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 Aug 13 2004, 02:31 AM
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 God is love. Love is God. heck yess.  Group: Member Posts: 87 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,566  |
HHm....my friend started cutting herself and im woried
 She says that she does it to relieve her paine and suffereing, but i dunno, I've tried cutting myself before, and it hurt, so i stopped and to me, it doesn't relieve pain [IT HURTS] I want herto stop, but she said that shewants to keep doing it because it makes her feel batter Should i back off and let her do it? [im sorta backing off right now] but i still want her to stop I think its bad to cut..what do ya'll think? And Do you guys think i should back off and let her do it? 
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Aug 13 2004, 02:33 AM
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 F**k me Beautiful Group: Member Posts: 3,126 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,124 |
u cant really tell her to stop, u gotta tell her how U feel, and u gotta know why she does it, and then after a while she feels comfortable talking to u about it u should suggest some other method to relieve pain
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Aug 13 2004, 02:59 AM
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 aint the world lovely? Group: Member Posts: 228 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 19,602 |
sometimes when i used to feel really mad or really overemotional i'd cut myself - a kind of outlet i guess. in a way it was a transfer of emotional pain - something that isnt expressed very easily - to something physical that could be felt and seen. does that make sense? i wasnt exactly a serious cutter - never got to a point where it was really bad. but i stopped because my friends kept talking to me about it. so...keep talking to your friend...tell her how you feel about it and everything
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Aug 13 2004, 03:06 AM
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Brie Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 10,172 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,548 |
You can't force her to stop.
She might just want attention. But I don't know the situation completely.. |
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Aug 13 2004, 03:26 AM
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 LunchboxXx Group: Member Posts: 1,789 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,810 |
cutting yourself to relieve pain is like going to war for peace, which is like f***ing for virginity. it doesn't make sense.
make her stop being so stupid and find more productive ways of relieving pain. seriously. what could be so bad that she has to risk her life to do somthing she only thinks feels good and doesn't help her or anyone? tell her to suck it up and take it like evryone else has to. hehe. i just kinda flipped out a little 
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Aug 13 2004, 03:27 AM
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 Hi! I'm Dani :) Group: Member Posts: 5,637 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,369 |
yea i think its wrong but i kinda dont noe...
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Aug 13 2004, 07:56 AM
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 Ah, mon Dieu ! Group: Member Posts: 2,274 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,587 |
my friend used to cut herself as well, and i asked her why she did it.
she said, "it reminded me that i'm alive."  i don't talk to that girl anymore. seriously, she has problems. anyways for your friend, if it's really serious, then you should get help. try to talk to her first and understand what she's going through. |
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Aug 13 2004, 12:50 PM
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 Blasian, Asian, INVASION! Group: Official Member Posts: 4,288 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,769 |
no its not ok. it could kill u so of course its not ok (i use to cut, call me a hippocrit w/e itsa still wrong)
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Aug 13 2004, 12:50 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 222 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 33,074 |
cutting is a way to redirect the pain your feeling inside to a physical pain, which is relieving because you forget your emotional pain. I think cutting is a destructive way to relieve your temporary problems. you should talk to her... it's usually a phase some people go through but if it's not she might become suicidal.
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Aug 13 2004, 12:52 PM
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 who again? Group: Member Posts: 555 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 31,458 |
wow. seek help.
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Aug 13 2004, 01:03 PM
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 Master Debater Group: Member Posts: 1,066 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 15,719 |
I hate how people try to seperate "emotional" and "physical" pain. It's all pain, one isnt better then the other..both need to be treated accordingly. Replacing emotional pain with physical pain doesnt help the overall "sum of pain"..if you get what im saying.
You're just kinda...shifting it around for no good reason. |
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Aug 13 2004, 01:33 PM
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LunchboxXx Group: Member Posts: 1,789 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,810 |
shyte, son. "sum of pain"! theres a song in there somwhere *runs off to write the song "sum of pain"*
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Aug 13 2004, 01:49 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,051 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 15,264 |
Tell her parents.
