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any tips on how to get over someone?, ..oy its so hard
myxromance
post Sep 2 2004, 11:36 AM
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my boyfriend broke up woth me 3 times. He did all the breaking up for me. Everytime he did, Id always take him back. But this breakup is for real now. Its been like 2 months since we talked. I keep myself busy by hanging out with a whole bunch of my guy friends. I fashioned this idea in my mind that my ex boyfriend's intentions of leaving me were nothing but jibberish BS. But he was my everything. So, Ive been hanging on to a string of hope for the last few months. Any other tips to making my life less miserable?
 
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post Sep 2 2004, 12:04 PM
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eh, i don't really know because i'm still trying to get over my ex. but, i suggest going out with some friends, looking for other guys, or just immersing yourself in some activity that'll takeyour mind off him.
 
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post Sep 2 2004, 01:27 PM
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get with his best friend, or get someone else
 
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post Sep 2 2004, 02:03 PM
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The thing that helped me get over someone is trying to find someone to replace those memories that you have with that person. It may hurt to be with someone else but sometimes its better to try then anything else. Don't get down on yourself if you can't or feels like you can't move on. It takes time and time is what you have. Life is long and your young many people will come and many will break your heart or you will break there hearts just learn from your experiences and take to account on how you handle each break up. Hope things work out...
 
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post Sep 2 2004, 02:21 PM
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like u said.. he WAS ur everything... its time to put everything aside... and look forward.. the thing that helped me get over my ex was that not only did he break his promises.. but he went out wit my 5yearlong friend 5days after we brok up -_-" lol after he did that i knew he wasnt worth my time crying and stuff =x i hope u get over him asap. another way to get over something... is to face it.. maybe talking to him will help? keep in mind u two are nothing but friends, or meet some new ppl =] find a new target
 
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post Sep 2 2004, 02:26 PM
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word, i dont even know what advice to give you when im somewhat in the same situation. i broke up with my ex twice and regretted it twice. now that its been 2 months since we really talked i feel as miserable as ever. but yeah..feel better i guess _unsure.gif
 
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post Sep 2 2004, 02:48 PM
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just dont think about it...just keep yourself busy...it's not that easy...but that's the best thing i could tell you...
 
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post Sep 2 2004, 03:46 PM
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QUOTE(conster @ Sep 2 2004, 3:21 PM)
like u said.. he WAS ur everything... its time to put everything aside... and look forward.. the thing that helped me get over my ex was that not only did he break his promises.. but he went out wit my 5yearlong friend 5days after we brok up -_-" lol after he did that i knew he wasnt worth my time crying and stuff =x i hope u get over him asap. another way to get over something... is to face it.. maybe talking to him will help? keep in mind u two are nothing but friends, or meet some new ppl =] find a new target

He wasn't worth it.
 
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post Sep 2 2004, 03:56 PM
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QUOTE(waccoon @ Sep 2 2004, 3:46 PM)
He wasn't worth it.

lol he as in... the he in my story or her story _unsure.gif heh
 
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post Sep 3 2004, 12:38 PM
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thank you so much you guys. I just talked to my other friend and she is going through the same thing. Now that school is about to start, I called him last night and I was very mature with him.
I told him that since this is our senior year, i wanted to get through it as easily as possible. I told him that i was tired of being bitter and that I wanted to patch things up with him.
he wanted to do the same thing but was fearful of my wrath. And he was glad that I took the initiative of staring over fresh.

Did I mention that he broke up with me for some other girl?

and guess what. Now he doesnt like her anymore...(sigh) high school boys. they never know what they want. I told him it was a temporary crush but he broke up with me.

So I guess things are alot cooler with us now. But Im still a little skeptical with him..I guess thats what happens when a guy breaks up with me 3 x.

But however now I get the feeling that he wants to be with me again. He says that hes gonna call me more often and whatnot.

I dont want to be fooled again. i know if we start dating again, he'll start off with the best of intentions but i know slowly, his old habits will surface again. Because his old habits dont die hard.

ugh. I just want to be single.
 
