my parents are getting a divorce.... Options

[*tyedyefroggy*]

im turning 16 in feb and Im not sure if I can handle them seperating, my parents been arguing since my sister went to college about 2 years ago....my dads an AA and he wont stop smoking, my mom doesnt like him spending money on cigerattes (sp?) and how he smokes more but hes not a chimney smoker..... my moms been trying to keep their relationship but i just dont know.....hes short temper and he gets abusive to my mom, physically, but just punches her and sometimes throws her around......my brothers just dont understand....

im not trying to get sympathy, im just trying to get this off my mind..

[sweetbabiix333]

it`s hard when your parents are getting a divorce ... it kind of seems like it`s for the best [even if he is your dad] because he shouldn`t be treating your mother that way ... no one deserves to be abused ...

[l0veiZenDlesS]

thats hard...but all i could say to u n ur mom "do the best 4 urself"

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[captured_serenit...]

i know it's hard...because my family have been close so many times...and it's horrible...but just what i think...do what's best for the family...i think that makes sense...but dont worry things could be alot worse...but cheer up i'm here for you if you need me...you can PM me....hope you feel better

[tootsie_kiddo]

dat makes me think... my parentz need a divorce. i think they r in a few yearz time. my youngest brother is only 4 so i think they're waiting for him to get older....

well thingz lyk this happenz and this is supposed to make ur parentz happier so let them kno dat they're making the correct dicision.

[sunshiNe_sweeTi_]

ur parents r doing this for the best...u wouldn't want them to keep fighting n always yelling at each other, would ya?

[danielle7715]

doesn't sound like a healthy relationship for your parents and your entire family. i've never been through a divorce so i dont have experience in these kind of things but i hate it when my parents fight so i feel for you. stay strong, especially for your brother. it's probably for the best.
we're all here for you!
<3 dani

[*tyedyefroggy*]

ur parents r doing this for the best...u wouldn't want them to keep fighting n always yelling at each other, would ya?

i guess not....

thanx for all the replies, that helped

-Courtney

[INeverMeantToCau...]

wow.. that sounds just like my story.
my dads am alcoholic (sp??). hes tried rehab a few times but nothing really worked...
my parents got divored when i ws in 8th grade. he used to hurt my mom too and once he tried to hit me too, but just threw me into the kitchen(lol) but its been so much better since hes moved out... its like we have a new family..

i hope this helps some.! sorry to hear about your situation! hope things get better!!

[h22fanatik]

my parents almost got a divorce a few years back, so i know how u feel. i remember being really upset, but sometimes u just gotta stop thinking about yourself and more about them. i realized that if they're happier being separated then i can find a way to live with that. after doing a lot of counseling, they worked things out...hopefully ur parents will get through this too.

[DrEaMgUy2K1]

i know ur probally overwhelmed with emotions rite now and im not even gonna pretend i know wut ur going through cuz i dont, all i can say is try to hang in there and try to explain things to ur brothers.

[inthemudhole]

I'm sorry to hear that, but there's really nothing you can do about it.
Good luck to ye.

[lurideyes]

My parents divorced when I was four and I had no idea what was going on... It took me a long time to figure out what was wrong with my family and why it had all happened. It was really hard to deal with not having both parents around like all the other kids when I was little.

I've spent a lot of time discovering all the secrets in my family, each more painful than the next.... SO yes I know how you feel... Don't let it get you down... if you need any advice (from someone who has dealt with all this a lot) on the divorce or help with the fact your dad's an alcoholic you can IM me at lurideyes or PM me.

[XxBeExOHxX]

ur dads the one making all the crap happen, y r u saying u dont noe how to handle it. ull feel better wen they divorce, peace in the house while u live with ur mom

[sweetdreamsx3]

Wow, since your dad abuses her, I know it's hard, but they should get a divorce...You love your mom don't you? I wouldn't want her to get hurt over and over again if they are married...Maybe the divorce is better off..

[cutielilsuga]

man you let your dad abuse your mom
what the hell
man i would not let my parents hit each other
but i mean i've been through a divorce and i know what it is about
and it isn't pretty

[hybrid]

Don't worry about it. Maybe, it's the right thing, after all he does abuse your mother. Let life takes it's course, though. It might turn out to be a happy ending.

I'm not too good with this stuff though, but that's as much as I can give you.

[krnl0v3r]

well my parents got a devorce when i was 3 and i lived with my dad untill i turned 5 then he said he didnt want me so that hurt me and i had 2 go 2 my mom and i am 12 right now and i live with my mom still and i am happy that i have my mom not my dad cuz how can some1 say they dont want you

[xsweetdreams12x]

Your Dad abuses your Mom? You need to talk to a counselour about that if he starts hitting you. They should get him some help.

Well, you can't really do anything to get them back together. It's not your fault, so don't think that. It's their problem, and their relationship. Even though it effects you, they need to deal with it however they can.

[xXExiled]

my parents got a divorce when i was 6, and i ended up staying with my father, which he didnt care about me anyway so he left me in the truck while he went into a bar and got arrested so my mother got custody of me since then.... havent talked to my father since. Sometimes in a divorce your better off after, but at first it can hurt.

and your mom will be better off cause my father was very abusive, but sometimes it takes them awhile to leave him cause of the fear of what he will do next. thats mainly why they put up with it for so long.

[fatbebepig]

muh parents are lyke dat tooo muh dad is a controllin freak who thinks he rites and he's da KING who hab da short and hot temper which wud beat da crapp outtta muh mom and MEH when it doesnt get his wai. in sum wai it sound mess up to sai dish but i WISH muh parents wud get a divorce so meh and muh mom cud lib in peace..becuz part of da reason dat meh and muh mom dunt get along is becuz of muh dad he alwaiz get in da wai.........i just hate it when sumone cud abusively hurts you in physically and mentalli.............just muh OPINION ur mom is betta offf and if u love her u sud support her.