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 Oct 15 2004, 11:31 PM
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 my pet rock doesn't like you  Group: Member Posts: 258 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 4,866  |
I have this friend, (she could possibly be reading this now..but hopefully not) and well..we just dont 'click'. I feel like we're both struggling to keep up our relationship when there really never was a relationship in the first place. I never feel myself around her..like i have to be someone completely different in order to get along..and thats NOT me..it will NEVER be me. I'm very different from her, and id like to keep it that way. But whenever i think she's starting to understand that i really dont want to be friend, it turns out the complete opposite. And, to make it worst my mom hates her and thinks that her personality is rubbing off on me and now she uses that as the reason to my bad behavior all the time. And half the time its NOT true! I just want to know how i can let my friend know for sure that i dont want to talk to her at all. Sure, ill say hi when we pass..but i want that to be it. So how can i put it gently, yet firmly enough that she gets the point? That would be great if you could help.
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Oct 15 2004, 11:54 PM
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 oh sweet pestilence Group: Member Posts: 2,251 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 22,876 |
I have had that problem with someone. We just didn't "click" either. It's hard to be around someone that just doesn't "click" with you. In my case the girl just like, stopped talking to me. That's not the best way to do it. lol. I guess i would say "I don't feel like this friendship is going anywhere. When i am around you, i just can't be true to myself & be me. I think it would be best if we took some time apart" It's kinda harsh but im not sure what else i would say. I hope everything turns out ok! Sorry im not that great of help.
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Oct 15 2004, 11:56 PM
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020405<3 Group: Member Posts: 179 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 45,729 |
i think its kinda sad that you would want to not be her friend because of her personality .. but, you could just tell her straightforward, its better than to not tell her and let her think that your a friend she never had
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Oct 15 2004, 11:59 PM
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oh sweet pestilence Group: Member Posts: 2,251 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 22,876 |
QUOTE(babyxyelloe @ Oct 15 2004, 8:56 PM) i think its kinda sad that you would want to not be her friend because of her personality .. but, you could just tell her straightforward, its better than to not tell her and let her think that your a friend she never had She's not stopping being her friend because her personality, they just don't "click". It's nobody's fault. You can't make yourself "click" with someone..Believe me i have tried to be friends with someone, it just doesn't work & you don't feel like you're being true to yourself at the end of the day. 
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Oct 16 2004, 08:03 AM
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Gackt's Wife Group: Member Posts: 411 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,549 |
... when u guys talk try to make the convo short or just be boring around her... then she wont want to hang around you?
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Oct 16 2004, 09:37 AM
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 F**k me Beautiful Group: Member Posts: 3,126 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,124 |
just ease off on the bonding, soon u guys will split
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