A big topic, in a young age., How do we reconize love? Options

[TheBlueBearPatro...]

People nowadays dates when they're still like, i dunno, 10? Isn't that a bit too young? Girls claim that it's true love, but then a month later, they break up crying , having to find out that their boys were cheating on them.
I am honestly disgusted by the percent of people dating is more than 65 percent, that hasn't even reached 14 yet. Some are pressured into getting into a relationship. Some thinks that it's real at the age of 11. Others are just playing.
Many that read this may not agree wiht me. That's ok, because it's an opinion of my own. But personally, they should have learn to reconize SENSE earlier on, so that we won't be "heartbroken" so fast. What if you're still pregnent at age 15?'
Think about what TRUE LOVE is. You still have some of the best years of your life ahead of you to get a boyfriend in high school or college. You'll feel happier and more experienced that way.
I've told many, when they had asked me, that i'll start dating at the age of 18. After all, i still have schoolwork to focus on. Finding a husband will have to wait.
Please, just think about it.

[someflipguy]

I say that your not mature enough body and mind until after High School to realize what true love is.

[BBYxTEE]

We ain`t ready.. Girls talk about that stuff like they really are in "Love" but you ask them what "Love" is they don`t know. I argree.. your not mature enough until after high school. "GET THAT DAMN `EDJAMAKASHUN` FIRST."

[eli5e]

^ i agree.... =P

[mz anita xP]

well, i've noticed many are dating at a young age, we cannot tell them if its true love or not, to us we might feel its not, but maybe to them, at that moment they just feel like they are in love. we're not them so we cant really know how they're feeling at that moment. i, myself, dated at 14 and we broke up after 9 months, at first it really felt special and all that, but as time passes by, things started changing. i really cant tell was the starting true love? and time just fades everything. high skewl dont always mean you'll kno what true love is. i still dont know what is it. mayb true love is just the starting feeling, but feelings fades as time passes. not all marriage are true love, thats why there are many divorces.
feeling heart broken at an early age is really not worht it, but i guess thats jus an earlier experience through these pain from all the problems. i dont agree or disagree young age dating. lol

[ghjgfkgfk]

i stole this from on my friends AIM profile,
'you don't go to high school to find your husband, you go to find your bridemaids'

[TheSilenceInDict...]

Love is an emotion.
An emotion that is blind to age, and can be experienced by anyone.
Just like every other emotion.

[*mSz_dOrk_anGeL*]

Love is an emotion.
An emotion that is blind to age, and can be experienced by anyone.
Just like every other emotion.

I agree. But iunno I don't like think you have to be a certain age to know what love is. You just feel it.

[f00LisH_h3aRt63]

I say that your not mature enough body and mind until after High School to realize what true love is.

i agree fully with what ryan said ^^. nowadays the word 'i love you' is used tooo lightly & too often. i think its mostly puppy love when u're that young.

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[metabolic666]

I say that your not mature enough body and mind until after High School to realize what true love is.

Like He said it hah wait till after High School cause turst me you will find someone I never really understood that until now but its true

[goofipinay]

'you don't go to high school to find your husband, you go to find your bridemaids'

that sounds pretty true..lol
true..my friends r like 12 -14 n theyve already had like at least 20 bfs/gfs..and some of my friends said their first bf was in kindergarten! and they dont even remember who!

my sister says "Wait til after college..Because guys mess you up. And your education"
she says that from all the stuff shes been through..

[Shattered_Hope]

no matter what age you are....you will never be able to knowwhat love fully is...but on to other things...you should not get a b/f until after high school and you are in college with a mind to know that things that go fast will not last.

[sheddingtears]

Yeah seeing little kids in elementary school and middle school with make-up and tight clothes on just to impress the opposite sex just sickens me. Also, seeing "i LoVe __________!!!" in their profiles is just URGH--they don't know what real love is at all.

[whywasisostupid]

i agree.

no one realy knows what true love is unless they are like tottaly commited to themselves and truly are the perfect soulmate for each other...

any body can say `i love you` but it takes a real somebody to actulay mean it

[I.Luff.Emo.Boys.]

i dont agree. For me, not all my relationships are for love. Its because i like that person at the moment and i want to be with them. Im not searching for love. Im searching for someone i can be with until im ready for love. Not all relationships are based on the beleif in love. Dont tell me im not mature enough for a relationship. You dont know me. I could be more mature than you at the age of 12. If you say you should wait until your mature for relationships/love, then noone would have their first bf/gf until they are about 30.

