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[TearsOfAPhoenix]

Ok I need an honest opinion. I have this best friend who’s a guy and we’re super close. We can talk about anything and we trust each other enough to open up without the other making fun. He’s a real ladies man in the sense that the girls are very easily attracted to him, but he is a gentleman in every sense. He opens doors, pulls out chairs, etc. (Turn on for the ladies).

Anyways despite the fact that I have more than friendly feelings for him I seem to end up hooking him up with girls. Last hook up I made was with my friend and she’s the type to run away when the relationship gets to “serious”. Anyways she dumped him with the excuse that she didn’t like him anymore when she really did. When she revealed her true feelings for him it was too late because he had a new gf. That gf ended up dumping him too because they didn’t see each other much. Now he wants to get back together with my friend, but she’s over him. Throughout all of this I noticed that while comforting through his pain and being there for him and him doing the same… I fell for him.

For the past year our relationship has evolved and I guess you could say we’re flirty. We cuddle… lie in each other’s laps… talk for hours on AIM about everything…have a lot in common (soccer)… meet after school when we can… Many of my friends say he likes me. He admitted to one of our less close mutual friend that I was perfect for him, but that he didn’t want a girlfriend at the time and then later when she asked directly if he liked me, he said no. Another of our friends got involved and told him that a lot of people had noticed us together at a festival (various people asked if we were a couple) and when it would be official. He signed off AIM before he answered. He’s still talking to me as usual… nothing different, but if this will hurt our relationship if he doesn’t like me… how can I cover up my feelings? OH and the friend I hooked him up with knows about my feelings and totally supports the idea.

What do you honestly think about all of it? I’m a really laid back girl… guess you could say I’m a tom boy, but does he have feelings for me or does he just see me as his sister? I don’t want to ruin the unbelievably close relationship we have, but my feelings for him are really strong.

Darn. I knew I should have gone easy on him at the arcade.

Sorry I wrote sooooo much. I wanted to be detailed in order for you guys to give an opinion.

[DrEaMgUy2K1]

sister

[dani41790]

i think u should tell him how u feel. idk i jus think it would be best if he knew.

[mz anita xP]

=T that seems lik a really hard decision, not telling him would hurt u a lot seeing him with other girls, telling him MIGHT make a change in your friendship with him =T which would hurt you too. guys...they dont always tell the truth when others ask. lik my ex, back thens when others ask him if he liked me, he said no, but what happeend was he did and he asked me out. its possible that he feels if he asked u out, the friendship iwth u might b ruined cus mayb he feels you dont like him? i really dont know, try hinting him in some ways, but not telling him directly u like him.

[lilxroxy]

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whoa. that is kinda like me a while back..i don`t knw..good luck to you though..i think the flirting part is hinting you. buh he`s not sure abt his feelings for you either

[sammi rules you]

wow..that is like..movie-worthy story there.
i say you should bring it up casually..be like.."haha people keep telling me i should go out with you..have you ever thought about it?"
since you're so close, that shouldn't make it awkward.

[lilxroxy]

^ i agree^

[TearsOfAPhoenix]

It's weirder now. He doesn't talk to me like he use to and I haven't even told him how I feel. He seems to be pulling away b/c of the comments my friends made. Our conversations now consist of cordiality only between friends, the usual stuff, where as before everything that was said came from the heart. How do I fix this? I don't want to confess my feelings when things are so odd... but I can't get over him... My old crush has started talking to me a lot more and is flirty... but it's just not the same.

[LittleLulu]

u gota take the chance NOW...its kinda like.. now or never... if it doesn't work out then u shud try talking to him abt it n jus stay friendss... but i think its worth a shot to tell him the truth.

[LadyXTor]

He sees you as a kinda sister figure. Because he goes to you for relationship help and you guys seem to pal around a lot. But hey, who knows? Your relationship might evolve another step.

[smile4me]

mm. u said u guys stopped talking? maybe pull him aside and ask what's wrong? then when the issue is addressed, maybe tell him? >.<

[XaZnX07]

i say he likes you but just doestn want to admit maybe you should give it a little more time and then after that tell him how you feel and go for it good luck !



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[DoOdOox3]

omg y is it so complicated
it is pretty damn harddd

wellll letz see.... if itz ttru that he admitted that u r the perfect grl for him.. then there you go.. therez the answer.. only if itz tru nd not a rumor. all the other mix feelings from him later on.. like sayin no he dont like u nd blabla... thatz all natural when a guy doesnt want to reveal his feelings nd stuff...
but do you really wanna date him.. cuz after you 2 break up... thatz when everything breaks apart.. friendship, etc...

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[gnawxela]

i was in this situation before and i just kept 'our' relationship the same...that was a good move cuz he didnt like me that way...but i got over it...yeah

[*jooleeah*]

Wow. What a complicated situation.
Well, I think that you should tell him how you feel. I mean, you never know, right? Maybe he does like you after all.
And plus, if you told him, I'd think you would feel a lot better.

[3ssx]

keep ur relationship like that.. personal experiance... my and my best guy friend were really close... and then.. yes.. i liked him more then just a close friend.. we went out for 4 months.. and then yea... we broke up before school started.. he irgnored me for a year.. and recently he's been talkin to me again... i felt really bad losing him as a close friend...he was someone that i trusted alot.. i would tel lhim everything that was on my mind...

[TearsOfAPhoenix]

Yea. I think I'm going to keep the relationship the way it is... I really don't have a choice anymore... We are back to telling each other everything... everything is great, but I got so frustrated from seeing him so down about the rough break up with my friend that I decided to do something about it. I talked it over with my friend who kept denying that she had feelings for him, but in the end she confessed that she was afraid of being happy because she knew it wouldn't last and that she still loved him. So i practically hooked them up again... and I think as long as he's happy with her... I'm a happy camper... at least I hope so .

[Shattered_Hope]

no matter how u luk at it ...he deserves to know.

[EXPLO5ION]

no matter how u luk at it ...he deserves to know.

i agree.

[sheddingtears]

wow. i've never been in that kind of situation before. i think you should just give it a little time and just continue with life. BUT, you fell for him. find a perfect time to tell him how you feel and find out if you're just a sister or if you could be together.