Why?, do people put themselves down... Options

[eunie04]

i want to know why, there is some people who just despise themselves and hte every bit of there life, where they live and there parents.

i'm exactly the oppisite i love everyone and anything

my question.. how can people hate there life and just want to die

[scandalous_chic]

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[eunie04]

wow ashley (thats your name right? ^^) that really is some good words right there, i will have to tell my friend that! thanks much

[iheartsimba]

some people just can't find that happiness...i guess its hard for some people to focus on the positive things in life and only think abot whats wrong with their lives. You just have to learn to change the outlook and that can change like everything...=/

[Winter]

I'm a perfectionist so I get upset a lot. I get upset when my projects are slightly crumpled or if the binding on a term paper is not aligned or if I get a B in school. When anything doesn't go as planned I get very very upset. Having typical Asian parents who expect their kids to score straght A's all the time does not help either.

After a while things start to pile up inside of me. And I could'nt tell anyone because I find that I don't trust anyone. I just depend on me. After some time I got depressed. Then I started cutting myself.

I know it sounds silly. But somehow when everything builds up inside, you just don't think straight.

I'm still that perfectionist but I don't hurt myself anymore. Nor do I think that badly of myself. Counselling helps.

[Edele]

People have Depression. Some people have it because they don't know how to handle their stress, some people have it as a mental illness, and some have it because they feel like they can't be happy with what they have. There are countless reasons why people are depressed and hate themselves. Society puts so much pressure on people to have the perfect jobs, makes lots of money, buy tons of stuff because the more things you own the better you'll be, and tells them they should look like super models in the process. Most people cannot attain that, and it's a lot of pressure when you do.


But all in all, it just depends on the person to why they are depressed, hate their life, or want to die. *shrugs*

[*Weird addiction*]

maybe cuz they feel alone...they feel unloved and then they isolate themselves...so sad,i feel a little that way but im getting over it,its sucks to be depressed

[waccoon]

Because satisfaction with yourself doesn't come easy.

[SarahxJoy]

I agree with Nick.
Satisfaction with yourself never is easy.
No one said it ever was.

[Looow]

doooode! You have the same avatar as me!! lol. At first I thought that was me posting. Oh well. ehh hmm the anskwer to your question,

Because satisfaction with yourself doesn't come easy.

Yeah I agree with him as well

[x emo screamo x]

I used to get that way alot. mean I still do, but not as much as I used to.
&& like someone else mentioned, the main reason was because my parents are always stressing over my grades. Even though I wasn't brought up from an asian family, my parents come down on me with that stuff alot. I mean my lowest grade right now is a C+ in math, it's not even failing, and my mom flipped out. I couldn't imagine what would happen if I got a D or an F. Always talking about college, and that if I wanna go I have to try alot harder. && I hear it everyday from my teachers, as well. And what they don't know is that I am trying my hardest. I am focusing on school before anything else.



They just don't understand anymore.

[Spirited Away]

People usually get depressed when they get too focused on THEMSELVES. Bad things happen to everyone, not just a few. If they can realize that they're not alone in suffering, they'll feel better. There are always people who are more unfortunate than you.

[dukesoccer07]

People put themselves down so others can give them reinsurance

[glit_gal]

people need to find blame and reason in something so the first thing they notice is themselves and so they put themselves down.

[*tweeak*]

its hard for people to be happy with themselves when they constantly have people telling then how stupid they are, and how much they hate them, and that constantly making them feel like shit.

independance is only a facade

[Shattered_Hope]

becuz...they are like everyone...we take tis for granted..never knowing what we hav until its gone.

[*jooleeah*]

Usually, those types of people always think that everything they do isn't good enough...they always put themself down and are way too hard on themselves. when they aren't happy with what they do, they aren't happy with themselves...=[ another reason might be that they don't have everything they want...their always thinking about what they want instead of thinking about what they already have..yeaahh..=[

[xj_liana_tx]

well... its a rebellion stage, when ur a teenager u hav a lot of moodswings and small things can piss u off, and well.. almost everyone s had these, and sometimes u just think y life s so unfair and wish u were dead

[s0pnayish]

Insecurity. I believe that's why.

[Spirited Away]

its hard for people to be happy with themselves when they constantly have people telling then how stupid they are, and how much they hate them, and that constantly making them feel like shit.

independance is only a facade

Maturity doesn't come from letting people step all over you, it comes from knowing the truth of your own worth. When you live life for yourself and what you love instead of living for other people, dependence or independence no longer matters.

There are many people who suffer mental abuse, not just a selected few. There are many who rise out of it and there are many who do not. It's almost survival of the fittest.

[*lolita kitty*]

They figrue they'll get attention. example:

Them: IM SO UGLY!
Me: no you're not! you're so pretty!!

Sometimes they just want the compliments.

But most of the time it's because of others insults. They get insulted so much they figure that what the other people said is true, and they really are ugly or whatever.

[Just_Dream]

People put themselves down when they see other people with things they don't have. Like if a person sees someone who's prettier/richer/smarter than him/her, he/she would feel inferior. Inferiority leads to self-loathing. Self-loathing leads to hating society in general.

Any more questions?

~Aya

I agree. I'm really self-conscious and paranoid about alot of things. It's not that I want to fit in with society, but more rather that I am not able to accept myself by the way I am. And I hate myself because of what I can't have; it's not as much of wanting THINGS, but rather of wanting something untangible. I'm really negative about myself

People often hate themselves for reasons that didn't include themselves. For example, I hate myself because I couldn't have a father that was nicer and more caring. I foten blame alot of things on myself, even though people tell me it's not my fault.

It's not that I want perfection to other people, but I want perfection.. for myself, in my own eyes.

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[inthemudhole]

Some people just have a really dangerously low self-esteem, and that affects every thing they do in their day.
Some people don't feel that they're good enough. They don't think they look good enough, act good enough, wear good enough clothes, get good enough grades, or play well enough in sports/activities/instruments/etc.

Not everyone can be a life-lover.

Some people put themselves down like that because they don't feel that they were "given" a good life. I guess you should be the one to make your life "good" or "bad", but I guess once they have their mind set on the fact that their life sucks, they've already sank low enough into that black misery and don't want to even try and change into having a better, more positive life.

Some people just say badly about themselves because they want attention and they're just DYING for someone else to say "OMG NO UR NOT FAT!!@!@!" and stuff like that. They're not insecure. They're just trying to get people to somehow feel bad for them and be all OMGZ Y DO U THINK UR FAT!#?!? and stuff. -_- I don't know.

I personally am NOT a life-lover.