any tips on how to get over someone?, ..oy its so hard |
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any tips on how to get over someone?, ..oy its so hard |
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![]() i gravitate to surfers. ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 11 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 45,865 ![]() |
my boyfriend broke up woth me 3 times. He did all the breaking up for me. Everytime he did, Id always take him back. But this breakup is for real now. Its been like 2 months since we talked. I keep myself busy by hanging out with a whole bunch of my guy friends. I fashioned this idea in my mind that my ex boyfriend's intentions of leaving me were nothing but jibberish BS. But he was my everything. So, Ive been hanging on to a string of hope for the last few months. Any other tips to making my life less miserable?
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![]() hi. call me linda. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 ![]() |
eh, i don't really know because i'm still trying to get over my ex. but, i suggest going out with some friends, looking for other guys, or just immersing yourself in some activity that'll takeyour mind off him.
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#3
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 413 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,733 ![]() |
get with his best friend, or get someone else
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![]() I can't believe its not "Ryan" ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 1,981 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,368 ![]() |
The thing that helped me get over someone is trying to find someone to replace those memories that you have with that person. It may hurt to be with someone else but sometimes its better to try then anything else. Don't get down on yourself if you can't or feels like you can't move on. It takes time and time is what you have. Life is long and your young many people will come and many will break your heart or you will break there hearts just learn from your experiences and take to account on how you handle each break up. Hope things work out...
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![]() doot doot doot ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 1,803 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,954 ![]() |
like u said.. he WAS ur everything... its time to put everything aside... and look forward.. the thing that helped me get over my ex was that not only did he break his promises.. but he went out wit my 5yearlong friend 5days after we brok up -_-" lol after he did that i knew he wasnt worth my time crying and stuff =x i hope u get over him asap. another way to get over something... is to face it.. maybe talking to him will help? keep in mind u two are nothing but friends, or meet some new ppl =] find a new target
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word, i dont even know what advice to give you when im somewhat in the same situation. i broke up with my ex twice and regretted it twice. now that its been 2 months since we really talked i feel as miserable as ever. but yeah..feel better i guess
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#7
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![]() i'm lala. girly girl. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 1,531 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 31,888 ![]() |
just dont think about it...just keep yourself busy...it's not that easy...but that's the best thing i could tell you...
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#8
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![]() We are the cure. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,936 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,456 ![]() |
QUOTE(conster @ Sep 2 2004, 3:21 PM) like u said.. he WAS ur everything... its time to put everything aside... and look forward.. the thing that helped me get over my ex was that not only did he break his promises.. but he went out wit my 5yearlong friend 5days after we brok up -_-" lol after he did that i knew he wasnt worth my time crying and stuff =x i hope u get over him asap. another way to get over something... is to face it.. maybe talking to him will help? keep in mind u two are nothing but friends, or meet some new ppl =] find a new target He wasn't worth it. |
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![]() doot doot doot ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 1,803 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,954 ![]() |
QUOTE(waccoon @ Sep 2 2004, 3:46 PM) He wasn't worth it. lol he as in... the he in my story or her story ![]() |
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![]() i gravitate to surfers. ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 11 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 45,865 ![]() |
thank you so much you guys. I just talked to my other friend and she is going through the same thing. Now that school is about to start, I called him last night and I was very mature with him.
I told him that since this is our senior year, i wanted to get through it as easily as possible. I told him that i was tired of being bitter and that I wanted to patch things up with him. he wanted to do the same thing but was fearful of my wrath. And he was glad that I took the initiative of staring over fresh. Did I mention that he broke up with me for some other girl? and guess what. Now he doesnt like her anymore...(sigh) high school boys. they never know what they want. I told him it was a temporary crush but he broke up with me. So I guess things are alot cooler with us now. But Im still a little skeptical with him..I guess thats what happens when a guy breaks up with me 3 x. But however now I get the feeling that he wants to be with me again. He says that hes gonna call me more often and whatnot. I dont want to be fooled again. i know if we start dating again, he'll start off with the best of intentions but i know slowly, his old habits will surface again. Because his old habits dont die hard. ugh. I just want to be single. |
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i think that whats best for you now... is to be friends with him.. IF YOU WANT. But at the same time... keep that friendship at a distance. If you think that he wants to get back with you again... then don't give in. Keep him at that distance. He's not worth your time. And you won't get back together with him... if you don't let it happen. That choice would be up to you. If you do get back with him, its your own fault. Stand your ground... be friends with him... but keep it at that. Or else you're just going to get hurt again.... and i think you know this already deep down inside of you. Move on sweetie... there are a lot of better guys out there. And you might want to wait until you're older... Up to you. Hope that helps some...
