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 Aug 4 2004, 11:51 PM
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i just found out that my bf was playing around. he was hitting on this one grl at his work. when i found out i got realli pissed. do you think i should give him another chance?
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| *AngelicEyz00* |
Aug 4 2004, 11:53 PM
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Depends. If you love him, i doubt you'll break up with him... Hitting on someone isn't really cheating... well, to some extent... er, nm... I dunno, it really depends on you
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Aug 4 2004, 11:57 PM
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flirtin comes natural, it just a matter of how much u trust the person
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Aug 5 2004, 12:02 AM
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QUOTE(AngelicEyz00 @ Aug 4 2004, 11:53 PM) Depends. If you love him, i doubt you'll break up with him... Hitting on someone isn't really cheating... well, to some extent... er, nm... I dunno, it really depends on you its jus that he use to like her. when were going out. and i dont kno if i can trust him now 
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Aug 5 2004, 12:29 AM
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well, i think its more like... you just didnt trust him in the beginning? did you tak to him? i mean, everyone subconsiuosly does things soemtimes, and you have to deal with it. talk to him, ask him about it. give him a chance. if he messes it up, then its over.
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Aug 5 2004, 12:45 AM
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QUOTE(xjjajeengx @ Aug 5 2004, 12:29 AM) well, i think its more like... you just didnt trust him in the beginning? did you tak to him? i mean, everyone subconsiuosly does things soemtimes, and you have to deal with it. talk to him, ask him about it. give him a chance. if he messes it up, then its over. well i cant trust him now. its hard. and he admits everything.  i realli dont kno what to do.. helpp??
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Aug 5 2004, 01:11 AM
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well...let's c...how much do you REALLY like/love him??..i mean is he worth all the sadness and anger ur goin through right now? .. u gotta think bout that..if u really like/love him..i think u should give him ONLY one more chance..and if he loses that chance..u should move on..there's probably more guys out that who will actually not cheat on you..and will onlee have eyes for you..and that's the guy that's trustworthy..and in a relationship..if you lose trust...it's not really a relationship now is it?..here's somethin to read: "My mother said that everytime i lied to her .. i had to hammer one nail in the wooden fence..so as time went on..many nails were in the fence..and then my mother told me to take our each and every nail..then she told me to look at all the holes i've made..she said..that each time i lied..it left a permanent mark .. that i can never erase." .. so the point of that story is..when someone lies..it's permanently there..and u never can just move on from it..so just tell ur boyfriend that..or just tell him..how you REALLY and truly feel..i hope this helped..and good luck!!
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Aug 5 2004, 05:15 AM
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i mean is this the first time that hes done that?!?! cuz if it isnt then i think you should not give him a second chance. but if its his first time and you KNOW he wont do it again then i say stay with him if you love him enough. =]
 jackie
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| *Weird addiction* |
Aug 5 2004, 09:05 AM
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yeah....just one chance,just ONE!!!
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Aug 5 2004, 01:24 PM
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It isn't technically "cheating" until he makes a serious pass at her (y'know, touchy-feely, kissing, etc)
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Aug 5 2004, 01:28 PM
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QUOTE(SSJ Kenshin @ Aug 5 2004, 1:24 PM) It isn't technically "cheating" until he makes a serious pass at her (y'know, touchy-feely, kissing, etc) he did touch her. nd tha grl kissed him... |
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Aug 5 2004, 01:29 PM
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guys flirt all da time buh he wasnt really cheating, so gib him another chance
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Aug 5 2004, 01:50 PM
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Did he kiss back? Like I said in "what would you do", It's hard for me to accept people completely right away... It's like a fear factor for me... It doesn't sound like he's to serious about you though... Flirting comes naturally but whatever he was doing it was VERY serious flirting because it gave that girl the impression it was okay for her to kiss him. Either that or shes creepy and really forward...but if that is the case your bf should know better than to flirt with her then.
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Aug 5 2004, 02:55 PM
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um... take a break from each other.. let things chill out for a while and during the time being, think about how much u trust him.. do u trust him enough to be wit him etc..
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Aug 5 2004, 04:51 PM
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Hitting on is kinda like flirting, and flirting isn't cheating, so he didn't exactly cheat on you. Confusing, I know.
 If he used to like her, and he flirted with her, there's a chance he may still like her. If you can't trust him, there really is no relationship. Think this over before you do anything too drastic. 
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Aug 5 2004, 08:35 PM
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QUOTE(conster @ Aug 5 2004, 2:55 PM) um... take a break from each other.. let things chill out for a while and during the time being, think about how much u trust him.. do u trust him enough to be wit him etc.. AGREE. trust is the keey and think about it all. you'll get thru this.
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| *CEP* |
Aug 5 2004, 08:45 PM
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Depends.
Do you want him to cheat on you in the future? - Chinkieeyedpnoi |
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Aug 5 2004, 10:05 PM
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depends if youre willing to give him a chance and since you said he was hitting on the girl at his work place, so that means hed be seeing that girl a lot, would you be able to take that?
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Aug 6 2004, 03:36 AM
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 he`z gOt my heart*<3`o2.18.o1` Group: Member Posts: 1,662 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,338 |
if you feel he deserves another chance than give it to him. but if you feel this will become a constant habit than break away before you get hurt more.
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Aug 7 2004, 04:24 PM
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i don't think u should give him another chance cuz mayb he'll do it again...but if u were to give him another chance..be cautious...don't put all ur trust in him right away...
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Aug 7 2004, 09:00 PM
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Tina + Tommy Group: Member Posts: 427 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,575 |
what if i gave him another chance and he messes up again? what should i do then?
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Aug 8 2004, 09:35 AM
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don't giv him another chance...it's not worth it anymore
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Aug 8 2004, 09:46 AM
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just give him another chance... and put him in his place... give him a good talking to.
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Aug 8 2004, 08:04 PM
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he's not worth giving another chance if u lost most of ur trust in him...
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