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post Sep 3 2004, 12:59 PM
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i think that whats best for you now... is to be friends with him.. IF YOU WANT. But at the same time... keep that friendship at a distance. If you think that he wants to get back with you again... then don't give in. Keep him at that distance. He's not worth your time. And you won't get back together with him... if you don't let it happen. That choice would be up to you. If you do get back with him, its your own fault. Stand your ground... be friends with him... but keep it at that. Or else you're just going to get hurt again.... and i think you know this already deep down inside of you. Move on sweetie... there are a lot of better guys out there. And you might want to wait until you're older... Up to you. Hope that helps some...
 
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post Sep 3 2004, 02:50 PM
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MusicalAngel = einstein.

damn so smart.

youre so psychic.
 
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post Sep 3 2004, 02:58 PM
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1) be friends with him agen but dont fall in. do not get too close
maybe like 2 convos a week uno but dont make it seem like u relli likie it or else ur screwed
2) replace him with another guy
 
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post Sep 3 2004, 03:52 PM
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getting over someone is hard. well to get over someone, you have to like find a new crush or try to be friends with your ex-boy friend. i hope that works for you.
 
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post Sep 3 2004, 04:57 PM
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It's really hard to get over someone.
I had to do that last year. -_-
All I did was I found a new crush. Then I became friends with him.
And then BAM. I liked him, and no longer liked the other d00d.
 
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post Sep 3 2004, 05:09 PM
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Find a new crush and soon you'll forget about him.
 
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post Sep 8 2004, 12:48 AM
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get over that stupid guy.. hes not worth it.. u can do much better.. forget about it.. why would u try to keep a guy like that anyways.. know that he hurt u a lot and keep telling yourself that ... it mite work.. and if not try to find someone better.. "there are many trees in the forest"
 
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post Sep 8 2004, 02:17 AM
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Think about "Fishes in the Sea" there are so many colorful fishes out there, if they're not good enough, put two together then u have one big colorful fish laugh.gif
 
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post Sep 8 2004, 02:39 AM
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Listen to - Burn (Usher) and Dont Wanna try no more(Frankie J) a kagillion times.

Get a new significant other.

Go out and have fun and try not to them about them?
 
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post Sep 8 2004, 02:43 AM
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^^^^bahahahahaha!!! yeh do that!!
 
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post Sep 8 2004, 12:58 PM
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date someone else. duh!
 
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post Sep 8 2004, 10:05 PM
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join the military, and go psycho. become some sort of legend. and blame it all on the depression cause you coudlnt get that girl or guy. oh oh... wait... wait... i think someone did that already.
 
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post Sep 9 2004, 12:34 AM
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date his brother
 
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post Sep 9 2004, 10:06 PM
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the best way to get over someone is to live a better live then the person you broke up with.
 
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post Sep 9 2004, 11:32 PM
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Aww. You know, I have friends who are stills tuck on their first love, evne when they date someone else or like someone else. One of my friends wonder what would've happened if the person she liked so much ever asked her out. I never know what to tell them because I've never been in their boat.

Anyways, yea, try to keep busy without thinking of him. Or maybe try to look for someone new. Your ex broke up w/ u 3 times?! What a scumbag! You deserve better and hopefuly you will find someone to fill up that empty hole in your heart that your ex left. flowers.gif
 
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post Sep 10 2004, 12:06 AM
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omgoodness, I honestly think that the best thing to do is to let him know EXACTLY how you feel... either by talking to him or in writing. I'm 20, been in a few relationships... been in love a couple time. Communication is always the freakin key. If he knows exactly how much you care about him and he still doesn't feel the same way... then it was never meant to be. But you can at least feel satisfied that you gave your all and told him how much you loved him. Find closure in that and FIND SOMEONE BETTER! hope this helps swty! happy.gif
 
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post Sep 11 2004, 06:55 PM
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wow i went thru that situation. except i went out with him twice and it was becuz we rarely saw each other and stuff.

i realy dont have a solution but all the other people that posted, they have a good idea wut im tryin to say
 
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post Sep 11 2004, 09:09 PM
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post Sep 13 2004, 12:45 AM
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wow....... funny....i was in this situation with 2 girls.... but i just took it as a thing of the past n went on with my life...
 
