How do you tell someone you love them?, Because I really don't know how ... Options

[ichiban]

Okay there is this one guy, John, he is two grades older than me, and I want him to know I like him, but I don't know how to say it. If I tell him straight up, he's either going to laugh or feel sorry for me because well, I would only tell a person I like them straight up if i have impressions he likes me too .. but JOhn hasn't shown any impressions he likes me ... he's my friend and such .. but .. I don't know whether I should tell him or not. And if I should, HOW??

[Baptismapyros]

Not to crush your hopes, but a two-year gap at your age is pretty big. Whatever you do, just be careful.

[*CEP*]

Two years isn't much. So don't worry.
The thing is, you need to be confident. You're just telling him that you "love" him. It's not like you're asking him to marry you.
Chill out, if he starts acting weird, he probably doesn't deserve you.

- Chinkieeyedpnoi

[emptyminded]

Two years isn't much. So don't worry.
The thing is, you need to be confident. You're just telling him that you "love" him. It's not like you're asking him to marry you.
Chill out, if he starts acting weird, he probably doesn't deserve you.

that so true

[jennica]

well, u know him...so start by asking him wat type of girls he likes...if u think u match his description mayb give him a go...if u still aint sure...think how hed react ta sth he thought was stupid...den decide whether ur strong enuf ta risk it...keep it real...n belive in urself HAHA OH f**k DAT SHYT!!! lol

[*krnxswat*]

Flirt with him. Give him some hints. See how he reacts.
Anyways, don't make such foolish conclusions. It's not going to get you anywhere.

[Just_Dream]

Flirt with him. Give him some hints. See how he reacts.
Anyways, don't make such foolish conclusions. It's not going to get you anywhere.

agreed.

Plus, maybe this "John" guy is shy or something? Maybe he's scared to show how he feels about you in case he thinks the same as you, that you'll reject him.. You never know... And maybe he's also afraid that what he does might ruin the great friendship you two share.

[xjjajeengx]

well... it depends. since your really young (like me xP) and since he's two years older... gawsh... i mean if we were talking about you being 24 and him being 26, that would be no biggie... but... AISH! haha i ono... if you really love him then you should tell him just like... straight out. but dont tell him like randomly "i love you xP" just be like "i like you" like wen the time is "right" *hinthint* keke but seriously... you should just stay single and free i mean.... i WISH i was single and free x] you dont want to get involved.... i dont regret not being single... but i miss it!! x]] haha jkjk well just be careful. and if he starts laughing and crap, then hes a damned bastard for all i care.

[painfultears]

well... it depends. since your really young (like me xP) and since he's two years older... gawsh... i mean if we were talking about you being 24 and him being 26, that would be no biggie... but... AISH! haha i ono... if you really love him then you should tell him just like... straight out. but dont tell him like randomly "i love you xP" just be like "i like you" like wen the time is "right" *hinthint* keke but seriously... you should just stay single and free i mean.... i WISH i was single and free x] you dont want to get involved.... i dont regret not being single... but i miss it!! x]] haha jkjk well just be careful. and if he starts laughing and crap, then hes a damned bastard for all i care.

Hehe, agreed. Love is a big step and going out is a bigger step.

[conster]

but then ur jus telling him u like him not that u love him..do u? well if u think hes gonna laugh at u, then its not worth it telling to him... its not like hes the only guy alive rite?

[ichiban]

but then ur jus telling him u like him not that u love him..do u?

Huh? lol .. well i don't really know if he'll LAUGH or not .. it's just things I saw that happened to other ppl .. once my friend tld a guy she likes him alot .. and he just ended up laughing his head off and tellin her to go away

[*krnxswat*]

and he just ended up laughing his head off and tellin her to go away

What a... #$!$%

[Baptismapyros]

Alright. Here’s my 2 cents on this. Two years is a HUGE difference when you’re in high school. Each year you change, and that amount of change is an immeasurable difference. What you expect out of a relationship is completely different than what it was two years ago. A seventeen year old, has a completely different concept of a relationship than a fifteen year old. It is true that age differences become less important when you people finally reach college and your personalities begin to solidify. That’s when a two to three year plus difference is acceptable, because your identity as a whole stops changing. But in grade school, my answer is hecks no. If you’re in high school, imagine yourself dating someone in middle school. As a college freshman, I refuse to date anyone in high school (even high school upperclassmen), because life experiences in college has created an extremely large gap that can’t be simply bridged easily.