[jambaJUICE]

the phrase "I Love You" pisses me off.
It`s so abused among the youth these days. Rgrr.. How the hell can you "love" someone that you`re going to end up breaking up with in a matter of weeks.
I would say more, but i don`t have the time to rant about it.

[pyrochick19770]

Totally & completely TRUE. Love is not a thing to be shizzted around with. These LiTTLE kids think they know what they're dealing with, but they really don't. I've refused so many h/s guys for this 1 reason alone>They just want assh. They'll tell you they love you...but w/e. Saving all my love for college, when boys are a little more mature. GUH, but back 2 these elementary school kids...OMGuuuh My friend & I were walking down the street [and this was summer time so we were lookin' like any two sophomores on a summer day...in mini-skirts], then we see these TEN..ELEVEN year olds lookin' like HOOCHiES. They had TEENY-TiNY 'lil skirts and TiiiiiiGHT tops...tube tops I might add. [Which is puzzling 'causemthey don't really have the goods to hold them up]. And there was this solitary boy, about 12 I'd say. It was as if they were TRYiNG to impress him. So sad...

[mr_brigtside]

I think most of it is peer pressure Its like "I donbt have a boy/girl firend"

I am rite now single! and i rele dont care!

[*stephinika*]

i'm bored so i'm going to thoroughly go through this.

People nowadays dates when they're still like, i dunno, 10? Isn't that a bit too young?

hmm well i think having cute little crushes and just holding hands is fine, but a full-on relationship? i don't know. but i haven't seen any that young...maybe 12/13 but not 10.

Girls claim that it's true love, but then a month later, they break up crying , having to find out that their boys were cheating on them.

yeah that i have to agree with. don't say its love unless you've experienced true strong like and heartbreak. maybe then. or at least wait awhile until you decide that its 'love'.

Think about what TRUE LOVE is. You still have some of the best years of your life ahead of you to get a boyfriend in high school or college. You'll feel happier and more experienced that way.

hmm i suppose. but i truly don't believe love knows an age BUT i agree that most people at a young age (ex. preteens) aren't mature enough to understand true and real love, but i think it is possible (though highly unlikely) for rather young people to fall in love.

[xPartyGrlDx]

i stole this from on my friends AIM profile,
'you don't go to high school to find your husband, you go to find your bridemaids'

hahahaha

yes this is happening a lot...when i hear 10 year olds bragging about their boyfriends or whatever i always ask them "aren't you a little too young?" i'm 11 going on 12 and i'm not planning to have a boyfriend soon some people just can't wait to grow up!

[Levy2k6]

all of ya are crazy, im 16 and single.. i been single since the beggining of my freshman year.. im a junior so yeah.. lol..

love is very hard to find.

[DaTru KataLYST]

I agree with with airam's statement.

All this bf/gf boom is because of peer pressure. This may not apply to some of you, but it sure does apply to a lot of high schoolers.

Don't you ever see other people with their bg/gf, and ya think, "I wish I could express affection for someone," or when you got friends that talk about their bf/gf, and you feel left out. Or they may even sneer at you for not being in a relationship (or never have been in one). High school is one of the hardest social times of a person's life, where you're more inclined to conform with others. Getting a bf/gf during highschool is more a sense of security deep down. Sure you feel for the person, but really, deep down, you're just happy people don't look at you as a "single loser".


Or maybe I'm just jealous of those that have found someone, as I'm a "single loser" too!

[dani41790]

i agree. it kinda pisses me off wen i see little sixth graders telling their bf's they love them one their first day of dating. i mean come on. i think it takes maturity and a certain amount of time to love someone.

[teenprincess]

I don't know if it's 65%. I only know a couple of people in a relationship.

I think that the younger you are the more confused about love or relationships you are. I remember in Middle School everyone thought they had to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend to be excepted. In six grade about 3 people had a crush on me that I knew of. Now no one has a crush on me. Now that I'm in High School I dont really see anyone making a big deal about it.