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post Sep 13 2004, 01:36 AM
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yooh cant just get over someone just because you want to. it takes time. me nd my ex broke up 7 months ago but im still holding on cuz i just cant let go. so yea its hard to let go..... ermm.gif
 
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post Sep 15 2004, 08:04 PM
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i guess just keep your self busy?
 
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post Sep 24 2004, 07:07 PM
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hm same thing practically for me and er its like i still cant get over him and so i have no idea. but were like good friends and stuff and he still looks out for me but when im with a guy or something he gets all jealous. wacked out! wacko.gif
 
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post Sep 26 2004, 08:53 PM
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stop thinking about him!!!! :D it seems like u still do
 
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post Sep 26 2004, 08:59 PM
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find another guy?

err me and my ex of 5 months (we broke up about..a few weeks ago) and we are still friends. I occupy myself with other guys. Flirting with one specific guy and it keeps my mind off of my ex.

I think something is gunna happen wit me and the guy but who knows..

At least me and my ex are friends. try to tlk with ur ex and get sum closure. Me and my ex are good friends and it sure did bring sum closure.

time to move on
 
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post Sep 26 2004, 09:03 PM
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hmm well getting over someone is hard im still trying to get over my ex even if i broke up with her...but all u gotta try and do is move on being with friends helps u get yur mind off of him works for me and my ex
 
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post Sep 27 2004, 01:01 PM
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hah. find a new bf maybe? lol just playen uuh uuh srry i cant helpsz pinch.gif
 
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post Sep 27 2004, 03:29 PM
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slit your wrists...then you won't have to worry about him anymore
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post Sep 27 2004, 03:36 PM
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QUOTE
stop thinking about him!!!! :D it seems like u still do


unfortuantely the reason that she posted this is that she cant stop thinking bout him.... _dry.gif i guess that u dont realize that breaking up with sumone u have been for a long time hurts really bad......

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slit your wrists...then you won't have to worry about him anymore
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what r u? nuts? stubborn.gif mad.gif

i think that doing things that u enjoy a lot lyk sports or sumthing that u know u wont be thinking bout him so much...... it takes time for the hurt to go away..... unless ur lyk mai crush..... 2 days later after his breakup with his gf of 1 and 1/2 yrs he is fine....... what a weirdo happy.gif biggrin.gif
 
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post Sep 29 2004, 01:01 AM
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post Sep 29 2004, 02:24 AM
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you cant just get over someone like that..if you have feelings for someone then you have feelings for someone..it'll take time..
 
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post Sep 29 2004, 03:57 AM
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Think about something else or think about unanswered questions.
Like, what did come first, the chicken or the egg?
You know, things like that.
 
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post Sep 29 2004, 05:27 AM
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post Oct 2 2004, 12:28 AM
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i guess ... find someone better. there's always gonna be someone better out there, trust me.
 
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post Oct 2 2004, 01:42 PM
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time will heal it. dunt worry :]
 
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post Oct 2 2004, 01:48 PM
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Dont get with your best friend, youre just forcing yourself to make him jelous, which is all for him, meaning you still have feelings for him. Try getting someone completely new, away from the past
 
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post Oct 2 2004, 01:54 PM
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think about the negativeS?
 
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post Oct 2 2004, 03:23 PM
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start to be open for other guys
im sure there r guys out ther want you

and yes keep yourself busy
stay with your friends alot

and maybe checkin out other singles...

i don think u can completely get over him cuz the pain will come bak again nd again nd again.. but try to... itz hard. good luck

take care

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post Oct 3 2004, 11:22 PM
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its a smart thing to do, just get it over............but since you know now that you both are cool with each other, that will get your getting over him thing faster and easier......just stay as freinds........

hang out with freids alot, family.......anything to take ur mind off of him....go watch some scary butt movies ahahah ......man that really helped. single is fun, you get to do wutever you want with your life........
 
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post Oct 3 2004, 11:25 PM
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the thing i do is try to keep my mind off her.. kick it with friends or go to church or something.. just get her out of ur mind
 

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