You being younger than your love interest, this relationship has a great potential of harming you. He is at a different stage in life than you are. His concerns do not and will not match yours. Should you attempt to conform to his, you will cease to grow as a person and that’s one of the worst things he could do to you. As long as you date him, you will lose time in which you can change yourself into the person that you wish to become. Basically, all I’m saying is that you are pursuing a relationship would stunt the growth of your personality because you will consistently give up opportunities of growth in favor of conforming to an ideal in your head of the girlfriend that he wants. If he dates you, I can safely say that he does not care about you if he does not consider the age gap.

My recommendation is for you to date someone your own age, someone that you can grow with. That’s an aspect of a relationship that’s important at any age, however in high school age differences of more than a year make that aspect nearly impossible. Another thing. Don’t be too quick to say that you love someone. Bahhh I’m too lazy to explain why. Take care.

[forgottentears]

Im going thru the same thing... just that im in hs... its hard....im still thinking on how to tell him. good luck =] have faith in yourself!

[k00alah]

it depends on what kind of love you're feeling.. if its puppy love.. then you dont need to worry about it coz its not a big deal.. but true love takes a long time.. you need to make sure that what you feel is true and if it is.. then just open up your heart to him/her.. tell them what you feel and if they feel the same way.. then ther eyou go!

[x3chrissyx3]

first ya gotta distinguish between "Love" "Luv" and "Like" - it's complicated to tell someone you love them...but then again...some people take it a different way, just say it and see how he reacts. People arent dumb, if you're being obvius you like him, chances are he knows already. When I liked someone...and dint know if they liked me...I made a new sn and IMed the guy, and said I searched for ppl...and asked ASL...that whole deal...and then when he says the location you can be like OMG ME TOO! just say a different town name, and ask him his...and if he tells u...be like, yeah..my cousin (your name) goes there. and you get the deal...

[dat_da_busit_hai]

hmm i dont kno i usaly tell them stright up n we go out 5 secs later

[Melissa]

about the high school age difference...

a lotta freshmen go out with juniors n upperclassmen!!!

hmm....i've never told the guy i liked that i liked him. maybe thats why i missed out

[conster]

Huh? lol .. well i don't really know if he'll LAUGH or not .. it's just things I saw that happened to other ppl .. once my friend tld a guy she likes him alot .. and he just ended up laughing his head off and tellin her to go away

lol i meant like... do u really love him that much? well if u dont know if he'll laugh or not then i guess its worth a try... so if he does laugh u'll kno wut kinda person he is

[aj637]

my advice for you is when or if you tell that person you love him always prepare yourself for the worst of things so you really wont get heartbroken all the way...GOOOD LUCK!!!

[d1nonlyqty]

o mangs.. i hab no idea.. i have never said it to anyone.. so i wouldnt know..
i would say it when in the moment though.

[xoxtammynguyenxo...]

it depends...like are you close to him? u shouldnt get too attachted like if...u know..he doesnt like u tho

[Mireh]

Take it slowly, and give him hints. Flirt with him. Schedule dates...the possibilities are endless.

[S0ULd0UT]

uhmm it really depends..
GIVE HIM HINTS AND FLIRT WITH HIM..!

[xjjajeengx]

xP so wat happened ichiban? did you tell him yet? POST IN HERE im waiting for a reply haha anyways

i agree with all the opinions in here. so smart you crazy people! and chrissy? i think your advice on distinguish love between like is awesome most relationships go to an end cause of not being able to distinguish love between like.