[houjin_himo]

most girls at the age of 10-14, when they say the "love" someone its most likely lust or a small crush...the reason they end up crying because of a breakup because their bodies not mature to understand the meaning so they dont feel the same anymore...most likely at the age of 15 or when you star high school is when u start to get mature and understanding love....ahha just my thoughts

[s0emotionalx3]

Love is an emotion.
An emotion that is blind to age, and can be experienced by anyone.
Just like every other emotion.

I agree.

There IS no "right age" to fall in love. Some people have been together so much, they probably DO love each other. Just because some are younger, doesn't mean they don't know what it's like. Say you've known someone for two years and you've always liked them, then you find out they feel the same. In that case, is it naive and wrong to love them especially since you've loved them as a FRIEND for so long already? Is that worse and more immature than someone you meet at a club for a night, go out on a few dates, and immediately go out with them?

However, I agree that when some people go "OMFG I LOVE YOU SOO EFFIN MUCH!" and then break up few weeks later, are just pathetic. But Im pretty sure that happens at every age, it's just adults are more careful about when they would actually do that and kids tend to say it more and do it more because they don't wonder about the future as much.

It doesn't really matter each age.. someone can be 25 and still act like a little kid whereas someone whos only 13 can act like theyre 19.

[mr_brigtside]

I really think that you really hafta no yourself before you can go out on dates!

[*RiC3xBoy*]

true love is overused, and some people dont really know what love is, but they are usually influenced into thinking its something u can just throw out there

[IamNoBody]

well....I'm 12 so I'm about the age you guys are talking about and yea i don't think people my age really know what "love" is haha i probably don't either but people at my school they like go out but then break up because theire friend broke up already....its odd but yea i don't think people my age are ready yet...though love doesn't really have an age boundary whoooo i'm on both sides

[ichiban]

Eh. Well I guess anyone at any age can experience true love .. ? except if you're like .. 8 years old ... but yeah. i met this one guy before and he became one of my closest friends and i felt like i actually loved him ... it wasnt like one of those stupid crushes where i "melt" whenever i see him or whatever .. or i try to dress up all cute to impress him.

but some of my friend's crushes are so stupid. they see some guy they've never talked to, think he's hot, and they're all like "i love him sooo much .. i love him forever ... he's the greatest .. i can't stop thinking about him.....!!!" lordy, once my friend told me just because her crush said "hi" to her, she got all hyper and happy and crap. -_-

[azn hunni xox]

Ohh, I sorta agree with you... sorta not. I mean, yeah, I know, I'm 12... But that doesn't mean I'm to immature to be in a real relationship. Although, I do see a lot of people in my grade... maybe a grade higher too, break up with someone in a few days... for stupid reasons.

And hmm, when you're older than another age group.... you sorta just seem to underestimate them... I know I do it

[Just_Dream]

I fell in love whe I was 14. Maybe at that time, I was wrong to claim what I had with my boyfriend to be love... But right now I really AM in love with my boyfriend. I still get butterflies when I see him, but mainly if I'm alone with him becuase nothing seems to matter. I feel a sense of security when I'm with him and just the sight of him makes me happy.

Love does take time to develop, but you can't just say that people who are young don't really know what love is. Just because the majority aren't odl enough to really know what love is, they still have love for their family. Actually, I think kiddish love, or "puppy love" IMO, would still count because maybe they do know what love is. My half sister has been with her boyfriend (now fiance) since she was in middle school, or so I've heard. She's 30 years old now. She's still with him and they're living together in New Hampshire. I bet she was in love after a month of dating him; she really cares alot about him and he really cares alot about her. Yea sure, there's alot of young people that think they're in love and in reality, they are not, but there's still a tiny percentage of young couples that do fall in love and DO know what love is.

I hate it when the words "I love you" are thrown around and then the couple breaks up.

[shortAY_07]

Yeah, I agree with ya. ;D I didn't start "dating" 'til I was about 14. And even then it's just playing around and holding hands. Nothing serious.

[RIcEB0IAnTh]

True love mean u dun always have to have tat person, just as long as u noe dey are happy den u are happy, and if s/he just want to be friend right now u will respect their decision and be the best friend u can be, dun go around crying about tat u got rejected. and no matter how long u have to wait, u will still wait for dem. tats is what I thought true love is about.