldn't matter if you guys have a really storng friendship.
|
|
|
|
|
Nov 24 2004, 11:52 AM
Post
#21
|
|
 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
what can u do? nothing. damn. let life take its role. sheesh. she prob doesnt / didnt make a big deal ot of it becuz what can i say? she wasn't interested..or she just didnt want t oadmit that its possible..damn. u feel for her the most becuz yur growing up..u finally hav a piece of what love really is..and its not just "she's so fine" crap. its personality and who you are when yur with her..there will be others.
|
|
|
|
|
Nov 24 2004, 09:36 PM
Post
#22
|
|
|
Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 31 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,124 |
Well...I decided to send her an e-mail on how I felt about her. And I did get a reply...
---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- What I sent: Hi Elaine! Well...there's something I have to tell you. I've been wanting to tell you this on AIM, but I just didnt get the guts to. I really like you Elaine, but when your always talking about Andrew and everything, it really hurts me inside. I mean out of all the girls I've liked, you're on the top of the list. I just can't stop thinking about you. It's like the only thing I can think about is you. And when I'm all waiting for you to sign on AIM, but at the library with Andrew...it really tears me up inside. I hope you don't find this really extreme, but its not like I can control my emotions for you. Terrence... ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- What she wrote back: hey terrence. umm.. wow i dont know what to say. i didnt know that it hurted u inside when i talked about andrew like that, u should have told me i would have stopped talking about andrew that much.. u dont have to have any guts to tell me something. i'll understand. i gues now i kno that u really like me n i like u too but jus as friends. trust me, i understand how u feel cuz ive been in that position before. yea.. we can still be really good friends like we are now n u can still like me n still come to me whenever u need anything or anybody to talk to..yea.. i dont know what else to say but sorry. Elaine ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- I feel so dumb and stupid...I hope I'll get over it though. We're still good friends and I hope we will stay good friends with her... Terrence |
|
|
|
|
Nov 24 2004, 09:40 PM
Post
#23
|
|
|
Brie Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 10,172 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,548 |
Don't feel stupid.
At least you took action.. unlike a lot of other people. |
|
|
|
|
Nov 24 2004, 09:44 PM
Post
#24
|
|
 if i was a rich girl.. Group: Member Posts: 703 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 36,836 |
QUOTE(Smartguy10892 @ Nov 24 2004, 9:36 PM) I feel so dumb and stupid...I hope I'll get over it though. We're still good friends and I hope we will stay good friends with her... Terrence aw, you shouldn't feel dumb OR stupid. |
|
|
|
|
Nov 24 2004, 10:20 PM
Post
#25
|
|
 a dorkie lil gurl Group: Member Posts: 65 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,392 |
there there. don't u feel better now that you got that stuff off your chest?
 you're not stupid but rather brave! At least you took action and did something about it! What a man! LOL
|
|
|
|
|
Nov 25 2004, 01:28 AM
Post
#26
|
|
 durian Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 13,124 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,860 |
At least you told her how you feel. And it seems like she doesn't see you as a boyfriend-type. It's really tough, since you are so close with her. Someone I know would never date a good friend of his, even though at one time he had feelings for her. He was scared that it might've ruined their friendship, and everything might be wierd. She probably only sees you as brother/friend
 But at least you told her. She is with some other guy, and maybe you should move on. It IS just middle school. I mean, you CAN wait. But see if there's other girls out there. I agree with krnxswat, plenty of fish in the ocean =P There's plenty of girls at your school, no? Expand your horizons. Haha I always wanted to say that 
|
|
|
|
|
Nov 25 2004, 05:13 AM
Post
#27
|
|
|
Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 77 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 59,957 |
QUOTE(simplyannoy @ Nov 24 2004, 5:20 PM) there there. don't u feel better now that you got that stuff off your chest? you're not stupid but rather brave! At least you took action and did something about it! What a man! LOLI agree atleast u have the gut to tell her, bak when I was in 7th grade I had a crush on dis girl 4 a frikking long time, but I can neva tell her, untill lata she found out through my friend, but she ddint care so eventually I just got over her. |
|
|
|
|
Nov 25 2004, 05:18 AM
Post
#28
|
|
|
Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 31 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,124 |
Well...I think it made it easier to tell her cause we were and still are really close friends. Well I guess "Whatever happens, happens..."
Terrence |
|
|
|
|
1 User(s) are reading this topic (1 Guests and 0 Anonymous Users)
0 Members: