Getting mad at your friends |
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 Nov 18 2004, 06:38 PM
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My friend told me that...
I probably don't have any friends (cause I don't) is because I get mad at them a lot. And I realized... that it's true... And... I've gotten mad at my friend like, 5 times... And now she doesn't want to be my friend... Cause I got mad at her for being friends with the girl I HATE so much. And she says that I got mad at her for saying that I get mad at her for talking about the guys she likes... But I haven't. Argh, what the hell do I do now? And what do you do when you get mad at a friend?... |
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Nov 18 2004, 06:52 PM
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er... i understand why ur friends dont wanna be ur friend..
i mean 100% truthfully if i was in ur friends position id prolly be mad at you too and prolly not wanna be ur friend... maybe you should try to actually be nicer |
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Nov 18 2004, 07:33 PM
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maybe you should try cooling down, try understanding her better, and not blow so easily.
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Nov 18 2004, 07:34 PM
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Brie Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 10,172 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,548 |
Eek.
That sucks. Hmm. When I get mad at a friend.. I just ignore them for a while until I don't feel mad at them anymore, and I feel that they're not mad at me, so yep. |
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Nov 18 2004, 10:30 PM
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 he`z gOt my heart*<3`o2.18.o1` Group: Member Posts: 1,662 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,338 |
try to be nicer and think before you act. if something upsets you.. put yourself in their shoes and think about how they'd feel and how they'd react. don't think so much about yourself. it seems you're a little more selfish when it comes to friends. just because your friend is cool with someone you don't like doesn't mean you should force them not to be friends with them or be angry with them. you should respect their choice to be friends with them and not make a big deal. if they forgive you then it would be nice. but i can understand why it's harder for them to be forgiving .. you really have to prove you're truly sorry and that you'll be more careful the next time before you say something before you think it through.
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Nov 18 2004, 10:41 PM
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gigi =p Group: Member Posts: 3,679 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 41,206 |
Well, sometimes there are adequate reasons to be mean to your friend. In your situation there are some reasons.
1. You hate her for being friends with the girl you hate because she's only trying to get benefits from that girl. (ie, more attention from guys, etc. You feel like she's changing) 2. You feel like it's tiring to listen to her talking about herself all the time and you feel like she's neglecting you. Are you feeling like that? If you are, then you have a reason to get mad at her. If you're not, then you should cool it down a bit. =) I get mad at my "friends" all the time, but you should ask yourself, why am I getting mad? Is it because I'm full of rage or because she really is changing into someone I don't want to be with? |
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Nov 19 2004, 12:19 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 297 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 63,338 |
Oh hmm...
Okay, about your friend being friends with a girl you HATE... I get it if you're mad... but you can't really get that mad at her! I mean, you can't help it if she's friends with someone you hate... It's just something you have to look past. Unless it's like the other person said, and she's just being friends with her to get benifits. Um... two? Are you sure you didn't get mad at her? Just think really hard... and if you don't think you did, ask her what she meant by that... Cause you're not quite sure about it... Tell her how hard it is... sorta compramise... |
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Nov 19 2004, 01:23 AM
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 hello : ) Group: Official Member Posts: 4,227 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,139 |
well when i`m mad at a friend, i try to not talk to them as much. not fully ignore them but try not to always be near them because if i`m mad then at any time i could say something to them that i would regret. so yeah. also, maybe tell them. like if they did something to make you mad, ask them why they did it or tell them that you didn`t like the fact that they did it. etc.
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Nov 19 2004, 09:52 PM
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Argh, what the hell do I do now?
-- Tell your friend to give you another chance and stop being so mad all the time kay. And what do you do when you get mad at a friend?... -- When I get mad at a friend, I usually hint them that I am, not always intentionally. They usually notice my bitterness when I'm angry and if they're good friends, they'll get it out of me. Then we talk, and we settle things out. But before I start showing my angriness, I ask myself if I would do the same thing my friend did that I got angry at her for. I wanna see if it is reasonable for me to be angry, instead of being angry for stupid reasons. |
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Nov 19 2004, 09:56 PM
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 xinistical member Group: Member Posts: 123 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,328 |
haha. my best friend and i get into fights every other day but we still stayed close and he, my best friend, actually understands me better than i understand myself. so i wouldn't worry about fighting w/ friends. it's not that hard to make up w/ them. so just talk things out and stuff. that's what me and my friend do.
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