whay is it so hard?, for a guy to ask aout another.... Options

[Blackclothes]

is it the stigma of everyone finding out your gay or is it the rejection.... i don't know but i always asked the guy then they were like, "How did you know i liked you?" and i was liek i took a chance.. but yeah... i wanna here your perspective guys and girls, straight or not! why do you think it is so hard... ?

for those who said they dod not understand the question it was why is it so hard for a GAy guy to ask another gay that they do not know is gay out ....


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[DrEaMgUy2K1]

um im not sure what the question is but ill try to answer it ~_~

Um...If your asking about why people are afraid of asking others out, yes its probally being too shy or fear of rejection

If thats not the question , then ill edit once u explain more clearly ~_~

[Too Asian To DIE]

well i unno what u were saying but if its lyk y dont guys ask girls out more its just that they r afraid of rejection.... mostly what vinh said

[Saeglopur]

... you know what I do? I just keep my secret shut and just tell that person.. and not anyone else. It's hard just because people will probably not look at you the same way, ever. They will always be bugging you about your crush. It's so annoying. Honestly, that's why you shouldn't tell people anymore.

[Blackclothes]

does everyone get the question now? well i agree with the last one.. but yeah...

[Oreo_bro]

i dont think the first few did.

He did not ask "why is it hard for a guy to ask out a girl".

He asked "why is it hard for a guy to openly admit he is gay to a fellow guy and ask them out".


My answer is this, they are most likly afraid. Afraid of what there fellow classmates think, afraid of what there friends might think, and especaly afraid of what the guy they like may think. It is a VERY big fear for them, since i mean guys asking otu girls is normal, but if u ask out another guy, and he is not gay and doesnt like u, word could get out and you rep could be blown. Most people dont like others knowing that they are gay, sure its more common to be open but more often then not they dont want the whole school knowing.

anways thats my answer.

[Blackclothes]

yeah wwell i am sort of open my friends know and well my parents that is another story... but i mean every guy i have asked out went out with me... was it luck... but i was alwasy like a month before they moved DAMN THE MILITARY.... and lately i was turned down but i think it was he did not liek me becasue he hsa a rep of being gay!!.... and in gym he acts like it.... he'll even strip for me.... hmmm.. oh yeah well i don't see why they do not ask me out if they like me becasue like everyone knows i am gay... i find it weird...

on the ohter hand maybe they think that i am going to tell everyone because everyone knows about me...hmmm... maybe well i g2g

[jennyjenny]

Are you trying to say you're gay?

And you're asking why guys don't ask out other guys?

[*stephinika*]

yeah i understand the question. i think its because they are afraid the other guy won't feel the same way and they then may be looked down upon as an openly gay person. if they knew for sure the other guy was gay, it would probably be slightly easier.

[sammi rules you]

it's hard for me to ask out other people mostly because i'm afraid of rejection. i'd have to be pretty sure they liked me before i asked them out.

[expoised]

Are you trying to say you're gay?

And you're asking why guys don't ask out other guys?

you know its not that hard to figure out what he's asking...

he's asking why its hard for a guy (like him) to ask out another guy (b/c you might not know if he's gay or not...).

i asked my friend (he's gay) that question once out of curiosity and he said he just sorta ... knew? i wish i sorta "knew" when a guy liked me.

[Blackclothes]

ok still it is not clear... I asked out all my boyfriend and i was only turned away once and now we are better friends than before... but yeah... ever guy i dated was like why didn't you ask sooner.... and i wanted to know why didn't he ask me when everyone knew i was gay... are some gay guys like girls... they do not wanna make the first move?... hope fully that clears it up..

[happygoluckyng]

I think you wouldn't because of rejection...if the other dude wasn't then he probobly would stay as far away from you as he can

NOTE- I'm a girl and straight.....lol

[Shattered_Hope]

fear of rejection ..thats pretty much it. or if u just dont hav that much feelings toward that person..

[Blackclothes]

ok so everyone thinks it is becasue of rejection!... i did not think that i never worried about that.... crap i feel awkwardly unique!... no likey thi sfeelin' .. lol