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 Jul 17 2004, 01:14 AM
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Senior Member  Group: Member Posts: 646 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,847  |
i love my bf with all mah heart but it feels like we're fallin apart. we go to da same skool n used to be unpartable, now its like i'm lucky to here from him more than 3 times a week. he disappears for days at a time w/o sayin why n comes back with the explanation "cousins" mom keeps hintin he's cheating.
 what do u guyz think?
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Jul 17 2004, 01:44 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,989 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 10,691 |
Well you are just suspicious.
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Jul 17 2004, 01:53 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 646 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,847 |
hehe sounds like a nice way of saying paranoid. i just don't get the disappearing... especially after hanging out all the time. shouldn't it be more gradual, like talking all day, then talking once a day, etc? *sigh* i'm gonna lose sleep over this one.
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Jul 17 2004, 02:38 AM
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 Blasian, Asian, INVASION! Group: Official Member Posts: 4,288 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,769 |
ur not paranoid..do some more research. ask him upfront. ask around and stuff. If he leavin for days at a time and even his own mother is givin hints, then im sure hes cheating...i would go up to him, kick him in the nuts and laugh and be like "And stay down you dog" or something like tht lol. but im real sorry ur loser bf is/might be cheating on u
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Jul 17 2004, 06:24 AM
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 DefJam Gangsta Inc Group: Member Posts: 914 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,652 |
Greetings!!
chill off will ya. ya dun wanna have unnecessary stress rite from dis relationship. anyway, if ya trust him, ya will believe his reasons no matter how unreasonable it may get. at times, it's okeyz to turn da table on him. how abt ya ignore him for a few days. see if he notices it. if he does, he will look ya up. and if he doesn't, ya got some issues to handle!! CHEERS CB!! |
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Jul 18 2004, 04:13 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 646 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,847 |
tiny update on this lil thingie. got an email batch tonight from him after he called me yesterday and this was in there:
"sad day when you're happy your neglectful BF called you finally =P " hmmm so at least he knows hes neglectful *shrug* saw him today for the first time in ova a month and we went to the movies. lots of "i love you" "i missed you so much" that kinda thing. then once the movie started, tons of hand holding, whispered jokes, n naughty things.. guesh we're okay now?? i dunno. |
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Jul 18 2004, 04:18 AM
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watch out for jellyfish. Group: Member Posts: 174 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 31,672 |
well my ex bf [wen we were dating] kept ditchin me on dates and blowing me off wen we said we would meet. he had excuses like cousins and gramma at the hospital.. but after we broke up i found out that he asked out this girl he thought i didnt know.. haha (my BFF at diff. school)
BUT>... dont try to confront him and be all mean about it. dont be like "I cant believe u. r u cheating on me??" giv him some space or he will keep telling u that in a relationship u need "trust" .. >.< |
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Jul 18 2004, 12:33 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,051 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 15,264 |
You're not being paranoid. Confront the situation and ask him why he's being like that. Hopefully he'll tell you an honest answer.
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Jul 18 2004, 01:24 PM
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 F**k me Beautiful Group: Member Posts: 3,126 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,124 |
well...its normal to be suspicious...but u gotta talk to him...cant hae a relationship without communication
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Jul 18 2004, 02:35 PM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 100 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 17,043 |
QUOTE(mouse_3k @ Jul 17 2004, 2:38 AM) ur not paranoid..do some more research. ask him upfront. ask around and stuff. If he leavin for days at a time and even his own mother is givin hints, then im sure hes cheating...i would go up to him, kick him in the nuts and laugh and be like "And stay down you dog" or something like tht lol. but im real sorry ur loser bf is/might be cheating on u i agree |
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Jul 18 2004, 02:42 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 646 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,847 |
i'm gonna ask him about it today. i dunno whether i should call him or just email. ehhh his mom hates when i call him. email then. *sigh* wish me luck! lol hope i don't freeze on this. i've been trying to ask him since this post went up.
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Jul 18 2004, 04:46 PM
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 doot doot doot Group: Member Posts: 1,803 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,954 |
i think u should call him out to say it in person... what if he goes.. i didnt check my mail for a few days?
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Jul 18 2004, 05:23 PM
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 dizzy me up. Group: Member Posts: 3,191 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,139 |
well call him. nd if u really love him , i dink u should trust him nd not doubt him cuz den ur relationship is gonnna go not too well if u dunt.
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Jul 18 2004, 09:04 PM
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 Tina + Tommy Group: Member Posts: 427 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,575 |
if you can trust him then you wouldnt doubt him. but if this keeps happening a lot of times something has got to be wrong. at least thats what i think.
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Jul 18 2004, 10:17 PM
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 i need an sn change. Group: Member Posts: 1,915 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 27,746 |
no ur not crazy ur in love
i hope u feel better, it mite b jsut in ur head...talk to him more, tell him u care..a lil more lovey dovey |
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Jul 18 2004, 11:37 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 63 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 31,906 |
QUOTE(xtremeliquid @ Jul 17 2004, 1:44 AM) Well you are just suspicious. totally agree...  but then... if u really wanna kno... juss ask him about it... he is ur bF... if he wont budge... he's not worth it... |
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Jul 19 2004, 01:51 PM
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 Kermit the frog = <3 Group: Member Posts: 2,315 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 15,215 |
talk it out with him.. see what's up.
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Jul 19 2004, 05:37 PM
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 durian Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 13,124 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,860 |
how long ahve u guys been together? You know what? Usually when you guys don't see each other, there could be secret, bad reasons. Or mayube he really is at his cousin's idk. Call him and see what's up. Spy on him if u have to. You have EVERY RIGHT to because he is ignoring you.
You know what? I thought that summer vacation would make my bf love me less but isnce we're apart from each other, he misses me more, making him want and love me more..  I miss him *sigh*okay back to your problem... Bleh.. he shouldn't be cheating on you.. you deserve better! |
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Jul 19 2004, 07:02 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 646 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,847 |
9 months.. we've been together for nine months. well i didn't spy on him lol i took the general advice and talked to him about it - email
sorry guys. i'm not confident enough to bring this up over the phone. anyway this is what went down:me: whats been bothering me is when you just disappear without saying anything. man i feel stupid bringing it up... but anywayz... i mean if mika or lindz were to come up to me and tell me "my boyfriend sometimes vanishes for no reasons and my mom thinks he's cheating" i would say either he's spiderman or her moms right. every day now my mom asks me about your new girlfriend and i'm running out of stuff to say, you know? him: hey you got it! i'm spiderman!! =P sorry, really a logical question...i don't exactly have an answer. time has been in short supply and that which i have is used playing eq and sleeping >_< so...i dunno, lazy summer and i've gotten lazy i guess =( sorry. cmon, you think i'm cool enough to be cheating on you? yer the only person who can stand me =P love you, i'm not cheating on you, promise =) anyway...ill work on it |
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