This is serious, and she could end up in the hospital if it goes too far. |
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Aug 13 2004, 03:06 PM
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 anti-friendly Group: Member Posts: 181 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 35,973 |
tell her ull help her by slapping her, and wen she complains say ur helping her cause pain to herself. that'll teach her. slap her hard, and if u must, sock her. then threaten to kick her in the shins, hard.
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Aug 13 2004, 04:13 PM
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 duckieee<3 Group: Member Posts: 527 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 24,962 |
well, people say that it "relieves pain" BECAUSE, when yu cut yourself, your not thinking about the pain yu had before BUT yu think about the pain yu have NOW xP so that means, she fergets the problems + pain she had earlier cuz she just cut herself and all she could think about is her bleeding arm =.=
BUT SERIOUSLY...it's like your friends smoking, drinking, doing drugs, etc. if yu tell them to stop cuz yu dunt want them getting hurt, they won't listen. but tell her wat yu think and mayb she'll get better :] there's always a punching bag ^^ |
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Aug 13 2004, 04:14 PM
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 Linny the dork. Group: Member Posts: 178 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 35,258 |
first talk to her as a friend, not a parent. tell her that you care about her and you don't want her ending up hurt, and if she can't listen and still does it, talk to her parents or a counselor.
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Aug 13 2004, 04:16 PM
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 Tina + Tommy Group: Member Posts: 427 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,575 |
friends dont let friends hurt themselves. if your a friend yooh should realli stop her. do whatever yooh can cuz shes hurting herself by cutting. its not doing anything for her except for losing blood and leaving marks.
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Aug 13 2004, 04:19 PM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 24 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 35,638 |
yea. what they all said lol.. just talk to her about it and let her know you care. she may be doing it because of a guy. a friend. or anything. and shes cutting herself to suposedly(however you spell it.) make it better.tell her if something is upsetting her or something is going wrong or whatever that she can always go to you to talk to. dont let her cut herself . that hurts my stomach when i hear that
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Aug 13 2004, 06:15 PM
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 Behbi_Simplicity Group: Member Posts: 94 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 28,411 |
I used to cut myself. Just to let you know, friends pressured me to stop but their pressuring just made me want to do it more. Don`t yell at your friend and tell them negetive stuff to make them feel bad. That`s very bad. I don`t do it for attention, i just found it a way to take away my emotional pain.
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Aug 13 2004, 06:18 PM
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 old school member Group: Member Posts: 1,796 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 843 |
Emotional pain and physical pain is the same ish. So you really can't say that you escape one to go to the other.
Anyhoo, you should tell her parents. |
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Aug 13 2004, 06:23 PM
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 kristin Group: Member Posts: 5,705 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,985 |
i will not reply
i will not reply i will not reply i will not reply i will not reply sorry. this can't be spam right? because if feel like if i do reply no matter hwat I say someone will be against it and start some huge debate with me. |
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Aug 13 2004, 06:29 PM
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old school member Group: Member Posts: 1,796 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 843 |
QUOTE(iheartsimba @ Aug 13 2004, 7:23 PM) i will not reply i will not reply i will not reply i will not reply i will not reply sorry. this can't be spam right? because if feel like if i do reply no matter hwat I say someone will be against it and start some huge debate with me. Go ahead. It's your opinion right? =) |
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Aug 14 2004, 12:31 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 111 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 31,084 |
cuttings awesome
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Aug 14 2004, 06:50 AM
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 and they say imitation is flattering Group: Member Posts: 1,337 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 27,269 |
Cutting yourself is a no-no
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Aug 14 2004, 02:16 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 5,585 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 38,082 |
Sometimes you really have to let go of the pain..Maybe she just doesn't want to cry...so cutting relieves everything. My guy friend is like that, but he promised me he won't cut if I don't cut. (I don't cut at all. Never did), but I really wanted him to stop...
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