should I?, ... Options

[x3iluvg3x]

My friend liks this guy and i promised her i would get them 2gether. and i did!! but during the time i spent talkin to him...i realize i lik him 2. 2 months l8er, they broke up. i've been thinkin of askin him out. but i'm wonderin if my friend will get pissed at me... so its been 3 weeks since they broke up and im still thinkin...should i ask him out?!


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*Totally Confused*

[x3iluvg3x]

HELP?!

[dahding]

ooo...tough decision..

well, i think u've waited a decent long time for them to get over each other. maybe u should check with ur friend first, before u actually ask the guy out or whatever. but don't be like: i like him, i wanna ask him, is that okay? be casual about it. and like...yeah. i'm not functioning properly today. whatever.

[> [ a k i k o...]

Hey Totally confused:

well.. first of all, being a good friend, you might want to talk to HER if she is totally over him ( she might still like him) and ask her if she's okay with you liking/ going out with him. You don't want her to get mad at you because she might still like him and if you went out with him might be a betrayal to her. get it??

second of all, see if he likes you or not. He might not like you and if you asked him out, your friend might know and get mad at you because you asked him out too early in their break off or blame you for their break up. Who knows??

thirdly, give it time, have patience...really get to know him and know your true feelings, you might not like him as much as you thought...might be a small crush or a little bit of affection because you guys have been talking a lot together. Who know?? maybe you'll like someone else or she'll date someone else.

[roxybabe]

hmmm thatz a hard question ..... but firsts u shuld talk to ur friend and c if she has a problem w/ it then hes all urs if she doesnt but if u do end up asking him out dunt shove it in her face

[Darkpekkle]

yea, just have a nice chat with your friend first. Three weeks isn't that long of a time since they broke up... so she might or might not still like him. Anyways, if your friend is not okay with the thought of seeing you and the guy together... then I think you should wait a while longer... until she gets over him... Otherwise, she might get jealous and start to dislike you (= end of friendship <or close to it> right there)... Like someone said above, she might blame you for the breakup if you ask him too early.

[sheepy]

ick i dink i noe how u feel . okay you go to the friend nd see if shes okay with it. truthfully. make her tell the truth, bcuz a good friend would usually say its okay. but being a good friend urself.. you gotta remmeber friendship lasts longer then relatoinship.

[conster]

i think u should tell him not ask him out, but tell ur friend its over between them its not like they still like each other she has no right to be mad

[HuGs_fOr_yOu]

CHiCKS B4 DiCKS..jkk. You shoudl see how your friend feels about it first tho.

[chica777708]

I think you should ask ur friend if its ok w/ u and if she gets upset w/ u than talk to her, and say u got to remember, that I set u 2 up, and I diserve stuff to lol hope I helped :)

[laur3nw]

no..not yet. he might want some time alone right now since he just broke up with his gf and i would wait till your friend gets over it first cuz there might still be jealousy going on if you asked him out already

[aznplayaz]

does your friend still like him? well wait for her to get another boyfriend cause she might forget about him....and i like how you waited for a while that was a good idea

[xsweetdreams12x]

Does she still have feelings for him?? If she does, wait a little longer to make your move. If she doesn't, then go for it!!

[sandra]

omg this was excatly like my problem i had. my friend really liked this guy and she introduced me to him, gave me his number and msn. she wanted me to talk to him, find out stuff and report back. well during those time i talked, i started to like him too. haha then another girl came along and stole his heart. so me and my friend were mad and jealous. then they broke up and he asked me out. i felt really bad going out with him cuz my friend cried. =\ but i asked her if it was ok if i went out with him and i would break it off if shes not happy. sooo she said i should date him cuz i deserve to be loved. and that was it.... i felt sooooooo bad at that time.... i kept on asking if she was alright.
u should go for him, but check if ur friend still likes him.

[*Azarel*]

HELP?!

Please don't double post. There's an edit buttom there for a reason.

[sunshiNe_sweeTi_]

ok if it was like a serious relationship and they truly "loved and cared for each other" then u should bak off....but if it wasn't that serious...i'm sure ur friend wouldn't mind....she'd b a lil pissed but she jus jealous

[inthemudhole]

I'd go for it..

[x hYpErRoSeY x]

a friend of mine MIGHT tell me thats she;s totally ova him, but if he gets together with someone she might not be!! So you should truthfully make shure your friend is ok with it, maybe even ask her if you want because you like him also and you didnt want to ruin their relationship while they had it, so she should respect you for that and getting them together, then maybe you shuld try, hope evrythin works out!! :]

[F1R3B4T]

u shud talk to ur friend about it... but then if u want to keep the frenship, tell her that u like him.

[sammi rules you]

wait one more week. if she can't deal, she's not a very good friend. guys shouldn't come between friendships.

[DrEaMgUy2K1]

just go out with the person, if ur friends really a friend then ur friendship will last.

[Looow]

talk to ur friend...FIRST! u dont want to hurt the friendship..let her kno how u feel about the guy...then take it from there

[dani41790]

mayb u should talk to ur fren about this b4 u decide about asking him out

[Gr33nT3agUrL]

well it always happen wen u try to get pplz together. the best thing to do is ask ur fren if itz REALLY OK wit her cuz bois come n go but frens could last forever. But b4 u make ur move ask urself that do u REALLY REALLY lyke him or is just that ur fren lyke n it made u lyke him too or is it just a feelin that u hab wen u get to noe him but not exactly who he really is. so wut im sayin is ask urself n it will give u the perfect answer