wow...this is kind of akward...but, i wanna know Options

[x rOck mai sOcks...]

my biological father left when i was born...so...yea...that happens to a lot of people i know...

but today...after i went to see anchorman *awesome*, i came home...and my moms like...your father called...i kind of went speechless

he said that he wanted to talk to me when i`m ready....but i dont know when i will be ready

and when i am ready...what am i gonna say...

this is all kind of hittin me fast...so...any advice would be nice

((psst. . .i wasnt sure which forum this should be in...so correct me if im wrong please))

[Luster Soldier]

Do you have any feelings towards him at all? Say it to him. He's the one who wants to talk to you so I assume he has something to say. Maybe you can just listen to what he has to say and then say what you think.

[sweetxsimplicity]

Wow..

Srry, my mind is sort of blank right now, I'll edit this later. xD

[JessJR1022]

do you know why he left???........ that should factor in and also possible he is older and more mature now........ though situation

[Chaos13]

............................................. (pls dont mind me)

[inthemudhole]

Do you have any feelings towards him at all? Say it to him. He's the one who wants to talk to you so I assume he has something to say. Maybe you can just listen to what he has to say and then say what you think.

^I agree.

Ermm. If you think you're ready.. then you probably are..

[tootsie_kiddo]

sry... my head is kinda white rite now. i'll drop by later

[HuGs_fOr_yOu]

Juss tell him wat u think/feel..don't be scared..and just like..say everything straight out

[iheartsimba]

What are you feeling?
Ar eyou angry with him?
Or excited?

Anyway, he's the one who wants to talk. Let him talk and listen.
Reply with whatever comes out of your heart.
I suggest let the conversation come naturally
rather than memorizing lines or anything

[hair products]

usually you want to let cookies sit out for a good 10 minutes before eating them. cool down time

[IIO__oII]

talk to him
tell him about your feelings.
maybe he feels really bad right now about leaving you...

[conster]

well he is ur father afteralll... jus talk to him like a friend and get to kno him

[x rOck mai sOcks...]

thanks...all of you!

ya`ve been a great help =]

[sammi rules you]

i have absolutely no idea.

i guess just be yourself and stuff. of course, you dont have to talk to him if you dont want to.

i would suggest talking to him on the phone before you meet him in person. that way itll be at least a little less awkward.

[JlIaTMK]

wow.... that must be a hard thing to go through.... well talk it out with him when ur ready.... and ask y he left u when ur ready.... remember.... only when ur ready..... i really wouldnt know how to treat this situation because ive never been in a spot like that before

and mods plz move this into the relationships forum

[wayne]

i just dont know. it has to be hard, and i sure enough cant say i know how you feel. all i can say is when you do talk to him ,tell him how you feel without him, and if you would rather have him with u. thats all i can think of. srry

[laur3nw]

wow..i would be speechless too..just talk to him and see what he says first i guess..youre really lucky that your dad is calling and wanting to talk to you cuz other peoples parents who leave them usually never hear from them

[HoneyGurl]

Just say what comes from da heart.. Don't speak befoa u talk.. Yea do it wit Aloha (be real) and Just talk like ur talkin tooh ur mom or a friend..

[*CEP*]

Ask him, " What's up? " and how's his life going.
Have fun while you guys talk. It's good to actually like what you're doing rather than just forcing small talk.

- Chinkieeyedpnoi

[f00LisH_h3aRt63]

idk what i'd say or feel about that. dont think about what u want to ask him or talk to him about cuz it puts more pressure. like honeygurl said just say what comes from the heart or what comes to u. good luck.

Moved to Relationships

jackie

[x0xSilverNColdx0...]

i'd ask him why he left, and tell him how you feel about it.

[imafreakinazn]

Juss tell him wat u think/feel..don't be scared..and just like..say everything straight out

that's wut i'd do. juss the simple stuff. don't try anything fancy, and juss be yourself ^^

[mai_z]

if you DO want to see him, then do it... if you talk to him, just tell him how you feel, but definately hear him out, and see what he has to say

[xsweetdreams12x]

Uhh...

I'm sorry, but this is what I think.

Tell him how you feel, and the questions you have for him. If you feel it won't come naturally if you talk to him, then you're not ready. Don't plan the conversation out, either. It won't help. When you feel you're ready and you want to talk to him, then go for it.

Good luck.

[chica777708]

everyone has already said what I was gunna say, just like, listen to what he has to say, then liketell him what you think about it, yah its never happened to me, so idk, I hope I helped :)

[sunshiNe_sweeTi_]

ok well i would b mad if this happened to me but he's ur father...at least talk to him...mayb then u'll hav a better relationship and u'll kno wat happened bak then and y he left...

[SH0RTAYE]

speechless ? let him do the talking . you D0 want the answers , dont you ?

[Looow]

tell him how you feel....ask questions....be completely honest!

[xxslithr0atxx]

ermm... sry i dont think this will effect u lol but uuhh i try my best to help people out cuz it feels good.. um

i would express my feelings to him and idk yea just talk to him whenever you are ready about just uhh stuff u both like idk

man i terribly SUCK in this.

[*thesweetescape*]

Definatley, definatley, definatley talk to him. If you don't, you might wonder years down the road what you missed out on. I've heard stories of people in your situation that are a lot older and are able to form a good relationship with their biological father or mother after just meeting them (and these are grown people!)...and remember to go into this with an open mind. He may have changed and he may not have. Good luck with everything!

[elmogurly]

wow...that's more than anything that happens to me. well..just let him talk at first and then start asking the questions when they come...and maybe try talk to your mom too...

[huney8o8]

in a way ur very lucky! sum ppl are trying to find their biological fatherz...and yourz is tryin to get in contact with yooh! if i were yooh....i would talk to him an see wat he has to say! and then yooh mite be able to start a relationship with him now. yooh never knoe wat mite happen....so jus give it a try!

[literemix24]

i dink you should hear your father out..lols XP 'nd wehn you feel that you're ready then go for it..cuz chances are you're ready XP

[scandalous_chic]

Do you want to meet him? If you need to, you should wait till a more comfortable time to meet him.
But it would be great to meet the man of your creation, no? (No, not God. Geez.)

[xnastyninjagrlx]

I think if your dad is making the effort to reconnect with you..u should give you a try. Everyone deserves second chance..especially your dad. And his phone call just proves that he wants you in his life, so if you still want him to be part of your life, then talk to him, tell him how you feel. These things don't develop over a conversation..relatioinship is all about time.

[pinkrocsmysocs]

well ok this is what i think u should do i think that even tho he has not been there for u u should give him a chance i mean at leat u havea dad that is willing enough to try to make it work i mean mah dad is taking me to court so plz give him a chance

[angel-roh]

wow it's sure gona be hard for u to talk this out with ur biological dad-_-;; hmm just say "hey how are u? hows ur life going? so what do u want from me?" i dont know usually my friends asked those questions if they have a biological dad who leaves them and suddenly wants to talk to them-_-;; i hear those questions more heh

[sweetdreamsx3]

I think if your dad is making the effort to reconnect with you..u should give you a try. Everyone deserves second chance..especially your dad. And his phone call just proves that he wants you in his life, so if you still want him to be part of your life, then talk to him, tell him how you feel. These things don't develop over a conversation..relatioinship is all about time.

Yeah, I absolutely agree with her. Just talk to him and let things go.