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![]() i gravitate to surfers. ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 11 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 45,865 ![]() |
MusicalAngel = einstein.
damn so smart. youre so psychic. |
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#13
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1) be friends with him agen but dont fall in. do not get too close
maybe like 2 convos a week uno but dont make it seem like u relli likie it or else ur screwed 2) replace him with another guy |
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#14
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 1,564 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,336 ![]() |
getting over someone is hard. well to get over someone, you have to like find a new crush or try to be friends with your ex-boy friend. i hope that works for you.
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Brie ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 10,172 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,548 ![]() |
It's really hard to get over someone.
I had to do that last year. -_- All I did was I found a new crush. Then I became friends with him. And then BAM. I liked him, and no longer liked the other d00d. |
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 5,585 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 38,082 ![]() |
Find a new crush and soon you'll forget about him.
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![]() Aznsorpor ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 89 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 9,522 ![]() |
get over that stupid guy.. hes not worth it.. u can do much better.. forget about it.. why would u try to keep a guy like that anyways.. know that he hurt u a lot and keep telling yourself that ... it mite work.. and if not try to find someone better.. "there are many trees in the forest"
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 78 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 39,654 ![]() |
Think about "Fishes in the Sea" there are so many colorful fishes out there, if they're not good enough, put two together then u have one big colorful fish
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![]() F**k me Beautiful ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 3,126 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,124 ![]() |
Listen to - Burn (Usher) and Dont Wanna try no more(Frankie J) a kagillion times.
Get a new significant other. Go out and have fun and try not to them about them? |
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*wind&fire* |
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^^^^bahahahahaha!!! yeh do that!!
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#21
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Member ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 26 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 47,545 ![]() |
date someone else. duh!
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*instantmusic* |
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join the military, and go psycho. become some sort of legend. and blame it all on the depression cause you coudlnt get that girl or guy. oh oh... wait... wait... i think someone did that already.
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date his brother
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![]() Death is a promise given to us at birth ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Official Designer Posts: 4,757 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 7,459 ![]() |
the best way to get over someone is to live a better live then the person you broke up with.
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![]() durian ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 13,124 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,860 ![]() |
Aww. You know, I have friends who are stills tuck on their first love, evne when they date someone else or like someone else. One of my friends wonder what would've happened if the person she liked so much ever asked her out. I never know what to tell them because I've never been in their boat.
Anyways, yea, try to keep busy without thinking of him. Or maybe try to look for someone new. Your ex broke up w/ u 3 times?! What a scumbag! You deserve better and hopefuly you will find someone to fill up that empty hole in your heart that your ex left. ![]() |
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![]() mmm hmmm ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 1,591 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 47,325 ![]() |
omgoodness, I honestly think that the best thing to do is to let him know EXACTLY how you feel... either by talking to him or in writing. I'm 20, been in a few relationships... been in love a couple time. Communication is always the freakin key. If he knows exactly how much you care about him and he still doesn't feel the same way... then it was never meant to be. But you can at least feel satisfied that you gave your all and told him how much you loved him. Find closure in that and FIND SOMEONE BETTER! hope this helps swty!
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![]() i need an sn change. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 1,915 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 27,746 ![]() |
wow i went thru that situation. except i went out with him twice and it was becuz we rarely saw each other and stuff.
i realy dont have a solution but all the other people that posted, they have a good idea wut im tryin to say |
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#28
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![]() E! Online ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 302 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 47,082 ![]() |
"your eyes are placed in front of you so you can look ahead. not behind"
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wow....... funny....i was in this situation with 2 girls.... but i just took it as a thing of the past n went on with my life...