[LatinaLady]

well i dont know maybe u can ask a friends toask him if he likes you or just giveit time to see if he might have some feeling for you. just talk to him about it and u might hear thingsyou dont want to but thas life.

[XxKrNqTcUiTyxX]

Okay there is this one guy, John, he is two grades older than me, and I want him to know I like him, but I don't know how to say it. If I tell him straight up, he's either going to laugh or feel sorry for me because well, I would only tell a person I like them straight up if i have impressions he likes me too .. but JOhn hasn't shown any impressions he likes me ... he's my friend and such .. but .. I don't know whether I should tell him or not. And if I should, HOW??

if he laffs at yu for telling him "straight up" then obviously he isn't da one for yu.

[AlweizN4evah]

i told sum1 that i liked them straight up before... nothing reelie happend though. we just kinda stopped talkin after that... but thats just HIM so it reelie depends on the kinda guy your dealin with. think of what mite happen AFTER u tell him. if you can live with it, do it! if you cant.. i guess you shud try and find out who he likes first from his friends or something...

[Just_Dream]

I don't know if you've ever heard this phrase before but.. "Follow your heart..." Okay maybe that's too cliche... but anyhow love is a powerful word... Just go for it. If he doesn't love you, then you'd know he's not the one. Don't waste your time pondering about it.. You might miss the chance of him saying that he does love you back. Dunno, cause I've never been through this situation.

[ichiban]

I found out he likes someone in his grade ... .. i don't know who but anyways .. my friend told him that i liked him. He didn't really act different or anything .. we still talk as friends sometimes. I really don't know what is going on inside his mind ......

[pbear]

I found out he likes someone in his grade ... .. i don't know who but anyways .. my friend told him that i liked him. He didn't really act different or anything .. we still talk as friends sometimes. I really don't know what is going on inside his mind ......

1. I feel for you. It's gotta be hard to know that he likes someone else.
2. Congrats though. You managed to keep a good relationship from turning sour.

[princess_tracy]

2 years gap is nothing when u get older... depending on ur age, 2 years age difference is actually more appealing...

i would flirt with him...and make sure he showed you signs before u risk ruining ur friendship and ensuing awkwardness

[NvieDi3ai3yGrL]

Okay there is this one guy, John, he is two grades older than me, and I want him to know I like him, but I don't know how to say it. If I tell him straight up, he's either going to laugh or feel sorry for me because well, I would only tell a person I like them straight up if i have impressions he likes me too .. but JOhn hasn't shown any impressions he likes me ... he's my friend and such .. but .. I don't know whether I should tell him or not. And if I should, HOW??

h0nestly there is n0 right way t0 tell s0me0ne h0w y0u feel .. whatever y0u say t0 him, if y0u cho0se t0 d0 s0, sh0uld c0me fr0m the heart .. y0u'll realize when y0u c0nfr0nt him with the matter that it will c0me 0ut m0re naturally and exactly the way y0u wanted it to0 .. if y0u try t0 think up s0me huge way t0 express y0ur feelings y0u may find y0urself at a l0ss f0r the right w0rds t0 say .. he is y0ur friend and i'm sure he's g0ing t0 listen t0 y0u and n0t leave y0u embarassed .. s0 give it a sh0t .. go0d luck!!

[Mimiru]

[COLOR=blue]Sure, having a two year age gap can be a problem. I dont know what grade you are in, but things can work out. If your sure that you like him, let him know when the time is right. When you feel most comfortable. If he rejects you, then hey you weren't meant for each other right now. Then again. If you never tell him, you could miss out on a relationship that might have been great. Hope you're able to work through all of this!

[blah3868]

i realli dunno cuz wif da friendz i got dey would jus go and tell dat person dat i like dem or w/e

[dani41790]

mayb u should try hint at hym that u lyke hym.

[whomps]

yeah, what candy said! //
whatever you tell 'em, make sure it comes straight from the heart =]