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#30
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![]() Tina + Tommy ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 427 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,575 ![]() |
yooh cant just get over someone just because you want to. it takes time. me nd my ex broke up 7 months ago but im still holding on cuz i just cant let go. so yea its hard to let go.....
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#31
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Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 90 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 49,186 ![]() |
i guess just keep your self busy?
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![]() aiko Nakamura at your service ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 1,518 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 18,144 ![]() |
hm same thing practically for me and er its like i still cant get over him and so i have no idea. but were like good friends and stuff and he still looks out for me but when im with a guy or something he gets all jealous. wacked out!
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#33
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![]() Prez of Student Council 04/05 ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 2,888 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 851 ![]() |
stop thinking about him!!!! :D it seems like u still do
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![]() Blasian, Asian, INVASION! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Official Member Posts: 4,288 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,769 ![]() |
find another guy?
err me and my ex of 5 months (we broke up about..a few weeks ago) and we are still friends. I occupy myself with other guys. Flirting with one specific guy and it keeps my mind off of my ex. I think something is gunna happen wit me and the guy but who knows.. At least me and my ex are friends. try to tlk with ur ex and get sum closure. Me and my ex are good friends and it sure did bring sum closure. time to move on |
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*Influential Guitarist & Inspiring Writer* ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Official Member Posts: 1,217 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,134 ![]() |
hmm well getting over someone is hard im still trying to get over my ex even if i broke up with her...but all u gotta try and do is move on being with friends helps u get yur mind off of him works for me and my ex
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![]() no more tears will fall <33 ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 20 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 49,590 ![]() |
hah. find a new bf maybe? lol just playen uuh uuh srry i cant helpsz
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![]() stephanie .. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 1,965 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 15,529 ![]() |
slit your wrists...then you won't have to worry about him anymore
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#38
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![]() I'm Cat. Gotta problem with that? ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 394 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 43,845 ![]() |
QUOTE stop thinking about him!!!! :D it seems like u still do unfortuantely the reason that she posted this is that she cant stop thinking bout him.... ![]() QUOTE slit your wrists...then you won't have to worry about him anymore Steph what r u? nuts? ![]() ![]() i think that doing things that u enjoy a lot lyk sports or sumthing that u know u wont be thinking bout him so much...... it takes time for the hurt to go away..... unless ur lyk mai crush..... 2 days later after his breakup with his gf of 1 and 1/2 yrs he is fine....... what a weirdo ![]() ![]() |
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#39
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 126 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 27,549 ![]() |
go to a show
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you cant just get over someone like that..if you have feelings for someone then you have feelings for someone..it'll take time..
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#41
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Official Member Posts: 4,750 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 10,581 ![]() |
Think about something else or think about unanswered questions.
Like, what did come first, the chicken or the egg? You know, things like that. |
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![]() jn ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 713 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 49,769 ![]() |
do homework.
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![]() ilikeyouSofreakingmuch. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 2,014 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 643 ![]() |
i guess ... find someone better. there's always gonna be someone better out there, trust me.
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![]() dizzy me up. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 3,191 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,139 ![]() |
time will heal it. dunt worry :]
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![]() lick me ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 3,044 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 44,013 ![]() |
Dont get with your best friend, youre just forcing yourself to make him jelous, which is all for him, meaning you still have feelings for him. Try getting someone completely new, away from the past
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#46
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Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 213 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 12,800 ![]() |
think about the negativeS?
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![]() and then he died... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 338 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 15,047 ![]() |
start to be open for other guys
im sure there r guys out ther want you and yes keep yourself busy stay with your friends alot and maybe checkin out other singles... i don think u can completely get over him cuz the pain will come bak again nd again nd again.. but try to... itz hard. good luck take care X |
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AsianUniQ ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 77 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 50,713 ![]() |
its a smart thing to do, just get it over............but since you know now that you both are cool with each other, that will get your getting over him thing faster and easier......just stay as freinds........
hang out with freids alot, family.......anything to take ur mind off of him....go watch some scary butt movies ahahah ......man that really helped. single is fun, you get to do wutever you want with your life........ |
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SOS Brigade!! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 2,573 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 47,775 ![]() |
the thing i do is try to keep my mind off her.. kick it with friends or go to church or something.. just get her out of ur mind
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